It is not new that homes break this days because of matters that we find simple and Funny. Everyone knows the spouse is our bed rock, pillar, strength, supporter, lover, friend.. Our everything... We are meant to hold onto each other everytime, attending to both needs all the time

Child on the other hand is the joy of union.. Our future... We are supposed to always be there for them at every turn they take.

You shouldn't be surprised that a father would send his wife packing because she gave her child too much attention and ignored him.. Women leave their men because the children has taken their place in his heart....

You realize crazy weird parents having affairs with their children.. Now to reduce jealously and create a healthy family, who do you attend to first when both needs you at the same time?
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Glink2018:
We don hear you own side of the story ....
Let's hear from your bf ....

Oya, what gives her value?

Using I symbolizing when you read you talk to yourself directly.. Pls use some sense

Glink2018:
We don hear you own side of the story ....
Let's hear from your bf ....

Oya, what gives her value?

Did you read it at all? This is talking about every human being.. Can u open ur brain and eye at the same time?. N go read the complete article before u come up saying rubbish

My value as human is the most important thing that must represent me. If I lose my value, I lose everything as a living being. What actually are those things that promotes my value as a person of importance?

MY NAME
As short or long the name can be, it is the number one thing that represents my being. It is very important and fragile as it is what distinguish me from other human. What I do would either promote my name or rubbish it. A name with value opens doors; is a great asset. A name must be treated with high regard and respect.

MY HEART
How I think matters a lot. Every good vibe comes from the heart. I need the goodness of my heart to be able to think of how to create value to ME. I will only reduce my value if I allow my heart to be toiled with and be broken into pain. A sorrowful heart can only produce bitterness. Keep the heart safe and add more value to SELF

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The world knows friendship is good, in fact it is the best, but are you keeping an emotional relationship with your friend?

Emotional affair does not involve sex but you get fond of somebody else who is not your spouse; if not properly controlled can result to sexual affair. You don't have to be in a bad, unhappy relationship, you can actually be happy and deeply spiritual in God.

You don't have to look too far before you get emotionally attached. It can be with a friend, colleague, fellow church member, course mate, neighbour. Someone you click with and love talking to.

How Does It Happen?

1. It starts as a plain platonic friendship with the opposite sex.
2. Always exchanging ideas which is wowing.
3. Give special treatment or preference
4. Always eager to meet, feels sad if a day passes without getting in touch.
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Patience is being calm while waiting for something. To persevere during hardship, hoping for the light at the end of the tunnel. Naturally, at poignant time fear sets in, anger is constant. You develop mood swings very easily within the hour hand. Everything is needed to go back to normal almost quickly, but the good part of it is; times like this is a test of patience and believe in oneself.

There are a million and one situation that could makes one loose patience. It can be from family, friends, job, bus station, store, gathering, a while lot of places. Different situations takes in different attitude, but what allows you make the right decision? PATIENCE. The mind works at its best when calm as a lot of human has made countless mistakes when angry or impatient. You have an appointment to meet and while rushing over, you get knocked over by another person who is rushing to another destination. If you are not patient enough, a fight could start or probably exchange of insulting words. You lose control of the time you were trying to beat in the first place. Anything could happen while the rancor is going on and you really do not want to be seen in that state.

HOW DO YOU KEEP YOUR COOL AND BE PATIENT

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iAudio:
The topic alone shows the question was asked by my Afenifere brother.

Like what do you mean

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Like what do u mean?

Friends are not the people that comes to you every time, but those whose heart are truthful to you. A friend is a partner in crime and in success. Someone who supports you and drinks with you from the same bowl of behaviour; An alike minded person. Friendship is like an ocean which is beautiful to look at, pure, entertaining, but when it hits a storm can be dangerous, frustrating but with time calm down to its calm state.

A friend is like a book that its chapter cannot be completed, it last forever because you keep reading and yet do not get to the last chapter. There is always something new to read in a friend, it just keeps going on and on without a break. Everyone has a friend no matter the personality you carry. It is either they are close by and you know them or they are far off admiring you because you haven't made an opportunity to meet


THINGS THAT SHOULDN'T BE BASIS OF FRIENDSHIP

Money
You can't get a friend by buying them with money but you can afford a want to be loser who comes for the money only. When the money goes away they are out the door, leaving you to learn not to try buy a friend with money if there would be another chance

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OlawaleBammie:

Nope, u missed it, dis is not bn violent against ur offsprings, this is just normal checkmate u do on dem wen dey misbehave, see my brother all the children u re seeing outside der hav different tendencies to go beyond der boundaries, there are some children dat u dont need to touch dem, just scold dem verbally and dey wil start crying, these are the emotional ones, even u as a father wil b mean should u go ahead to flog him/her, dey dont need floggings, dey only need shout, shikena but people like us, ahh people like us, am included oo, hmmm truly i hate it wen am badly worded but dat does nt mean i wont get over ur nerves tomorrow, i bless d day my parent start flogging me i bless the beating me and my mates received during our secondary school days, cus from my js1 to ss3 hardly wil i come across a day i wont recv canes, but today am always grtful to God for how i was handled cus tru it i never, ever misbehaved and now i would just burst into lafter weneva i tot of d past

see if u hav a stubborn lads pls dont spare the rod oo, but if u hav d emotional ones u dont need to touch dem, just shout and dey wil start regretin der actions.

Every Child has a strong willed tendency to be wayward but the fact remains, how did u start the background training of the child... Children who are highly flogged end up getting used to it and begin to find ways to overcome flogging then u need another strategy or increased flogging.... Where as if u had built the foundation on understanding guilt and sourcing other means of punishment the child will get used to it.. N flogging will be rare..... My dad flogged the living he'll out of me n my siblings and guess what we all despise him... Now he is trying to be friends with us because no one really has his time anymore.... My mum flogs but on a rare occasion... She used mostly body language, sign language, things that scared us, and occasionally flogging... My mum is not the perfect one but everyone is still glued to her.. We joke about what different sign and body language meant... I tell u if my mum had also being like my dad, I won't be who or what I am today..... I still do not agree to corporal punishment as a way of training and not saying sorry to your child occasionally is totally barbaric and wrong... I quote occasionally... Not all the time.. But make sure it is understood

OlawaleBammie:

Dont mind dem, even God knows i cant trade our culture in exchange for any other culture in d world, before our parent beat u dey must hav been warning u for days, even weeks before dey finally unleash d wrath in dem. and dey wouldn't hav done dat if u re right with dem, are u telling me u wants to b begged in light of d punishment for ur sins??
What we fail to realize is dat all dis training are to make us more stronger mentally psychologically and even physically among our contemporaries wen we grow old.

So true but do you know you can cause a mental damage to the child that way..... All way round violence doesn't train a child... Such child sees violence as solutions to situation and we have only few who has been able to get over it and refuse to dwell on such life

Stupidmodes:


Look more like childish rant. But let me ask you, do you have kids? If you don't then close the thread.

I do have kids and we are good friends. I scold them when necessary and they understand why. Sometimes they don't and I really don't care as much as the message is passed across and well understood. To my kids they know me as a different person for different situations.. I am a pampering mother, a soldier, a lover, a friend, a bully, a teacher, a pastor, a business partner.... To name a few..... Situation tells how I react, this way am unpredictable. I respect their opinion and they accept mine. No matter what and how many times I say sorry, AM STILL THEIR PARENT, they don't have no choice.. I lead by example

I really don't understand why it's a big deal for parents to say 'I am sorry' to their kids. These same parents will scold a child who refuses to say a continuous thank you for gift that isn't so helpful at the moment. All in the name of being parents, they feel that they are equal the moment you say you are sorry to a child.

Children are human too and they have rights. Parents who constantly would refuse to be sorry for a wrong has a chance of
Not having a good communication with the child
Loosing the child to sharks in the street
Loosing any form of connections
Child seeking any available means of getting out of the house
Getting advice from third parties
Confiding in other people

Children are meant to be our friends, buddies. When you Apologize to your child, train and even spank sometimes, children understand why you spanked them. Being a hard, tough, unyielding parents will only lead you to loosing them.

Be nice, playful, accommodating, apologize, train, communicate, spank and always put them before God.. Only that can you hope for a better future with your child

How does religion affect your marital sex life. You claim to be so religious and deny your partner sumptuous rights of exploring your body. Sex is known as one of the key pillars of a beautiful relationship.. Having to know different styles and being able to explore makes your sex life interesting... Your partner will constantly want to know what move is next or what to do in sex next.
Several excuses given are:
1. The Holy book did not ask us to act like the people of flesh
2. The Holy book says we should stay away from anything not holy
3. The Holy book does not permit us to use vogue language

All of this reason is fake as the Holy Book supports you to enjoy every bit of your sacred relationship.

Sex brings closeness, trust, more love, constant communication, understanding between partner.. It creates special connection when done very well, as in very well.

Stop using the Holy book to deny yourself good sex. You need it, your partner deserves it.. Your body needs that exploring.... Even the men of God closest to God do it way better.... You will be an hypocrite if you keep denying your partner an enjoyable sex life. And don't complain if the sharks out there takes your partner away, don't blame them, blame yourself for trying to be clueless..

lefulefu:
Someone like Eniola Badmus has men dying for her in the streets ad social media then one lady will tell me men arent checking her out cos she's not preety or bla bla bla. The only tin dat will make men not look ur way is if u have spirit husband and probably d spirit husband is d one chasing all ur suitors away cc luminiouz and mikejj i lie?

In a nut shell everyone is pretty on their level and no matter how u look a man will call u except village pple dey pursue u

Does being pretty keep you in a man's house Ladies with low self esteem keep trying to command beauty at all cost.. It is then you realize you have small butt, small breast, your body isn't good enough, your face isn't pretty enough. You keep going from one surgical room to the other just to look your best... Now does doing all this still keep you to him alone?. Even with all of the surgery he still get feelings for other ladies who doesn't even carry everything u have forcefully gotten.
Why have you decided to put yourself through so much stress just to look attractive to a man... A man would love you for who you are no matter the looks... Everyone is pretty in their own small way... Stop being intimidated by others who is lacking in a place you are superior...
Nobody will help you face the trouble and problem at the end.. The guy won't stay when your body give up on you at a later run..

Men know what they want when they see a lady... Treat yourself with care, love yourself, eat healthy, exercise often, love who you are. You are good and pretty enough to attract any sensible man who has good eye.. Do not downgrade yourself just to attract a man.. You will end up getting someone who doesn't love you for who you are but what you turned yourself into and when it's all gone, he would be gone as well

Ladies can't differentiate between a relationship and a gaming zone. It's nice to party, club, be crazy, dress crazy, talk crazy but when you decide to be in a relationship you want a ring, you need to change somethings. Ladies defend themselves by saying, he met me in a club so he can't stop me from clubbing as often as I want. So! If he met you in a club, are you vodka bottle? Different excuses just to remain in the bitch zone.
Men love bitches, they love to sleep bitches, but don't take them home. 95% of men want their woman decent.. You can be crazy but be decent about it.. Why do you think a man will keep his lovely wife at home and cheat with you... When his wife calls him he mutes you and make future plans with her while your future is just to be smashed on the bed and dumped when he gets tired of you.
No matter where he has seen and loved you from, become a better woman. You will just realize the ring and seriousness is not coming but the clubbing, partying and smashing is constant when you let yourself remain in the bitch zone

Believe it or not�

SocialJustice:
Lol, when you eventually get married, you will know how far. Marriage is the biggest gamble we take on. Even a nice girl of 2 years dating before marriage can morph into what you do not understand overnight. Gradually she could push you out or she could start keeping affairs.

Am a positivist, I only look for way forward, I don't look back... Relationship isn't an easy thing but I always find ways even in hard situation

SocialJustice:
How many times have you seen a woman that feeds and phucks her husband well? Girls mostly become a nuisance the moment you marry them and they have a kid in the marriage.

I also acknowledge men are mostly dogs, only the ones who made the decision to phuck one pusssy will do so.

You are very correct on that but should cheating be the next step.. What happened to making it work

pryme:


you should use "some men" more when constructing a sentence about men.
am sorry you are only exposed to good for nothing, two timing ungrateful sons of biitches. this should not make you generalize and think you know all men.

this mentality of yours will make you settle for less when it comes to men, and your abused mind will make you to no longer see a good man even if he right in front of you.

I will put that into consideration but I ain't exposing myself to such men.. Just educating and making eye opening for women

staymore:


Why are you so pained Follar? Please take it easy before you hurt yourself with this mam/woman cheating matter..

Did you say pained? Am not my dear, am just angry at the fact that good women go extra length and is still treated as trash... I only speak the fact and you can't argue you don't know it's true.... Africa culture sees nothing wrong with the attitude of cheating

Phin

Read the part you can but be sure every word is important

bdchange:

I have asked some why they cheat and these are the answers they gave me:
1. He cheats because he can't be eating one type of soup everyday.
2. He cheats because his wife doesn't care on the condition that he must not marry another wife(being a Muslim).
3. He cheats because he has high urge for sex, so keeping one woman is a no(MOST GUYS ARE IN THIS CATEGORY).
4. He cheats because the woman cannot satisfy him alone. But she is okay in other areas.
Let me stop here.

This is so correct and the better women refuse to accept this, the lesser the cheating will be... It's the women that makes them so keen on cheating.. Let's change the mindset

Many people refuse to give themselves life outside a relationship. You are dating a person does not mean your personal life has ended. Yes, you need to be fully involved but not become a glue. Dating a person does not render you immobile, insensitive, unintelligent, liability, fearful.
Men needs space, you don't just automatically snoop on him because he is dating you. You can't keep trying to be everywhere he is, or snooping on his phone. Get busy with meaningful things. Get a life of your own that will promote and improve you. You don't take a relationship as your hustle where all ur finance must come from. The guy is not your daddy, stop putting all your bill on him. Give him room to breath, to think, to grow, to have friends, to go out with friends. Stop giving him excessive calls... Kilo de... Only you 50missed calls... Heart attack is so close to you.. He has to love you and spend time with you but stop being in his hair... Free the guy let him breath... When you are busy and there is growth, the guy will want you more, love you more, respect you more. If u misbehave, remember there are men catchers out there willing to do anything to get him from you
Women are not your slave to use at any free will. You can't just turn her to your cook because she is dating you. She isn't your every day dry cleaner, or your home cleaner. She should choose to do chores out of love not out of duty cos you are dating her.... It is a privilege that you have her because there are a thousand of you hoping you should lose her to them... Treat her nice, she isn't your punching bag, or rag to mop the floor with. She is a woman, your company, your backbone. A good man deserve a better woman and vice versa. A woman is not for your sexual satisfaction, you don't just wake up and keep ordering for sex like it's your birth right.

Every relationship needs nurturing. It's not a do or die affair.. When you have a life of your own even in a relationship, if it doesn't work you will easily pick yourself up and move on and not become a customer to snipper company.

Lilmax
You are who you are and the world is what it is.. The better prayer should be God should save this world from human.. Stop giving yourself excuse of being a cheat... You keep corrupting the world doing that

Tobby20
How can u compare human to food? People who compare a man or woman especially to food or soup are not more than animal variety in the first place... Cheating is totally wrong. Totally wrong, there is no excuse for it

Foodforthought
Have you heard about looking at situation from a particular angle?

Ubunja
By what do you mean of men loves variety... How can you have a good relationship if u are looking for variety of women.. Don't you get scared of Std... Imagine your woman says she has variety of your type...

Miniso
Next time when you want to reply, read it well, digest to fully understand what it means, no body is talking about money or gold digging women. I'm talking about women that sacrifice everything and still get cheated on. I didn't have to explain myself if you were smart enough to understand what I wrote.

A lot of women put in more effort in making the best meal... Even parents drill ladies to cook right because it is believed only that way will she be able to keep her man... The society also believes a woman who can constantly satisfy her man in bed would keep him in check... Yet women go tru the stress of cooking and sexing and men still cheat on them... Hilarious right
And the reply men would give is.. Men are promiscuous in nature,,,, who declared that ??
What fact can prove that? Cheating guys should just go back to mummy and get home training