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Toolegit123:
Good afternoon everyone.

So it's been over 2 months since my fiancee broke up with me. I've asked her to know what I did that made her to take that decision but she certificate has no reason for it. Finally I've decided to move on with my life and that was after I send a friend of mine to help me speak with her. She told my friend she had moved on with her life ,and that I should also do the same. So,I've accepted my fate and that's it .

But here lies the problem,I've met a couple of ladies. Some have equally shown interest too but my problem now is that I'm finding it difficult to trust any of these ladies, considering what I went through in the hands of my immediate ex.

Please, Nairalanders,what can I do to build up my trust back especially around women.

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Where was it written that you have to trust a lady before you flow with her? Better break that mental barrier and go with the flow.

bigpriik:
There is this yoruba girl I am eyeing currently for marriage you game me 40k to start pos business last year,she is kind and hardworking she ticks all my boxes.

Campus billionaire! So you even borrowed 40k for POs business? You said in your other thread that you’re a food mogul. Pathological liar God help you.

bigpriik:
I run a food delivery business in one of Lagos prominent schools most of my customers are women ,i have a WhatsApp group of 200 people that is where i Get orders From and trust me i make about 6k daily,omo the green light I get from ladies not be small thing ,there is this particular one that dashes me money all the time she orders food.one invited to a party omo this girl gave me lap dance like say she wan break my dickk I wount tell you guys what happens next ,I am a celebrity in campus because of this.
You guys don't know the level Nigerian girls are willing to please you if they sense you are rich they will throw themselves at you that is why yahoo boys will do anything for me because they are mostly making money to impress women.

Once women sense to have money they automatically want to be part of you life ,not necessarily because they want milk you dry but because mine gives you a hypergamic advantage,money places you amongst the 15 percent of men women truly desire on earth .

Your reasoning is flawed.

;DAll this na thanks to their Naija connect

I wonder why guys would date ladies who don’t understand jokes. God help you chose sha

Lastpharoah33:
Was wondering if you're dead or something,


So, what's keeping you going in all of these?

You think so much evil, I pity the lady that ends up with you.

TylerForbes:
Not all ;Dmorning woods are outcome of sexual thoughts. Sometimes you can get a boner from just sitting. Even subconsciously. Getting a boner just means there's active blood flow to your pelvic region.

Getting a boner is just male biological defunct settings for all male to show maturity and after sometime, many male might not experience it like they did in their puberty stage. So it isn't all about sex.

She’s talking about morning wood bro, as in preek rising in the morning to wake you up. You’re far from it

Babatunjo:
Every major decision a man has ever made has sex somewhere in the background.

The car he bought. The gym he joined. The business he started. The suit he ordered. The neighborhood he moved to. Somewhere in the calculation, even unconsciously, was the question of how it positions him in the eyes of women.

Wars have been fought over it. Empires have collapsed because of it. Politicians have destroyed careers for it. Pastors have abandoned pulpits for it. Men have handed over family fortunes for a season of it.

And women are not exempt. The makeup. The body. The carefully curated Instagram. The strategic positioning near successful men. The soft voice that appears from nowhere when the right man enters the room.

Everything is downstream of this one biological current.

Religion tried to dam it. Culture tried to redirect it. Law tried to regulate it.

It is still winning.

Understand what actually drives human behaviour and suddenly the world makes complete sense.

Speak for yourself sir! I mean can’t I just make a decision because I want my life to get better? E get where ur eyes go open reach you go begin fear fornication as you go through the ranks of personal growth. Jsyk the sperm you actually release weakens your bone marrow and your lower body, and too much sex fit make u craze if u no de careful 😂😂. Embrace personal growth, its rewards are u quantifiable.

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Swears bro, ladies have it easy, majority tho, imagine a fine lady with over 20 toasters, if she sabi play her game tight, she can be collecting at least 40k from them all every week. But chatting would be very tedious. Hmm I really pity ladies, in my next life I will still be a man. If chatting too much can cause a headache for me hw much more a girl who has to entertain at least 20 men trying to spoil her life.

Iamdbull:
Let’s face it the basic the thing a man wants from a woman is sex while what a woman wants is money.

Now is the crazy part, woman can ask her dad for money, she can ask her brother, her uncle, her mum, her sis and literally anyone for money, but here’s the funny thing a man can’t ask any of these people for sex, he can only ask a few specific women for money.


This is why after break up someone women seems to move on easily and don’t even mention sex cos we know women can get sex, anytime, anywhere, anyway.

What do you feel about this


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Dbull nice hard work on dat physique, do more of pull-overs and skull-crusher immediately afterwards with any weight you’re comfortable with.

Stephen0mozzy:
Looks like you believe that you don't deserve love and happiness. Looks like there's a void in your life that you're trying desperately to use this relationship with her to fill, even when the relationship is unhealthy.

My guy, Love is like the Sun, if e Rise from the East, e go also Set for the West.... But it appears that you are the only one rising and setting the sun all alone in that relationship. At what point this thing you think is love that always makes you go back to her when when she treats you poorly, will one day turn to something so evil and dark that you either hurt yourself so terribly if not fatally.

Heal my man.

No matter how much you love a person, you must first love yourself more. So ask yourself, why will the "affection" you have for someone causing an affliction in you?

Then It's not love, looks like Stockholm Syndrome - you have become accustomed to the toxicity, it drives you - the new drug. If so, what you need is to take a break from her... Think about it as soon detox.

You cannot find happiness in any human being, except first through yourself.

Can one give out what they don’t have? To love a person right you must first love yourself, but this right is a man being controlled by hormones in guise of the cliche “love”.

budaatum:
My own question is what emotion does he lack the will to control that is making his fiancee that he has been together with for over 2 years and planning to take the next step of marriage arrangements with to be blocking him? Or do you think she mad or something, and she's reacting to nothing?

Toolegit123, what did you do to your fiancee to make her block you?!

According to op, d girl in question doesn’t love him (disrespectful) but he can’t walk away even when he tries (easy sex), my suspicion na “see finish”. Maybe op dances and moonwalk at the sight of moist sugar, being overly excited at the sight of pussy could damage your frame as a man.

Recommendation:
Quit and work on himself, add value to himself.

budaatum:
Why are you disrespecting us with this lie? Do you think it is not obvious that you do not "really want my peace of mind back"?

It in fact makes me think you are the one who might be "toxic and disrespectful" and traumatising someone who has already blocked you on whatsapp and walked away from you because they want their peace from you.

It's either that or you are seeking advice for her, in which case your thread should actually be, How Can She Walk Away From My Toxic Relationship?

Bro still in his feelings. He lacks the will to control his emotions, but then emotions are not masculine nor feminine, they’re simply humans he just need to start building one for his mental health. Na Wetin nearly make Ekene mad op de joke with.

Just do it like a man, ignore her and meet other ladies, you’re just emotionally attached to the version of the connection that got to you and you keep hoping will come back. Wake up!

Bros if you want to quit, just take ur mind off it and drink loads of water to hydrate your throat always

ErnestNc:
You're talking off. "Woman " in this context is the kind with romantic interest.

Do you think people truly change? If you know you have no intentions to wife her, Don’t have anything to do with her, cos her comeback pass surface level. You deserve someone better, someone who loves and cherish you, who will make you never doubt your worth even when at your lowest. Good luck 👍🏼

MatrixReloaded:
All this epistle reeks unforgiven spirit.
What has a woman got to do with your feelings ?
If you can't invest in a woman someday you will invest in your daughters.
They are equally women and you will understand that to be a man no be to open mouth "Waaaa"

No sir! The op has the right to decide to forgive her without accepting her back into his life. Carry on with your life op, don’t be a back up plan for any lady. If she leaves once never let her back in.

Chai. I really feel for the man, Konji go do nearly disable him. Please release the wife before una push the man commit sin 😭

Diamond098454:
Everything is not money

You can have money but the happiness is not there.

Bless you. Poverty mindset cannot think like this, everything is survival to them and no growth in view.

poshestmina:
She didn't have sex with you since and now you want her to defile herself and covenant to God to please you?

Them use f^^k swear for some of una?
She should get you arrested and made to sign Restrictions order.

I like the fact you didn’t generalize. This guy is messing up a lot but lust Can’t let him see this. Babe prepared for every worse scenario

Julibet:
Cleanliness isn't a deal breaker? Na your type the children go dy get lapa lapa and ring worm for head. Tufia.

He is the clean on, the logical thing to do is limit visits to her place and only invite her over. When una marry you as the man will use all those your neatness to compliment her, except he no tell us the full gist, cos I repeat that is a very lame reason for breakup. Don’t push good people away over trivial issues, he will learn make he enjoy fess.

New Toto de hungry u, i understand. Free agent enjoy ur life. Na d babe Bleep up yo let you see her finish. Cos dats a very lame excuse for a breakup 😂, clearly u compliment each other.

Hope ur stepmother never jazz u? Cos those rams are too small for that amount. Ur mom is right, Abi u wan believe say stepmom love u pass ur real mom?

Rhymesy:
I am currently dating two women. The one I love most just finished from Federal Polytechnic, Nekede, last year and she's currently serving. The other one just finished nursing science school. Both of them are unique in their own ways. At this point, I want to be serious in my life and stop playing games. Both of them have asked me to meet their parents, but I keep delaying the move just because of fear of making the wrong choice. I'm just confused. Nairalanders, waiting I go do

If you can sideline sex for now and go on your knees, the right one will reveal herself.

Seyzi:
There is a lady, a friend of mine had been in relationship with for 2yrs now, planning settling down next year, which all of a sudden the lady came up with the issue her mum aren't approving the union later her dad and sisters on the ground of Christianity spirituality and before my friend can gets a hold of it he has been blocked and restricted

My question is how will 29yrs old woman can't decide for herself but My guy really loved the lady, he has invested emotionally from what have seen in the union, if anybody has been in this type of situation before how do you guys manage it

If your intentions are genuine leave her and relax your mind, they always gravitate back. But simple advice since her mom doesn’t support ur dating her just forget about the girl cos it will cause issues tomorrow.

marcusverum:
Every man will face a season where he has nothing to show. No money. No status. No progress visible to the outside world. That season is not a curse. It is a filter.

The woman who stays during that season is not staying for what you represent. She is staying for you. That is the rarest thing a man can find.

The woman who appears after the harvest is not loyal. She is opportunistic. She timed her arrival perfectly and she knows it. The problem is most men are so relieved by her presence that they forget she was absent during the drought.

Never reward the harvest woman with what only the drought woman deserves. Your loyalty, your commitment and your ring belong to the woman who saw nothing and stayed anyway.

If she was not there when you had nothing, she has no claim on what you build.

True story bro…. However it must be pointed out that she must activate her free will and chose to not coerced to stay nor manipulated to stay. She must have options and still chose to stay, Thats the woman worth marrying. But Thats no excuse to accept mediocre life as a man, always keep striving to be better than yesterday. Get money because even good girl fit turn bar girl without adequate maintenance.

This is a very demonic forum, be careful the things you share here don’t allow people project calamity into Your household. Now is the time to seek God’s face, ask Him for forgiveness and tarry in His presence. Na una sins as children don de begin affect mama. I pray God gives you understanding.