₦airaland Forum

NemoDatQuod:
It's obvious you are not just confused, but also have a mental health problem. Your moniker says "fearYourCreator", yet in virtually all your posts, you go about insulting everyone and calling them names. That's not synonymous with the Creator we all know. He actually hates people who do that.

Your signature says, you can accept the truth. Yet truth is so very far from you. Your personal text says there's no need to hurt others. Yet you seem very vested in hurting others.

It's clear you are troubled. So I'mma gonna let you carry on with your insults.

I'll carry on drinking my Double Mature Scotch Whiskey while you carry on spewing hate.

Lolzzz.... You claiming woke to danger... Continue ... Make that brother report to their mama wetin the wife do

Konjiboii:
Lol you all need to grow up honestly, I'm ashamed on y'all behalf.
Let me also guess because your sibling dey around you no go fit look after your children or feed them abi?
Una go dey find issues when there's none.
Abeg hope say atleast you wise enough to vote Peter Obi because any mumu decision you take on that matter na hin go fit directly affect me.

Grow up ... Or some of you should stop claim maturity wey no join... Na cry dey end am... Thats not maturity ... Its pure disrespect ... A well trained african woman dont do that ... We are africans ... And concerning Nigeria ... Non of them can help Nigeria and any of them can help Nigeria ... What I think about Nigeria is just different from so many... If I tell now you fit say make i grow up again ...

CSTRR:
A thief cannot be good for my interests.

There are two proven thieves in the race.
Thieves don't develop civilisations.

You don't need the holyspirit to tell you to run from them.

Two thieves... Lolzzzz

Konjiboii:
It's not rubbish,depending on how you reason. The man don go errand come back him no die, the wife go suck hin prick wella still position better doggie give am, while una dey here dey cry for another persin headache. I don talk how me sef see am. You no fit jazz my phone spoil and you no fit beat me because that wan go be suicide for your part.. so what will you do now concerning the matter?

You go later get problem ... Except you dont have mother again... If you get ... She no fit happy hear that kind news...
Na faceless forum na... Talk whatever ... Na rubbish you dey ... That wife no wise ... She use her hand call wahala come... If you don marry run errands too infront of your siblings... And if you don marry , you can likewise start infront of your siblings too... Na you go get problems last... Dem dey tell you now... You dey form woke... Werey

Juoflife1:
You need to grow up

Na different beds your type warm... If you be woman ... Pure disrespect from that wife... Wrong call at that time...

Romanoff:
You sabi me pass myself?

I no sabi you ... Yes ... But she is wrong ... She just called for disrupts in her marriage... If the news gets to the husband mama ... Na bigger problem... She is not wise

NemoDatQuod:
You exchange insults for a point of view. Tells everyone how you were raised and your level of exposure.

I knew from the beginning that this site has a lot of those who are the silt of the Nigerian society. But I will not leave and I will continue to propagate ideas that are contrary to what your small mind is used to, in your limited knowledge and exposure. Even if it is just one person who has a change of heart and mind, it will be worth it. Our country's problem is not with the leadership. It is with the hapless throng of "ill-educated" illiterates who litter our country.

May same faith be for your son too...
Ode woke things... Sending your husband errand in front of his brother... Strong Displays of disrespect... Na when the husband mama no go hear... Wahala go come full everywhere... Something she can avoid ... She is not wise at all... Many things is wrong with that move ... You can say whatever ...

TheGift:
I am not saying anything. I am asking questions to understand the issue better, before saying anything.

But if I must say something, I think you should talk to your brother about your concerns.

Which concern... Wife sending husband errand in presence of an inlaw... She is not wise at all... Nothing wrong husband doing some errands but not in peoples presence like that

zoedew:
That is not disrespectful Sir. That way you will live longer as a man, husband and father. Your legacy is sure to be great long after you are gone. Fact check the lives of men who lived well all round.

That woman don get problem like that ... I dey tell you... If younger brother report to the mama ... Na season film e go turn... The wife no wise

seanwilliam:
100%
tbh, at some points, a man might need to simp for his wife to make marriage work, e.g if she’s pregnant there are some things I will personally be responsible for just to ensure her comfort , but not that she’ll be rubbing it on my face in public

Iku kpa

Nairanation2:
Kwanu! This is why i find it difficult bringing personal issues here. U'll see ppl rationalizing pure senselessness.
Ppl with irrational thoughts & awful character hide behind keyboard to dish out rabid nonsense.
It's very improper & lack of proper upbringing for any wife to send her husband an errand in such a manner, more so, in d presence of her brother-in-law. Nothing can justify this.

She just drag wahala for herself

sylve11:
Seems you're the only woman here with her right senses commenting on this thread.

I tell you

easzypeaszy:
Dis marriage na diff Character man fit see him sef end up dey dis play..All no be Simp Simp
Am married but I do alot
I bath my Son n carry him to school
I get tomatoes and pepper
I go grind it mysef
I buy cooking gas mysef
I go to market most times
I buy tins.. I mean u can see me going out 20tims aday n somtims 5tims within 30mins
I wash my clothes n kids own
I provide 90% of the money in d house
My wife cn Cook 3times fr me everyday
Me naturally I lik waka
But wen am in work dem go find way
Me sha I no dey send person or want person do somtin fr me
But if my wife mess up she collect even my mother inlaw sef dey collect steady wen dey wan try me I no gt shame lik dat
Na just me

Baba I like you ooo... I do all these too... The man going no be issue ... Na the woman no caution ... The timing was wrong to me

zoedew:
You live in yesterday Sir. There is absolutely nothing wrong or sinister about that. What you see playing out in their relationship is love. It does not take away from the fact that the husband is the head of the wife. To run errands for your wife solidifies your position as head and earns the respect of all members of the family even more.If you cannot put up with their lifestyle it will be best for you to interact less with them for obvious reasons.

Woke don chop your brain .... That's disrespect not love

Emily22:
God will bless you

There are scenarios whereby I will want the buy something and seller won't be there, she can remind me later to check the seller.

Una don smoke gum

lomprico:
When you marry your own do as you like, don't go and scatter your brother's marriage. Did he complain to you?

Arinya

Owen247:
100%

Dende

TheGift:
Is your brother complaining? If not , why is it disturbing you??

What are you saying

pocohantas:
Many men would simp for their wives at some point, but I think it shouldn’t be overplayed in public.

There are some men that do dishes and wash clothes. The wife doesn’t need to go about announcing it that her husband washes clothes or her pant. That should be between them. Especially in a country like Nigeria.

She didn’t have to overplay it in your presence. Even sensible men would be wary about sending their wives unnecessary errands in the presence of his/her siblings. At best they do that thing themselves. But that one sef go bring another wahala. Omo, you can’t please world people o.

You have said well... The woman over do am... Not in presence of your inlaw... Na she invite problem

Holluwhakemmy:
Tuletule mind your business they are enjoying each other

Your son will recieve Sam treatment too

Chimookigwe:
I learnt this the hard way.

If that guy scolds his brother's wife, his brother can fight him.

Na today... I go talk abeg

MLSM:
Next time, u could just ask ur bro to never bother n u do d errend on his behalf. This, with time will send message to ur bro' s subconscious.
Also, u can also tell ur bro how u feel when his wife sends her on an errand, he might open up to u.

The woman didn't take caution ... And like you said ... I will do the errand too

Konjiboii:
When it comes to being a redpiller and an absolute alpha male I will tell you now that there is nothing wrong with what happened, as a married man or even dating there is nothing wrong assisting a woman, your brother is a real man without such petty pride. There are certain things as a man you shouldn't do and this is not one of it.you look at it as running errands but you don't understand why he is doing it, just mind your business and let them live their lives, when you marry send your wife errands and let her wipe your yansh because she's a woman. Women are meant to be partners and not slaves.
Let me give instances so y'all will understand since una dey reason like cavemen.
Imagine she's cooking and there's no seasoning.
Imagine they ran out of gas.
I wish a nigga on nairaland would point at me and call me a simp.

Bros man goes to the kitchen woman goes out if guest present or in-laws... No dey talk rubbish abeg... This kind situation before she talk finish sef my brother fit don jump out sef

seanwilliam:
shut up your dirty mouth. That you’re married to my brother doesn’t give you the temerity to treat him anyhow and throw caution out of window. we’re related by blood and I’m closer to him than you are. ‘no matter the bonds you share with him, you’re still an outsider. If something bad happens to him you can deny him and go your way but someone like me won’t do that !. If that’s how you treat your own husband all in the name of love , fine! But it won’t work with me.
This is Africa. No come Dey form americana for someone like me, I go over embarrass u.

I will put mouth instantly and if my brother is not ok with that then I will shut up by mouth and will never visit them again!.

Mind you, I don’t visit anyone except I’m invited and I rarely honor invitation self. Not all in laws are jobless like yours!


As regards to widow, I have no business poke-nosing in that regards. She’ll be the one to handle her husband’s stuff in order to take care of their children and I will do what I’m supposed to do to support them. Also par-adventure they never had kids together until his demise, then we will have to follow his wills and order.


He’s your husband but he’s my brother first .

Na insult sef

harmargedon:
a lot happens in marriage, but when love is attached, a lot seems normal. Possibly they were very close before marriage, eventually they turn from friends to couples.
It's normal for your girlfriend/female friend to say "babe please help me check if the woman outside is selling drinks" and you'd hurriedly do it without attaching sentiment to it.
He's doing it based on understanding, and not because she's controlling him. He wouldn't have to tell you what the lady in turn had sacrificed for him.

Its no biggie... But in presence of inlaw or guest its disrespect

KosyJerry:
Stay out of their business.. When you'll advice is needed, you'll know. But for now, stay clear.... Nothing concern YOU

Arinya

Juoflife1:
Exactly my thoughts. But Nigerians will always like to meddle. OP stay out of their business.

Na that kind woman your pikin boy go marry then do am for your presensce

aspabay:
When people learn to mind their own business, this world will be a better place to live in.

Your brother and his wife are one and their family matter should not be your, go and build your own family.

Arinya

NaijaRoyalty:
Shut up please. Will you stay on your lane and mind your business if the said man happen to be your own brother?

Abi you too don tie someone's son somewhere?

Their type no dey gree

NaijaRoyalty:
Shut up please. Will you stay on your lane and mind your business if the said man happen to be your own brother?

Abi you too don tie someone's son somewhere?

Lolzzzz

akinmusi:
There may be a reason to some of these things you see at home nowadays.
Though whatever mystery behind it may be associated with factors seen and some unseen.

Managing homes under this regime could make a man so lowly and very humble as a result of the gargantuan demands that come with it. Some have however resorted directly or partly to shared responsibilities, "consciously and unconsciously", in quote.

There are things, while not trying to paint this regime bad, has humbled many men to do.

I know I keep speaking in mystery. Lmao.
It's well.

Baba I understand well... But this is wrong from the wife

mariahAngel:
Thank you.

What was she trying to prove, using her husband to shine?
She could've beckoned her husband to come close, then whispered her request into his ear, but no, she had to show herself.

If she could do that in front of her husband's younger sibling, then she could probably do that in front of a random guest.

You be correct woman... The woman just use her hand find family problem... Normally if no one is there ... Why not ... I do so many things for my madam... But somethings no join....