₦airaland Forum

I guess this is the best advice i have seen on NL in a while

ReddingtonLeke:
At my brother who want advice, I won't av commented here at all if I don't see/feel d need to. I'll try nd be brief as much as I can, bcux d person I already quote already said it clearly. But I jex want to add few talk.
1) my brother, you don't love dix girl out of pity. You don't jex understand or know what love is Yet....you think you do!? You don't. Love is Commitment! Love is a Choice! Love is a Decision tin.... We tend to fall in love with what we give attention to.
2) do you know d value of a woman's true love!? She can burn the whole world, and at the same time give you d whole world. If she knows that it's genuine .
3) What's your priority? Success, love, money, or what? Define it. You're jex thru with your undergraduate level. You're in your building stages of life, you don't need a woman that will give you wahala like all dix slay queens. With good understanding and cards from you, you can build with dix girl. Unless tinx changes and she stops loving you.
4) you guys age 24-19 seems to be very okay, gives you enough time ahead to be prepared and ready, when she'll be ready too. No pressures.
5) I end with dix, you'll get to love her if you open your hear to love her....and the beautiful tin is you can groom, train and develop her to the type of woman you want. God bless. Stay real and keep making progress. I care....value Loyalty above all else.

Quite true...

cummando:
Not all all gee boys are ritualists.....some are just born smart. First class materials. Plus you will never know. Some go use Dunlop slippers waka from egbeda to sango. Trust me these guidelines won't work for some

Have you ever thought about the fact that the family might be ethnocentric?? Why don't they blame theirselves for this problem instead of blaming poor Lola, wasn't she there with Peter right from the beginning (i.e. from the days of bizzy body).....Lemme coman and goan and use my Npower Tab to impact to this students abeg!!!!

mccoy47:
One bad wife can bring the demise of a large family empire!
Guys always be careful the kinda woman you would say "I DO" to.
No be by force to marry girl wey you gv belle!

By the way who was filming it?
Cuz it seemed Paul was talking directly to the person holding the camera i.e Peter

I swear ur case is different!!

ceeroh:
An opportunity to knack beta customers and have a sugar mummy.. What a lucky chap.
God, where is my destiny

Is quite disheartening that she cheated on you though, but you need first to forgive her and let her go. There is no good/tangible reason for you to continue that relationship.
First you need therapy , to push you through this trying times then you need to re-focus your energy on your job if you have one and work to get your mind off her. Secondly if you are buoyant enough you need to take a trip to clear your head to enable you have your life back because it seems she is your world.
Thirdly, to make it formal you need to inform your parents and her parents that you cannot continue with the planned marriage plans and state cogent reasons for your actions. I pray may Almighty God see you through this period.For personal counselling hit me up directly.

GudPpleG8Nation:
I'm typing this with heavy burden in heart. I'm getting crazy and weeping.

I met this lady over 6 years ago during my higher institution days, she was a fresher while I'm in my semi final year in school. Things were going well, we had sex after two years of the relationship(I'm the one that disvirgin her).

I have been very caring, stood by her and also,I let go of any ladies that comes my way. I didn't want anything that will stain the relationship. That doesn't mean I'm perfect however I have been trying my best to make her feel comfortable, loved and happy.

I started feeling comfortable and worried about my future with her because I discovered that anytime we had a misunderstanding, before you know it she has find a guy she will be dirty chatting with. She always say she's doing that to hurt my feelings.

I proposed last year, met her mum and one of her uncle and introduced her to my parents officially. Presently, waiting for her extended family to send the list for the traditional marriage.

I traveled to Ibadan on Friday to spend the weekend with her, on Sunday I just took her phone to watch movie when a Whatsapp message, I checked it and I replied the message. The guy called her, she was reluctant to pick the phone, she picked and spoke with the guy. After which the guy messaged her on Whatsapp that he called to confirm she's the one chatting with him and not her bf. I play along and started chatting with the guy. The guy was telling her to come visit him, I started twisting the guy and he was splitting out how he won't touch her when she comes. I confronted my girl, it took her over 8 hours to confessed that they had sex.

Jesus! This is a lady I invested a lot on, build my world around, every other ladies are shit in my presence. Even when I had 1000 of reasons to let go, I still stay with her but right now my world is shattered, I'm going crazy.
I need help because I'm dying, where will I start from (I'm 30 years old). Every negative thought of this world is running through my mind (from committing suicide to killing the guy to making the girl useless to herself for the rest of her life)

Thumps up to you man.....truly remarkable story!!

Officialgarri:
THE END !!!!

SMH

rheether:
I pity you

U see ya sef!!!!

ijobaooorun:
I will try this sex one day

SMH..........How u take know