From the religious point of view. I am a Christian and I know that the bible discourages the act of a man marrying another. Although it was widely practised in the old testament but Christ came to correct us on this. But what of the muslims? My colleagues that are Muslims always explain to me that you can marry more than one so far you can love both. Some muslims argue it's not possible while others say it is. and I have seen Islamic clerics who have two wives. please I really want to understand something here. When a Muslim brother has a wife. How does he get the other woman? Is it not by wooing her. Will that be regarded as adultery or what exactly is adultery in Islam. I'm not trying to castigate or be offensive. I've got lots of Muslim friends that are wonderful people. I just want to know more about what the religion says about this and how you'll go about getting the other women without committing sin.

Toniaslim,

[b]Seriously do you know why they hit people at the back of their heads? because that's where the stupidity is stored!


I've got to say some women have got a long way to go!

A lot of women take this feminism crap too far! and before some of you go yidi yada. . .I'm also a feminist. . .

But let us address the true meaning of feminism. . .Some of you screaming "I'm a feminist" do you truly understand the true meaning of feminism?

Or do you just spew sturvs from your mouths without having a clear understanding of what your saying. ,

Feminism is not all about screaming Oh I'm equal to the dude and all that crap. . .women like Hillary Clinton are what I call true feminists. . .because they understand what its true meaning is. . .

feminism is not about fighting to be a man's equal or throwing your duties away as a woman. . .But its rather all about embracing your gift as a woman. . . exploring your hidden potentials,going beyond your limits and being the best you can be to yourself, family and the society at large. . .

Back to the issue at hand. . .Yes Its may not be compulsory to you but its something I'll happily do cus that's a sensible thing to do!

Now I'm not making excuses for men. . .but I like to look at it from different point of views. . .sometimes we women are the cause of our own problems with men!

Men and women are also like switches. . .you click the right switch and they treat you right. . .ONly and I quote only the foolish men and men who do not fear God would treat you otherwise. . .

You do a real man right. . .watch and see if he'll ever take you for granted! Wink[/b]

You are just one of the very few women that have all it takes to tame a man. Treat him right then you'll see him dance when ever you want him to.

I agree with who called you a virtuous woman. I wish you the best of the best in your marriage. Impressive!

Dats wat i hav bin sayn.a woman can go more dan an extra myl if d man in question is apreciativ of her eforts nd trits her right.


Ginky,

I agree with you on this your last post

[b]Here's one (cynical) view:

* 'Love' means he wants to sleep with you, or perhaps marry you.
* 'Like' means he genuinely likes you, or maybe just your body.


I don't know why young women pay so much attention to what men say. I mean, a man will tell you anything he thinks you want to hear. So why not pay more attention to his actions? Huh


You have said it all. If I were to be a lady I would know what he feels through his action. let him practice what he preaches

Alloy Emeka,

I was almost seeing sense in what you were saying but messed up with the way you ended it. Why mention her mother or siblings. That was harsh. Too much for a lady.

All those who come here to glorify their tribal descents are just as premature as many Nigerians. Who told you any of the three tribe can stand alone. From my observation none can. The Southwesterners are too wise for themselves. Trying to outdo or pull their own down. They don't see anything good in whatever their kinsmen do. There is high level jealousy killing them. The South east are as disunited as a falling nation. When election time comes instead of them to bring 5 or 6 representative to represent them they will share all the votes among hundreds and concede defeat to the other regions. The south-south are as lazy as any other thing. Give them the whole oil they are clamouring for and I tell you they will finish themselves in less than a year. The Northerners do not even know what to do with the resources. Give them all the resources and come back in 100 years, the best they can do is to give it back to you the way you gave it. So tell me which of these can stand alone. These regions now have one Satan in common. They are all tribalist

Forget it! Nigeria can only survive when you bring together the good sides of these various regions and begin to harness means to end their various weakness.

It is smple, if the south east is helping the southwest and they are the one keeping them afloat then they should have been able to stand alone. Let the south east pull out of the southwest at least go home and improve their region to prove other regions wrong.

Ohsisi,

Going by your explanation, I think the home video guys or nollywood are really portraying igbos badly. They tend to create the impression that the family takes over the man's wealth as soon as he dies. Then these people should be caution on their excesses. The image they create is damaging and is not helping anyone.

Mekusxxx,

Can you view the opinion of Lagosians and nonlagosians from your system. The poll gives it to Fasola on my own and I think from others view here, it is Fasola that takes the day. You can go and settle your score with the governor outside this forum but he takes the lead here. Chime I think is next to him. So all your fake post about this governor has not really helped you at all. You need to do more to win the heart of nairalanders. I commend your ambitious effort towards the next election.

Another post from someone suffering from complex syndrome trying to be-little other tribes. And how has this index affected you personally?

Jaguar,

Watch it. This trend does not need those words. Just pass it across without using those. It might starts another war here. One has been going on already. please try to avoid another.

Should the parents determine my destiny. If my parent saw each other, came together and are leaving happily. Must they come and stop me from getting along with who I feel can make me happy. I think I might begin to see nothing wrong with those that elope with the woman. Even if I have a child and he does not see reason with me I will leave him or her to satisfy himself. But he must never come crying to me. We are all humans parents should realise they can be wrong at times.

When it comes to relationship be you a professor or academician that knows it all. Even counselors blunder. Marriage institution is by far different from academics sometime experience can fail you. Just follow God and how leads you. The best thing I can give my child his good virtues and precepts then the rest is up to God. I can not alter his choice. He came to this world the way I came. He's another individual that came just after me. I have no right to be God over him. I can only guide.

Tell her to keep doing everything to convince them and never try to be confrontational. I don't know if they permit you to visit her at all. With good demonstration of morals and God most especially God you will win their heart. And if they still refuse you might need to attend thier church and find out if it is outlawed in their doctrine.

Sometimes these parents tend to respect their spiritual leaders and if they still insist then you ve tried your best. Please Move on.

Axeman85,

Ignore my previous post

I'm Yoruba and i got married to a lady that is half Delta Ibo. It was not easy due to the different culture I waited 5 yrs and I got my queen. I did everything to convince them that we are not as bad as they think. I'm happily married to her today and the 2 families are doing just fine.

Just be patient and do everything to win their heart. I'm not saying you should kill yourself to satisfy them

axeman85,

I can't stop laughing here. Is your girl a machowoman? Sorry abt that

So with all these home videos they watch. The home videos emphasize more on this and funny enough it is these parents that watch it more. But it still does not change anything at all.

axeman85,

I hope it is not too late b4 they realize it. Can't they just respect what binds you 2 together.

y me,

Till when do you do that thinking is the question that we are all trying to answer. from your own point of view when exactly do you think a guy or lady should quit the thinking?

Asoderock,

I know you may defer on this. I agree with you but with some reservations. What of the age thing. Won't the guy have been too old by the child the child finishes school. Some may no longer be around making the woman now a widow. Then the fertility thing and so many other factors that go with age. This is what is affecting our football teams. You may prove me wrong if you defer on this.

This is becoming interesting. Please I want ladies to contribute too.

axeman85,

You are right to a great extent but there are few others who don't fall into this category.

SuperEagle,

I think we are from the same planet

Are you sure those men are not doing that for any other reason or intent? It happens in every tribe any way. At least Youth service revealed a lot to me about Women and Men from Various tribes. This I guess may be the only thing I gained from the Stupid NYSC that has claimed several lives and brought grief to several homes. I have come to understand and agree that some tribes truly are more promiscuous than others while some are just mere hypocrites. Just my view!

Their women don't really marry late it is their men that wait till 40's 50's. Their women are very beautiful so they don't really stay for long before someone hook them up except for the bad eggs that still want to mess around. I think the topic should be re-phrased as "Why do Ibo men marry late?" As for the parents interfering in their choice. I feel that's archaic. They should be left to choose who they love. Most of the parents engaged in this act do so to the detriment of the girl and to their own selfish gain.

Bluediva,

Do you have a kia, I had an accident with mine sometimes ago and the body was fully repaired I will snap the pix and show you if you are intersted. Then for the parts. My kia is 11 months old and people around me keeps thinking it's 2 month old. Apart from the number plate that is aging you can never tell from the body. Kia will replace all movable parts for you at no cost provided your 3-year warrant is valid. They gave me a set of linkages for free. Mecahnics outiside saw it and said the old was still okay. something that has been condemned by kia. This is what you suffer from when you buy your Toks. Mechanics will constantly live on you.

A lot has been said about kia products on this forum that are not true. I did not want this car at first because my I earlier allowed prejudice to becloud my sense of reasoning. To my dismay it was a lady that convinced me. She took me to her Kia Rio and showed me everything. she offered me a ride and that was it. I'm not saying they are better than Brand new products of Benz, BM, Toyotas and the rest but a brand new Kia is far better than a three year old toks. My road should have sent my kia to the great beyond but it survived. Two of my neighbors' so-called toks are abandoned already

Na today. That one na old story now. If you wan know which team dey play their hearts out. See chelsea, liverpool, arsenal. You too dey carry old story

Well there are lots of children out there that are results of these sacrilegious acts. This is why you'll wonder why some humans are so barbaric and in humane. Some of these children are in motherless babies home others that are not so fortunate are found in gutter and roadside while some even live with you and me.