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I called him on phone and was honest with him — I asked him to face his sister whenever he visits and to leave me alone, because I'm already in a relationship. He just said okay, okay, and even apologized for crossing the line. Honestly, part of me started feeling sorry for him.

People were saying I should have kicked him out of my room, but I'm just not that kind of rude person. And that man is way older than me. In this kind of environment, they will quickly make you look like the bad one.

There are more matured ways to handle things without causing misunderstanding between you two. Even guys that hit on me and i don't like. There are more polite ways i turn them down. You don't always have to be rude.

Anyway, I've been keeping to myself. I'm not complaining I'm lonely — I'm fine on my own.

socoharley:
still waiting.....

I have sent it

socoharley:
ok,send to socoharley@gmail.com

ok.

socoharley:
You would have stepped outside ,greet him and go your way..as simple as that.
Why let him into your room apartment as a single lady?
Oh you are even a writer? Mind sharing your book link with me?

can you dm me. I have them in microsoft copy. I can send to you.

I have read all ypur comments. I will call him on phone and tell him strictly my mind and he should avoid me whenever he comes here. See your sister and go and leave me alone.

JimD:
You're beautiful. You should probably get out more.

i have a life too. I have dreams too. Getting a man now is the least of my worries.

JimD:
If you really loved your bf, you wouldnt admit another man into your home while alone. If you loved your bf, you'll tell him everything. He should call him and communicate firmly with him. But I guess your bf is a weak man and you're just testing boundaries.

read up my previous comment

Anfield247:
You just have to be careful, things like this can take a new twist. Please sweetheart, Make sure you don't have anything with him if you don't love him and try to get your guy involved so he can be aware of everything.

i don't even have any guy. I just lied when i said that. Because i see no reason why he would ask me that

socoharley:
You are very funny.. you invited him into your room?
You took his number?
You promised to call?
Aunty all these are signs of acceptance!!

How can a woman as old as my mother ask after me and I invite her into my room...collect her number..and promise to call...For what exactly?!
Ontop face me I slap you house? Haba mana!!

i dont know why u people dont read to understand. I dont have parlor in my house. The only door to my house is my room door. I thought he just wanted to relate casual with me thats why i took his number. The landlady said she always introduces her brother to all her tenants and he relates casual with them. So i didn't look at him as that type of man

callmeDDD:
Hold your hone record open whenever he visits next time, because lots of things will be said negatively to you including threats. Record everything in audio first bs and when going switch to manual video. It will safe you alot later. He will soon come for a full revenge.

good idea

Mcslize:
People should understand that everyone is created differently. Not everyone likes dilly dallying around others. Some persons always want to force their own reality on others.

There are people that like just being alone, especially those with greater purpose. They don't like crowd or this unnecessary socialising. It always brings problem to them.

These types of people, others easily envy them. Any little thing. Immediately they decide to socialise even a bit, problems will start coming out of nowhere.

Thus, they just make up their minds to be alone, to avoid unnecessary distraction and problems.

Understand yourself and you will never have any issue how people look at you or say about you.

Exactly

AbosedeFalade:
I would have believed your story, if not that I saw the part where you said he asked whether you have had sex before. I mean, unless the man is blind, he ought not to be told before knowing that you've been having sex for more than 15 out of your 38 year of existence by merely seeing the obvious signs on your forehead.

its not a false story and it really happened. Its because of the way i keep myself. I have never let any visitor in or seen with any man thats why they assume maybe this one na just one naive virgin girl.

kiddaz:
Zero sense, zero boundaries and zero OT... What business do you have with landlady apart from rent payment and any other charges in your agreement? What business is it to anybody if you keep to yourself in your compound? God forbid I meet a girl like you or I mistake date you in error. Na slaps I go use reset your brain before I dump you. Nonsense and you go dey post for Nairaland as if you get sense

na her house o. She fit tell me to comot at any time.

AllBlack:
As say na him pay your rent





two of una no finish primary school

which kain children story be this?

u know hear when i say my house no get parlor. Anyways only reason i even interacted with this man na because of this landlady. she said all her tenants she introduces her to her brother and he always relates casual with them. Na her house

kiddaz:
Zero sense, zero boundaries and zero OT... What business do you have with landlady apart from rent payment and any other charges in your agreement? What business is it to anybody if you keep to yourself in your compound? God forbid I meet a girl like you or I mistake date you in error. Na slaps I go use reset your brain before I dump you. Nonsense and you go dey post for Nairaland as if you get sense

read up when i said that woman na wahala landlady. Befause you are right. Wetin concern me and landlady brother?

Kobojunkie:
Busybody? Aren't you assuming something here which is that she is some sort of innocent bystander and that you are her first victim -- the first lady she has set up for that same brother of hers to rape? 🥱🥱

she isn't like that and i'm 100% sure

Kobojunkie:
You shouldn't have agreed with your landlady to talk to him. Your business is with her and not with her family members. You made a mistake not being honest with yourself from the beginning by making the line between you and her clear and unmarred. 🥱🥱

2. A man almost raped you in your own room. The problem already exists whether you had wanted one or not. 🥱🥱

3. He could learn your number from his sister if he wanted to, so you do yourself no favors thinking that not texting a clear warning to draw the line would keep your number from him. 🥱🥱

that landlady too dey do busy body sha

cadet222:
Lamba from the pit of hell

please say what you know
This is 100% true story

The landlady will be complaining i love isolating myself. Now i have tried socializing. I hope she now likes the outcome. Someome just wants to be on their own to avoid wahala.

Kobojunkie:
1. Text that man and warn him never to approach you ever again. If you are really uninterested in him, do not engage him in conversation but send him a message declaring that the next time he approaches you, you will file a report against him with the police and tell people in the community about the time he tried to rape you in your room. Also, in form him that you have posted details of what happened that day online so that others in the online community you belong are aware of what he did.

Immediately after sending that text to him, block his number and ignore all calls from him then. Just so you know, you should scream rape if he ever comes to your door again, and make sure to report him immediately afterwards. 🥱🥱

2. You look like a liar is not the same as you being a liar. You did not stand your ground before now. You can begin now doing just that. You don't have to care what people think or want... and stop being nice to folks who obviously have dubious motives. Be kind when you need to be but never be nice! 🥱🥱

And more importantly, be honest with yourself all of the times -- not some of the times. Be firm in your stance especially when you know what you think is better for you considering the facts. You said you are a writer and an introvert meaning socializing isn't really your thing, at least at this point in time. So, why let others lure you into doing what you know is likely not for you? If you do not want to socialize, then don't. Don't let others convince you of what you are not convinced is what you need at any specific time. 🥱

exactlY na by force to socialiZe? Its even because of my landlady i agreed to talk to him. I just don't want any problem between us. I don't even want him to know my number so i wont call him after knowing his evil intentions

Men sabi lie eh. Its just a pity the way he denied me.

I'm an introvert and a writer, so I spend most of my time inside writing. I just moved into a new neighborhood.

When I moved in, my landlady introduced me to her brother when he came to visit. I greeted him politely.

Later, my landlady told me her brother had been talking about me. He said he didn't like that I was always alone and that I should try to come out and socialize more. Every time he visited her, he would ask about me.

I thought maybe I was being too distant, so I decided that next time he came, I would try to be more friendly and casual with him.

When he came again, I went out to greet him. I told him I heard he always asks about me. He said he was just concerned because I'm always indoors alone and he wanted me to have a friend. I smiled, thanked him, and i took his number promising to call him. I had planned to call him that week, but there was no power and my phone was dead.

He came again last Saturday to visit my landlady and after he finished talking to her. He came to my room. I let him inside. My house na small house o. No parlor inside. He asked why I didn't call him. I explained there was no light. Then he told me I should know that he likes me. He asked if I have a boyfriend, and I said yes. Then he asked me if we have sex. I told him I couldn't answer that. He said I was acting like a small girl.

Then he came closer and started touching my legs. I moved away. He said he loves tall girls. I kept begging him, "Please sir, I will call you, let's talk later." But he kept trying to touch me, and I kept dodging him, running to the other side of the room. Eventually, he left.

I went straight to my landlady and reported what happened. She said she was surprised to hear that and promised to warn him the next time he came.

He came again today. She confronted him about it, but he denied everything. Then he came to my room and knocked again. This time I refused to open the door. I pretended to be asleep until he left.

When I came out, my landlady told me he denied it all and asked me if I was sure I was telling the truth. Now he's making me look like a liar.

I know he will come to visit again on Sunday, and this time I'm ready to confront him. What should I do? This man is old enough to be my father.

If you no Fine. Try get Money. If you no fine or get money. Try get Wisdom.

If i had my way, i want to go back to the womb and be reborn again. Maybe this time around i can be born a better person and live a better life and i won't go through all these nightmare called life but that is not possible. But it is possible for me to still start my life afresh all over again and live the dream life i have always wanted. You just have to stop caring what people say or think and LIVE your life for Yourself. Dem no go follow you go grave after you die o. You go alone. Only Money can help you achieve such dreams. MONEY🤑. Money isn't everything but it solves 95% of your problems on Earth. 🤒

Stephen0mozzy:
For those who pray, I think prayer is a means for putting words to their hope.

I'm sure some people will say it works, but it's just as good as "positive affirmations".

Taking action however hard the first steps might be, I've found to be more potent.

I think you should find something exciting to put your soul into. What do you think that might be for you? For me, it's usually learning something new.

i want to be reborn again

franchasng:
Did any man impregnate you and absconded you? Or were you jilted by a man you invested so much in and thought you guys would end up together? Are you diagnosed of any terminal disease? Why should you feel the way you narrated when you still have good health, sound mind and opportunities around you? Please cheer up and look around you, there are opportunities that will bring answers to your daily prayers, cheer up, delay is not denial and never end of journey okay?

none of the above

itzadorable333:
It's one of two things; either you're suffering from the sins of your ancestors ( especially from 4 generations before yours) or you have a special destiny and you are being prepared for its fulfillment. Either way be patient, and stay away from evil. Everything which has a beginning has an end, but it's only one who is alive that lives to see the morning after the long night.
NEVER GIVE UP

sins of my ancestors?

Stephen0mozzy:
Mehn.... This is actually a very deep question...laced with deep sadness too 🤧

If you're praying, I guess you believe in God. Why not just pray for God to give you something worth living for?


I'm fluid in my beliefs, but I just try to live everyday, one day at a time and try to stay strong and keep hope alive for those who life could be so much better for if I don't give up. Sometimes, living for yourself alone is not big enough.

does God answer prayers ? I have prayed and prayed and lost hope

My life is so empty. So so empty. I pray everyday for God to take me in my sleep. If i had my way, i want to go back to the womb and be re-born again. Start life all over again.

Shame wear me gown😬

She truly deserved the Life-time achievement award. Mama G is a GOAT.
Patience Ozokwor has featured in all the nigeria movies with all prominent nollywood actors and actresses.
She wasn't playing back then. She was really serious with her acting career.
Her name mama G was gotten from the movie OLD SCHOOL.
Some also called her Susana. She also got the name from the movie UKWA.

Patience Ozokwor is a LEGEND in nollywood.