₦airaland Forum

Justme556:
He was not ELECTED in the first place.

Nigeria is not a Democracy so the very mention of Election is pure absurdity

saphiere:
Rubbish talk. i will not pay.
I will not pay TAX. My income is not from Nigeria. I am already paying tax to the US govt.

MrPresident1:
Is a nice something for the country

saphiere:
Rubbish talk. i will not pay.

Kobojunkie:
Let me get this straight! You were looking for a free booty call or maybe even a situationship, and after finding you a broke orphan, you thought that by buying her drugs when she was sick, she would be the perfect girl for your private use? She would have made you a perfect prey, but fortunately for her, she met other women who called her back to reality, and got her to realize that her worth as a woman was not tied to her being an orphan but in her having valuable emotional, physical, and mental energy which most crave and should rightly not be able to access for free? 🥱🥱🥱

Goodmarlian:
22

shadrach77:
Happy birthday Bassey

Cmanforall:
Happy birthday Bassey!
You have shown dedication to Nigeria!

VaginaAcademic:
Happy Birthday Ankara Bassey the solid rock

brain54:
Have you ever been involved in an accident...?


Do your dad and mom have to die before you experience trauma?

Beremx:
He didn't die in the crash so why won't he fight? What you should say is he'll never visit Ogun state again

Solofresh2:
who told you he has made enough to last lifetime?
Do you know how long he will live and who told you he has made enough 🙄

brain54:
Which one is appetite again...

Is it eating competition? If he doesn't have any serious injuries that prevents him from fighting which one is appetite there?

It may only take him a while to get over the physiological effects.

When I had an accident on kano road while heading back to Jos it took me a couple of months to start driving again because of the physiological effects.


But I don't even see how any such trauma can affect his boxing career since it's not connected.


I could continue and do every of my other daily routines and activities I just had the fear to drive until I gradually adjusted.




AJ would bounce back if he wants!

GanagiBitrus:
I can see your problem is you are confused about the existence of such powers.
Better take a stance, or you make yourself gullible to manipulations by charlatans.

GanagiBitrus:
You claim you have Odeshi, but you can't present yourself to test it with AK47.
&in this era of cameras & social media, no single video evidence to prove it's existence.

Well, I have no problem if you choose to believe in such powers, but you make yourself gullible to exploitation by spiritualists & charlatans.

GanagiBitrus:
Juju & supernatural beliefs only exist in the minds of people who believe in them.
To an extent, it works for them.

But it can never be empirically proven, else such things as Odeshi would have been mass-produced as bullet proof vests.

Gerrard59:
This;


Then this. Why should his friends who are better than him associate with him whereas he should not associate with his friends he is better than?

Low trust society. So much fear everywhere.

Brendaniel:
Like I said you don't know the Igbos...

lawani:
They called it a liberation army and Colonel Banjo agreed to lead it. He chickened out when he encountered resistance in the Midwest and realized people in the west would resist too then he also did not agree with Colonel Ojukwu on some issues leading to the delay. Maybe if he had not agreed to lead the army the Biafrans would not have moved their troops westward

Brendaniel:
I am not here to argue about the Biafran war but just let you know that the Igbos do not tolerate oppression, yes we might be quiet now for certain reasons but does not mean we tolerate oppression, that a lion is not roaring at certain times does not mean it is weak or subdued.

Lalami3232:
Some of una get family problem!!!
USA wey millions of people dey try to go, una get opportunity to go there and una go dey cause nuisance for there. Oya welcome back home na, I believe we still have a space left for you to continue your agbero work.

Brendaniel:
I'm not Ojukwu and the information you posted there is not detailed enough.

Brendaniel:
No, I have something but you can't see it because you don't want to, on Biafra war, that was what the Igbos did and didn't succeed at the time...

Brendaniel:
You are making me laugh here because if by now you don't know the Igbos and with the things I have shown you then even if I list more, how do you convince me now that you will know?

I'm telling you

You don't know the Igbos

Brendaniel:
So Biafra were winning the war right, how were they supposed to completely win the war and end it?

See, you don't know the Igbos, don't just worry yourself about me mentioning anything because if by now you don't know the Igbos after living with them this long then I doubt telling you may help you...

That's why I said you don't know the Igbos...

Britain who kept referring to the Igbos as rebellious during colonial times, you think they just used that word for fun?

They knew what their eyes saw with trying to subdue and control the Igbos

You don't know the Igbos...

They were the only tribe the British called rebellious in Nigeria, go and read many manuscripts of the colonial times in Nigeria...

You don't know the Igbos even after staying so long with them, one of the major reason they are hated by the Islamic north and the Tribal south west...

You don't know the Igbos...

Brendaniel:
Winning a war that has not ended is different from winning a war that has ended, then for your separation analysis, you don't know the Igbos that's why you talk this way, Igbos will keep going to other regions to make money, that is Igbo for you, so using that as a yardstick for separation is not logical for an Igbo man.

Except the people there become hostile then we might leave, separation is different from repatriation, we don't want to be Nigerians, that is the major point, are Nigerians not living in almost every country of the world, are Yorubas not plenty in UK who are not British citizens?

So why can't Igbos be plenty in Nigeria if they separate and have their own country?

Why must Igbos case be treated differently by you people?

Don't you see there is a problem with you people and your type of ideology?

You are equally free to come settle in Biafra land, we don't just want to share government and citizenship with you people, is that too much to ask for?

Oyinbogyal:
My mother never took him back.
This is about what I believe he was planning to do if she ever did forgive him in the future.

For years, my father was asking my mother to reconcile and resume the marriage while hiding the fact that he had another child.

What I believe he was planning is this:

If, at some point, my mother had forgiven him and allowed him to move back into the home as her husband, he would have secured his place in the house first.

In Europe, once a married spouse moves back into the home, it is very difficult to remove them again unless there is clear legal proof of abuse or another serious incident.

After moving back in, he could then reveal that he had a child all along.

At that point:
• my mother would obviously be angry
• she would likely say she no longer wanted to be with him

But because he would not be physically abusing her, there would be no immediate legal grounds to remove him from the home without a long court process.

So even if she emotionally rejected him, she would be legally and practically stuck dealing with him inside the marriage and the home.

That is why I believe the truth was hidden:
• not because of sex
• not because of culture
• but because revealing it earlier would have prevented reconciliation entirely

This is about withholding critical information to influence consent and control outcomes, not about polygamy.

Even in cultures where polygamy exists, people are told the truth before decisions are made.
Here, the truth was hidden on purpose.


Is this nollywood? He wanted to willingly deceit my mother into taking him back to the house so he can then reveal he had a child and effectively trapping my mother into a marriage

Oyinbogyal:
I’m mixed and living abroad. My mother is European and my father is Nigerian. My parents separated over 10 years ago, but they never officially divorced — they were legally separated.

The separation happened because my father did something very serious to my mother. In Europe, you cannot be removed from the family home simply because of marital problems. A married person is only forced out by the courts if something very severe happens. That is all I can say for privacy reasons, but it’s important context.

About a year after they separated, my father started begging my mother to take him back. This wasn’t occasional — it went on for years. At the same time, he was involved with a Nigerian woman from his own tribe. Behind that Nigerian woman’s back, he was still pressuring my mother to reconcile. My mum refused, but he never stopped trying.

Fast-forward to December 2025. Even this year, my father again went to my mother and asked her to get back together with him.

Then on Christmas Day, he finally admitted — not to me, not to my mother, not to all of us directly — but to my youngest sister, that he has a 9-year-old son he has been hiding from everyone. He then made my sister pass the message on to the rest of us. He could not say it to our faces himself.

What shocked me most is that this child was born about a two years after my parents separated — meaning that all the years my father was begging my mother to reconcile, he already knew he had a child elsewhere. He deliberately never told her… bear in mind this child lives in the same country as us in Europe but he is just been hidden.

When I called him to confront him, he confirmed everything. He also said something that disturbed me deeply: that he feels no real affection for the child and that the boy will never replace his “real family,” meaning us. Hearing a man speak that way about his own biological child was horrifying.

This is a fully Nigerian boy, same tribe as my father. Knowing my father’s own childhood — where he suffered badly under a cruel stepmother — I would have thought he might see himself in that child. But instead, he has completely compartmentalised him.

Meanwhile, the child’s mother still wants to marry my father. From what I can see, he continues to keep her hopeful without fully committing, while still fantasising about getting back with his legal “European wife” who doesn’t want him. He seems to keep multiple realities open at once.

What made everything click for my mother — and for me — is this:
If my mother had agreed to reconcile, my father could have moved back into the house legally as her husband. Because he would not repeat physical violence, she would have had no immediate way to remove him again via legal system/court. Only after securing his place back in the home could he then reveal that he had a child all along — effectively trapping her in a marriage built on deception.

That realisation is terrifying.

I also feel deep cultural dissonance. I told my father plainly: my mother is European. This kind of secrecy is not culturally acceptable where we live. It’s not “family affairs” or something to be normalised. Trust matters differently. Consent matters differently. So he cannot assume my mother will want him after hearing the news, she is not like the Nigerian ex you had a child with - in Nigeria it is normal for a woman to beg or wait for a man to marry you, in Europe it is shameful so he needs to stop thinking my mom will accept this.

This entire situation has destroyed my respect for him. I don’t feel anger as much as disgust and shame. I’m embarrassed to even explain this to my European friends. I feel like I’ve lost faith not just in him, but in my ability to trust what I thought were shared values.

I’m now engaged to marry a loving European man, and if I’m honest, this experience has made me afraid. Afraid of repeating cycles if I marry a Nigerian man. Afraid of normalising things I don’t believe in. I don’t reject my Nigerian heritage — I love the food, the music, the culture — but when it comes to marriage, honesty, and responsibility, I feel completely disconnected from what I’ve seen modeled.

Right now, I don’t even want to be around my father. I feel like something fundamental has collapsed, and I don’t know how to rebuild respect where trust no longer exists.

I’m sharing this here because I genuinely don’t know how to process it alone, and I want perspectives — especially from people who understand Nigerian family dynamics — without judgement.

ukaface:
See them
Typical character of Nigerian men
They would rather blame the woman for their bad character. God forbid a Nigerian man’s ego to be bruised over a woman.

Girl, tell your mama to go on with whatever decision she has made, Inshort she should never consider going back to him.

SeeWahala:
Help me tell op that our Nigeria has already been divided into sizeable portions and distribution via 'take-away' is currently ongoing 🤗

Brendaniel:
For you to say Igbos initially won the civil war means you know little to nothing about everything you wrote here, Igbos never initially won the war and did not win that war, you know little to nothing about Nigeria, no wonder you people behave the way you behave, you people are either not detailed, ,misinformed, wrongly assume or just live in self deceit and denial...

That's one major reason Nigeria is the way it is since you people and the north have been handling Nigeria, if as at now you don't know that Nigeria was not supposed to be a country and may never function as a country, you are still far from reality...

I will tell you another major problem you people have with the Igbos, Igbos are explicit with the truth and that's one thing I have noticed you people hate.

You know little to nothing about Nigeria or just simply living in self denial, look at the trajectory of Nigeria, you think Nigeria is where it is today because of PDP and APC?

No, Nigeria is where it today because of ideological differences, some countries wouldn't have lasted 5 years with such ideological differences, we don't reason alike...

What kept Nigeria to exist and stay a bit united this long was the long years of military rule back to back in the past, I know you may not understand but once civilian rule starts these ideological problems starts springing up, I've done my research and found out that the longer democracy stays the more these ideological problems of Nigeria may keep getting bigger, then end of problems is will either be division or killing the wrong ideologies of certain regions, I'm not here to support military rule, no, but based on my research this is just Nigeria for you.

Even the British knew this but somehow they wanted Nigeria as a country for their selfish interest, and that is what you people are killing yourselves and your fellow African tribes in Nigeria to keep existing...

You know little to nothing about Nigeria if you actually believe what you wrote up there...

Arda1000:
lmfao I guess that’s why it’s now a normal thing