Article full of bigotry and bias.

See the western youths calling out almighty Olu Falae. See the northern youths calling out the princely Dasuki

And the Igbos never called out T.A. Orji? Or put the the other way round: The Yorubas called out Tinubu or Fashola, well known corrupt officials?

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I prefer Olu Edochie and Joke Benson.

justsmile: Op, I sincerely see where you coming from. We might not understand how u guys feel cos we ain't in your shoes! Don't know why people here are comparing this case with Pastor Kumuyi and co. We should just focus on this case and not compare. OP, from what I've read so far, I think you guys feel hurt considering the fact that dad may not have cared much about your late mum and now just wana remarry in a year. I know its painful! If it were to be the other way round people would want to crucify the woman! But hey dear, the deed is done. mum is gone and dad wants a replacement which is not a crime. Personally for me o, won't like that cos i feel a year is too short to replace a mum. but since dad's mind is made up, i suggest the four of you talk to him and bare out your grievance. Don't just say no to him but give your genuine reason as you've stated here. I think you guys need to forgive dad for not being such a caring husband to mum. I think that's the problem. So you guys should talk to dad and also hear him out and let the healing process take place first. Then request that dad should wait for maybe one more year before remarrying, giving him your reason. I guess with this you guys will be able to support your dad to remarry and everyone happy! In all, dad needs to be happy as well as you guys. Hope my little advice helps! All the best!

Thanks *XOXO*. We just did that last night. We've bared our mind(s) to him, and backing it up with Serious Prayers. The rest is up to Chineke.

Well, well, well. Although I still disapprove of his intention based only on the scenario I presented above, and which most of you guys have termed to be selfish of us, now let us examine this following adjoined scenario:
Prior to it, I want to sieze this opportunity to dissect

Genius100: 's

and then present the hidden scenario

OP, the first thing you need to understand is that people are different. Just because your dad did not partake in gists with your mother and you all does not mean he didn't love you guys or ignored you guys. He is just a different type of person. At the end of the day he still did all that was neccessary to educate you all and give you a good life.

Yes, he is a different type of person~an introvert when mum was around; why now trying to an extrov all of a sudden? We will revisit this area at the end of my comment.

Second, your father must be commended for seeking permission from the kids.

Yes, again, he must be commended because he dared not try it without our consent. I doubt if he would be able to bear the gbege that follows. We run a parliamentary family Dialogue good o.

I understand that it is quite difficult to stomach that he wants to remarry so soon, but you have to look at it from his point of view as well.

His view, which is? That he is lonely? He has always been a loner!

Like Chaircover said, I belive the best option here is for you to be there for your dad and gain his trust, so that you all can have a say in who he chooses to marry.

Now, here is the last straw that broke the camel's back.
Popsie has got himself tangled with someone already!!! This was even before mum's depature. On several occassions, we tabled his moves, but he always denied it. We presented some implicating evidences such as teller slips bearing his name as depositor and a lady's name as benficiary. Yet, he will want to escape, terming it as philanthropism. "you call it philantropy and your wife is unaware of it? You call it philanthropy when we had pressing needs at home. Safe for the SHARP TV he only bought in 2000, no other electronic gadget ~ranging from least expensive pressing iron to the Plasma TV~ has he brought into the house. All these were available courtesy of mum and children even during the school days. Make I pause here first. Sending the kids to school, is that the sole duty of dads?
Back to mumsie-popsie relationship, what level of company, let alone attention, did pop grant to mum during her periodssssss of illhealth? We r the children here, and we know the way things went down.
To cap his phuckk up, a text message believed to be meant for the lady, which reads our response to his request was mistakenly sent to one of us from his number.
O ga oo.

Even if you give him the permission, that does not mean he will marry immediately. He may date one or two women and decide not to remarry. He may date some women and decide to wait for a little while before he remarries. Just try to look at things from his perspective...

Now which perspective do you want us to look at it again?

Duke_Nija: Let us all be considerate and show some empathy while dishing out our opinions. Its been only a freaking year!! What type of husband re-marries after a year of his wifes death? Jesus! What is wrong with humans? Even if you killed your wife, or had the worst marriage or love women to the death. You'll for the sake of her memories, your sanity and guilt wait for sometime. 12months is just the eye drying period. I don't know why we are all being hypocritical here because its a man wanting a new wife and not the other way round. What would people say, especially the wifes family. A woman you build a large and grown family with, only to replace her within 12months or slightly more of her demise is shameful. Opinions here are based on Ethnicity. Some are more liberal about marriages IMO. Remarriage isn't something you rush into. Bringing a new woman into the home requires prayers because it could be the undoing of the man and his family as a whole if he brings in the wrong woman. Finally, he doesn't need se.x cos he obviously didn't need it with your late mom. Let him get it where he's been getting it. Nonsense.

You've said it all.
As for the bolded part, its one of my biggest nightmare; they dont even seem to consider that before droping their comments. Its so sad.

werepeLeri:

Does it mean he is no longer grieving once he re marries? I dont get it. He can grieve for life, but then doesnt mean he should wait till eternity to get back with a woman. One year is 365 days- is that a short period of time?

And 30 yrs is 10680 days of supposed genuine fidelity and love. So piping low for, say, 5yrs is it too much for a request?

Uju, Chukwu gozie gi. So far, ur post has been the most reasonable.
I noticed dat d males hold a similar view. dey may av made som points based on dia little undastandin abt d whole thin.
Guys, pls the timin is unripe for cryin out loud. A man who loved his wife so dearly n spent quality time wit her shdnt b talkin abt replacement barely a year after his wife's demise.

Even if we accept, doesnt he realize that mum also has her own immediate family. How do you think their reactions would be. Now, if they accuse him of having a hand in her death, are they wrong in having such notion in their mind. For Pete's sake, lets think!

I repeat, Not eating his food isnt the issue. But trying to do something that would dissociate us from societal embarrassment is. So spare me that "who gives a fvck if he doesnt eat" crap. If you must know, all four can fend for themselves confortably.

Please b more reasonable in your views.

^^
From the way he is itching to do this, one would get the feeling that he already got someone in mind. He is only waiting for the greenlight so that the lady can move in. (I know he may want to act like he's searching, whereas the search has already been done). And if this feeling is true, then it is totally wrong, moreso, worse! That implies that he has been making paroles with the lady underground during the mourning period. Now what is your take on this? We love our dad, notwithstanding. But attitudes like this may force one to do what people may term to be absurd,

I appreciate all your comments, and there much degree of sincerity and fact in them. But the truth is that we feel bad considering the level of attention he gave to mumsie while she was around. We still dey vex for am. Also, like, I said, we still grief. One yr isnt enough. But life must still go on.

My opinion is that if he has to remarry, let him wait for like 2-3yrs. Not now, not so soon.

Oya, more comments please.

Of course, man is not destined to be alone, so also the women. Now judging from his lack-lustre relationship with mum, whom he didnt spend much time with, dont you think it is selfishness on his part?

We left for studies and is understandabke and inevitable. We didnt leave Dad to be ALONE in the house. Mum was there with him and the were supposed to keep each other company.

Of course, we r not kids anymore, but the unity of a family is meant to stand till oldage or even death.
Fending for ourselves is no big deal, and is not the issue, matter of fact, its was used as an instance. There things that may sieze to happen, to the detriment of the family unity. The issue is: will he find it confortable in his conscience that this kind of thing are happening. If he is ok with it, fine.

Cooking for him hasnt been any issue at all, niether is taking care of him is. But i'm not talking about that.
Ofcourse we'll all get married one day, but as far as the timing is concerned, it is way too early for him to do this.

Mods, front page puleease.

Fellow NLers. I greet y'all.
First of of all, I'l try to make this as brief as possible.

Growing up as kids, we (4 male Children) were so disciplined by our parents, especially by our dad. And I must say that it has really manifested in us. We always thanked God for having such wonderful parents. We also grew as one strong and united family till date.

But as it may be in nature, children seem to have more affinity to the mother (and vice versa), and this was also the case in our family. We (mum and children) are almost always together doing most thing together like cooking, watching TV in the palour, and so on. Dad, being the kind of person he is, is always tied down in his room with his books doing his studies and research (He is a professor- e even carry lecturing for im head). That not withstanding, we always try to ecourage him to find some time to come join us in the palour for gists and watch the TV. Well, "He tried."

We overcame that attitude of his and moved on. That is not to say that we beefed him- Noooo!!! Far from it. Besides, his job was for our upbringing.

Now, we've grown. The youngest is even 26yrs old.
During our University days, we were no longer at home always (We didnt even school in my Parents' Uni); so the only ones left at home were my parents and a lil male househelp (though, he has gone back). My Mum began to feel lonely as there was no 'Us' to gist with her whenever my parents are both back from Sch Work. Popsie maintained his On-His-Own attitude (though with slight improvement). Mum was, however, not satisfied with that 'improvement' and that is understandable because women like a 2-4-7 attention.

Children and Mum resorted to everyday phone-call so as to create a virtual presence. It worked to a great extent, I must say. We equally came back home during holidays to meet sweet mum, spend quality time together before the next semester begins.

2 yrs ago, the first 2guys got jobs almost immediately after their service yr; meanwhile the remaining two guys were serving. In other words, our absence were still felt in the house. From time to time, however, we came home to visit. We already realised that we have got to that stage in our family-lives when it becomes difficult for us all to assemble together under one roof. But the bond was still there!

Soon after the last two were done with service_yr, Mum died
We miss mum so dearly. We still grief her but life must go on by the Grace of Almighty God.

Now, trouble looms
Just barely a year after her demise, Dad says he wants a companion. Wadafuk?!!
He gathered us together, pleading to us to let him do it because he "is in a state of near solitude"; saying that the two remaining children at home were always engaged in their repective activites. One of them is currently studing for his MSc online, so he is always glued to his PC and his books.

But that impression of his is not a strong fact because the two guys always gist whenever they are together, even while they on their so-called activities. The real ish is that pops has always been the indoor type and had not really had quality time with the children, right from upbringing. So that affinity was not always there. We even try to pop up a gist with him when he is around to listen.

So, in response to his plea, we told him NO on the spot!!, sighting the social, financial, moral and otherwise implications it is going to cost us.

Socially, How can we stand face-to-face with our learned relatives that popsie has another wife now.

Financialy, how does he plan to shoulder the extravagant material needs of the new lady. Definitely, she would want to look good and own her stuffs too. Besides, not all of us got jobs, hence, his much attention is needed towards helping us establish ourselves, and that requires finances.

Even if she eventually arrives, with the two guys still living under the same roof with dad, what moral lesson will be learnt when she, maybe, cooks and the children refuse to eat her food. Here, discord sets in, and what we watch in nollywood, no matter how mediocre the movie production is, is not far from the truth. She will begin to feel unsecure, and we know what can follow next.

The implications are inexhaustible but I'ma hold it here. I need your candid and genuine views to this.
Is there anyone who has found his or herself in this situation before? If yes, pls kindly drop more implications, be it good or bad. I want to weigh the pros and cons, before I (and of course the children in general) give our final verdict. Final verdict, in the sense that he appealed that we go back and have a rethink to our initial verdict.

PS: Mature minds only.