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Hi,
Trust this meets you well. I can denote from your message that you also see your fault. I empathize with you on the situation that came on even at the time you should be dancing and rejoicing as a family and moving forward.
This is one of the ploys of the enemy to attack your home. I want to encourage you even as I advise in my own little way. Your preference for your mother is not wrong as many might make you believe however, I can only infer that your Husband took it the wrong way. Don't take it to heart, Ma'am. Forgive him and also forget the past issues. It will be hard but you can do it.
Also from your message, it seems it has been settled a bit but you still have some concerns and fears.
Might I suggest that if possible arrange a date night with him when possible and start with apologies even though there isn't much to apologize for, just do it to start a good atmosphere for your date night as well to allow for a place of joy and peace in your home. Tell him you wanted your Mum because you felt she will be able to do some things you can't order his Mum around to do, however you are happy for his Mum to come over. Apologize for your nagging, tell him he also hurt you a lot and you were angry and nagging but you do not hold anything against him and say you are sorry.
Ask him when the environment is nice and happy if he is happy with the way issues are dealt with in the home. Ask him how best to address issues without creating a toxic environment in the home. He might respond positively or allow his ego to get the best of him. I am talking like a man here but just be patient a bit.
I understand that he is not a Christian, can I ask if you are a Christian and if not, that is the first step as I am talking from the standpoint of a Christian. A wise woman builds her home. Prayers are very essential. If Your Husband brought the case here, there is some advice I will give him as well and also ask him to apologize to you. I always iterate to people that two wrongs don't make a right.
So make peace with God, accept him if you haven't, take time to be prayerful for your home, and break the hold of all those native doctors or spiritualist over him. Show him his respect and submission.
You will see Great wonders in Jesus name. Amen

Remain Blessed

Abimei

Hello Sir. I am just seeing this and I believe you are already making progress. However, if there be any challenges I will suggest you and your wife pray then get her a book titled Unveiled Wife.
My wife and I had this same issue and we thank God for victory.
You will have to be a man and love her even in patience through it. I know it ain't easy as I am talking from experience but today God has blessed us with children.
Inbox me if you need more info.
God bless you and your home. Amen

spyder880:
How is the land Sir? Dry or waterlogged, I want to have an idea of likely foundation type.

The Land is dry Sir... It is a land in Gofamint City Ogunmakin Lagos Ibadan Expressway.
Thanks Sir

Hello Oga Spyder880,
How Far with the budget ooo...
For say in Lagos, How much by estimate to do a smaller project of 6 flats of 2 bed/3 bed each on a plot.
I have 2 plots and looking to invest in properties.

kindly inbox me femabim2003@yahoo.com if possible.

Thanks Bro

Hi,
Thanks for the good work. May I ask how much should I save for building a flat of 3 bedrooms. How many of those can I build on a plot of land?

Thanks.

Pls will need detailed explanations as I am a novice and hoping to get into this form of investment.

For all it's worth, am wondering what quite a lot of pple are saying these days. NJot quite surprised though because in these day pple shall become loveer of themselves, puffed up and knowledge the bible says shall increase.
Mind you religion is not the salvation of the world, Jesus is. Christianity is not religion. It is a way of life. Every man has the power of choice hence God saying in Deut30: 15 - 20, he has place before man the choice, and he is admonishing us to choose correctly. My prayer is that we don't make choices that leads to damnation and hell.

Come to think of it. Jesus greatest word to us is all about love, not just loving God but loving ourselves. He even said if we do not love others then how can we claim to love God. And if we can just accept his love, what do we have to lose except for those worldly pleasure that often bring regret on the long run, fornication/adultery, lying, drinking, murder, slandering, etc. These are what we feel we gain, they may bring power, wealth and fame but on the long run, we start to regret saying I could have done this better, I shouldn't have done this. But with Christ you can have all these and more as life only is complete in him.

Shalom. Do have a lovely day
Abimei