, **Social media pressure and bullying -Root cause of our problems* by Dr Ehimen Ferguson(National Image Builder) , consultant physician,life coach expert and social commentator



" ``` ```It's better to be realistic and dwell in the real deal of life then living in the virtual world of social media,pay attention to humans not to social media and your phone - Ferguson``` Ehimen`"


*Preamble*
Social media are websites and applications that enable users to create and share content or to participate in social networking. While pressure simply depicts a situation of force that can have significant and negative results. Therefore social media pressure can be referred to as a set of tests measured sleep quality, self-esteem, anxiety, depression and emotional investment in social media which relates to the pressure felt to be available 24/7 while social media bullying means a form of harassment using electronic means such as social media platform.

*THE REAL DEAL*
There is no doubt that social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram , WhatsApp etc have benefits, the benefits ranges from sharing of information and business ideas to serving as a channel for business growth and advertisement.

Unfortunately, most of us have made social media our "god and validator ", that is to say without going on social media in a day, it seems as if our world wants to end or is it that attitude of feeling depressed just because there was no like or comment on your post. On the other hand, there was a comment and the comments were derogatory, now because of that your entire day is ruin.
It is important we discussed this considering the increase in rate of depression and suicides. According to studies conducted around the world, there is a clear relationship or in causal link between the use of social media and negative effects on well-being, primarily depression and loneliness. The aforementioned association is always possible if there is no judicious use of social media.

*Source or Risk factors of social media pressure*

1. *I must be online (have data) syndrome* -This group of individuals are unnecessarily pressured, stressed and anxious once they run out of DATA. To them. data is life and oxygen. At times you begin to wonder if the data is really oxygen. The addiction is so strong that they can go any extent just to get data. Some can even sacrifice their food and personal dignity just to get data and subscription. Some common comment you begin to see or hear from this social media addicts are -"for the past 6months I have been online, 24/7 I no dey shake, I dey online ". At times I just wonder why we create problems for ourselves .

2. *Imitations and false image*
*Majority of the people on instagram and other social media platforms tends to live fake life, in fact, "PRETENCE IS NOW A FORM LIVING AND SURVIVE in social media space. Because of this fake flamboyant life, most of the gullible youth and adults are at severe pressure to meet up. When we are at our best our reaction to the flamboyant life style and display of cash could be being happy for them, leaving a positive comment or a ‘like’ on their post. However,if we’re going through rough patches in our lives, this social media flamboyancy could make us think “ Why are other people’s lives so perfect and happy?” It can be easy to fall into a trap of comparing our lives to the lives of our Instagram friends and celebrities. This can have a negative impact on our mood and our self-esteem.

3. *Bullying and mean and insufficient comment or like*

Most of youths and adults of nowadays are busy depending on social media validation for their happiness and peace of mind. They will almost go mad, If there is no like or comment on their pictures. Similarly, any negative comment or bullying can destroy their happiness and self esteem resulting in stress and depression.

Other risk factors for social media pressure include :-
**Seeing a love interest with someone else may make you feel depressed and insecure

**Political posts that you don’t agree with

**Feeling like you can never keep up with what everyone else has

**Being directly attacked

***low number of followers or friends

*Health Effects of social media pressure*

A. Anxiety and stress
B. Depression
C. Suicide
D. Personality disorder
E. Antisocial tendency like loneliness, truancy
F. Relationship problems and family breakdown
G. Suicide

*Solution -Way out*
1. Avoid imitating people on social media, don't be distracted by their flamboyant life style and display of cash, just focus on your hustle, one day it will surely pay. Trust me, you are far better than them

2.Quit depending on social media for validation. I implore this day to depend on God and yourself for validation. Third hand or social media validation will add nothing to your life. Believe in yourself and forge ahead

3. Block and move ahead -I bet you, it is a waste of energy and resources to engage in social media fight. If you have a friend or family that bully's you or a friend that always fraught your social media with negative comments, all you have to do is just to block or unfollow them. Focus on the positive side of life, life is too short and sweet to be wasting all your time on negative vibes.

4. Just make a post in social media platform and ignore all the likes and comments. There is nothing wrong in appreciating or getting likes or comments,but do not allow your life depends on it.

5. TAKE A BREAK
when the pressure is too and ravaging your entire being, I advise you to take a break, unplug! Yes, it is okay to unplug from time to time. Sometimes I find it really important to just live in the moment and forget about social media.

Other tips for controlling social media pressure are:-
***Don't over do it. Stop spending all day on your social media. How do you feel scrolling through the lives of others for 24 hours a day.

***Take it all with a pinch of salt. Dont take criticism too seriously

***You don't need loads of likes and comments to succeed in life
***Filtering reality - filter the comments and suggestions and focus only on the positives and the constructive criticisms.

***Live in the moment.

Acknowledged :.America Psychological Association, CHRISTI GIVEN,WHO,Child Mild Institute other google scholarly articles

*Information courtesy* Saint Pius foundation and life coach and health arena. For more details and sponsorship contact us at Saint Pius foundation and Ehimen Ferguson on facebook and instagram. Whatsapp or call 09091335281.*, **Social media pressure and bullying -Root cause of our problems* by Dr Ehimen Ferguson(National Image Builder) , consultant physician,life coach expert and social commentator



" ``` ```It's better to be realistic and dwell in the real deal of life then living in the virtual world of social media,pay attention to humans not to social media and your phone - Ferguson``` Ehimen`"


*Preamble*
Social media are websites and applications that enable users to create and share content or to participate in social networking. While pressure simply depicts a situation of force that can have significant and negative results. Therefore social media pressure can be referred to as a set of tests measured sleep quality, self-esteem, anxiety, depression and emotional investment in social media which relates to the pressure felt to be available 24/7 while social media bullying means a form of harassment using electronic means such as social media platform.

*THE REAL DEAL*
There is no doubt that social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram , WhatsApp etc have benefits, the benefits ranges from sharing of information and business ideas to serving as a channel for business growth and advertisement.

Unfortunately, most of us have made social media our "god and validator ", that is to say without going on social media in a day, it seems as if our world wants to end or is it that attitude of feeling depressed just because there was no like or comment on your post. On the other hand, there was a comment and the comments were derogatory, now because of that your entire day is ruin.
It is important we discussed this considering the increase in rate of depression and suicides. According to studies conducted around the world, there is a clear relationship or in causal link between the use of social media and negative effects on well-being, primarily depression and loneliness. The aforementioned association is always possible if there is no judicious use of social media.

*Source or Risk factors of social media pressure*

1. *I must be online (have data) syndrome* -This group of individuals are unnecessarily pressured, stressed and anxious once they run out of DATA. To them. data is life and oxygen. At times you begin to wonder if the data is really oxygen. The addiction is so strong that they can go any extent just to get data. Some can even sacrifice their food and personal dignity just to get data and subscription. Some common comment you begin to see or hear from this social media addicts are -"for the past 6months I have been online, 24/7 I no dey shake, I dey online ". At times I just wonder why we create problems for ourselves .

2. *Imitations and false image*
*Majority of the people on instagram and other social media platforms tends to live fake life, in fact, "PRETENCE IS NOW A FORM LIVING AND SURVIVE in social media space. Because of this fake flamboyant life, most of the gullible youth and adults are at severe pressure to meet up. When we are at our best our reaction to the flamboyant life style and display of cash could be being happy for them, leaving a positive comment or a ‘like’ on their post. However,if we’re going through rough patches in our lives, this social media flamboyancy could make us think “ Why are other people’s lives so perfect and happy?” It can be easy to fall into a trap of comparing our lives to the lives of our Instagram friends and celebrities. This can have a negative impact on our mood and our self-esteem.

3. *Bullying and mean and insufficient comment or like*

Most of youths and adults of nowadays are busy depending on social media validation for their happiness and peace of mind. They will almost go mad, If there is no like or comment on their pictures. Similarly, any negative comment or bullying can destroy their happiness and self esteem resulting in stress and depression.

Other risk factors for social media pressure include :-
**Seeing a love interest with someone else may make you feel depressed and insecure

**Political posts that you don’t agree with

**Feeling like you can never keep up with what everyone else has

**Being directly attacked

***low number of followers or friends

*Health Effects of social media pressure*

A. Anxiety and stress
B. Depression
C. Suicide
D. Personality disorder
E. Antisocial tendency like loneliness, truancy
F. Relationship problems and family breakdown
G. Suicide

*Solution -Way out*
1. Avoid imitating people on social media, don't be distracted by their flamboyant life style and display of cash, just focus on your hustle, one day it will surely pay. Trust me, you are far better than them

2.Quit depending on social media for validation. I implore this day to depend on God and yourself for validation. Third hand or social media validation will add nothing to your life. Believe in yourself and forge ahead

3. Block and move ahead -I bet you, it is a waste of energy and resources to engage in social media fight. If you have a friend or family that bully's you or a friend that always fraught your social media with negative comments, all you have to do is just to block or unfollow them. Focus on the positive side of life, life is too short and sweet to be wasting all your time on negative vibes.

4. Just make a post in social media platform and ignore all the likes and comments. There is nothing wrong in appreciating or getting likes or comments,but do not allow your life depends on it.

5. TAKE A BREAK
when the pressure is too and ravaging your entire being, I advise you to take a break, unplug! Yes, it is okay to unplug from time to time. Sometimes I find it really important to just live in the moment and forget about social media.

Other tips for controlling social media pressure are:-
***Don't over do it. Stop spending all day on your social media. How do you feel scrolling through the lives of others for 24 hours a day.

***Take it all with a pinch of salt. Dont take criticism too seriously

***You don't need loads of likes and comments to succeed in life
***Filtering reality - filter the comments and suggestions and focus only on the positives and the constructive criticisms.

***Live in the moment.

Acknowledged :.America Psychological Association, CHRISTI GIVEN,WHO,Child Mild Institute other google scholarly articles

#saynotodepression #BIGNOTOSUICIDE, #NotoAudiomoney

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**Depression-Key facts*
_by Dr Ehimen Ferguson -Consultant physician and Life coach expert :_

Depression is a common mental disorder.Globally, more than 300 million people of all ages suffer from depression.

Depression is the leading cause of disability worldwide, and is a major contributor to the overall global burden of disease.

More women are affected by depression than men.
At its worst, depression can lead to suicide.

There are effective psychological and pharmacological treatments for depression


At its worst, depression can lead to suicide. Close to 800 000 people die due to suicide every year. Suicide is the second leading cause of death in 15-29-year-olds.

Type of Depression include :Recurrent depressive disorder, Bipolar affective disorder etc

*Causes or risk factors*
1. Genetic or inherited
2. Biological or hormonal defect
3.Certain personality traits, such as low self-esteem and being too dependent, self-critical or pessimistic
4.Traumatic or stressful events, such as rape or loss of loved ones.
5.relationship, or financial problems
6.Blood relatives with a history of depression, bipolar
7. Having variations in the development of genital organs that aren't clearly male or female (intersex)
8.Abuse of alcohol or recreational drugs
9.Serious or chronic illness, including cancer, stroke, chronic pain or heart disease
10.Certain medications, such as some high blood pressure medications or sleeping pills (talk to your doctor before stopping any medication)
*
*Signs and symptoms**
* Feelings of sadness, tearfulness, emptiness or hopelessness
* Angry outbursts, irritability or frustration, even over small matters
*Loss of interest or pleasure in most or all normal activities, such as sex, hobbies or sports
*Sleep disturbances, including insomnia or sleeping too much
* Tiredness and lack of energy, so even small tasks take extra effort
* Reduced appetite and weight loss or increased cravings for food and weight gain
*Anxiety, agitation or restlessness
* Slowed thinking, speaking or body movements
*Feelings of worthlessness or guilt, fixating on past failures or self-blame
*Trouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions and remembering things
*Frequent or recurrent thoughts of death, suicidal thoughts, suicide attempts or suicide
*Unexplained physical problems, such as back pain or headaches

*Control and prevention*
# Look for that thing which gives you joy and happiness and take yourself out of stress

* Talk to somebody today, share your thoughts and problems with that trusted person
* Strengthening our social support system
* Take bold steps to face your challenges and control your stress, to increase your resilience and boost your self-esteem.
* Reach out to for help especially in times of crisis, to help you weather
*Get treatment at the earliest sign of a problem to help prevent depression from worsening.
*Consider getting long-term maintenance treatment to help prevent a relapse of symptoms.

*Complications*
1.Suicide feelings, ideation, attempt and suicide
2. Pain or physical illness
3.Alcohol or drug abuse and misuse
4. Panic disorder or social phobia
5.Family conflicts, relationship difficulties, and work or school problems
6.Social isolation

#stopdepressionnow
#endsuicidenow

Feel to share and spread the information

Acknowledgement* and source: WHO, CDC,mayoclinic helpguide.org

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*"STRESS" our common problem ....Facts and Control*
_By Dr Ehimen Ferguson, Consultant Physician/Life Coach Expert_

*Introduction* According to World Health Organization and Centres for Disease Control and Prevention, majority of the world population are stressed. As noted in America in 2010, majority of the population were stressed due to the economy recession. Likewise what is seen in Nigeria today, poor economic development and other government policies has placed it's citizens in an overstressed state, hence high suicide rates and other after effects of excessive stress. Also, Note our body can entertain little stress and at times stress can be beneficial or a source of motivation. However, we are not equipped to handle long-term, chronic stress without negative consequences.

**AIM-WHY STRESS?*
It is important to refocus our attention on stress control. This is important considering the facts that most health complications begins from that little stress. If this little stress is not properly handled it can cascades into sequel of events like suicide, hypertension. Therefore,lets pay special attention to stress management,if we must stem the tide of suicide and premature deaths in our society.

*What is stress*
Stress is the body's reaction to harmful situations/general life challeges. When we feel threatened , a chemical reaction occurs in our body that allows you to act in a way to prevent injury. This reaction is known as "fight-or-flight,

*Causes of stress*

1.Major life challenges
2. Work or school issues
3.Relationship difficulties
4.Financial problems
5.Being too busy/over occupied
6.Children and family problems
7.Inability to accept uncertainty and failures
8.Negative self-talk
9. Family crisis and lack of support
10. Excessive pressure at work
11. Stressful life events eg Death of a spouse,Divorce/Marriage separation, Imprisonment etc

*Signs and symptoms*

-Depressed moods or general unhappiness
-Anxiety and agitation
-Moodiness, irritability, or anger
-Feeling overwhelmed
-Loneliness
-Diarrhea or constipation
-Chest pain, rapid heart
-Eating more or less etc

*Effects or Health problem associated with stress.*

*Suicide,
* Depression
*Inability to Sleep
*Digestive problems
*Skin conditions, such as eczema
*Heart disease
*Weight problems
*Reproductive issues
*Loss of memory

~~~*Control*~~~

1. Seek help -discuss with an expert or trusted family members or friends

2. Search for that thing which gives you joy or relieves your stress or distract you from the stress Eg entertainments, reading bibles, social media etc

3. Eat healthy diets

4. Learn to always relax

5. Join support and problem solving groups


***Please do not relent, talk to your neighbors, check on your friends always.

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#KeepBroadcasting

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*Acknowledgement* and source: WHO, CDC, helpguide.org

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HEALTH ALERT!!! Preamble: According to WHO, globally, 800,000 suicide cases occur annually and Nigeria last year alone recorded 80 cases of suicide. Again Just this few weeks (before 22nd May, 2019) in Nigeria alone, several suicides have been reported...

Warning signs of suicides or Symptoms
1. feeling of hopelessness
2. intolerable to life challenges 3.Preoccupation with violence, dying, or death
4. Having mood swings
5.Being agitated, or in a heightened state of anxiety
6.Experiencing changes in personality, routine, or sleeping patterns
7. Consuming drugs or more alcohol than usual
8.Engaging in risky behavior, such as driving carelessly
9.Getting hold of a gun, medications, or substances(snipers and other poisons) that could end a life
10.Experiencing depression and
increased isolation


Causes/Risk factors
1.Depression 2. Failure and collapse of rich Africa family and social support system 3. Persistent and General life challenges eg financial, chronic and mental illness etc 4.Alcohol or drug abuse.
5.Having access to dangerous substance firearm, snipers and other common household poisons( e.g rat poisons, herbicides etc)

Prevention and control

1. Let's ensure total revitalization of our rich Africa family and social support system.
2. Create protective environments eg reducing access to dangerous substance, firearms, snipers etc
3. Regulation of use of dangerous substances and equipments
4. Identify and support people at risk eg prompt identification and treatment
5. Talk and share your problems with trusted people eg good friends, pastors, health care workers etc
6. Teach individual how to cope with stress eg attending seminars or workshops on coping and problem-solving skills
7. Strengthening economic support and ensuring improvement in standard of living by the government.

***Please do not relent, talk to your neighbors, check on your friends always.

#KeepSharing
#KeepBroadcasting

Acknowledgement and source: WHO, CDC, UK healthline

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Volume 1: SUPER EMERGENCY HEALTH ALARM/ALERT!!! In the last one month,not less than 4 or 5 Nigerians with bright futures have committed suicide and more are still threatening in social media platform to take their lives... Hence,these basic SUICIDE PREVENTION STRATEGIES Comes handy....Revitalize the family support system and promote connectedness, reduce access to harmful substance like snipers etc Prevent suicide today by helping others, and also talk to somebody today or talk to us at Saint Pius Life Coach & Health arena and shelve that thought of suicide. Watch and subscribe to our youtube channel (Ehimen Ferguson -SPF Life Coach and health arena) for the full video on Symptoms, causes and prevention of SUICIDE. Contact us whatsapp or call +2349091335281