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Personally, I prefer it when girls are natural! Natural height, natural colour, natural eye lashes and natural everyevery! I dislike heavy makeup and painting on girls. I think light rubbing of powder and inconspicuous lipstick is not bad.

intbizoil: U ppl calling op immature are the ones actually immature. So op should watch his friend destroy herself because of her addiction to sugary thing. Do you know the end product of such addiction? Op you are doing the right thing and I commend you for that. I have noticed that Women don't love guys who tell them the truth

@intbizoil, thank you so much for your wonderful contribution!

fluid26: I disagree. He strikes me as someone who is overtly sensitive, especially when people he considers 'dear' are involved. He probably wouldn't dole out that much advice if he doesn't fancy you.

@OP: Don't you think you're overreaching yourself with your sudden and somewhat coarse approach in coaching her to your specifications?

@fluid26, many thanks for your contribution!

Yield: Seems like you're coming from a good place, OP, but it's up to her to change. Right now she might not see any downsides of what she's doing to herself with eating too much sugar, but if she continues it would catch up to her. She's not yet your girlfriend and even if she were it's up to her to do as she pleases. You want to be with someone who's healthy, so if this keeps bothering you because she refuses to change, then you can do as you please too.

@Yield, thanks a million for your contribution!

chidyhels: The way we approach issues(especially in topics that has to do with changing pple's original self)determines to a gr8t extent how pple will take your advise.

Imagine u say' babyyyy, 6-8 cubes of sugar isnt gud for your health nw, i dont want u overworking your body system in a bid to brk those sugar down,u know i love u and i dont want to see u sick,the sugar rather ends in a waste bin than cause problem to u...oya promise me you will reduce(dont say stop) your intake dear..eh
A whole lot of diff i bet u.Belv me,shes already seeing u as overbearing and authoritative,she could be nursing this bailing tin with you,bt its too early to give up,good girls are HRD to find especially wen u really need them.

@chidyhels, thanks for your contribution! I'll change my approach, I know change is very difficult to accept!

kitty kat: OP, u either very immature or a control freak

@kitty kat, sorry I'm not either of the above. Thanks for commenting!

sunny t: I think you dnt have any reason to back-out yet. You are still at the nursery stage of the relationship
Are u sure you are not asking too much from a friend?
Sure u can talk to her at this point, bt if she dosnt change and u think u cant cope wit dat trait, split the bean.
Dnt eva think someone will change one day or that you can change them. It dosnt wok

@sunny t, thank you for your contribution! I'll discuss it with her and if there's no change, shift gear!

LastApostle: Op, a lady that loves and want to be with you would definitely do anything within her power to please you like winning your admiration and so on.
If you don't like the way she dresses while going on a date with you and remind her of it, she can make the sacrifice of changing into something that appeals to you not because she is comfortable with your decision but to make you happy. If you don't find such attribute in a lady you want to date then there is no future in such enterprise.

She might be treating you as an option but believe me you a lady in love that desperately need a man will always but foolishly gives in to his demands. If the traits she exhibits don't portray her as a wify material it is better you discontinue the relationship

@LastApostle, your response is in tandem wish your name. Thanks for that!

Amya: OP has the makings of a control freak.

@Amya, I don't think I'm a control freak. Can't you advise a friend or bf? Will that make you a control freak? Thanks for your comment Madam!

Idowuogbo: Dude, Una no gel! move the fevk on abeg! Jeez! All dis agidi Romeos sef, na by force? Chick wey u jus meet, u don dey talk quit? Wetin u dey quit? Are u a learner?

@Idowuogbo, I'm a veteran. Anyway, fanks for commenting!

LadyTC: Watching and Eating popcorn

@LadyTC, Watching and Eating popcorn ?

Smuthx: OP, so some of the issue you are having with this girl is 'not to put too much sugar in her tea', "not to drink too much" and she is not obeying. This is way small to be an issue here. why are you making it an issue?

She is her own person that has routines, lifestyle, beliefs.

@Smuthx. Thank you so much for your response!

IZUKWU: yes there is nothing wrong in giving a friend am advice and also there is nothing wrong in a friend not following your advice , maybe she followed her mind or doesn't she have one ,or another person also advised her. What type of advice self and on what?

@IZUKWU, thanks for your comment. I have the advice in my response to KINGwax and onatisi.

onatisi: op,if i may ask what kind of advice did u give her that she refused?and what even makes u belive that ur own advise is right and correct?just asking

@onatisi, thanks for asking! She drinks at least one bottle of 'Orobo' everyday and I advised her to reduce it. She's the type that adds like 6-8 cubes of sugar in a cup (not mug/jug) of tea and when you advise, she tells you 'I have a whole box of sugar at home if I no use am like that, e go waste'.

KINGwax: Dear OP. Pls undstnd dt the immorality in our world and the quest to sound and act western has killed the morms, bt there are still some sensible ppl around. Most ppl dress so wrong and no matter how u tell them, they think u're old school and won't listen.
So, if u knw ds girl won't do any good, dnt disturb urself tryin to go serious wit her. U knw the type u wanted. Bt if u're like KINGwax™ the badass, enjoy urself wit the girl and lay her off wen u're done.
No big deal, they're 'big girls', they simply can take care of themselves. By the way, let nobody judge u or tell u it aint good. Remember: u're nobody's puppet.

@KINGwax, thanks a lot for your comment! The person in question dresses very well and she's not the type with 'fake' everything. She is a 'good' girl but is that type of person that if you advise her to reduce the quantity of soft drink, she tells you 'I can't do that till a month's time'!

uj_sizzle: Guy giving advise is free, accepting it is a choice too. She ain't a puppet, be glad she has a mind of her own.

@uj_sizzle, heeding and advice doesn't make one a 'puppet'. Some advice from people have made me better even though I am not superhuman. Thanks for your comment!

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Just few weeks, and you are already advising her and expecting her to stick to your advice like glue? Wonderfulation and fantasticability. . .

You have not even started dating her and you already want to change her orientation, so when you start dating her, she is supposed to be your puppet, right?

My friend, shift your sef comot for road make I see better serious person this morning. . . Wait sef, what are you even "calling quit" on? Can you quit what you never were in?

Mtsheeeeeeeeeew! [/color]

@sexkillz. I'm not expecting her to be a 'puppet'. I'm not perfect but I don't think there is anything wrong in giving a friend an advice. Many thanks for making your comment!

Dear NLanders,

There is a girl I met recently and she appears to have many of the qualities I look out for in a lady. As far as I'm concerned, we have not started dating though some people may think otherwise.

In the past few weeks, I have been contemplating backing out! Her behaviour gives me the impression that she does what she wants to even when I advise otherwise.

Is there a way I could change her orientation or would it be expedient for me to call it quit? Please I need your candid advice. Thank you all!

SPEECHLESS

@damola1. Thank you so much.

@Omo_tier1. Thank you so much for your advise.

@UKSTUDY, thanks for your advice.

@Disguy, claremont, N101, noble_gas1 and 27naira. Thank you so much for your responses. I am grateful. I will consider KLM since Arik no join. Thanks.

Please I need your advice.

Hello Nairalanders, I need you advice to book my ticket to Heathrow. I will be travelling for my MSc program last week of September or first few days in October and my program ends September 2012. I want to find out which type of ticket will be better for me, one way ticket or a two-way ticket. Please can you advice me on the airline to travel with. Thank you very much.

I got mine within three working day. I applied on Thursday, scanned on Friday and collected on Monday though an immigration officer assisted me.

@Kelvinigho, thank you so very much for your advice. It is highly appreciated.

@Kelvinigho, thank you for your response. I don't know anybody in NNPC, I am not 100% sure I will be employed but I believe I could be favoured. I applied for GT, I heard the total take home pay is about 170k though I am not too sure of the value.

Please any advice for me

Please any advice for me

Dear Nairalanders, please I
need you candid advice. I
have an offer into a UK
university. I already paid
£2000 as tuition deposit
before I was issued a CAS, I
have a £500 scholarship, I
have paid accomodation
deposit of £300 and other
little expenses.
I have received a message
that my visa has been
processed, I will go pick it
up next week. Will it be
advisable for me to book
my flight ticket after
collecting the package
considering the fact that I
am also awaiting the
decision of NNPC
recruitment after being
interviewed last month.
The only condition I can
get a refund of some of
the fees is only if I am
denied a visa. If I don't
book my ticket now till
NNPC recruitment process
ends, the price will be
higher. I have less than
two weeks to start the
program.
I will be granted leave by
my employer. Please I
need your advice. Thank
you.I will be granted leave
by my employer. Please I
need your advice. Thank
you.

Dear Nairalanders, please I
need you candid advice. I
have an offer into a UK
university. I already paid
£2000 as tuition deposit
before I was issued a CAS, I
have a £500 scholarship, I
have paid accomodation
deposit of £300 and other
little expenses.
I have received a message
that my visa has been
processed, I will go pick it
up next week. Will it be
advisable for me to book
my flight ticket after
collecting the package
considering the fact that I
am also awaiting the
decision of NNPC
recruitment after being
interviewed last month.
The only condition I can
get a refund of some of
the fees is only if I am
denied a visa. If I don't
book my ticket now till
NNPC recruitment process
ends, the price will be
higher. I have less than
two weeks to start the
program.
I will be granted leave by
my employer. Please I
need your advice. Thank
you.I will be granted leave
by my employer. Please I
need your advice. Thank
you.