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Walkee:
at least his gay purple skinny jeans lover will not complain about his small pencil unlike you borehole carriers

They are the ones that complain the most but not all though, Ever heard of the term "size queens"? They made it up

newoffer:
Queer people personal assistant sorry o.

Apology accepted

Techguy96:
Some yrs back two gay men were buried in Enugu alive, with the way Nigerians treat queer people, I wouldn't blame them. Unless we change our mentality from conservative to progressive things like this will continue to happen.

Yea, you are so right but still, society literally pushes this trope but still that's no excuse. That's just pure deception and seeing women like things to calm society's anger but i'm quite sure change is on the way

newoffer:
[b]How? U be doing hand like opebe. Shaking like tolotolo and wearing pampers.[/b]Nothing is cool about Gay. It's not a life

That's because the bolded is complete misinformation and it's completely obvious you know nothing about queer people and please y'all should stop associating gender mannerisms with sexuality. There are more masculine queer men than feminine ones, the feminine ones just know how to garner attention like women do

GurlFriend:
If you are gay, why do you want to ruin an innocent woman's life?

I'm so sorry you had to go through this, it's a complete waste of 2 years. There's no excuse for queer people who continue to do this not even the anti gay laws, it's just cruel. Please seek therapy and move on and if you've decided to out him to his folks, do it

illicit:
People can become gay, lesbian, alcoholic, paedophile at any age, any time notwithstanding their long standing history

People don't become gay or lesbian, they discover or come into the realization they are queer

Missionaire:
Yes, toxic masculinity.
Rape Was The subject, toxic masculinity was just a topic in that subject. I didn't deflect.

No man, I wasn't referring to you but I was citing an example in your comment to baralatie. You obviously weren't deflecting

Missionaire:
You're quite right. But on your last paragraph (the first sentence), I believe the society equates crying with feminity.
I mean, there are some things a man can do and people would call him a woman. The society expects men to not show weakness and crying is one sign of weakness.

Concerning the last sentence in your last paragraph, it is quite unfortunate that it is the same gender that would mock their fellow gender victims of rape thereby preventing others from reporting cases of rape.

The bolded is so right, men are their own worst enemies. Can't we at least use the patriarchy to curb ills like this?

Missionaire:
You're quite right. But on your last paragraph (the first sentence), I believe the society equates crying with feminity.
I mean, there are some things a man can do and people would call him a woman. The society expects men to not show weakness and crying is one sign of weakness.

Concerning the last sentence in your last paragraph, it is quite unfortunate that it is the same gender that would mock their fellow gender victims of rape thereby preventing others from reporting cases of rape.

Baralatie, that's an example of the toxic masculinity Datboredberry was referring to before you deflected from the said subject.

baralatie:
I meant what I wrote
Get a clear understanding of what rape is

You are deflecting on the main story hence my comment

Wait a minute, I remember this story, it happened last year because actor Kevin Bacon who shares the same name with the victim tweeted about it

Datboredberry:
You do not understand the meaning of the phrase...I didn't say masculinity is toxic... There's a huge difference...

Masculinity is good...

The definition of masculinity or the traits associated with it might be bad... Or self-sabotaging...

Masculinity can affect men negatively...

For example...

Masculinity: Men are strong...

[This is good]

Toxic masculinity: Men shouldn't cry because men ought to be strong... If they do, they are weak.

[This is a stereotype that would hurt men because it prevents them from opening up and seeking support when they feel down]

Masculinity: Men are the aggressors (regards to sex).

Toxic masculinity: If men are the aggressors, then they can't be victims of sexual abuse...

Masculinity: Men are the head because they are the providers and protectors...

Toxic masculinity: Since men are the protectors, they are the last to be evacuated during wars...etc...

And since they are the providers, they always have to struggle to pay the bills... Sometimes, with not support from their partners...

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Toxic masculinity: The many ways masculinity might not favour men... Or be toxic...

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An example of Toxic feminity:

Women are fragile...

Some women assume a subservient position so they benefit from their partners... but it backfires since they usually become victims of domestic violence...etc...

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The reason why people speak more on toxic masculinity is because men usually fight in favour of patriarchy... Which doesn't always benefit them but they do so to claim superiority over women...

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This thread for example:

Most men would not report cases if sexual abuse because they don't want to seem UNMASCULINE...

They don't want to seem UNMASCULINE because it would make them feel equal or less than women...

So they prefer to not speak out or even seek justice because of their weird definition of MASCULINITY...

If a man says, 'i have been raped'... Then he would not be able to say later that he's superior to women... Because he had been places in a position of SUBMISSION during his ASSAULT by a man... Or worse, by a woman...

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Another thing... Men always try to make it seem like they are crazy over sex... That's why the boast of their high body counts...etc...

Toxic masculinity: how can a man who brags about his 'conquests' be raped by a woman?

Get it?

The definition of masculinity means being passionate about sex... This hurts men because they can not later say that they were rape victims...

I can't believe you have to explain what toxic masculinity means to people in 2021. Do folks even read?

odinson1:
@datboredberry can you please stop saying Masculinity is toxic? Whatever Answers men gave you about this Rape issue, doesn't make Some traits of masculinity Toxic.

I know yoou wont like it if we start calling Femininity toxic.

Uhhh, she said "toxic masculinity" not masculinity is toxic, different things and toxic feminity also exist but feminity itself isn't toxic

baralatie:
Do you even have a thorough background on the topic of rape?

I said what I said

odinson1:
@the bolded was completely unnecessary

Please try and research the term, she's not saying masculinity is toxic

FriendsAndFans:
Should this even be a question? Obviously the op is supporting male rape

Did you even take your time to read?

baralatie:
Hmm!
Rape wether male.or female.is not even easy to report!
The women who report rape are mostly opportunist who most likely want to cash in or cash out or target a male victim for a political/economic gain!
Women/girls who are victims of rape only get their cases blown out into the open only by accident or a society where officers/agencies go deep to find out rape cases(which is hectic).
The dynamics of rape is not about toxic masculinity at all.
Then how do you explain a woman taking advantage of a young child

You obviously have no idea what toxic masculinity means hence you not understanding Datboredberry's comment

AlfaSeltzer:
Stop wishing. Do.

Ok, I do

AlfaSeltzer:
It doesn't really matter what you say. My day will be exactly the same.

Lol, I know man. I'm just wishing your day have more spontaneity rather than being the same

AlfaSeltzer:
A foolish person asks foolish questions - Emperor Qin 2099 BC

Wow... Just wow. Have a great day man

AlfaSeltzer:
Just because you are gay doesn't mean you know anything about women.

What on earth does that have to do with anything?

iLegendd:
Since I'm gay and broke, I have no food at home. If you're gay like me, invite me over. Or, should I just dress up and stand on the street to get clients?

You're free to abuse me — I'm immune to it. I'm gay and I'm proud of it, but I'm not proud of being broke. Let somone help me with 200 Naira to buy beans and bread.

Life no balance. I love Buhari.

Lol.... Man, you are a complete clown. Happy holidays. Obviously you gonna get some kitty tonight

Osanoghodua1:
Daddy needs not act this for fun
I actually hate cross dressers. If I had the mind, I would stab them.

So full of hate. What's wrong with you? You gonna stab someone minding his business

A cliche story like other romcoms but I liked it for it's represention

Dreadshy:
Where are the future is femail people? But oga you fall our hands, we suppose flog ypu for market square.

Sure... Blame the victim. For once, why can't we men use the patriarchy for something like this, for change instead y'all make it toxic

SuperBlack:
This will gain no much attention, rather a lot of people will ignore it, because it's a woman against man

If it's a Man trying to Rape a Girl now, you will be seeing Hashtags everywhere

Just look at the comments and you will see men either shaming him or wishing they were in his position. We are our own worst enemy

They should respect his decision and stop misgendering him, they don't have to support it but tolerance and respect is key

tidalstorm:
Gay people are so sensistive, that's how yall tried to cancel Dave Chapelle now the jokes on you.
No need to take me to sexuality class I'm still going to be ignorantly illiterate.


And if a gay person said that to me i would tell that mofo I'm straight as hell and it won't happen in a million ways.
No need for me to be offended.

Can you blame them? Since time immemorial, they've been told that sleeping with the right opposite sex will erase their sexuality and make them straight but you are kinda right, we are way to sensitive but that's the result of society