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MySolace:
Lol... U people should keep lying to urselves. Una dey do una selves not me ..

Dotty lovers

Your problem

DonroxyII:
Marriage is another game entirely, Shaaa be ready to ManUp !

No problem, I am mentally ready for that

AareGaa:
I'm happy for both you. You're both lucky.
I will like to meet her.

Thanks. Hopefully

JohnnA1:
Hope no be hide and seek mode una dey oh?

When a man say he met his woman at home, you should ask pple what that statement means

Goalminded1:
Make sure you wife-her up.
She sounds like a peace-provider from your narration. And peace of mind is all a man needs from his woman. Peace of mind on all fronts.
Love her unconditionally, and never let any other women, no matter how physically appealing and endowed she looks, make you cheat on your lady.
Lucky you. You found a good match.
For me, I'm very selective and I'll wait my turn , no matter how long it takes. I value my joy and peace of mind above everything else.
My latina is somewhere out there in the Americas or in the US. And I'll be united with her once the time arrives. No rush.

My brother only a fool sees diamond and go for stone.

Only reason we are not married is because I am writing an exam while she is also learning a trade.

I met that girl at home, I was a broke and unkept guy but this girl saw through me and stayed by me.

Now I will say I am comfortable and she is still there. She is my wife for sure and definitely I will wife her once we are done with our training. 2024 may be our last as singles

6yrs relationship with my fiancee I can't seem to find any fault with her. I have searched and searched yet that babe is just too perfect in every area. I asked her about my flaws too and where I need to improve she also cannot spot.

We are a perfect match, 6yrs and chasing 7yrs no drama, no fight, no quarrel just both of us loving , making sacrifices and managing our little.

Greetings!

Recall my experience in seeking for accommodation last year. It was a harrowing experience but I am glad I went through that stress and ended up where I am now.

The road has been completed and instead of spending 1600 daily to work, now I spend just 1k total even with the subsidy removal.

For the compound, December will complete me a year there (how time flies) and I am loving Every moment I spend there. The serenity, neatness, peace, everything.

The landlord who live with us are like parents to us, very understanding and coordinating. Though some rules are annoying but those rules keep the peace and whatever benefit we enjoy in the compound.

I enjoy peace there and I am happy, there is progress in the compound, I can see it in the lives of the neighbors and even myself.

I used to have insomnia where I was which resulted to high blood pressure. At a young age I was already having BP reading of 170, 180 which was terrible but since I moved in, I have never recorded any insomnia and my blood pressure has normalized to 120.


I will be going to renew my rent by December but I want to also present a gift to my landlord and his wife as a show of appreciation.

What should be the ideal gift? They are roughly in the late 70s

Drones wey them go thief immediately e land to deliver the drugs.

Make una better attach bombs and bullets to that drone to fire any motherfucker wey try to steal am cos that's the only way to stop Nigerians from kidnapping it

I had a girlfriend back then in school. She was the only one I was having sex with. She looked so decent and calm. Always loving and avoiding trouble but she was a sex machine. Always ready anytime I ask she can rush down and collect any number of rounds multiple times even if it meant 10 times daily she would open up for me.

I loved everything about her and felt at home, no need cheating, I was looking forward to forever but I travelled for 2wks then came back and we had sex.

After that sex i couldn't pee again, started having those funny discharge and quickly went for test and it was Gono.

I was like from where kwa, I have only touched one lady and even the lady doesn't go out, always indoor and looks innocent.

My people, I confronted her ooo and she opened up that she couldn't hold herself for that two weeks and met a guy to bang her.

I even discovered that this babe no day passes by without her receiving dick. She is so addicted to sex that even after going 3 rounds with her she still goes outside that same day for 2 other guys to collect more rounds.

I could touch her twice a week and rest but she was meeting other guys to complete the week for her.

So innocent, calm, homely and peaceful. I got run for my life and left her to go fix her sex issue before I carry HIV.

That manipulating Bitch will set u against your family. You have to know that in life when trouble comes your family will always be the one for you.

See ehh, I am not a fan of people carrying family problems on their head, that is the fastest route to poverty OR not achieving anything but inasmuch as we don't want to be caught into the web of black tax we also do not want to completely cut off family members.

That your girlfriend is already showing signs of a domineering partner that will chase away your family members from the house and only welcome her own people. You have to curtail her or live with a wicked soul.

Pay attention to how she treats other people you will see that whatever doesn't benefit her, she cuts it off.

I don't want any family member to stay with me but I will not tolerate my fiancee doing the chasing. Never!

When you see foreign media start reporting about a particular candidate just know that the west have decided who will rule Nigeria.

Recall that Nigeria is still a British private organization (Royal Niger Company) and independence came with a condition (all commomwealth nations are indebted to Britain).

One of the criteria for independence is rotation of power among the geopolitical zones (McPherson called it Unity in diversity).

The west never let go of their colonies and they feed off these colonies while they milk the colonies dry they are also weary of total collapse because if that happens it gives Russia and China opportunity to come in and have influence over these colonies.

Google past presidents you will see that they all visited 10, Downing street from Obasanjo to Yaradua to Gej to Buhari and that is where who leads the country next is decided.

For Obi, the sentiment of the west For peace to return is for power to move to South East As enshrined in the McPherson constitution set up by the British for Nigeria.

The west have shown their support for ipob, kept mute on Nnamdi Kanu proscription and they know the what they are doing.

Obi became bolder after his visit to 10 downing street, so far he has been the only candidate to have been invited there (check history, the candidate invited to that office always wins and gets maximum media coverage from foreign media).

Obi will win, the west will support him because a collapse Nigeria means trouble for them, they cannot cater for 200milllion refugees and neither can they allow Russia or China to come in and influence because that's what they do in conflict areas.

WHY OBI AND NOT TINUBU OR ATIKU?

They picked Obi for two specific reasons

1. Atiku and Tinubu are on their black books.

Tinubu had a drug case with US while Atiku was on their corruption book. Even though both parties lobbied for plea bargains to cover up the cases so they can have their freedom and visa restrictions removed, the west know that if these two wins, relations won't be swift hence will push the country towards closer ties with Russia and China.

2. Secondly condition for independence was for power to be rotated.

During Biafra war when it was military dictatorship Britain and America had no reason to be involved in the war until Soviet Union stepped in and supplied Gowon with the needed military hardware, out of fear the west joined the war to please the federal government and retain their influence.

When civilian rule was restored, power was agreed to be rotated.

1999 other regions stepped down for south west. The two major party fielded candidates from southwest

PDP Obasanjo
APP Olu Falae

South west rule for uninterrupted 8yrs.

In 2007 it was turn for North

PDP Yaradua
ANPP Buhari

Other regions stepped aside

Unfortunately after 2yrs Yaradua died, the north wanted to replace him with their man to complete their 8yrs but that would have been against the constitution and would have angered the Democratic nations of the west so they allowed Jonathan to complete the term.

When it came to 2011 the north wanted power back to complete their tenure but since power was already in South South it was ideal for Jonathan to run another term to make it 6yrs for south south but for the condition of just one term.

In all these, south east was supposed to have taken their turn in 2015 but Yaradua death scattered the formula.

When Jonathan completed 6yrs he wanted to go for another term to make it 10yrs for south south and that angered the west. They used their might to kick him out (not because of homosexual law)

2015 was supposed to be turn of south east but since the north were yet to complete their term, south east had to wait for north to go on.

Buhari has completed their term and next is for south East.

The western powers know this and they are backing Obi for it.

After south East, power is shifting to either north central Or north east before it gets to South West again

Tenants should just close eyes and buy that machine if they are in Lagos.

If landlord disguise say him wan renovate his building and give una quit notice una go see shege ooo

Houses in Lagos now are not only expensive but very hard and depressing to find. Even if you find one it will be so substandard and cost will be on the high side...

I am talking from experience, don't go and be reading yeye law that you know your right, there is no right in lagos ooo landlord will always win unless you have money and time to be going to court and paying lawyer


I sha Don talk my own. Lagos now so long as where you are is OK, just be overlooking landlord's excesses till you have money to move out else you go hear word by force

This was sold to me for N500

In my former place this would have cost 800 to 900

Stay away from that family. Aside you, your kids shouldn't have such people as aunties and uncles to them. The family is messed up and believe me you will be dragged into that mess soon

If you mean well for him tell him to download cowrywise app, set a saving plan, set a date you want the money to be locked and let him be saving there.

Any money he saves on cowrywise cannot be withdrawn until the withdrawal date.

Except you have ulterior motives I don't see any reason why he should save in your bank.

I use an old Tecno Pouvoir 4 pro phone...

It's old with a cracked screen but I still hold it on my hand while walking.

If you say it's because of feeling big then I am not in that category because there is nothing to feel big about my phone cos it's old and cracked but I don't give a f*ck.

I hole my phone on my hand cos of pickpockets. I walk pass oshodi and mile 2 every morning and night and putting the phone in your pocket is a bad choice

That toxic boss is what you need to keep your brain working.

People who work under toxic bosses tend to be better at the job because they learn the act of working under pressure and also to multi task and get better

You see ehhh that toxic boss will make you spot opportunities faster and push you to become your own boss but if you stay where you are comfortable doing same thing everyday, your journey to poverty will be smooth and swift.

Fact that the toxic boss is offering 200k is an added bonus if you are prudent, you should save to start up something

And one last note: most toxic work environments usually have loopholes for extra revenues... Your boss in all his gragra may not know when they are running another business in his company

If you have data and claim you don't have a job you need to be flogged.

You can't be online always and not be making money. No, I am not talking about making money online be it crypto, affiliate marketing, forex etc far from that. Infact I know nothing about those topic, I tried forex and crypto and lost woefully.

What I am talking about is concerning making your data worth it.

If you always have data while still looking for Job try move to major markets, take pictures of what they are selling and be posting on your whatsapp, facebook, instagram even tiktok and twitter.

Be consistent, believe me the first few months will be tough cos of no sale but stay consistent, gradually people will get to know you. Some people will view your story and scroll pass but one day they may be in need of that thing and will remember that there is someone that always post that and before you know you have secured your first sale.

Once they pay, go-to the market (the shop) buy it (ensure you seek for warranty and tell them you are a reseller) remove your profit and deliver the goods.

I started this way. Working as a 50k salary earner I had free internet in the office.

On Saturdays I will go to computer village, take pictures of laptops and tell the sellers to add me to their broadcast lists so that I can be getting updates of new systems.

I will take pictures, ask for config and prices then upload on all my handles. It took time but I was consistent (after all I am not using my money to buy and store them).

One day I made my first sale from someone that always views my status. I convinced him to pay, he paid and I rushed to computer village to get the laptop. My profit that day was 10k.

Gradually sales started coming and I was encouraged to start running Ads. During covid when there was no salary I had time to base in market alot and there I got more contacts. My laptop business was fetching me more money. I was making sales without adding a kobo from my pocket.

The sellers got used to me and sometimes will allow me carry laptops to deliver to customers via pay on delivery and once they pay I remove my profit and pay them their money.

Fast forward to today I make a lot of sales and even have a car. Just a two years journey got me what 50k a month job couldn't.


Don't stay idle, make ur data be useful.

Free the man jare... Any creature that deceives others with love just to milk them dry deserves such.

I expected Chinese govt to use their power and free this man.

Whether man or woman, never deceive anyone to that extent

yarimo:
IPOB terrorists will soon invade this thread hate comment

Like the ones killed like chickens in Ojota yesterday abi

If he is a good father then there is a soft side of him that needs to be triggered.

One thing about bad habit or addiction is that it is very difficult to handle. You can caste out a demon spirit but you can never cast out bad habit. It requires intentional actions.

This is what I advise speak with him gently see he can see where he is hurting you and the kids, if he doesn't change take a brutal action by overlooking the responsibilities in the house be it the children's welfare OR house bills. It will hurt the kids and you but sometimes you have to have a heart of steel to cause a change.

If he cares about the kids he will sit up and go hustle. He knows you will sort the bills that's why he gambles. Na who no get alternative OR see food chop dey gamble.

Take that option out of his hands. If it means you slowing down your business, slow it down

Over the years I have learnt that it is more profitable to help your fellow man than a woman.

Helping a woman is like pouring water into an ocean. It is mostly taken for granted.

Women have this notion to always get assistance from men. When a woman is stranded more than 10 men can be on ground to assist so she sees it as a normal benefit of being a lady. She doesn't really appreciate it like a guy will.

For the ones that will appreciate it, they can be easily influenced by their man. I have helped a lady so much but was surprised that she got a boyfriend and the boyfriend told her he wasn't comfortable with my closeness to her and that's it she cut every means of communication and ended our childhood friendship from the hood just because of a boyfriend and girlfriend stuff.

Some also may like to help but most of the time a woman's destiny is determined by who she married. You will see a vibrant lady that once she marries marriage will just suck life out of her, she will be so fixated in marriage that she may not recognize your help.

These has been my experience with helping ladies so since then I switched the gear towards helping my fellow guys...

The business I am doing now, I was introduced to it by my guy we met in NYSC camp. I helped him when he was stranded, fed and sheltered him from my little but after NYSC table turned, he owns his business, he is a big boy and while I was wallowing away in one yeye office work, my guy remembered me and introduced me to his business and things improves.

Also I bought a car but was stranded when accommodation issue came, my childhood friend whom I helped raise rent when he needed it, I called him for a loan of 200k but this guy remmeberd how I helped him and said instead of him to loan me, he will dash me because he remembers... My guy added 50k made it 250k and dashed me.

I can't count how many times I have benefited from guys I helped but the ladies even the one I supported with school fees back then in school so she won't miss her final year exam the monkey last year got married and I didn't know.

Mind you all these ladies I mentioned non was my girlfriend and neither did I had romantic relationship with them.... Just strictly friends (coursemates, colleagues, church members, neighbors and childhood pals)

Greatest0011:
How can I contact you bro? I currently have a similar dilemma. I sent my whatsapp number to your email

I did not see your number but I already replied your mail with my whatsapp line

BotafogoJunior:
Hello....I want to contact you,as I would want to check out houses in that your area for my cousin who wants to relocate to Lagos.

OK send a mail or drop me ur contact

Cutehector:
1600 daily multiplied by all the working days in a year minus weekends will give you approx 384,000.

Add it to your rent..


Pennywise pound foolish.

Maybe that is how you see it. That calculation you did is applicable to salary earners that must factor feeding, transport and distance before considering a place.

I am not a salary earner. I am a day earner, a business person. Today I can make 1k while tomorrow I can make 50k but it is certain I have no fix income.

I can overlook the money I spend on transport, if transport itches me too much I can gather a little and buy a small car to drive to my biz area but one thing is certain. It will hurt me and my business to carry that money in bulk every year to pay to a landlord.

Paying more than half a million yearly for a substandard house will itch me as a business person more than the money I spend on transport. Also don't forget that the year runs so fast. You can pay rent now and before you know it's another January and landlord will be expecting his money while you are yet to recover from the last one you paid. And chances of a house of 500k getting increased to 600k OR 700k is quite high, remember this is Lagos Nigeria the laws don't recognize the poor and landlords act with impunity

So Thank you

ThaRealist:
Hey brother , how can I get in touch with you ...

Drop your whatsapp line let me buzz you

You're very stupid to say that to a lady.

Even a prostitute deserves some respect.

If I am the girl, I will poison whenever you try to climb me again

Tokskob2008:
Very glad you didn't go for the high prices and you finally got a place you like which is also affordable cos I remembered I was among those who spoke against it. It's really absurd paying close to a million yearly for rent as single and hustling guy, as you don't work for someone distance shouldn't bother you much na man you be but it's only the transport fare that shouldn't be too much and it seems you've got that covered too so nothing more just enjoy your new apartment...

Apartment searching in Lagos is like writing a very difficult exam, it will take you many trials and enough cash to get it done. House rent everywhere started increasing more since 2012, the Bubu effect

My brother thank you. I remember that your comment.

I actually paid for that expensive one but decided to go through the comments a second time, after that I couldn't sleep then I called the landlord to refund my money, she did and I resumed the search.

It was a bitter experience because my time was ticking and I was spending so much money daily on agents and inspection.

I am glad I got this. I can actually overlook the transport so long as I am not taking so much money to landlord every year.

2022 settled my problem

Good morning guys and happy new year.

Recall that some weeks ago I made a post about my experience searching for a house

https://www.nairaland.com/7484487/which-these-two-houses-should

But after 5months of rigorous search, paying agents and burning an average of 5 to 10k daily on transport and agent all in the name of inspection I finally got a place.

I didn't take the one in ikeja/ogba anymore after listening to suggestions of people here, I abandoned both that of Ogba and Aboru and continued my search.

Someone told me that taking a house of 650k per annum means I will spend the year working for landlord, as a single it may look easy for me to pay but by the time wife enters things may no longer look funny, that was the reason I abandoned the ikeja/ogba house. For me Aboru was never an option because the transportation cost alone is much plus it is flood prone.

My search took me to places like ayobo, iyana ipaja, agege, iyana Isolo, egbeda Berger, Ogba, alagbole, obawole, idinmu, Olodi apapa

One thing I noticed is that there is a sharp increase in house right now and this started since June 2022. Also people will give opinion based on how much they rented their place and how much they are paying not realizing that presently things have changed badly.

So, I go a decent place in an Estate in awodi Ora axis (close to mile 2). It seemed very far from my place of work but one thing that informed my decision is that

1. It is in a gated estate with security
2. The compound is gated with its own security and enough parking space to accommodate more than 8 cars
3. Extremely neat and serene, been there several times without hearing noise or kids jumping up and down, they are at home but always indoor and quiet
4. The rooms are very spacious (unlike the small spaces they showed me and called huge amount)
5. There is running water and a personal prepaid meter for every tenant.
6. Neighbors and passerby testified about the compound that its a good place and there is progress
7. Yearly rent is 300k per annum.
8. Trekkable distance to mile 2

The downside of this place is just that I will spend more on transportation going to ikeja daily about (1600 daily). But I can overlook the transport, I am not a salary earner so there are days I get some kind money like that. But for me to Carry that 650k OR 700k yearly for landlord, it will cause me big headache.

Reason I didn't go-to nearby axis like egbeda, iyana ipaja, agege, ayobo they didn't resonate with my spirit. Ayobo felt like I was going to ogun state, agege and iyana ipaja hmmmmm the environment and faces alone I saw scared me. Egbeda standard housed begins from 500k, didn't want anything close to that.

One thing I learnt is that the houses you see on Jiji, tolet.ng, private property, propertypro etc don't exists.

Those agents upload fine houses with cheap prices to lure you so you can pay their inspection fee then they start showing you rubbish.

I paid over 20 agents in almost every area of Lagos mainland and suburbs yet only Mr Martins in Ogba really worked, it pains me that I didn't get the house from him because he was like a father, patient and wasn't desperate for commission (I will settle him once I settle in the new house)

Please if you need a house around Ogba, Berger, ikeja, Obawole contact mr Martin or Emmanex property 08038221196

We saw several houses some agents were trying to convince me to take, but Mr Martins would tell me the pros and cons of the house and why I shouldn't take it. We saw one like that I liked it but he told me the house belongs to a Baale and he wouldn't want his client to be in a place where rituals take place, I ran away. We saw another place nice house but troublesome landlord, he told me the history of the place and why I should leave it.

DonPADRO:
The city I have in mind as the best fit is Enugu but due to insecurity in the SE I'm open to other opinions.

See let me tell you. I am from Imo state and I schooled in Enugu state.

Enugu is a lovely city (so long as you remain in Enugu metropolis like okpara avenue, new haven, independent layout, presidential layout) aside these places I mentioned others are trenches. When I was in Enugu power supply was topnotch with 24hrs light. I kid you not, this was between 2011 to 2016.

But one prevalent problem in Enugu is their terrible water situation. They don't have water at all even till now. Get ready to push wheelbarrow everyday and sometimes it can get worse that the place you buy water from may not have and you will have to go some days without bathing OR if you have strength to climb hills and go-to their gutter they call stream from faraway distance to fetch water.

One bad side about Enugu people is their hatred towards Imolites (not all but above 60% share same view). I don't know the bad blood between them and Imo people but they definitely dislike Imo people. They have this popular saying that if you see a snake and an Imo person, kill the Imo person first before the snake. They believe Imo guys are cunning and Imo ladies control their husbands OR leave husband house (don't know where they got such narrative from).

Some families will even disown their son or daughter for marrying someone from Imo. This is not hearsay, this is a personal experience, if you know an Imolite based in Enugu ask him about what I am talking about.

They prefer to date Imo guys, use Imo girls but will run to marry their people.

I had a relationship with two girls I was hoping to marry. They told me that I am a calm, caring and loving guy but they can only date me and cannot marry me because I am from Imo and their pple will disown them.

I ended the relationship cos I see no reason dating who I cannot marry.

So I will advise if you are hoping to marry someone from Enugu, be careful, she might just chop and waste your time or even if she accepts her family may frustrate your marriage...

Though Enugu and Ndi 042 are beautiful and decent, if you are lucky to find a good one from a family that doesn't discriminate good for you, else look for other ladies in the state cos there are so many beautiful ladies in 042, avoid those Nsukka, Ubolo, Ezeagu, Enugu Ezike girls they are local, desperate and diabolic

I think the best sets of people in Enugu are Udi and Awgu maybe Nkanu and Aninri

This year I entered without a resolution. Like I am not having positive vibes at all.

I have no plan for the year, I am just having uncertainty.

Ending part of 2022 really got me stressed, frustrated and depressed. I ended the year searching for accommodation which I finally got yesterday and paid after 5 months of rigorous search. That messed up my head

For my relationship this year, I just hope to double hustle save up enough, add another stream of income, put my parlour in order so I can make that girl my wife in 2024.