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dlex21:
Well... It isn't bad though depending on the parties involved... Though there shouldn't be too much publicity cos if for some unfortunate reasons the relationship didn't work out...eyebrows will be raised and questions will be asked.

I once did the same thing but when I realized it was gaining too much publicity, I hid all the pictures asap cos everyone ranging from family to friends, far and wide were like "so na your babe be that" and I don't like such.

So your friend shouldn't be too down about it. He should brace up, work harder, make the thing formal, prove her mom wrong and all will be fine. May God bless our hustle

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DrGroove:
Her mum is right
There is nothing like serious girlfriend
I once uploaded a picture I took with a colleague, just a friend at school on my whatsapp. My parents saw it,all hell broke lose


It's shameful for a girl to be associated with a guy who isn't her husband in public

Relationship should be a secret till it materializes

A man can flaunt 100 girls as girlfriends, another 100 girls are waiting to marry him

But for a woman,once you have been identified with one man...sorry! Other men run away from you and if the relationship ends,nobody gon approach u..nobody wants a leftover.
moreover, It's not just nice to showcase who you are having premarital sex(That's what people do n call it relationship ) with to the world.

Hmmmmm,ok o

Well,my friend(29yrs) and his girlfriend(26)(which he loves so much and plans to marry) went out on a date and snapped some pictures. He uploaded the picture on his facebook wall and the picture had lots of likes. Well,it didn't go down well with his girlfriend's mum who scolded his girlfriend seriously. His girlfriend's mum told his girlfriend that she is messing up her life because if her present boyfriend ends up dumping her,she may not get any decent guy because she has given out too much publicity for a relationship that has not been legalised. She added that the guy has not done formal introduction to the family and has no right to upload her daughters picture in a public platform because that may discourage other serious suitors. My friend has been feeling down since then because they both love each and want to get married but he is still trying to set himself up financially. So is it a bad thing for guy to post his serious girlfriend's picture on facebook and can this discourage serious suitors in future?

xynerise:
I know so

Ok

StealthIdeals:
If you want people to be sure you are a lawyer, endeavour to spell words correctly. That 'am' should be spelt 'I'm', and 'wifes' as 'wives'. Queen's English with its honed usage defines dudes in that profession.

Is that the best u can offer? SMH for ur lack of what to do.

Am a lawyer but I think many men prefer doctors as wifes. However,its character that matters most.

xynerise:
It goes pari-passu in this context. Don't expect the best when you don't give even better.

Don't make something materialistic a priority in your relationship if you don't want him to take "what he thinks is the ultimate" as a priority too

U think so?

Lala247:
Struggling...... abeg ronald4lif explain what his trying to say .. All i see is F word

Its English language o

KiidaACE:
You gat's test who you're gonna get married to,to avoid regrets.

After testing u realise she is not ur type and u dump her. In future u'll be willing to settle with a virgin without testing.

ViralBOY:
What kind of relationship is that waiting with a girl for months or years without sex until u get married. Please come back to the real world

If u r not ready for marriage then stay alone,its not compulsory that u must date someone.

sinaj:
lol...


that's why u mustn't slip wid any nigga dat can't afford dat ring for you

True talk

No guy is worth it except the man that takes the bold step of getting married to you. Imagine,when u date them, the make it look like its by force for them to sleep with u. Yet in future,they seek for a virgin to marry and treat like a precious diamond. I met a guy who told me that the only time he can accept no sex before marriage is if the girl is a virgin. If she is not then he must f..ck her too. Its not like the girl he was dating was eating his money. He is a broke nigga but yet insist that he must f..ck the girl since she is not a virgin. Though the girl doesn't want to sleep with any other guy till after marriage. What rubbish! Men are not just worth it at all. They treat women like trash simply because she has had sex before. So what? If she lies that she is a virgin now,its another issue. Infact I just hate those beings called men. Please ladies,if u are currently sleeping with a guy that has not married u,stop it today because the probability that that guy will marry u tomorrow is very slim. Be smart ladies.

Youngpo413:
they are some few ladies who respects themselves and keep their virginity till marriage,the few are what we want,as for the other cheap ones who slept around were not forced by any guy,they made their own choices,so guys were just helping their ministry to grow.

If I disvirgin a girl,I must make sure I marry her,so ladies should go and marry the guy that disvirgined them period,not taking the overused pusy to another man who will now settle with the crumbs...

As for me,I will marry a virgin,if she likes,let her fall from the sky!

I feel like giving u very hot slap right now.virgin ko virgin ni.

braine:
And what does dat make you?

Its not everything u joke about u fool. If u had a sister or a daughter above 30 years who is not married,would u say what u just said to her face? May God forgive ur stupidity.

adejarebanjoko:
as it is with women so also with men too, pls don't get me wrong i was in a relationship for 6 years with a lady, she went for NYSC and just 3 months into her service she started acting strange, that is how 6 years went down the drain. i nearly died of heart break it took me a year and some months to get over the heart break and now i wish to get back on my feet.

Heya

braine:
Who would marry 28/30 year olds, when there are cute 21/23 graduates ripe for marriage? Lol. They should move to one corner jare.

You are a big mugu

chrisbaba1:
For real, God works..... Me ive been athiest for very long but bro, now no one can tell me God aint real or prayers dont work..... some things are beyond what meets the eye....

So u know God works so why are still an atheist?

abdulslutsky:
Yes, late abacha doesn't look tall when he joined the military. So let him try his luck

Thanks so much.

My younger brother got to the last stage of the immigration recruitment exercise but he is very scared because his height did not reach the requirement. He is just a little short of the expected height. He really fears he may be dropped. Is it fair? Is it his fault that he was short. He didn't create himself. Why does immigration put height as a requirement for employment even when someone is very intelligent and meets every other requirement. Any experienced advice? Has any short guy been employed in immigration before?

Cutehector:
Girls be sayin age is just a number buh they gona be d same ppo dah wouldn't wana marry someone who z yunger dan dem when they r in d same shoes...

By analysis,, its not proper to marry a woman who is yur age mate or older dan u.. Likewise for marryn a guy who is ur agemate or below.

Age is not just a number...

Abi o,u just spoke my mind

folamog:
Make una leave Lisa oh! 5yrs from now she go kneel down for ifa shrine they find life partner.

Lol

jamex93:
she sick gon ooo



na age she want chop??


why r most Nigerian gals like this


now u dey hurt d innocent guy

She wants to marry the guy but fears that she will face challenges in future because of the age.

Lisa(a nairalander who doesn't want to expose her identity emailed me to help her start this thread) is 28 going to 29 and phillip is 27. They were supposed to be just friend but somehow,things went otherwise. Now he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with her and has been asking her to marry him but she keeps refusing because he is 1yr and 6months younger than her. He sees nothing wrong in it but she feels its an abomination and that the younger guy deserves to enjoy a much younger girl. Imagine her turning 40,50 and 60 years old before her husband. Its a very disgusting thing for her. The guy has all it takes to be a good husband except for the age. She has been crying for many days now that life has not been fair to her. Why would the one she loves be younger? She believes she should wait for a guy older to avoid all the shame marrying a younger guy brings. What's you opinion on this. Pls help Lisa and a thousand others out there with the same issue.

iahmed:
buh she bleeps

Lol.

Teempakguy:
There is no bloody way peter is a christian. Also, if she should marry him, she will regret it.

Peter loves God. Even though he smokes and drinks,he never misses church. He plays drums in church. He loves to give to God. He loves the things of God. He use to beg my friend that he will stop smoking soon that its just a bad habit he is trying to overcome.

yollychika:
Paul fit nor get prick oooo....a man nor fit stay widout sex ooooo....

Lol.His decision is purely based on his faith.

Fit2Rule:
Damn! @the bolded. Like some piece of garbage? Back to topic; Let me ask my great grand ma.

Hahahahahaha,u r so funny.

Edusouls:
she dosent like anyone of them, she is a double dater, and a cheat, we were just told of just peter and paul, there still may be silas and james...

Lol

Krasid:
It is so sad that matured people do not know what they want.So you say your friend is a good christian yet is contemplating chosing between a guy that drinks, smokes, has 4ked her several times, and does not support her much financially to a decent guy that does not drink, smoke, is patient enough to wait for sex after marriage despite supporting her financially all because one is fun to be around.It seems common sense is no longer common.BTW, why did she start dating 2 guys at the same time.Maybe she wanted to "explore" like most ladies would say.Anyway let your friend reel out the positives and negatives of both men and see which outmatch's the other.It is already clear who would win anyway.

Note that paul is a year younger than her and she doesn't really like that too.

skajove:
[I think its fiction too... imagine peter and paul. Smokes - dont smoke, stingy and not stingy, interesting and boring, hmmmmm..... quote author=Strongfaze post=33295432]This is pure fiction.

Its very real dear,take it or leave it!

Mhizkel:
Same with guys also oh!

Tell him o,na guys own worst past self