njokusboy: . Again go and sit your fat ar's'e down nd chew on something..... U don't know jack about human life aside what you were told the numerous times you got pregnant...... Next time pick a topic on which you are knowledgeable... Ur human life theory aligns with ur brain... Both are faulty.... Fly..... U have nothing to say here....

Hehe . I disagreed with your stance about human life and how I believe it starts right from Germinal ( conception) and Embryonic stage. While you believed it starts from Fetal. I said I respected your opinion but you are hell bent on FACTS just cos Mr. Agbabiaka and mordern biology textbook said so. Instead for you to agree to disagree, no. you want to force your believe on me.

Go and shove your 'rusty facts' in its rightful spot( your behind) and let me enjoy this omelette and raisin toast.

Njokusboy , again go and sit your crusty bottom down.

I've been preggy numerous times and I know what I'm talking about. All that theory are just Bio 101 jargons.

The fertility clinics analogy didn't align with your brain as I've envisaged tsk! dang, maybe next time, I'll elaborate further. Right now I'm starved.

pickabeau1:

i agree 100 pc..

on ur points on life.. u also know while admirable, ,that is not the prevailing philosophy as it causes big political issues

lifers vs choicers.... tragic in my opinion

It does not change the legal facts, those clump of cells are just not a person until they are past a certain date..

Oh I know it's not a prevailing philosophy alright and doesn't change the "legal Facts" about Life, I'm just championing my own personal conviction that's all

21st century Evolution has made almost every righteous path Tragic IMO (ETT)

but it is what it is as I guess.

Very Sad.

Make I go chop bf jare.

pickabeau1:

WOMEN CLOSE YOUR LEGS AND OPEN IT IN A RELATIONSHIP GOING SOMEWHERE
THE CONSEQuENCES OF SEXXUAL INDISCRETIONS ARE NOT EQUAL FOR MEN N WOMEN

Tell them.

Not equal atall.

Njokusboy ... Go and sit your crusty bottom in the naughty corner make I hear word jare... Opoko!

Facts eh? You can feel that 'cell' beats at 2weeks of conception... Go and tell your 'facts' to fertility clinic specialists that grows & transfer embryos for a living...

What do you know?

BABE!:

It's not that risky. Like Coogar said, it's not a heart surgery. Except you're using a metal hanger or some concoction, it's a pretty simple process with minimal risk.

Not that simple in my neck of the woods.. Synonymous to a whole nine Operating Room procedure and days of recovery too.

Not pretty simple atall.

njokusboy: . Take what life?? The cell What was ur grade in biology?

That's your opinion and I respect that.

Life starts at Conception.. My opinion.

What if the latter is the lady's opinion? Still gonna go ahead and overrule hers and forcefully adopt yours ??

Lesson: Use protection to avoid all these brouhaha or wait

coogar:

his condom could have broken! he could have been lied to that she was on the pill or all sort of fraudulent schemes women deploy when they want to force parenthood on a man.

i went to chibok to bringbackthegirls!

Could've , should've , would've .. The COOG , welcome back!!

BABE!:


Aren't they both enjoying the hammering? You make it sound like sëx is only pleasurable to men.

But OP question was posed to men? Maybe your question should be to OP.

They both should be ready to raise a kid they both created.

njokusboy: . He wasn't forced to put his BARE kini, she didn't cover her bare kini either.... Owk dat one haff pass... they both did not cover their bare kini... Now take medicine to clean up the bare kini mess, she said no, she now missed her period, clean it up, she still said no.... Whose recklessness is it now? At that point sef, its not even recklessness, its become intentional... So why bother the man?

Before you twist this argument to boy vs girl, Please note that the lady is not exempted from this.

But

He has no right to make that call to take a life.

njokusboy: . Nna, dats d simple fact I have been hammering on since....... The thing tire me oh, so if any man sleeps with his girlfriend, he is indirectly telling her he wants a child....

Keep hammering on it without protection and when e don happen( preggy) blame the lady en ? .. Gosh njokusboy you're a coldhearted mean carnivore !

coogar:

so because a man desires to sleep with a woman means he wants her to be a mother of his children? what kinda logic is this?

sex between unmarried people is for recreation. why would a woman think otherwise that sex automatically means her partner wants a child?

Ewuro1: "Forced" ?? Was he forced to put his bare Kini during the do?

See bolded ^^ - stop pussyfooting around the truth Coogar, every Adult should be responsible for their own Reckless actions ...

By the way where have you been , missed you plenty

#PRO LIFE

rebella:

You are right, they do but not every one in a bad marriage is brave enough to make that leap especially with the stigma they'll face as divorcees

Well that's too bad cos she laid her bed. Quantifying frustrated wives in Nigerian marriage to prove a point won't erase the fact that 'emasculating men' - OP ways , is pure evil and shouldn't be applaud.

"Forced" ?? Was he forced to put his bare Kini during the do?

tunapa2009: ....... Goooooooooooooooood day............. Sleeping and snoring!!!!!!

Lol good morning... Yes oh too lazy to get off bed.

How are you and service going?

rebella: Ewuro1 these things happen everyday in Nigeria. Frustrated wives stay in the marriage because of the society, divorce is like a crime in Nigeria. Unlike in developed countries where once a party can't tolerate the other in marriage and has tried all possible avenues to make it work its divorce. Ours will preach endure.

OP lives abroad hence my question.

Besides lets stop belittling Nigeria women to nothing, they have a choice to walk if it ain't working.

Badt man

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Godson201333:

Lol maybe your money don miss or what??

Maybe or not .... Oyinbos are out to suck us dry bro. I don't trust them.

Reach for my tablet ( with my eyes closed) and log in my online banking to see what's up.

Dantedasz:

This gets interesting.
Your goddam lil' sister is married to a nice caring and loving man but she ain't satisfied with that. Her husband don't cheat on her neither does he beat her up. How does lil' sister repay her husband? She repays him by fecking her jobless ex boyfriend.
Certainly lil' sister deserves words of endearment for her 'decent' and 'exemplary' behaviour which all married and intending to marry couples should emulate in order to have a sweet and successful marriage.

See them making excuses for the despicable behaviour of this 'oponu' OP because she is a woman. Juxtapose this scenario and see the comments of the females change to something else.

And where in my comments on this thread did I approved her disgraceful behaviour? Yes she was veeryyyyy wrong ,we don hear but are we gonna continue chastising her till kingdom come OR move on to proffer a possible solution before that opportunistic bastard execute his brainwashing tactic and eventually have his way?

By the way Dante, who is " see them" en ? .. . Go and sit your crusty bottom in the naughty corner make I hear word jare.... yenyenyen

3pages of dancing around in circles & trumpeting SAME morbid comments...typical.

Ma tenu mo'ro bi osho

All these yeye chores y'all shiarin ... Chai diaris goduohhh


Yeye tins.

naijababe:

Those women and kpekusing; e nor dey tire dem ni abi na jollof rice? Why can't they be virgin Mary like me?

Yimu ojekokoroshenumuye

Damiso sweetie , thanks jare. How are you and yours?

So I endeared OP a little like a big sister would do and Dante dey get hot under the collar??
Is she naive, gullible and stupid?, YES. So now what? Throw her into lagoon or better in fireplace and end it all, so onlookers will know how holy and perfect we are??

Whether you like it or not, she still remains the vulnerable one all of this mess.
When emotional need is deprived in any marriage, situation like this is expected. So what's all the bruhaha all about??

Again.. OP sweetheart , Sit down with your husband, you both should talk and renegotiate his work schedule.
"Faith without works is doggone dead"



Where's COOGAR?? I miss him.

cococandy: Eh is it champagne or roasted turkey for happy canada day?
Send my share come o.
How are you and yours?

No turkey today. Just a mellow picnic & bike ride at the park followed by colourful fireworks

We are doing great and I hope you are too. Thanks hon.

naijababe: Happy Maple leaf day Jgirl
I dunno which of your Ewuro monikers survived the rapture o
Ahaha! It is Ewuro1...................happy pancake and maple leaf syrup day again.

Thanks babes

All my fav monikers crashed. Just this E1 ... for now. You're damn right you can't go wrong with Buttermilk pancakes and real warm maple syrup on a day like this.

This year's Canada day theme is: #My Canada is....

So

#My Canada is Opportunitè .

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So Argentina beat Sui .. interesting finish to a boring match. ( yeah I'm getting the hang of soccer, I'll be a pro by next World Cup)

HAPPY CANADA DAY

"It's Canada Day up Canada way on the first day of July.
And we're shoutin' "hooray" up Canada way, when the maple leaf flies high"


"O Canada, standing tall together!
We raise our hands and hail our flag;
The maple leaf forever!"

6. AT THEIR OWN PACE

Childhood isn't a race to the top; children develop at their own pace. Yet parents often worry because their child isn't walking at the same age that their friend's child did, or has a much smaller vocabulary. There isn't a set timetable for a child's development though, so don't worry about when your child reaches their milestones. They'll do things in their own good time.


7. BIG-HEADED

Conversely, it's also wise not to compare your child too positively to others. Do you want your child to grow up thinking that they are superior? Praise is good, but you have to be wary of constantly tell them that they are so much better than others. You're not doing them any favors if you raise them to be big-headed.

Comparing your child to others is likely to give them a negative image of themselves.
Parenthood isn't a competition, and you don't have to show other parents how much better your child is, or worry that other children are doing better than your own. Gently encourage them to believe in themselves, and help them discover their own abilities.

Have you ever been compared to a sibling, and how did it make you feel?

Source: ByAlison Byant@Allwomenstalk.com

3. RESENTMENT

Direct comparisons can make a child feel very resentful. When it's made clear to them that they're not as good as a sibling at something, they not only feel bitter towards you, but also towards the sibling. Do you really want to foster antagonism between your children? No you do not. So avoid comparisons; even if you think they won't find out, someone may tell them.


4. STAYS WITH THEM

You may be surprised at how long the memories of comparisons can stay with a child. Long after you've forgotten saying 'why can't you be more like your brother?' your child will remember being made to feel that they weren't good enough for you. The message soon sinks in, even if you didn't mean for them to feel that way. And it hangs around for a long time.

5. SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECY

It also risks creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. Over time your child will absorb the message that they're not good enough, and start to believe it. Why bother trying if they're not going to succeed? And so that's precisely what happens. The child is effectively set up to fail.

There are so many reasons not to compare your child to others. Whether it's to a sibling or the child of a friend, subjecting your child to comparisons damages their self-esteem and makes them feel inadequate. Yet many parents feel it somehow reflects on their child or themselves if their child isn't as 'good' as others. Here are some important reasons not to compare your child to others …

1. AFFECTS THEIR SELF-ESTEEM

One of the really important reasons not to compare your child to others is that it hits their self-esteem hard. How would you like to be constantly compared to others? Low self-esteem issues usually have their root in childhood, so don't make your child feel that they're inferior to others. You don't want them getting conceited, but nor do you want them feeling worthless.

2. EVERY CHILD IS DIFFERENT

Each child is an individual, and has their own talents and interests. Why does it matter if one child is musical and another isn't? The non-musical child may be good at sports or love reading. One thing is not better than another, and neither is one child better than another. Let them develop their own interests and abilities. They should not feel that they have to be more like a sibling or your friend's child.

Out of sight is out of mind..And an idle mind is devil's workshop.


@ OP sweetheart, is it possible to pack your hand luggage and accompany your husband on his offshore trips?? Abi is he a marine?


I'm gonna drop my own prognosis to your dilemma: You're lonely and sex starved and desperately in need of some real love in action and not in monetary form. simples ....

Please consider the bit in red ^^ ndo oh