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lolaredvelvet:
Peter & Paul? pls is this p-square?

Well, if the story is true then she should go for Peter as she's more comfortable with him. No one is in a position to judge is smoking/drinking habit as we ain't perfect. Even the lady in question is fornicating with him! As a Christian he should try and work on his bad habits and pray for God's help.

Pls I'd not Psquare o,the names are not real. You know some guys,they can never accept no sex.

Pls can this thread move to front page?

fritiyo:
op are u sure this story is for ur friend?
Good Christians don't date different people at the same for selfish reasons.
u are a relationsip with one for fun and other one for benefit in kind.
If she is truly a good christian then the second guy is the right option for her. happiness will and fun time will surely come when u both think of how create funny activities in the relationshp or marriage.

As a lady approaching 30,you can't expect her to put her eggs in one basket. What she was doing was just to be open to the good prospects around so she doesn't end up loosing out totally.

Raymondenyi:
for complementary purpose, 1 is giving sex, and the other money....

Op, she should invariably go for Paul ; believe me when I tell u , finance is a very rudimentary part of marriage , and when there is a misunderstanding in that, it invariably leads to collapse of that union..... For Peter to see no reason to release little money (as much as he could) During courtship, same will trail marriage, n believe me it's an implosively impending scenario.......

That's not true. She never wanted to date two guys at the same time but paul was so good to her that she developed feelings for him. She never expected it to turn out this way. Pauls Godliness is very rare and she has always dreamt of having such a man as a husband just that she loves peter more.

Chiam55:
I would advice her to marry Peter because he is the man she understands. He has a great personality compared to paul. He may drink and smoke but unless he is a drunkard I see no problem at least he is genuine because he has introduced her to his family and since she ain't no virgin quit this bs about sex before marriage because Paul sounds like he has something to hide.

Sexual chemistry is important or else you'll be back here opening a thread for her that her husband can't satisfy her in bed. The only reason she would choose Paul is because of his money so if she after money then follow Paul but to me it sounds like Peter loves her. If she aint got no money at 27 smh. She needs to understand money cant buy love. I bet she told Paul she is a virgin lol!

Ps your friend is a

Lol,u nailed it! She told paul she was a virgin because the guy said he was a virgin too. If she says yes to paul now,she has to explain to him what happened to her virginity.

oliidell:
FocusM, Let's do a SWOT analysis. The objective here is to choose who to marry.

Peter
Strenght: 2.1 graduate, funny, sociable, honest, average height, great personality, 2 years r/ship
Weakness: drinks, smokes, frugal, not too fine, no definite date.

Paul
Strenght: better pay, generous, caring, christian, fine, definite date.
Weakness: boring, short, 3 months r/ship, not open, not sociable.

Your friend:
Strenght: Attractive, reasonable
Weakness: indecision
Opportunity: she's in a good position to asess them both and make a choice.
Threath: she can lose them both if her game gets out.

Some home truths:
GF didn't stop seeing peter after meeting paul so she consciously prefers peter and is obviously seeing paul for the money.

She likes peter's swag and company even though he drinks and smokes and just endures paul cos he is finer and more caring.

She dosnt give two fvcks about paul's christianity but feels more secure with him cos he is not demanding and has named a month.

She'll be happier with peter, but he might never become generous and might cheat. Paul on the other hand would be a doting husband but he'll bore her to death. Some things about men don't change.

None of the guys fit her picture of Mr. Right. She wants a tall, handsome, funny, generous dude.

My advice:
GF should strip the two guys of all secondary qualities and ask herself who she genuinely prefers.

Then she should decide what she wants from marriage and what she can and cannot live with.

She is obviously more equally yoked with peter, so I'd rather she sticks with him and try to make him work on his weakness.

2 years over 3 months any day.

Very intelligent analysis. Thank you. She prefers a taller guy because she is not tall not that she has any problem with a guy being short.

Strongfaze:
. You only told us about the guys involved without any idea on her type of person. For me I really can't ask her to dump the non-smoker and drinker.

She is a cool girl. A christian girl. She doesn't drink or smoke. What do u want to know about her again?

Strongfaze:
This is pure fiction.

Its not fiction o. She feels bad dating both at the same time and wants to dispose of one before next month runs out so pls advice her

Vicalloyd:
Iffa have a younger sis

Mehn None of the Aboveee

so what are ur reasons?

So my 27 year old friend is confused. She has two guys who have said they want to marry her before the end of the year and she is worried about who to break up with and who to concentrate on. These is the profile of the two guys.

Peter;
2.1 Graduate of chemistry
Christian
60K salary
Drinks and smokes
Very homely and makes her laugh
Very understanding
Very social
they have had sex many time
they've been dating for about two years
Has introduced her to his family and all close friends.
He plans to marry her this year
He doesn't really give her his money
He is 29 yrs
Not so fine but average height


Paul;
Graduate of marine science
Firebrand christian
100K salary
Doesn't drink and smoke
He is not very interesting to be with
Their moments together use to be boring
they have never had sex.he said he doesn't want sex till after marriage
She has not met his family but he plans to introduce her to them soon
He plans to marry her in september
He seems very happy with her
They've been dating for three month
He always gives her so much money
He is 26 years old
Very handsome but short.


As a friend,I advice her to take paul because he is nice to a fault(someone that will give and give without expecting anything in return) but she said she really loves peter and she is used to him but his smoking,drinking and selfish attitude makes her prefer paul though she is always far more happy to be with peter than paul. Pls advice her. Mature advice from people that have seen life not immature people.

I bought a very fat chicken for easter but before I could slaughter it,it died. I quickly cut off the neck all the same and some blood came out. I don't know what to do now. Should I still go ahead to eat it?

So today,I went out and bought a very healthy chicken to eat for the easter. I left the hen in the veranda and decided to rest a while before slaughtering it. I came out just to find the chicken half dead. I rushed and cut the neck and blood came out. Now am in a dilemma,should I go ahead and eat it? Please I need experienced advice.*crying*

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edwife:
You obviously lack manners,where is the flow here? You are in a public forum seeking for advices and opinions -i don't dig up,but i noticed you opened two threads with different contents,so i needed to check your background and know how to go about your story,but you resulted in being uncouth.

Too many inconsistencies in your story,here is another thread you opened today

I opened the second thread because I thought the first one wasn't successful.I can see u are out to frustrate this thread that's why you are going about saying negative things.

edwife:
Thank you,come and read what she is now saying on the other thread.

. This is one thing I don't like about nigerians,they are always looking for what to criticise,tufiakwa.Whether it is mother or friend I used,I have passed across my message.Why not focus on the message instead of inconsequential issues.Pls change for good this new year cos critics don't go far.I made the second post because I thought the first one wasn't successful.why am I even explaining myself! Haters will always Hate.

F22RAPTOR:
good question

am surprise u guys are being so confused.Common sense is not common at all.

Edwife,can't you see the flow in the two post?You seriously have nothing to say so pls keep your mouth shut let others who want to give their advice do so.

Tnx so much evina,I will try to ask him,just that sometimes it makes you sound desperate.@Coogar,I have heard of many people that met during service getting married everyday.There is no straight rule when it has to do with issues of love.

I feel the best thing to do is to begin to look out for a mature guy ready to settle down because I don't to be heart broken

Tnk you for ur advice but I feel ashamed to ask him if he wants to marry.

Me and my boyfriend met during our service year and we have been dating ever since.I love everything about him and I was looking forward to when we will get married.Recently,he told me he wants to go back and read medicine because that has always been his dream. Am happy for him but am worried about when we will settle down.Am not getting any younger and I don't think I can wait till when he finishes the course before we marry.My friend was of the opinion that he wants to dump me that's why he is doing all that so I will get upset and leave the relationship.pls I need mature advice on how to handle this issue.

My boyfriend just told me he really wants to go back and read medicine because that has always been his dream.After service,I was thinking that we will settle down after at least two years but this medicine issue is killing me.When will he finish the medicine so we can marry.When I told my mum,she said he is trying to dump me,but I don't think so because he asked me if he could pick the direct entry form and I told him to go ahead.I feel like ending the relationship because I can't wait for him to finish the medicine.Am just confuse,medicine is a serious course and he may not think of marriage till after the course.please I need very experienced and mature advice.Thanks
N/B am 26yrs old and he is 28 and we just finished serving.

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Pls friends,am disturbed,I met my bf during service.we are good friend and love each other very much.We plan to settle down soon but the problem is my boyfriend has no job yet and many ready guys have been asking me to marry them.should I continue to wait or just accept one of them?Am 26yrs old.I really don't want to break my boyfriends heart because so many pple know we are dating.am just imagining how he will feel when I post my wedding pix on FB and he will have to explain to all his friends why I left him.also,u can't trust anybody,I may end up waiting for him and he still leaves me and marry someone else.He is 28yrs old.My mum said he is still very young and may not settle down till 3yrs time and I can't wait that long again.pls help me,any one with useful advice.