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^^ exactly my point

Another one

shelter4luving: when i was a little girl, there's this picture of men i had in my head. i see them as people that are strong, hardworking, brave and people that can defend and protect women. probably all these qualities was meant to be them

^^^ Now this is a lesson for mothers out there to their growing Daughters.

@Topic the first few posts has succinctly countered your OP. Your parents sent you to school to be productive and not depend on men for your daily bread. Tenk.

You can't even multitask yet championing teenage motherhood while in high school studying /writing SATS??

I'm watching soccer too and cooking, doing laundry and NLding so hurry biko I'm curious.

Room or Home ??

damiso: There is this thing about Brazil being the spiritual home of football I kinda guessed they might not win but I thought slim margin say 2-1 but 5-0 in thr first half and these Germans don't look like they won't score again.

This Germany that struggled against Ghana

They struggled?? Doesn't seem like it from this match,their possession could be because of missing Brazilian key players tho, dunno- Still a learner sis

Are Brazilian fans booing their own team I heard a loud & uniform BOO

Awwww she just couldn't stop crying ..

Please state them?

damiso: My mouth is wide open.Brazil have not really been at their best at this world cup(thank God for Neymar) but at least their defence was not this awful gosh

Awful awful day for Brazilians

Hubby said they think they're Soccer god but 5-0 in first half is complete humiliation for Brazil.

damiso: Scolari needs to do something about this leaky defence I know no thiago silva and Neymar but 5-0 in 30 mins

They disgraced Braz at home ... First time in 36/39 yrs

damiso: It's getting ridiculous now

ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS !!
And the stinky commentator is not helping neither! Da Fauk? Can Germans stop scoring till the end of first half pleaseeee

This is an open Rapeee

AHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!

Same here.. Hubby is jumping

These Germans are smoking!!!

Where's the Brazilian Defence ??


AAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The little Brazilian boy is crying

There's no time out call in soccer??

Banana and blueberry

freshdude2: ^^ I truly truly learnt a lot from that "first years" thread. It was an eye-opener. I believe that if not for that thread I might not have had a home today. I've been away for about 3months and it's torture, my family miss me and I miss them(can't wait to finish this stint and get back with them). All this pursue pursue anthem as if say na David dey find Philistines for this section eh. Na only God go save people.

If there's no patience and tolerance, there's no love. Who can't love a yes-wife or yes-husband easily? Who wouldn't choose someone who'll do as you want and even when you're wrong corrects you ever so softly and lovingly and doesn't get angry? Mehn, this section is poisonous.

PS: Bose is the shiznit though, gaddemit. Words can't begin to describe.

No more kele kele lof anymore , you no know say 'scratch my back & vice versa' ? they even delegate chores - I heard that on this website first time in my life.

Her husband is filthy= Divorce him!
She can't cook / money mismanagement = Divorce her! Etc

@ missing home.. Not easy ride I know but it is what it is abi and as long as you have an understanding spouse and children, shikena.

@bolded... Tolerance and Patence - rare virtue in working marriage, else you'll find yourself in a screaming match everyday. But hey it's the new era so to them and their owns.

@Bose .. Hmmm bro words can't describe how much this man squanders in that store every year, if it's Nigeria, people will call it Afishe... Okay oh it's the shiznit abi Da bomb that's him 'Living' and He earned it anyway.

They shake the errr

Wipe what tho?

^^ You're very right bro.

Tolerance & Patience & Marriage dip = Suffering and smiling on this section.. Mostly.

Divorce him/her with any slight provocation ... Who says life is fair on its own not to talk of living with a man/ woman from entire different background??

@Topic.. My marriage is fine and dandy. First couple years was hard seeking what is mostly cherished in marriage. Thank God for my loving husband support.

Hehe.. We went to Bose shopping for new 'toys' for the bonus room and after dragging me around for 3hrs with his full awareness of my zero flare for home entertainment. He finally made his first choice - Support & Patience. I sure won't do that for anybody else.

Awww sweet sweet wifee... Wife material ROCK!

STICK TO ONE SUBJECT

Don't kitchen sink your relationship, ever. That's not good for anyone. When you need to talk about a certain issue, stick to that issue. Don't let a discussion about dividing the chores spiral into accusations about emotional unavailability, in-laws, or that time your partner forgot to pick you up from the office. Then you're just letting resentments fly free, and you'll both end up shutting down and getting angry.

MAKE TIME FOR DIALOGUE

Back to timing and knowing when to speak, you might have to schedule some time for a discussion. That's fine – great, really. You aren't dropping a huge, unexpected bombshell, and you'll have time to put your thoughts together first.

I know it's hard when you don't feel like you're not being heard. If it's a chronic problem, you may have to decide if you really want to pursue your relationship. If you know that you and your partner work, however, then it's more than worth the effort – and with these methods, I promise you'll see improvement. How do you and your partner communicate? Do you listen to and really hear each other?

Source: Allwomenstalk.com

DON'T BEAT A DEAD HORSE

Do you always try to discuss the same things? If your partner has a bad habit – never listening, being selfish, not doing the dishes, never putting down the toilet seat – and you're not seeing improvement, it's tempting to just keep coming back to that subject. However, then you get back into lecture territory and it's likely that your partner will shut down. You definitely need to discuss ongoing issues, but don't make it a constant topic of conversation. Even if you have to write a letter to get your feelings out, just avoid the temptation to lecture.

THINK ABOUT YOUR TIMING

When you talk is just as important as how you talk. As I briefly mentioned, starting in on something after you've both had long days just won't work. You shouldn't do it when your partner's in the middle of something he or she enjoys, in a public place, or around friends or family members either. As with any other meeting, read your audience first.

TALK, DON'T LECTURE

Similarly, you need to watch the way you talk. Think about it: when someone is talking at you instead of with you or to you, how do you react? You can't talk at your partner and expect him or her to actively listen. That's insulting and condescending. This is your partner, not your child. Try not to lecture. This is about communication, it's not about being right or wrong.

LISTEN

If you want someone to listen to you, then you have to listen as well. I know that when I'm feeling like the Better Half isn't listening to me, I sometimes get all smug and self-righteous about my own listening skills. You can't get on that train, because it won't take you anywhere you really want to go. You need to listen to the things your partner says and the things your partner does not say – sometimes you can learn a lot in those silences.

Getting through to a partner who doesn't listen is frustrating, difficult, and likely to seem like an exercise in futility once you get exasperated enough. It's not necessarily that your partner doesn't want to listen to you; he or she may simply lack active listening skills. Sometimes, of course, there are deeper issues at fault. Every relationship is different, so you'll have to consider why your spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend isn't listening to you. Whatever the case, getting through to a partner who doesn't listen isn't impossible – it just requires some dedication and patience.

CONSIDER YOUR DELIVERY

How do you talk to your partner? Do you stage a frustrated ambush at the end of the day? Start complaining about something days after it happened, after it's had time to build up and blow up? If you want to start getting through to a partner who doesn't listen, you have to think about the way you approach the situation. Every person is different, and your partner may do better with a different delivery method. Think, too, about how you like to be spoken to, and try to approach your partner the same way.

cococandy: I didn't say it as insult to them o. Just that I don't understand how he could have taken it so cool and included them in his generalization.

But no problem.
I desist ma'am.

@ freshdude. Peace. I love women,I can never insult yours. If you think I meant it as an insult to them,I'm very sorry. That's not what I meant.

Fresh dude e don do ohhh .

Bro e don do... You don't need to convince me , I believe you.

Owuro lojo ore mi ...I dey go work abeg

Naijababe Sup girl!

Well that was a different thread and now you've opened the bees nest when you mentioned his relations

Anyway

Freshdude1 and cococandy e don do una oh or I call the MODS.

I thought 'we' are not to bring relations into online fracas ?? Sofry sofry oh

njokusboy: It always ends like this... When someone said I was a cold hearted carnivore, I knew it was only a prologue.. Smh...

Yesu omo ijo 25pages already??

Again the thread has overturned to Feminism as usual NL I hail y'all

Okra soup

Quick lunch : Plantain & eggs

Rice,chicken stew, mushroom,shrimp&kale roux , and plantain.

Enjoy

damiso: Just had a long bath kids went out with daddy instead of me to relax or just go back to bed I just dey do work wey dem no send me I need a cure for this my clean house syndrome

OCD tins ... Take it easy Dami , the house will be back to the original state when they all return in no time so what's the fuss? Take am easy oh Hian

pickabeau1: Ewuro

U r blaming the wrong person.. njoku is just statin d facts

It is your fellow female activists whpo campaigned for this issue

They say a foetu is not a human

face the pro choicers... make dem no chop u raw ooo

I'm not blaming him.. He's forcing his convictions over mine.

Pro choices are least of my worries.. I do my part in the campaign and hope for the best.