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@A-40, thanks for warning me, No disrespect ever intended ever to anyone, My sincerest apologies to anyone I have offended, for certain. Also, A-40 you hit the nail on the head, Haitian man had no respect, not for God, himself or me. I ran the other way so so quick. Also no Ganja smoking going on here, But i tell you the truth, my man is thee greatest man I have ever met. We are both Christian and place God very first, then each other. Honestly I was tired of being stronger than most men I met. He is a strong man of strong faith, character and heart. I respect that and I respect him. He runs this family, what he says goes, no questions asked, but in return, I am so spoiled with love. It is good.

From my own experience, Spent almost a year with a Haitian man, not only do they have the worst of all tempers, but no romance at all, none, if his mouth was open there was a lie was coming out of it but my man now is a Nigerian man and he thee is most romantic man I ever met in my life. Bar none!

@Kaaz, You are the husband and what you say concerning your own wife is to be respected, Be as a man and tell her enough of this behavior, if it is nothing yet, it will be soon, and the serious trouble is still yet to come unless you handle your business. This man is either trying to tempt her with flattery or pull her from you because he has already had some and he only wants what he think he cant have. Once he have it all will be spoiled for all three of you. Put your foot down and stand on your decision and God word. Pray for God to put it on this man heart to not try to covet another man's wife. IJN, Amen!

I guess I am lost bcoz money is not what makes a man a good man, and I think it is sad that money is even used to gauge a man's real worth. I came from a poor family, worked my way through college and a make good living. I was not looking for a man to take care of me financially, only my equal and I actually make more money than my husband does, but he is still thee man in our family, regardless. I am not a fashionista, I do not buy designer label clothing ever or shoes bcoz it is a waste of money in my opinion, I know I do not think like all women, but that is ok with me. But now I know why my husband appreciates me so much, I love him, I honor him and I do not spend needless money. I guess I did not realize how hard it must be to be a man in today's society, since a man is judged as a man based soley on his wallet. My apologies to the men who feel like less than what they should bcoz they do not pull down the cash as expected even though they are great men, WOW, I learn something new everyday!

i have no idea what the hell you just said about clothes and dont kill the man, ya lost me

FMK, Not all women expect a "rosy life" my life is not "rosy". I work everyday, work my butt off, then go home, cook, clean, laundry, bills, family, meeting all the needs of my husband. It is not rosy, but it is beautiful and worth it.

I can not sat to CT and others "Thank you" enough for taking the time to do something so lovely for others that do not have this knowlege. I am an American and my husband is IGBO and to surprise him with some wonderful cooking from his home in Nigeria would please him so much, You have really made a difference in someone else's life today. Thank you so much! God Bless you always!

I believe the man should of course have a job and bring his part of money into the family but i am college educated and gainfully employed, was 100% financially independant when i met him, could be again, if I needed too. but thankfully i don't need to. But Money is not at the top of my list for the requirement of a good man. I love my life, I do not live above my means and do not ever use credit cards. But I need a man that is a man, God is first in all things. If a man is obediant to God, what would I have to complain about? If it is good enough for God, it is good enough for me, I am certain.

Re: What Women Really Want Most

Respect, Honesty, Trust, Love, A man that is strong morally, physically, mentally, spritually, sexually and emotionally

OMG! Please turn and walk away and do not look back at this man that is using you. If you are not first in his heart, after God, then you are not the one for him, Trust me! I does not make him a bad person, it just makes that situation not good. You were meant to be happy, loved and completely fullfilled. Wait for that!

I agree with the verse from 1 Corinthians 7:4 - not yours to decide sugar, shoulda thought about that b4 you said yes I do. I don't understand woman that say this, I am 40 and have never understood this. I am so into my husband, plus how do you sleep without making love with your man first? crazy!

I agree kind of, I think a man is incomplete until he is married, but because part of a man feeling like he is a man is having his own wife, his own family and showing them and everyone else, that he is able to care for and provide for his family. Some men just take pride in their family roots and all that entails. They want the opportunity to show the world what they are made of and when they shine, yea that finishes them.

Wow, I'm enlighted about how some men view women and how they should treat them. If you do "x" you get "z", if only it worked that way, roflmao, Wow! Ok, wait let me stop laughing, all women are not skanks just as all men are not dogs! There are good women in this world that appreciate a good man and women that will kiss the assets of a great man. I know I am a woman that runs around kissing his assets, I am very blessed with a great IGBO man and when him and I first got together, I read all the comments on this website and of course thought this man had some ulterior motive to be as wonderful as he is. Guess what, I learned to never believe anything ya hear and only believe half of what ya see. Because he is still today a Great man and I will do anything I can to be the crown on his head. It is about beliefs, for us anyway bcoz if man is faithful to God, he will be a faithful husband and if a woman is faithful to God she will be a faithful wife. His only concern in life after God is weather or not there is a smile on my face, and he truly cares if there is or is not, bcoz of that I, inturn care if there is a smile upon his. Therefore whatever it takes to ensure you have laughter and love and respect and honor for and to each other is what makes love be beautiful for long periods of time. Bcoz he honors me in all things, I am so happy to honor him in return. Are there sacrafices to be made, Oh yes! But believe that they are worth it. If I had listened to all the comments on this site I would not be so truly blessed in my life as I am. So if you are an individual that believes that God comes first then your marriage, then please follow God and allow him to put it on your heart as to how to proceed in your relationship with him/her. I almost think that if you have money and everything, you would not give the type of negative advice being offered up. My opinion, something is still missing, but that is only my opinion I do not know, just sayin!