pocohantas:
I wish them the best. He has seen her at her worst...
This is all it takes to hold down a good woman.

Love and support, but some of my Nigerian brothers think it's all about money and sex. When they chop their money finish, they'll na come online and be opening 20 threads in 2 seconds

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I pray for this generation of slaykings, awon prick administrators and waist benders...may their minds grow, so that their dicks can make better decisions. Amen

Sisters, when you meet that good man, cherish him. We don't want a situation where to see a good man would be like solar eclipse.

Always partial in your judgement, what about our ladies, you did not see the ones who would sleep with anything they see for money.

The ladies we av today are as bad or even worse than the guys.

funmisticqueen:
He doesnt want to solve anything, he wants to take the child away from the mother, he hasnt even told the wife of his plans and he wants to rear the child in a peaceful home, child support means nothing.

Your attempts at reconciliation have not worked, and every day she becomes bitter than all the lemons in the world. All you want your son to know is that you are a cool dad.

You can see here that you got it wrong he just wants to have some time with the son. He never stated that he wants to take the child and he also mentioned that the mother loves the boy. He seems ready to pay for child support to have some valuable time with his son.

funmisticqueen:
I am not basing my judgement on this story, you really like misquoting me, to get my point of view please read my other messages to the op, op hasn't even told his wife that he wants to claim his son. I never said what two of them did wasn't wrong

That is the basis of this arguement, the op is ready to claim the son and that is why he created this thread to seek how he could solve the crisis between him and the mother of his child, that he is even ready to pay for child support. Your argument here is that the op has no right to claim the child because he wasnt there for her when she was pregnant.

funmisticqueen:
You are right but you are twisting my words here, this story happened real life, i grew up with these people, i never said she did not forgive him since she obviously tried to move on. The mother here was one of the nicest people i knew and the way she behaved wasn't as if she held any hatred for anyone. May her soul rest in peace. but, for her daughter, the father messed up,big time, i wonder how the woman would have coped if not for her family. I think the daughter has written off the father though and there are more stories like this of peopleyou said that he asked her out and they did not use protection, shouldn't the two of them bear the consequnces of their actions, or was it immaculate conception, really any man that sleeps with a woman he has no intention of marrying has no intergrity and is a digrace. Why i am sure the babymama hates the op is that i am sure he denied the pregnancy, even if they dont marry, he said he wasn't ready to be a father, no one ever is ready for fatherhood. The babymama was obviously not ready for motherhood but she faced the music. If the op and babymama had talked through the process like two responsible adults, walked through the pregnancy, even if he didn't marry her, she wont hate him as such and we wont have this thread here

Firstly you are basing ur judgement of the op based on the storyline, here op claims responsibility for the pregnancy and he is ready to claim the child and accept it. I am sure that if the man had done that in the story you described, it would have been a much happier ending, the woman might not have died due to stress and at least the kids would have found life much easier.

The case of you saying when a man sleeping with a woman he doesnt want to marry, he has no integerity is wrong. A woman could and do sleep with men they have no intention of marrying and you know that. I am not saying it is right for him to sleep with a lady he doesnt intend to marry but at the same time both sexes are guilty of that, so you pointing out only one sex makes you sexist.

The fact is that getting pregnant for a guy is not enough reason for him to marry you, there are more than a million reasons he might choose not to and that is his choice. The woman has a choice to make, she could decide to sleep with the man or not and if she sleeps with the man ensure they use protection since she is the one that would blame the consequence the most.

The man cant marry her because of pity the best he can do is to claim responsibility for his action by offering child support which is legalized and accepted world wide. Any lady that doesnt want to get pregnant in this age knows the precautions to take and has more than one alternative to do so.

funmisticqueen:
Let me give you a classic story, man and woman fall in love while abroad, they dont marry but have two kids over there, things fall apart, mother returns to nigeria with no ring and two kids, she becomes a laughingstock meanwhile, man is with a new white wife abroad for green card purposes. Mother's family luckily for her takes her in and look after the children while she gets a job somewhere, two years later the eldest a boy is diagnosed with sickle cell disease, the youngest a girl has genotype AS. The boy has nothing more than 3 crises a year requiring herbs then admission to the hospital, this becomes frequent and woman loses her job, woman's attempt at finding love is a dead end too since no man want's someone else's cargo. Few years later the boy dies, the woman and her family are heartbroken. The woman falls into a deep depression and becomes ill, later a diagnosis of chronic myelocytic lukaemia is made,all her family members try to raise funds but lose her too leaving only the little girl to stay with her family members. this little girl clocks sixteen, is tall and very beautiful and decides to stay in her aunt's house. This aunt asks her if she want's to know her father and she say yes. Aunt makes enquires and gives her neice the contacts of her father who is in greece but her uncles are in disagreement, they call her father names for the things he did to their late sister, one even vows to shoot her father if he comes near him. They are her father, they said, they gave her love in the way they could and paid her school fees she shouldn't call him if not he will resume his fatherly duties and they wash their hands off her matter. she calls him anyway, she finds out he is remarried and they continue father daugher bonding through whatsapp. One day she gets admission into igbinedion university to study accounting and she tells her father who is happy for her, until she tells him the amount her school fees is, he tells her that he will get back to her then ignores her pm before he finally blocks her from whatsapp. End of relationship, she has no choice but to go back to her uncles who pays the fees. She attends igbinedion for two years after which her oldest uncle takes her to canada to stay with him where she can study nursing like they planned. She is now a citizen working as a nurse and she will say it anywhere; anyman who runs from fatherhood will never ever be ready to be a real father. Thank you.

Your story is painful and a real fail on the man involved but you should know better that not all men are evil just like not all women are good. The fact that she got pregnant for the dude is not enough reason for them to get married.

When he asked her out, she said yes and when it came to sex without protection she said yes. She knew the consequences of her actions, and still said yes. So she should be able to bear the consequences of it.

You also said that her life us ruined and she can't get a husband. You are totally wrong here, the new wife d man married, is she not a baby mama or haven't you heard of several young dudes getting married to baby mamas. The only way she can put her life back together is by forgiving d dude and moving on.

Hatered and love can't exist in the same heart so she should forgive him not for his sake but for her sake.

The guy is a super hero

nickishire:


One of her/his details is incorrect. I'm quite certain it's d matric number. So check and remove some slashes or something

Thanks it was the jamb reg number.

My friends name is on the senate list but I cant seem to register, it keeps telling me no details found.

My friends is on the senate list but I cant seem to register it keeps saying no details found but I can see the details on the senate list

Atlantia:
He's aired his opinion...good for him.

Opinions differ and so I cannot say he has spoken for all men.

Sure there are always outsiders, pray you meet one. Personally I believe it is your body and I can't force you so it depends on how much I love you to accept the condition if I can't I would let u go.

Hmmm NCAN are on their way

geekybabe:
Lolss 2-0
Now i can go watch d match.

Wow nice to meet a female programmer who watches football. Just saying hi here

Computer science is one of the most important courses in our generation. You have no reason to be scared of jobs because they are more than enough for you to choose from. In almost every sector of the economy computer science is very important.

One thing that makes computer science easier and practicable is because unlike other science and engineering courses you only need to have a laptop to learn everything and be the best in your field.

However I must tell you that it is not an easy field. You would most likely sacrifice your social life to be a good developer. It takes a lot of pain and sacrifice to be good in this field unlike other fields you still av to keep studying even after graduating to keep up with the changes in tech world.

Lie am a dude and I don't av a baby mama, the op just needs to go get pampers and other stuffs that the person below me would suggest.

lol i no fit laugh oyinbo yahoo boy

fpeter:
Their wedding had been rescheduled for May this year, before his demise on Monday.



So that lady would have actually gone ahead to marry this guy?

Exactly my thought, how can the lady even think of getting married to this guy is the real sick aspect, means she was just desperate to get married.

The bank is one thing of d worst dey did d same for me charged me know 250 naira

A good wife above anything else in this world, women can make or mar a man. I don't do free money by d way, av u heard of a wealthy man whose source if income is in lottery.

smarty563:
For me I think the best will be "Sack all the staffs both academic and non academic and employ new ones

if they want re-employment they should be ready for fresh terms

Enough of all this strikes
holding govt to ransom at the expense of the. students..

believe me, all this union executives ,their lads don't go to public sch...

I went to a private sch nd na xoxo lecturer pikins full dia

Can u work without collecting salary for months? Don't talk like a kid who still stays with his parents, do u know aw terrible d economy is and u are asking the lecturers to lecture without salary.

kuuljay:
Ok,somebody check it and tell me,i no get mb

Are u gay marriage why you would u want to turn a man on?

chuose2:


Stop being myopic.

When people hold up just 3 fingers like this, we all know it means 666.
yet it's just 3 fingers





Likewise the number is coded to mean 666.

The video shows the way Adeboye manipulates the church to give him money.
Even going as far as taking a widows rent as offering.
Adeboye no get shame

So u trying to say if I buy a sim card and I am given 666 as my last three numbers, if I accept it i already av d mark of d beast.

chuose2:
why not pay the school directly to make sure it's not a scam?

Buhari & APC are killing this country.


Meanwhile the Pastorneurs are enjoying



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Dude DAT video is d greatest insult to any human intelligence. How do u use a phone number to derive 666 dats annoyin and sick. If I av a phone number with 666 DAT means I am satanic.

EVILFOREST:
Do u study your BIBLE at all...?
Or u wait for men of God to study and explain everything to u, in their language,.

Did u read wat I wrote, I don't believe a thing dey say until I check d bible for confirmation. Christ would neva do so in his time and neither would d appostles. The

karrim4real:
Lalastilala
Reward my Developer Brothers work. .. Promise Land FP

If a hear wen it is not snake thread.

This is cool kudos bro

All this men of God would have made me changed my stance on religion if not that I have a good understanding of the bible and the word of God. It is a shame.

ikombe:
You will Never walk alone brother

Yea u too boss

Can never forget d night I went to a watch Liverpool vs Arsenal, Arsenal beat us 6-3 that night in Carling cup, I felt so bad and mum compounded my woes with wicked beatings.

Chai

colik:

Hello, aw u doing

Stupedinluv:
Mtcheew

I stand with Liverpool Ace Carragher#

Are using serious, u a Liverpool fan #YNWA

Stupedinluv:
Such a shameless guy. He was supposed to show her good morals.

Your feminism no dey here ooo, u had to blame d guy for d girl's behaviour and if we guys start putting u in your place and treating u like kids u would start saying we are equals.

Chai you guys should just STFU