Bellong is an expertise in this area.


BELLONGGGGG!!!!

Onegai:


sigh, enjoy your tub (ayam jealousing you right nau). I can't wait to move out of that house we're in (association of people can't build house well in Naija plenti). Add hot water and use a kitchen strainer to catch the flower petals when you're done, otherwise it becomes a pain to clean up after.

Abeg Tub na tub jor as long as it's a tub, I want to jump in that pic so bad

Thanks for the tips.

Onegai, na Martha Stewart oh, that book has all the nitty gritty of baking.

edwife:


Lol you are a bad girl thank God he is understanding,you lucky....

He is a great guy, he takes all my flaws. I'm lucky. I cooked amala and spicy ogbono soup with assorted meat, he cleaned his plate

Onegai:

Ah, fret not, on hubby's birthday this year, the kind fight we had in the car eh on the way to pick up his birthday gift Poor man just endured his birthday. So the next day, I was on a mission: went out to pick some fresh flowers, grabbed all my tea lights and scented oils, bubble bath and a bottle of his favourite wine.
And he got a great massage! And I was 6 months preggers o!

Girl! Forget fight picking oh.

Ermm As per the pic, That is soo romantic, he's a lucky man. Who's laughing now in tub sipping wine & a massage.

thanks for the great idea. Here I am with a family jacuzzi & a soaker tub and no idea what to do with it. Now I know!

Edwife, you're so on point. unattainable expectation from an even more imperfect human is a recipe for disaster.

Royalroy.. If only pigs can fly . Simple and practical for some but hard to achieve for majority.

Onegai, you succinctly nailed every point. Lol your last paragraph though, touché .
I planned to take hubby out on his birthday as this is our thing. So on that fateful afternoon after work, overwhelmed, I reluctantly laid out my dress and did my makeup and slumped in bed hoped to take a little snooze before he arrived. Omg I woke up around 10:30pm , he was already home and watching TV (moody coz he blew his friends and came home early to hang out before my planned dinner) I felt terribly awful. Girl, I rushed to nearby grocery store to buy&decorate a cake and cooked a local dish instead . I took him forgranted, I could've set my alarm you know. Thank Gawd Subsequent years was almost perfect .

ANY ASSASSINATION OF CHARACTER STATEMENTS

Assassination of character is when you attack the person’s character rather than addressing the issue at hand. It might be in the form of being told you’re a bad person, you’re lazy or other negative statements. Assassination of character is never helpful and erodes your relationship quickly. It’s possible for a person to change this habit, but they have to be very determined in order to do so. This isn’t something you should tolerate in a relationship.

THAT HE’S BETTER THAN YOU

Teasing is okay. Maybe your man is teasing you that he’s better than you at cooking or parallel parking. Those types of things are in the spirit of fun. What’s unacceptable is if your man truly believes he’s better than you as a person or that you’re not worthy of him. Never put up with a man that doesn’t value you!

ANY THREATS OF HARM

Girls, if a man ever threatens you, take him very seriously. That’s a red flag that you’re in serious danger and should get away. Abuse in relationships is real and is never acceptable. The man that loves you will protect you from danger, not endanger you. Get away from a man like this immediately for your own safety.

These are 7 things your man should never say to you. You’re a valuable, beautiful person who deserves to be treated as such.

Source: Allwomenstalk.com

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NEGATIVE REMARKS ABOUT YOUR WEIGHT

Your man should never say negative things about your weight. If you have an issue with weight then you’re already aware of that. I understand because my weight hasn’t always been exactly what I wanted it to be, either. The only exception to this situation is if your weight is causing you health problems and your man is lovingly expressing concern for your well-being. In that situation, it’s not an insult, it’s concern because he cares about you.

TELLING YOU HE HATES YOU

This isn’t acceptable, even in the heat of an argument. You both may be angry but you can still choose to show maturity. Telling someone you hate them leaves lasting wounds. If you love a person, you love them even in the midst of very bad days. You may not like them but you still love them.

We all say things that can be hurtful from time to time. After all, we’re human. But there are some things that your man should never say to you. If you’re wondering where to draw the line, here’s some guidance.

NEGATIVE REMARKS ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE

Negative remarks about your appearance are unkind. It’s okay if you ask his opinion on something such as a shirt or makeup look and he doesn’t like it. What we’re talking about here are remarks that are out of the blue and solely for the purpose of putting you down. You don’t deserve to be treated that way. If a man can’t see your value then he doesn’t deserve you.

COMPARISONS TO HIS EX-GIRLFRIEND

This isn’t something any girl wants to hear. Allow this exactly one time. The first time your boyfriend compares you to his ex in any way, stop him and tell him that’s not acceptable. The only reason to even allow it once is it’s possible it’s a comparison in the sense of him saying something like you’re talented like she was. Even if it’s a positive comparison, make it clear that it’s something you don’t want to hear.

CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES

Does your partner leave his clothes all over the house? Or maybe she always leaves the dirty dishes for you to wash? Our mates can do things that really annoy us, but getting into an argument to prove your point or nitpicking about your partner’s bad habits is likely doing more harm than good. Choose your battles wisely. Sometimes it’s better to let the little things slide and take a look at the bigger picture. In the grand scheme of things, does it really matter?

SHARE THE RESPONSIBILITIES

It’s too easy for one person in the household to end up doing way more than their fair share of the household duties. In order to avoid unnecessary conflict and preserve both you and your spouse’s sanity, create a “contract” so that it’s clear who is responsible for what. If it doesn’t work out quite right the first time, revise it. Knowing what each of you is responsible for can save time and energy that can be used for more fun things!

Achieving balance in a relationship takes work, but it’s far from impossible. Think of your marriage as being part of a team. Support, try to understand, and respect your spouse. Do you have any suggestions on achieving balance in marriage? Please share your tips!

Source:Allwomenstalk.com

SCHEDULE TIME FOR YOURSELF

While it’s important to make time for your mate, friends, and family; don’t forget about yourself! No matter how much you like to be around other people, we can all use some alone time. Take time to go for a walk or run, enjoy a meal alone, get a massage, or take yourself shopping. Enjoy some me time by doing something you love. According to WebMD, indulging in some alone time has physical and mental health benefits so you're doing something good for yourself!

KEEP THE ROMANCE ALIVE

When life gets busy, romance is often the first thing to go out the door. Romance isn’t all about sex, either. Though sex is important to a relationship, keeping the romance alive is more about taking the time to show your partner you care. Leave love notes in unexpected places, plan special date nights, or plant a loooong kiss on your mate rather than a quick smooch on the cheek. It’s easy to get comfortable and forget about taking the extra time to get gussied up for your partner or give them extra hugs and kisses, but make it a priority and your mate will really appreciate it.