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In this part of Mistakes Youth Makes about Love/Romantic Relationship we are going to take a look at MISINTERPRETATION AND MISUNDERSTANDING OF FEELINGS and how we can get to correct some of the misunderstood and misinterpreted feelings. You can click HERE to read the Part One in case you missed it.
Sometimes as youth we tend to misunderstand and misinterpret our feelings towards one another and even adult too, they sometimes fall into this category. The fact that you are having a strong emotional feeling towards someone and you don’t know what to label that feelings doesn’t mean you should assume it is love because there are plenty feelings that are closely related to love which are not love but because we don’t know them, we all assume that for those feeling to be as strong as it is then it must be love. Some of those feelings that are misunderstood and misinterpreted as love are as follows;

Lust

Obsession

Infatuation and

Likeness

These feelings are mostly misunderstood and misinterpreted to be love among youths and sometimes among adults also. Generally for you to date someone you have to like that person because it is not LOGICALLY possible for you to date some you don’t like. Also the fact that you like someone doesn’t mean that you can date that person because a lot of us have this mind set of “you like me so why can’t you date me?”

Likeness is a very strong feeling that shouldn’t be misunderstood or misinterpreted. The fact that you like someone doesn’t mean that you can date that person, you need to develop an emotion called love before you can date someone, you don’t just date someone because you like that person. Liking somebody comes in different from, you may like someone because that person makes you happy or maybe that person gives you advice from time to time and this is not so when it comes to love.

Lust is an emotion or feeling of intense desire for somebody. It is a powerful feeling that produces an intense wanting for something or someone. When you are in lust with someone you always want that person around you, you always want him/her to make you happy no matter what and because of this you feel you are in love meanwhile you are in lust. When you feel the hunger of wanting to be with someone you like every time or once you start to think that if you are not with them then you are doomed, it is safe to say that what you are feeling my friend is Lust and not love. Love is natural, you don’t force it, it comes to you and it is not the hunger for someone. Lust is based on your desire to want something from someone which can be happiness, money or even sometimes sex. When you treat your boyfriend/girlfriend as a prize or an object then you are in lust.

Infatuation is when you have an emotional feeling for someone and because of those feelings when it comes to matters concerning that person you can’t think straight. Infatuation prevents one from thinking about someone in a balanced or sensible way. When you experience infatuation your mind is consumed by the thought of the other person. You are thinking of how you want to reveal yourself to the other person, you have an idealized vision of what this person is like and your vision may or may not be accurate. When you are infatuated about someone you begin to worry if that person finds you appealing and you worry about what next after sex. In infatuation, it is always about the sex mostly, that is why after sex you begin to wonder what else to do to keep the relationship going.

Obsession is another common feeling that is being misunderstood and misinterpreted among us youth. The facts that the thought of someone has filled your mind continuous and you can’t think of anything else expect that person doesn’t mean you are in love with that person. The funniest thing about obsession that you actually don’t realize is the fact that you only get to think about the person you are obsessed with in a particular way over and over again.

NOTE: love is not about enslaving your mind or focusing your thought on someone.
It is advisable that you always try to sort out your feeling before you engage in any love relationship so as not to get confused along the way. Sorting out your feeling can be very challenging but it is always worth the try and with that been said here are some tips to be sure that you are in love and not any other related feeling.

1. When you are in love, you feel comfortable with your boyfriend/girlfriend and you feel a strong bond.


2. When you are in love you will always appreciate your boy/girlfriend when he/she speaks the truth about you even though that truth might sound hurtful.

3. You are in love if your boyfriend/girlfriend becomes the first person that comes to your mind when you want to share your innermost thoughts.

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The mistake he made was not asking her about her past, he had this don't ask don't tell rule and he is also a fan of whatever happened in the past should be in the past, so when he fell in love with her he didn't bother asking her about past relationships even though she wanted him to know. Nkechi wanted to tell him about her past relationship but whenever she tried to, he would say “as long as the relationship is over then the rest is history” and with that she would just keep mute. Truly the relationship was over but she wasn't sure if the passion between them was over, back then whenever she hears the voice of her ex, there was this sweet sensation that runs through her spine that makes her quiver and this is something she doesn’t feel with Lekan unless she was been touched by him. It wasn't as if she wasn't enjoying the sex between her and Lekan, she did because it was a whole new experience for her but she felt there was something missing, something only her ex had given her, an orgasm that would paralyze her for about thirty seconds.

Due to the nature of Lekan’s job, he had to travel a lot and that was something Nkechi was trying had to cope with even though whenever he his around he surely knows how to make it up to her yet she wasn't always happy whenever he wasn't around. Loneliness and boredom was what actually brought her and her ex together back then when she was schooling in Enugu but this is Lagos the city that never sleeps, boredom wasn't a problem for her as she had exciting places she could go whenever her boyfriend wasn't around. She was always scared of been alone because she knows deep down in her heart that she might just head back to the lifestyle she and her ex were leaving, a lifestyle she wasn't even sure if she should let go off. she never thought that the love experience she had with her ex was going to be over immediately she left Enugu, she still had great feelings for her ex but once she came across Lekan she started to experience something new, something different from what she had with her ex and just like that she forgot the promise she made to her ex. “Don't worry as soon as I settle down in Lagos I would come visiting I promise” she said to her ex on the day she left Enugu finally.
Lekan is a typical example of a Lagos sharp guy who grew up on the streets of Surulere, attended the school with the most bragging right “Unilag”. He works as a contract staff for some telecommunications company and this provided him with the kind of cash he needed to flirt around with girls. He actually met Nkechi at a park in Enugu when he was heading back to Lagos from a job trip, they got to talk and from there they became friends and months later they started dating. Nkechi became Lekan first serious girlfriend after he and his ex ended their relationship two years ago and since then it has been all about flings and fwb for him until he came across Nkechi. Truly Nkechi is beautiful but what made him attracted to her was beyond her beauty, it was more of a love at first sight thing.
He was very helpful in helping Nkechi adjust to life in Lagos as he was the one that helped her secure a job and also found an apartment for her, something Nkechi said she would forever appreciate. Been the first guy she came across in Lagos and considering how helpful he had been, Nkechi felt very comfortable around him even before he asked her out. The day he asked her out she wasn't expecting it, it was on a weekend, he had just arrived from one of his trips and he asked her over. On getting to his house, he asked her if she could cook something for them to eat and that she did with all pleasure. In the middle of their meal while he was telling her about his trip, there was a sudden pause and after that pause followed this sentences “throughout my trip I couldn’t stop thinking about you, couldn’t stop thinking about how nice it would be to have you as my girlfriend, I mean of course that if you are willing to”. Her reply was short and simple “I guess you would have to find out”.
She couldn’t deny the fact that she was really enjoying this whole new love experience she had with Lekan. Her relationship with Lekan couldn’t be compared with the one she had with her ex for so many reasons, part of it was the fact that she didn't have to hide her love for Lekan the way she did with her ex. She could show public affection for him something that would look extremely weird if she had done it with her ex though she and her stayed together while she was schooling but they only made people to believe that they were roomies. The only thing she could say she missed about her ex was the sexual pleasure she made her feel even though having sex with a man is a new experience which she is enjoying but deep down in her mind she knew it didn't match the ones she had with her ex.

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He gave it his best just to make it work and she also tried everything within her capacity but from the looks of things they weren’t that compatible soul mate they thought they were. Just like the way she read it in books, Princess wanted a long lasting relationship, a love that will grow and stand the test of time but as for Adeleke he didn't believe in love planning, he thought things would fall into place when the time is right. Princess never had any serious relationship (that not to say she didn't fall in love) up until she met him again and this was a hindering factor to Adeleke who at least had more dating experience than her. They spent two and half years trying to see how they could cope with one another, she was in Ibadan and he was in Ogun State, from midnight calls, to regularly texting and once in a month checking up, he did all he could but at the end he got stressed out and just like that the relationship ended.

One thing they at least both understood was the fact that the relationship wasn’t just working and the harder they tired the hardest it seem and this made their separation easy and simply. It was the same faith that brought them together that also separated them at the end, from Ibadan she moved to Ogbomosho and it was during this period that they lost contact again. This time around it was Princess who found him but it wasn’t because she wanted to continue their relationship, it was because she wanted to do the proper break up with him. The guy she had been dating right before she ran into Adeleke in front of her church had come back, he had pleaded for forgiveness and was really committed to the relationship, all these combine with that fact that the initial love she had for Adeleke had weaken. “We both know that our relationship wasn't working, I gave it a try then because the guy I was in love with wasn't in love with me and you know what they say about the "devil you know”. “I know you would never stop loving me and for that am grateful but if you really do love me the way I think you do then you should let me go, I am happy with the relationship I have right now and I need you to be happy for me” she said to him when they finally had the chance to talk the talk. He tried been matured about it, he accepted everything she said and he tried to move on even though just like Princess said he never stop loving her, as a matter of fact he constantly kept tabs on her just to know when her window might be opened again.

Fast-forward to three years after that, Adeleke was in love again and this girl was his third true love and probably his most cherished girl after Princess. Tutu was a very beautiful girl, dark skinned, she had a shape that would always cause traffic jam, in a nut shell she had everything a guy would want in a girl. They met at a friend’s party and after talking and exchanging contact they went out on a date and it was on their first date Adeleke asked her out. “I am sorry but I am more of a straightforward guy and there is something I would like to tell you if you won’t mind” Adeleke said during their conversation. “I don't mind at all” she replied. “Right from the moment I saw you, I knew deep down that I was going to fall in love with you and I have”. “I don't want to sound too forward but if you give me the chance of dating you I would be glad” he said. “Really date me? I mean we just got to know each other, I don't think I can do that not when I don't know much about you” she replied. “Well I wasn't expecting you to say yes right away, I just wanted you to know what my intentions towards you, perhaps what there to know about me, I am a very simple fellow, feel free to ask me anything” he said back. And just like that they knew much about each other, two weeks after their first date they became boyfriend and girlfriend. The truth about Adeleke was the fact ones he sees a girl even without talking to the girl he has the tendency of knowing if she is single or not and also if she is in need of a boyfriend or not and this was what actually led him into talking to Tutu because he knew she was single but after they spoke that very day, he fell in love with her.

Their relationship lasted for about a year and the half and as at that moment it was the best relationship he had ever had. He was madly love with Tutu and she was also drunk in love with him, one thing about their relationship was the fact that they never had any form of misunderstanding or quarrels, they understood each other and apologies came as at when necessary and when due, all these made their long distance relationship very close. There was this one time they spent together, she had come over to his place like she would normally do at the end of every month but this visit was very different. “Wow baby I never knew anyone could make me feel loved this way, I have really enjoyed myself this weekend, I don't even feel like leaving” she said on the day she was suppose to return. Throughout the time she was around they were just indoors something that they never did, most times when she comes around they would either go to a party or just go hung out. Before her arrival Adeleke had planned how the weekend was going to be, how they were going to stay indoors yet still make it as romantic as possible. So on the night of her arrival he cooked for her, something he never did whenever she was around and that was when Tutu started to suspect that he had a plan. During the meal she said “this food is sweet, never knew you could cook like this, pardon me for asking you this, why did decide to cook for me today? The answer he gave was simple and short, he said “because I feel like I haven’t appreciated you enough and I was thinking it was going to be romantic if I cook for you”. She pause her food, looked into his eyes and said “this is the most romantic thing a guy would say or do to me”. Without uttering any word they kept on eating their food as they kept taking a glance at each other. Making meals for her throughout her stay was just one of the many romantic ideas that Adeleke had thought of and by the end of the weekend it was understandable when Tutu said “this is would be the best and the most romantic weekend of my life”.

For a relationship that had some much love and commitment, it was sad to know that it was their first major fight that eventually led to the end of the relationship. When she decided to break up with him she didn't think it twice, as a matter of fact she did it in a very cruel and painful way.

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I never had any form of problem with these two words till recently when I and a friend of mine were insulting each other in a joking way. I said to him “guy you no go enter Heaven for this lie way you just lie” and he replied me by saying “if me no go enter Heaven, you no go enter Paradise”.

At that moment when we both said what we said we just laughed as we continue to insult and joke with ourselves. Later that day after my friend had gone, I began to reminisce about what he had said and then it hit me and I was like “this guy na mumu, wetin be the difference between Heaven and Paradise” but immediately I said that I began to think about it, what if my friend has a point, what if truly there is a difference between Heaven and Paradise.

We all know that both Heaven and Paradise are up in the sky but what we really don't know is if there is any difference between these two places or probably if Paradise and Heaven are both up in the sky but at different location. I practically stayed awake all night on that very day trying to see if there is any logical sense to whether Heaven and Paradise are two different places and YES! after much logical thinking I can say to you that, if you look at it logically you would also see that Heaven and Paradise are two different places.

We know that Heaven is the opposite of Earth just like Man is to Woman. Now let start with that first, if we say that Heaven is the same thing as Paradise then what we are saying is that Earth is the opposite of Paradise right? The opposite of Paradise that we all know or should I say that we are use to is Hellfire? Now if the opposite of Paradise is Hellfire, and Paradise and Heaven is the same thing then I guess it is safe to say that Earth (which is naturally the opposite of Heaven) and Hellfire are also one in all. So if we say that Heaven is Paradise then Earth should be Hellfire since Heaven and Paradise are the same.

We were also told that Heaven has seven layers which is why the immediately sky we see is regarded as the first Heaven while the Heaven where we believe or assume God is, is the Seventh Heaven. Now looking at it from this angle, is it safe to also say that Paradise has seven layers since Heaven and Paradise is the same thing?

Another angle that you can look at it from is this, when we die where do our soul go to? Yes we are buried in the ground but where does our soul go to? Heaven is the answer, Heaven is where our souls would be till the day of judgement (please correct me if I am wrong) when God would make his judgement. Now if this is so, is it safe to say that our souls would go to Paradise when we die since Heaven and Paradise is the same thing?

We were told that God created Heavens and Earth and everything in it (please correct me if I am wrong) and due to man’s curiosity we have been able to know and appreciate some of the things God created on Earth like the Mountain and hill, flowers and Trees, the air that we breathe just to mention a few but humans don't live in Heaven (at least not for now) so we can only keep guessing what Heaven looks like and some of the things that are there. Although the scientists and archaeologist has made us to believe that Paradise is not on Earth but in Heaven so if that is the case why do we still say Heaven and Paradise is the same thing?

In as much as we might try not to believe it, there is a logical difference between Heaven and Paradise and the difference is the fact that Paradise a place in Heaven while Heaven is just a place where we have to go first before God decide who goes into Paradise and who doesn't . Thank you
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[quote author=naptu2 post=34523759][/quote]First let me ask you this is this the real bill that was passed or the quote from the criminal code that is already on ground? Two knowledge people that at least knows what is happening more than us(me and you) commented about this issue,Fani kayode and Mr. Patrick obahiagbon.i am not concerned about what they said but on the matter comment on..i am very sure this two won't just twist what the law says because they need attention..so please do a better findings and educate us better

dexmundo:
their sins were washed by animal blood. And they were only to obey ten commandments to make heaven during their time. But mind you, the bible says in d book of revelation dat jesus is the lamb of God SLAIN FROM D FOUNDATION OF THE WORLD. So christ has always been the way old or new testament. Just dat old testament used symbolic blood of animal while they look forward to his physical death, new testament use faith while looking backward to his death. Abraham and abel were not saved by works of self righteousness, they were saved by works of faith(actions which proved they loved God above anything else). Ask yourself, why did old testament saints resurrect from the grave after the death of Christ according to the book of Matthew? These souls were waiting for Jesus - the ultimate redeemer. Paul says in Hebrew that it was nt possible for blood of bulls to take away sin. All old testament saints where held down until Christ resurrected, they resurrected with him- so he is their savior and our savior too

God is not in support of human sacrifice never would be but he his always open to animal sacrifice...go find out

I was doing a little research about something in Italy when I came across this discovery and I have decided to share it with you. I am very sure most of you know who a Pope is but what you might not know like I also didn't know was the fact that the names they call themselves when they become Pope is not their real name, it is a Papal name they take up when they are elected as the leader of the Christian world. For example the current Pope whom we all know as Pope Francis chose that name as his papal name in honour of the Saint Francis of Assisi, his real name is Jorge Mario Bergoglio......read more
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I have come to understand that most people who embrace Islam don't really understand the reality of the first principle of Islam which is La Ilaha Illallah Muhammad-Ur-Rasuil-Allah (None has the right to be worshipped but Allah and Muhammad SAW is the Messenger of Allah). I have written this article to educate every Muslim and any other person who might want to embrace Islam on the true reality of this fundamental principle of Islam.
For a better understanding of the statement “La Ilaha Illallah Muhammad-ur-Rasuil-Allah” (None has the right to be worshipped but Allah and Muhammad SAW is the Messenger of Allah) I would explain it in three part, the first part would be discussed today and the rest shall follow next week. Allah shall increase your wisdom and understanding as your read (AMEN).
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Nothing makes the entertainment world go gaga more than a celebrity wedding, I mean celebrities marrying celebrities like Jay and Bey, Kanye and Kim, Bran Pitt and Angelina Jolie e.t.c. we all love the gilt and glamour their wedding would bring that why we always clamour for it but what about those stars that decided not to marry their fellow colleagues or a well known celebrity like them instead they chose people who live a regular and quiet life in the society. Here is a list of some the well known celebrities who got married to regular people from the society.. http://hafeestonovakonsept..com/2015/05/celebrities-who-married-regular-people.html?m=1

He gave it his best just to make it work and she also tried everything within her capacity but from the looks of things they weren’t that compatible soul mate they thought they were. Just like the way she read it in books, Princess wanted a long lasting relationship, a love that will grow and stand the test of time but as for Adeleke he didn't believe in love planning, he thought things would fall into place when the time is right.
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After his first term in a boarding school, Adeleke fell in love but was never able to express his feeling, instead he found a way to always talk to her by accepting her as his school mother. So every time he speaks with her telling her what a school son should be telling his school mother,all he ever wished was to always tell her about how he feels about her every time but the ghost of the incident that occurred 3 years ago won’t let him be. Although he later found an indirect way to make his emotion felt but by then the J.S.S. 3 school mother was now one of the most sought after S.S.S.3 girl in the school putting him who was now in S.S.S.1at a disadvantage. 5 out of the 6 years he spent in school he thought his school mother was his first love not until he had an emotional wake-up call in S.S.S.3 and that was how he realised his school mother was not his first love, he also discovered that she had somehow helped him wake up the dead how to approach a girl instinct in a very unique way.
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Wearable Phone Chargers
This product would sell very well in Nigeria as we practical carry our charger around with us just so that we can charge our phone at any available eclectic outlet we see. Some of us even tend to carry a multi-purpose socket just in case there isn’t enough space but with the Vodafone range of denim shorts and sleeping bags I would say we don't have to go through all those stress anymore. The jeans and sleeping bags would use body heat and movement to generate electricity to charge your phone.  You will never have to worry about conserving your battery or trying to gain access to any electrical outlet you see because all you need to charge your phone is YOU!
The prototypes were tested in 2013, so keep your fingers crossed for when it would be released

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Today sermon talks about the religious discrimination between christian..take a look http://hafeestonovakonsept..com/2014/11/religion-discrimination.html?m=1

Shot fired,this passionate 2face fan just wrote an open letter to Eric Amodu you would be shocked with what he said...
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He didn't have the attitude that was expected of an average 10 years old boy just entering into J.S.S 1, growing up in the most developed ghetto in Lagos, Adeleke was one of the most liked kid on his block, that kid way those bros they call "my boy" but he never for once allowed it get into his head. A very shy kid that his first real understanding of emotions was heartbreak (at least so he thought at the moment), the incident occurred when he was seven when he boldly asked a girl out only for her to turn him down saying he was a small boy because he had a very small physique and from that moment onward his how to approach girl instinct went dead.
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One thing I have come to understand in this life is the fact that whatever you put your mind to, you would succeed if the determination is there and this is the story of 100 years Lora Lois LeMond White Hardy of Indiana who received her High School Diploma 82 years after she left High School with just four credits to graduate.
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A man forgot to zip up his trousers, so a lady tells him politely, "Sir your garage is open
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Imagine if Buhari was to enact these laws how would you feel http://hafeestonovakonsept..com/2015/05/crazy-laws-around-world.html?m=1

You won't believe this, this set of twins have different fathers
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BEST WAY TO CATCH YOUR CHEATING PARTNER http://hafeestonovakonsept..com/2015/05/how-to-catch-cheater.html?spref=tw

Can you believe Hazard is a name of a town in America? What about hell? Click to read more strange names of towns in America
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Basically I fear for the day that technology would replace man, the rate in which the world is going am guessing it only a matter of time. That been said, I was surfing the internet when I came across what might be another technology breakthrough, Robot Police, yes you heard me right.

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The goal of every love relationship is marriage because it is logically and universally acknowledges that before marriage a form of courtship is required. This courtship gives you the chance to know more about each other’s feelings and attitude and also to know if you guys are compatible........
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The Y.B.N.L camp is buzzing right now as another act under the label just released a new song. After the success of his single ‘all my ladies” and what appeared to be push back from other label mate Viktoh is back again with a song title Instragram police and this one features label boss Olamide and the mosquito killer himself Small Doctor. Listen and share your thought.
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