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The thief no meet wicked people.

Na to close the doors then begin launch heavy stones at him from the open roof. Body go tell am

Love800:
Ok.

I want to marry a girl of 17-20, but am afraid of someone(probably her parents) telling me to be part of her university fees.

Truth is that you cannot as a man be in a relationship with someone of that age range that is still going through school and not be part of her journey... Definitely her parents take their responsibilities but it is irresponsible for you not to occasionally support. Even if the money is not for her academics you should definitely once in a while say take this , take that...sometimes she may experience difficulties which her parents may not be able to meet up at the time and you step in if it's within your power.. I am not saying it's your duty or the parents mandates you to do it. For me if a parent say I must do it, it becomes a red flag automatically. What I am saying is between you and your woman

Love800:
That means you were the one that paid for her university school fees when you both started dating when she was 18yr?

Then later proceeded to marrying her when she turned 25?

A sincere question.

Lol I never said that

Love800:
You married her when she was 18?
Or you married her when she was 25?
Which one?

25

A very stupid advice

The worst that can happen to anyone seeking to japa for greener pastures is to travel to any communists country, worst with tourist or visit visa and hoping to find your away around.


You will suffer and cry blood

One thing about communists countries is that their laws are strict and security is heavily enforced that even their citizens and forced to cooperate or vanish... Now imagine what will happen to you?

No human rights, citizens are not allowed to protests.... If them pick you, your own don finish.

Atleast in democratic Nations or western words, some human rights activists can pick interest in your matter and protest to make the government uncomfortable but see totalitarian countries, you go gree blood.

Go ask Nigerians in Dubai prison or Saudi Arabia what they are suffering

I was never attracted to older ladies or anyone close to my age . I always said any lady who's age difference with mine is 5yrs and below isn't for me and that is thanks to my secondary school Agric teacher.

You see, in secondary school I was very popular and most of my friends were female. I rolled with guys but built closer bonds with the ladies, I even had a girlfriend then in school that everyone knew of including teachers and friends at home.

One day my agric teacher saw me rolling with the girls as usual and told me... "Boy these girls you think love you, they are your age mates, they are your class mate but they are not your age grade... When you will still be trying to find your way in life, these girls will be married, settled and by then time you are ready most of them must have finished giving birth"

I thought it was a joke but after secondary school, the speed at which my class girls started getting married ehhhh, even the ones that later furthered to university with us, came out and married men we call bros....

I looked at most of the guys in my class, we still looked like boys whereas our classmates in secondary looked like our aunties.

That was when what my Agric teacher said dawned on me.


I was in a relationship with someone who's age was close to mine and she ended it saying that time wasn't on her side, pressure was much. When that relationship ended , I had to settle for younger person.

I was 26yrs at the time when I met my wife who just completed 18yrs and preparing for jamb. She checked all the boxes for me and I decided to shoot my shot. It worked, she accepted and we got going. I didn't rush things


I had already crossed the stage of life she was in, so I knew I had time to build my career, work on my finances and get ready before she is set for marriage.

While she got admission to school, I stayed building myself. No pressure for marriage because we were in different phases of life. I was like two phases ahead of her

Considering her age I also didn't rush things, I stayed as a guide, supportive, patient and always a step ahead of her... 5yrs down the line she graduated, she was 23yrs now and I was 31yrs.

I got my finances and career going, while she was done with school.

By the time she was done with NYSC she was already 25yrs and me 33yrs and we did the needful.

Dating older ladies closer to your age is stress and many times builds on desperation and pressure because the ladies look at time and quickly want to marry because their biology is against them but then for the man if the man isn't settled or go pass that phase it creates pressure and may lead to bad decision making

professore:
I'm asking about the one you married. If it's one year, it's certainly cool.

Yes 1yr

One of the major causes of early grey hair in young people is damaged liver.

The rate at which Gen Zs consume alcohol and smoke weed is alarming and worst is that the alcohol they consume many are not even organic but chemicals. Fake drinks are rampart yet people abuse it

Axis313:
Just be honest.

For me,I am number 5.

I was teacher's favourite especially to my maths and agric teachers.... They loved me so much that because of them I used to avoid being flogged but I was so much hated by our principal that she called police to arrest me in school but the teachers defended me.


I was also a backbencher.... My class we divided ourselves into 4 groups, the Yoruba Muslim groups that sat at the extreme end. Those ones na their Muslim class guys and babes be their friends, nothing concern us with them.... Then we had the class children sitting in the middle... Those are our young classmates that love book too much, they usually roll with the small churchy girls in the class.... Then we had our squad, the fine sweet girls and the swagger guys.... We sat in the middle close to the window down.... I was the only guy sitting in the midst of all those pretty girls until 3 other guys joined me.... I even had my school babe sitting in same desk with me....


I was also the class genius and comedian.... I would play, disturb when others are learning , crack jokes, make noise, cause trouble but after school I head straight to the library and study for 2hrs before heading home and was I get home I freshen up and carry my bags for evening lessons.... Me and a class mate who is now a lecturer. We used to be terrible noise makers and distractions in class but secretly we read in the library after everyone had gone home and also together we attended evening lesson from Jss 3 to ss3.... Infact we close school by 2pm then move to library from 2pm to 4pm.

Once we got home, we take our bags straight for evening lesson. Lesson starts by 6:30pm but 5pm we were already positioned reading until lesson starts then we begin to disturb the class and to frustrate teachers we gave them difficult maths questions to solve on the topic they were teaching and when they are unable to solve it we laugh cos we've already solved it ourselves before challenging the teacher with it

Secondary school madness.

professore:
how many months did you date your wife?

Dated 1yr and I met the previous lady last month which was still 2yrs after

Though we chat once in a while on WhatsApp but haven't met since then

Lol.

That was how I asked a lady out. Very beautiful girl that matches my specs but she was just forming, I could tell she liked me but was drawn away because I was the reserved type . I dress normal, I don't do flashy things, I don't put on jewelries and I don't post my private life on social media but this girl kept posting me because she said she would love a man that shows her online, that dresses like WizKid squad, blah blah blah so I knew right away that we had opposite mindset that was how I gave up

Fast forward to a year later I met another more prettier and younger lady , well reserved and with similar traits like myself and instantly we clicked. We didn't have to date for long before we got married because I saw this girl as a perfect match and wouldn't waste another month dating her. I sealed the union as quickly as I could.

Last month I saw that other lady, she came around my area and called and I went to see her. We were talking just as friends but I could sense her regrets.

She then said she wish she had overlooked somethings then because right now age and maturity has made her that she was being childish with her demands that even the social media she doesn't even go online anymore and fashion sense for her ideal man has even changed.

For me I knew then she was being childish as a young lady back then and would eventually mature and change her perception when maturity kicks in but I wasn't ready for drama so I moved and that decision I do not regret at all because I wouldn't have met a better person if I had stayed stuck.

My wife is a rare breed with traits I still haven't found in another lady, I would call her my perfection

No vex. If na you sef U for don leave am since

adecares:
Very good
If wifey possessed all these, what do you possess? 😂

I possess what it takes to be a good husband and father

RolexOfGeneva:
You must choose one for marriage (you can't choose neither) - A virgin with bad character or a non-virgin with good character, which would you choose?

I married a Virgin with the sweetest character and the prettiest face card ever.

So that question isn't for me cos I got every package a man could think of alone.

Virgin checked
Pretty checked
Calm checked
Wife material checked
Intelligent checked
Non spirituality checked
Good family checked
Character checked
Non greedy checked
Contented checked
Hardworking checked
Body checked

adecares:
Thank you for your response
What I mean is a computer printing and photocopy business centre.

Ohh, if that's the case then the dynamic changes completely.

First computer center business location matters most. You need to be in an environment where paper work is likely to happen frequently not just any random street.

Ideal places are

1. School environment

2. Close to any govt office like local govt secretariat, immigration center, Vehicle registration centers, high court etc those places you know people will likely need to print passports, photocopy, do affidavits etc


When you get an ideal place I think for a small scale what you need are

1. Atleast a low budget core i5 laptop that can atleast run Corel draw and Photoshop easily alongside Ms word... 100k will get something that serves, not fancy modern ones but rugged old core i5 like dell latitude E6420, hp Elitebook 8460p, hp probook 6460b those are old pc but highly effective to do the job with low cost and make sure the ram is atleast 8gb and 128gb SSD or 256gb SSD. Desist from using HDD

2. You need a generator, atleast

3. You need a passport printer

4. You need atleast a 3in1 officejet printer and also a laser jet printer

5. You need a photocopy machine

6. You need atleast a standing fan

7. You need a shop.


Give or take buying those things plus office space could take 1-2m budget

I was spending this much until I learnt to survive without my earning

My monthly expenditures used to cross 400k every month for just a family of 3. Me, my wife and baby

But since I discovered Money market mutual funds I don't bother anymore because all those money I had sitting Idly in my bank account I moved everything to money market and with the percentage I get monthly I just use it to cater for my home.

450k interest paid to me every month now caters for my family.

My goal is to make it as high as 1m interest every month that's why I keep reinvesting every penny I receive now

adecares:
God bless you sir for this.
Pls I need your help
I would like to open a business centre next year, like what should be my budget?
I want to start small, a small system, printer, second hand etc.

Thank you sir
I await your response

Greetings sir. If it is your first time venturing into business I will strongly advise starting with your money because you may likely lose it

Electronic business is a business you can easily start without using a dime of your money. All you have to do is to have a strong marketing plan whether via Facebook ads, Instagram, tiktok etc.

You can start by marketing other people's goods

Goto alaba international or computer village or any electronic market in your state.

Take pictures, ask for features and best price. Remind them that you are a reseller and they should give you a very good price


Make sure you have printed your receipt. Make videos of yourself in the store . Believe me no serious business person will chase you. As a matter of fact they are looking for third party marketers like you to come to their shop


When you have done your marketing and you have been contacted by a potential buyer.

Ask them to come to the market and then you take them to the shop.

If they want payment on delivery simply pay for the item with your money and do the delivery.

That way you can learn the business, make sales, grow your capital and build confidence before you start investing with your money

This one don begin to misyarn 😂

Don't let those who's marriages failed woefully to talk you out of it.

Marriage if done right brings luck and open door.. so long as you did the right thing and also treat your wife right and she does the same the flood gates of heaven must open.


I met my wife while I was struggling. I went into business still struggling but immediately we did our wedding that very month I made sales worth over 20m. Me that has never crossed 5m in a month did 20m. As if that was not enough the following month I did 22m, 25m and 35m conservatively since then any month where my sales didn't hit 20m is seen as a bad month.

Since that marriage I have seen open doors countless time. When I think I am broke, from nowhere a credit alert drops in or a good business deal happens and I am back up again.

Before I was keeping all business money both the one I needed and the one I didn't one place it was this same my wife that told me to remove idle funds from my business and put in mutual funds which I took the advise and separated idle funds from business funds

Now interest from mutual funds alone caters for family monthly expenditures from rent to feeding to school fees to bills while business profit and capital are there growing


Just marry a good woman, be a good man, a good husband and father believe me the floodgates of heaven will open for you

I am a living witness

ibinaboonline:
Something very awful and heartbreaking just happened o.

I played cat and mouse with one small rat at my house yesterday evening, so I set a trap for it. By morning, two tiny rats got caught in the glue board trap. Fantastic.

I didn't want to bother with the yucky experience if disposing them this morning, so I took the board outside thinking I'll deal with the disposal later.

I just remembered it this evening and, unfortunately, this beautiful bird had been caught alongside the rats. I suppose it was probably the rats that attracted the bird.

I feel sorry for this bird because the glue they use to make this board is so strong; I doubt I'll be able to extricate the bird without harming it. I don't even know the name of this bird. What I know is it is beautiful, and shouldn't have to suffer this experience.

Sad.

It's glue so the bird can be removed without hurting it.

Where it's feet are just pour small fuel to soften it and gently pull the bird out

This advise is what I tried hard to advise a childhood but he refused to have sense...

Nothing pisses me off more than seeing someone that had a difficult childhood behaving like an idiot

Growing up me and this guy had it so tough. We grew in the ghetto and most times had to hawk to eat after school ..


We did all sorts of stupid jobs, slept hungry and several times picked snacks on the flow to eat. He knows that very well

Fast forward to today my friend is now a professional welder. Like big time welder that does Argon, 6GR, fabrication and all sorts of welding whether offshore or onshore. This guy has done jobs where he got paid millions. Even oil tanks and pipelines but what does my guy do

Drink, club, carry women, change phones buy clothes and shoes.

No investment, no house, not yet married.

When he is broke when he comes for financial advise and I give to him but once he secures a contract everything vanished

NassBoy:
Let me go straight to the point;


So, my kid brother(26) got a job in an Hotel as it's facility supervisor.
When he started(June 1st, 2026) this job, he wasn't given an appointment letter. He was only told that about his operational duties and salary(100k) for the first month, and 120k the next month and subsequently.
He started. The next day, he was sent to the market to go procure a few items needed for fumigation. According to him, his Boss(Director) didn't give him the money before he left the hotel, rather, he was told to go to the market and verify the prices of each item and move from shop to shop to ensure a proper bargain for all items before money could be sent.
The long and short is, the Boss is very cruel, hostile, mean and highly inconsiderate. The hotel is less than a year, but the boss had changed four supervisors. My brother demanded to know his working hours and it became a problem. How can u employ someone and you want him to work 24/7 running up and down, not even a sleep at night is possible because my brother must Ensure that the hotel never has a blackout. There's inverter, NEPA and Gen. But he never allows Gen to be ON and he discourages the use of NEPA except to charge the inverters' batteries. There's energy Consumption report to be compiled and sent every morning, do room checks too, do technical jobs, supervise cleaning, ensure security of the hotel, etc . My brother said doing all these isn't the problem, but the insults to all his staff. He insults even management staff in the presence of their subordinates, the man is never satisfied with anyone. He doesn't even listen to the customers complaints .
He doesn't avail my brother time to go home. No off days whatsoever. The man can call my brothers phone more than ten times in a day, no time he doesn't yell. My brother is now sick of malaria, yet, won't be allowed to rest. He has not asked him about his health for once. How can someone be working for you, and you can't give me a day off or tell him his closing time. My brother also cleans and maintains the swimming pool. The hotel has never had a manager.
Most painful is, my brother has no place to sleep in that hotel. If he sees any free place at night, he will just sleep exposed to Cold and Mosquitoes.
It's sad because if our parents were to be alive, this wouldn't be happening. My brother has emaciated so badly. Everyday he spends nothing less than 3k on feeding cos they don't feed him at the hotel

Truth is that as sad as it is your brother is an adult that should know when he is being exploited but the most painful part is that economic situation makes one to take exploitative jobs to survive ..

I had a similar situation with my younger brother of 28yrs. He was working with an agency to refused to increase his pay for six good years .

A 30k job he started in 2019. the pay remained the same despite the hazardous conditions he was working. From Monday to Sunday sometimes at 2am they will call him to go clear a container, sometimes he escorts containers from one state to another. From Tin can to Ikorodu, sometimes to Ogun state all for 30k job


I looked at my brother at that age no skill, no ambition, no good pay. I was always insulting him for staying on a 30k job for six years, insulting his lack of ambition and was very pissed with him but I couldn't do much because he was already an adult but with no foresight to quit a job with no benefits. At 28 he was still living with our mom , we paid rents, we did everything, even he feeds because we give our mom money for upkeep and mom cooks and he eats.

He was a good boy, no bad friends, no drinking, no womanising very decent but lacked ambition but earlier this year I decided I would Lord over him as my immediate younger sibling.

Since he has refused to grow and our elder ones refused to act, I thought it would be best to use my position to force him to sit up. I pressured him to quit the job and join me in business.

He joined last year January at first I thought of paying him 100k per month and also cover his transport but my wife advised against that. That he is a docile and comfortable person. If he can stay on a 30k job for 6yrs, he wouldn't make any attempt to upgrade himself when he sees 100k job.

I decided to instead start by giving him a cut from any goods we sell. We could sell 3 items a day a make profit of like 60k each and on each I give him 15k making 45k per day. If we sold more he gets more

His first month I paid him a total of 466k, second month 428k, third month 360k and so on but after he first three months I reduced his pay to 10k per product we sell which I paid him for 6months

Then the last 3months of last year I reduced it to 5k per item. He saw that his earning was reducing and at the same time I started placing responsibilities on him. I told our other siblings to stop paying our mother's rent that , he stays in the house, he is 28yrs old and should learn to start paying and planning for bills so we took hands off the rent and utility bills and he started paying them while we focused on our mom's welfare.

Fast forward to this year i completely stopped paying him because when I reduced his earnings, I challenged that if he wants to earn more he should put more energy in making sales of his own because for the past 9months most sales came from me. Wanting to earn higher returns he started putting more efforts and whenever sales come through him instead of paying him the usually 15k or 10k, I make the profit much higher and he realized that he sales from him gives him better returns that from me and that's how he leveled up. Now in this year he consistently close some good deals.

Someone that couldn't boast of 10k in his account now has about 3m in his name and I dragged him to invest that 3M into mutual funds instead of keeping it in the bank.

I am guiding him to be independent and learn how money works.

Why am I narrating this, it is because your brother's story is very similar to what my brother went through but you can't just tell him to quit like that without providing a support system.

He is a responsible lad that is why he took up the job and is enduring the nonsense. A troublesome person would have gone to steal or stay idle doing nothing and wait on you to fund his life.

So provide an alternative for him, if possible carry him along in your trader or join him to hunt for another job

His victory is your victory too

The only thing Africans know how to invent is new dance

MJ did it without social media. Imagine if he was alive now.

He sparked a whole generation of break dancers and even years after his death we still remember him

I don't know when our government will stop building these housing that can only contain 2 to 3 families and started adopting the Chinese model.

All over Asian because of their rising population and house crisis they are building high rise buildings.

One single high rise shelters about 10,000 people.

Nigeria needs something like that not these small buildings.

Presently housing shortage is a serious crisis but the government is not paying attention.

Our population is growing faster than available houses that's why rent is surging so much

Encourage highrise apartments, one that can atleast contain 500 to 1,000 people . More high-rise means more houses.

Homelessness is now rampart everywhere. People are sleeping on the streets now especially in Lagos

Story of my life

In 2021 I was making 50k weekly and was very comfortable. My rent was just 200k a year and transportation to work was max 600 (300 going , 300 coming)

But fast forward today I get roughly between 350k to 500k weekly yet I struggle with everything.

Rent has spiraled to 2.5m per annum (same house ooo) transport has shot up to 2,500 (1,000 going, 1,500 coming)

Bills and other things followed too

There are tonnes of products to sell and make 200k a day. May not be guaranteed sells everyday but if you know what you are doing you can make 1-2 sales a week and walk home with 100k minimum

My rent jumped from 30k per month to 208k per month that's from 350k yearly to 2.5m yearly


Used to live in a mini flat where I paid 350k every year it wasn't convenient but I was managing it. I had almost zero ventilation and rules in the compound says no generator, no solar and no inverter battery.

In front of my window is a big building blocking ventilation and at the back is a fence very close to me. I was literally roasting alive but I was managing it because the rent was very cheap.

The landlord and his wife were torn in the ass, every day is threat of quit notice to tenants. Some visits you, quit notice, sometimes the landlady knocks at your door unannounced and tells you that she wants to inspect your house then walks in check everywhere, your room, kitchen, toilet and goes.

They even gave a neighbour quit notice for not painting his room for 3yrs like every three years U must renew your paint.

They gave another quit notice because the mother in-law came to live with them in their two bedroom.. couples that had two little kids and needed the wife's mother to come live with them and look after the kids when they goto work, landlord served them quit notice saying they are stressing amenities in the compound

One was given quit notice because the wife brought his 7yrs old boy he had outside wedlock to come join her husband and their two children landlady gave them quit notice that the boy plays too rough

With all those useless laws I was so fed up that I had to quit the compound. The heat was unbearable making me awake at night and unproductive at work then coupled with some psycho landlords despite rent was high out there I just needed to leave the compound and goto a sane place where I can have enough ventilation to sleep, comfortably run my solar and use my AC and avoid the madness of a deranged landlord and his wife.

I eventually got a 2 bedroom for 2.5m the rent scared me at first but I have been meeting up and my productivity improved at work

Lithiumite:
Any accommodation your 3 months salary cant cover for a year isnt for you!!

Oga keep quiet and stop following crazy rules you read in books.

Present condition in Nigeria most especially in Lagos breaks every rule

In Lagos where a rat hole is 3.5m how many people earn so much that their 5months salary can cover such rent talk more of 3months rent.

Let's assume you earn 500k monthly and you have a family of 4 (you, your wife and two kids) atleast you need a 2 bed room apartment but let's just say you can't afford 2 bedroom and you settle for a mini flat.

Most jobs are in urban axis in Lagos like Lekki, Ikeja, ajah, Surulere etc and in those places even a mini flat cost roughly 2m for cheap ones and above that for expensive ones.

If you settle for the cheap one 2.5m month. That means 5months salary 100% saved

You won't eat, you won't pay bills, you won't transport etc just pure 100% of your 500k salary saved every month in a mini flat that isn't conducive for your family.


If you want cheaper areas then you have to move away from the highbrow areas to areas like Ojo, Egbeda, oshodi, iyana ipaja etc. in these areas a minimum inconvenient flat is 1.5m for rubbish settings.

That's roughly 3months 100% salary without you eating, paying bills and trekking to work which is still not sustainable.


This is why I said you should just shut the Bleep up and stop quoting rules that aren't attenable in present day Nigeria.

We survive in Nigeria now by God's grace not by your useless rules. Anybody quoting that stupid rule is obvious still lives with his or her parents and hasn't house hunt before

Only if she listens to Bisi Davids about the UK trap she would have created optionality