₦airaland Forum

NemoDatQuod:
I wish I were female in this instance and your sister in-law. You will talk?
I will put strong pepper in your mouth and you will explain to me what you are doing in my house, let alone asking me to explain myself to you. I am not married to you. I am married to your brother. Because I tolerated your presence in my house, you then have the audacity to ask me questions about my family affair.

Most of you need to have your heads examined. Really!

You don't understand the concept of boundaries and privacy. She owes you nada! and your own brother also owes you no explanation with regards to his relationship with his wife.

It seems most people in that Nigeria are mad in one form or the other. You wake up, dust your seat pants, go to someone else's home and start questioning her on how she relates with her husband. Come and try it here and see where you will spend the night.

It is men like you who will subject a widow to all sorts of indignities on the death of her husband, instead of having fellow feeling for her and comforting her on the loss of her closest companion. Mtchew!

Ode

Richy4:
In as much as I wanted to agree with you but her attitude is inexcusable.. she was wrong.. her husband can do chores around the house but that kind of errand is just downgrading him to a junk status in the presence of his siblings. I don't care about their financial status..

She will not die if she does honey can I speak with you privately kind of thing..I believe that OP did not just drop inside their household unannounced... She can always hide the fact that she was wearing the bigger trouser instead of doing it Infront of his siblings..

As far as I am concern, that errand was not an emergency... She can always do that herself since the husband was with his siblings or she can wait for them to go.. Opening her mouth and even saying the reason why the man must get up while he was with his siblings was just a no no...I believe the husband will never send her for an errand if she was with her siblings..

Bless you

Acidosis:
That's bad. The fact that she had to do it in your presence is completely embarrassing. But context is everything...

There's a difference between:

"Honey...baby...please I'm stressed.. can you help out with this and that on the next street?"

AND

"Oya bia, go collect change from iya shakiru" *with a straight face*

If my sister in-law uses the first context, I would even volunteer to run the errand. For the second context, we will surely have problems.

Na the presence be the thing

etrange:
OP, you can't just use your own idea of what is ideal to judge other people's happiness. You don't know the couple's love language. You don't know what tickles the woman's fancy or what turns the man on. You don't know the specific situation that led to the man being the person to go down that specific street to that specific shop at that specific time. All you saw was that your brother was sent on an errand. Unfortunately for you, you can't just walk in there and tell them how they should be married. It's not your marriage and if you're not happy with what you see, leave thier house for them. When you get married and your wife asks you to help with such things, kick her out. Your brother did not complain to you.

You are upset to see that he went out to check something for his own wife. The fact that this wife might be the one doing the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc all became irrelevant because the man went out to see if a shop is open. You're probably living in the past, but let your own wife bear the consequences of that. Please, don't use your own toxic masculinity to spoil another man's home.

E no go better for the woman...... For my presence... She dey madt ni

seanwilliam:
If I were you , I will talk. Doesn’t matter wether my brother is ok with it or not , but I will register my opinion instantly and she must tell me the reason she had to do that. If it’s reasonable enough , I’ll let it slide… and tbh, I doubt if any of my brothers’ wives can do this in my presence . I’m not bragging .

I get bad mouth and I don’t think any of them will try to tackle me, I rarely visit anyone , but if I visit them once , respect too much ( dem fit Dey fake am, I no care ).

All these signs are always there but your brother is blinded by love ..
Most of these girls possess that character , na u no go gree,
I remembered the day I went out with my girl to super market, we just started dating, we bought stuff and I paid, was pressing my phone and she wanted to hand over one of the bags to me to hold , I told her to put it on my head. Everyone was laughing and she felt embarrassed. I was praying she would bring up the matter again when we reach house, wetin she Fõr hear that day . If you no fit carry am drop am for ground! When no be something wey heavy.. even if it’s heavy, na me supposed tell you to bring am no be you go tell me.. Rubbish!




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You be man!

frozen70:
Your brother is not complaining

If he can't see anything wrong with that

Then let them be before his wife will start having family problems with you and yours

Mind your business

Na disrespect abeg ... If the inlaw no dey now ... That one dey ...

Richy4:
If that kind of arrangement works for them in their household great,...I know it doesn't work like that in many household...
As long as he wasn't complaining.. assuming he was, he would have changed it..

But OP, what was she doing when she was dishing out such instructions?...

This is the kind of situation that we all pray to have reasonable girl child as siblings...Ladies have ways of settling this kind of disrespect..
Assuming OP was a woman,... I doubt she would have ignored her...As the brother left for that errand, there would have been some exchange of words...Some female siblings will attack like dogs that even real dogs will be proud..

The wife did bad there ... No two ways ...

Gloriagee:
But its Ok for him to send her on errands, okwaya? You have no idea what goes in their home so mind your own business . She could be pregnant or your brother could be trying to make peace over something he did wrong...you truly dont know

Madam that's disrespect abeg in presence of inlaw... Big one

Nemesis0147:
will you be comfortable seeing your elder brother in such situation?
Let’s be logical and unsentimental when contributing to issues like this please.

Have a nice day XX

No mind am

mariahAngel:
To be honest, your brother's wife disrespected her husband by sending him on such an errand in your presence.
She belittled her own husband.
Couples should learn to treat each other with respect, especially in front of others.
Show others how to respect your spouse.

Op, as much as it hurt you to see that, try to stay out of it. It is their business.
Also, that should not stop you from respecting your elder brother.

Na stupid woman ... In presence of inlaw

Romanoff:
What goes on in my son's house will be non of my business as long as he is happy.

Reminds me of the lady who said her MIL walked in on her husband giving her head and went and called village meeting that she has spoiled her son and that's not how she raised him.

People should learn to mind their business.

Forget you no fit gree ... Na wetin i know well...

madridguy:
As if you will be cool seeing your son roaming about for a woman.

Exactly... She wey talk am no go gree lailai

Romanoff:
Stay out of their business. If your brother ever complains to you that his wife treats him badly and he's not happy, then you can give him advice.

If not, stay out of married people's business.

As long as she's not disrespectful to the man, stay out of their business.


Them go soon settle their issue turn am for your head.

Smiles... Normally ... Wey I dey I go talk... Laslas my brother go say make i comot... If am not there normal... But say I dey ... I go talk kpa... The women no get sense plus the man sef

CSTRR:
There are no more dollars.
The remaining are now in the hands of politicians.

Libya and Angola now export more oil than Nigeria thanks to oil theft.

Oil, our major dollar spinner has been mismanaged.

Which country mismanages its best forex earner, if not Nigeria.?

And yet you idiots want to elect crooks again as president?

Na God go punish una papa, for voting against my interest and the interest of this country.

Against your interest... Man no one knows who will do better ... No go dey decieve yourself ooo

Kasssandra:
Well, it ain't helping the North much...insecurity is bad, and the poverty is growing, and the harvest is under threat.

The problem with Nigeria is, we think that what satisifes a nation of 10 million can be made to saitisfy a nation of 210 million . It is not possible, and it can not be possible.

Which is why I think that we have never had a good leader. If we had one, the first thing he or she would have done would have been to prioritise industrial development, and also make sure the engine room of the economy is allowed to make a profit...and crucially...keep away from subsides (except in education and possibly health), and make sure that everyone pays tax and that tax money does not miss.

Instead, we sell raw materials and share the money. Like most African countries. And small wonder, we are all broke.

Tax... Something people making money here no dey wan pay sef

murmee:
Sorry to add another angle to this topic. Can someone please explain to me why it is now difficult to receive money sent from families or associates from abroad. When you go to any bank in Nigeria to process money sent from abroad through Moneygram or Western Union or Ria, the first thing the bank will tell you is that Dollars are not available. Some banks will say they only have smaller denominations like $20 or $10. Why are the banks doing this?

Maybe na bank you go too... Gtbank pays $100. Paper

Kasssandra:
Well, I am not in APC or PDP , but both of them made the same mistake of keeping our economy hooked on oil and of not diversifying away from oil.

Buhari's policy is just PDP policy without high oil prices.

The thing is, we need a leader who would raise taxes, and remove subsides for power and petrol...so that we get more investment , and also get both sectors working and earning more...which can be used to fire up our economy.

Smiles... Nigerians no dey understand this things you talk ooo

thebosstrevor1:
go get a gt dollar account and apply for a card for N1k

the yearly cost of maintenance is just $10 dollars

they sometimes give you $30 as discount when buying things online

Exactly

Kasssandra:
Yeah, we are not earning enough dollars due to

1.Subsidy payments going up, due to higher oil prices, which means higher fuel prices...and more money being spent to keep it low...which eats into our budget

2.Falling oil production due to theft, robbery, and government doing nothing about security.

3.From 2014 till 7-8 months ago, oil prices were too low to sustain us. Now that they are high, we have to still pay off the debt we took on during the lean years...(and yes, we had to borrow, otherwise we would have ended up with salaries not being paid for 2 years .)...and even during those years, we were still paying up debts.

4.Lack of a diversified economy. We did not diversify our economy.

5.Poor tax uptake. Our tax to gdp raito is 8.1%....too low to get us enough revenue. 30% of the economically active populaiton pays income tax to the government at federal and state level. Tax leakages and corruption are a thing.

6.Corruption and stealing. Especially at contracts, subsidy level and so forth. And yes, APC hasn't changed a thing.


That's why we are in this mess.

If we removed subsidies on petrol and power, and raised our tax to gdp ratio, and really focused on fighting corruption....we might get somwhere.

Campaigning begins next week, let's see what the candidates have in the tank. I'm not optimisitic.

That number 5 ehn... CEO fit carry or buy cars for girlfriend ... Pay tax na wahala ooo... I know wetin I dey talk sha

Chijeep:
Igbo man can leave his homeland in east with nothing but only a polythene bag and go to lagos for greener pastures.
And before you know what's up he'll become a millionaire. Theres Nothing a confirm igbo man touches that doesn't yield glorious fruits.

TRY PETER OBI TODAY AND SEE WHAT THE LORD, THE GOD OF ISRAEL HAVE FOR THE NATION CALLED NIGERIA



MODIFIED:- Some people think it's only lagos that Igbos are successful but they don't know that Igbos are risk takers. Even if it's far north, ones the igbo man made up his mind to stay in a particular place he'll surely make his own daily bread.
IGBOS FULL EVERYWHERE NO BE ONLY LAGOS. I'M FROM IMO STATE BUT WAS BORN IN KWARA WHERE I AND MY PARENTS RESIDES TILL DATE. MY DAD SAID WHEN HE CAME TO KWARA THAT ITS MORE LIKE A BUSH AND THEY ARE VERY LOCAL BUT TODAY ANY STREET OR MARKET THAT YOU DON'T SEE IGBOS THAT MARKET WILL GO DOWN BEFORE THE YEAR RUNS OWN.
THAT'S THE POWER IGBOS HAVE NATURALLY

Lolzzzz.... Check lagos well sha

Twob:
And they are not blind to use the Keke plate number, driver's and the Agbero facial appearance on the video to track the keke owner, location and the said Agbero respectively?

When did it happen?

adeotiabdulaziz:
he didn't graduate witg third class oh, elumelu has come out to deny it.

Lolzzzs... Dem dey find person use guide

tyinfinity:
We want to see the pass degree of the dullard among them.we know who has pass from philosophy department.

What if he go study engineering?

BeanmanX:
But Amoda didn't attend primary school?..

Person wey no go primary school ... How him get degree... With first class

Khaysee:
Every party is working for victory
God only u know d right person only the person that life wil make comfortable for Nigerians should win.


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Gbam!

Immanuelsnr:
Who tell you say they care about the nation , they don't , all they care about na there selfish interest, both PDP, apc and lp join self

Thank you jare ...thats why this noise of Obi dey sound somehow to me like say the one he did before turn Dubai... All of them na thief

jclassiq:
He read this from a script or he actually said it off-the-cuff? I'm so impressed.

Even Obama reads from script too... What's wrong with some of you sef

QuickStandard:
This is just the beginning.

Lagosians better wise up, otherwise very soon, they will ask you to pay for the air we breathe that God has given us for free.

Na today ... Abeg go sit down one place jorr

Racoon:
No be today your agberoism started on the streets of Lagos. Bloody liars and hypocrites.

So they are blind or senseless to know that kind of move will raise alarms... Some of you are not smart at all...

Chi133:
May your source of income be shut down. Iseee

Nawa ooo

Rochasstatue:
This has been a festering problem within the markets.
Some people commenting here doesn't even know where these markets are.
Peter Obi should buy land, fence it and relocate these animals inside there.
You cannot drive from Fatai Atere junction to Toyota busstop because when you get to 'ogbo ewu', you are stuck all day.
There is nothing bad about shutting down the markets to clean them up.
The traders know themselves that they are worse than pigs.

Lolzzz

edungene7:
The house boy of a governor have taken directives from is master at burdillion as usual same way he got directives to shoot at End SARS victims at Lekki toll gate u are meant to issue a warning for closure before taking such actions besides this guys pay lawma dues Hw come Lawma is not evacuating the trash this would only give guys more room to come out for the campaign and vote out the useless party

Una wahala just too much ... Aswear