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Thanks all, actually my heart has been telling me to quit but I need to confirm so as to not to start blaming mysekf, what two or more people said cannot be lie. So thanjs once again.

This my relationship journey, I wonder how it will end because I have not really been lucky with this thing called love, I don't. Know if I should just forget marriage and focus on other things.

I am in a long distance relationship with a guy from my home town, but we hardly communicate as we should considering the plans we have about this relationship from the onset, we are looking at marriage, we are both mature, no longer kids, he makes me feel so lonely and alone, he hardly calls and when I call he hardly picks call, he usually comes online at midnight and I ask him to always wake me up so that we can talk but he doesn't do that, therefore this our so called relationship lacks what would have made it one.
I am thinking of calling it quits, this thing is making me loose focus, I am now getting frustrated and I don't like it, I have voiced it out to him several times but he refused to change, maybe I am the one calling it relationship, maybe to him I am a mere friend, I don't know.
So I want to call it quits and know that I don't have anybody instead of going through this pain.
Am I acting hastily or should I just ignore him instead of ending it by myself.
Please I need mature advise for this is a sensitive thing. Thanks all.

byvan03:
Fromusa you did nothing wrong, you have a right to know his plans. I also think he is developing cold feet already before whatever you told him, a guy that wants to marry you will go right ahead and do just that. Please don't allow age box you into a corner and stop begging for doing nothing wrong.


Better concentrate on the one you are seeing.

Thanks dear

Adaobi12:
For one month you have begged, its time to move on. Have been there, have experienced such, though mine isn't about marriage. but someone that truly loves you won't allow you to plead for such a long time.
Move on, show him you can do better without him. its hard, but a lady gat to do what a lady should do. save the little dignity you have left.

Thanks dear.

pinkiberry:
@Fromusa
your supposed boyfriend that base abroad doesn't love you as such. he overreacted because of a minor discussion you guys had. you are in your 30's and he dont expect you to wait for him while he may even be dating a white girl over there. Blocking him on fb I think is quite childish but the deed has been done so I will advice you to move on with the new guy and get to know him. if your Yankee bf loves you , he will come back, they always do.

you didn't making a mistake in asking him that, if am in your shoes, I will do same.

dont call him again, it makes you look desperate. Allow him to call you.

you acted hastily by blocking him.

Thanks, I may unblock him but have stopped calling him sha. Let him call if he wants if mot life goes on. I don't really like the new guy, his character seems shady so I am not even seeing him.

I love this topic and I believe I will geta good advice from the sisters here.
I met this guy last year May when he was almost leaving the country, he is based abroad, since then we have been skyping and talking on phone every other day, we Have been talking marriage; of how he will pay my bride price when he comes back this year 2016, but something happened he postponed his coming back till late this same year.
Before Easter someone introduced guy to me cos am in my 30's, so everyone is bringing marriageable guys to me whether they are worth it or not; I asked my boyfriend if he is serious about marriage when he come back, e asked me why I brought up the topic again after we have concluded and I told him cos my friends where asking me, that maybe they want to introduce someone to me, he became quiet, the next day , he sent me a text that he does not think I am the woman for him, that I should move on.
This thing happened almost one month now, I have been texting and hoping he will change his mind, all to no avail, though I have stopped calling and blocked him on Facebook, my question is ; did I make a mistake in asking him again, did I act hastily by blocking him on Facebook and stop calling him, should I continue to call and text him even when he ignores him.
Ps; I am really into this guy, and it pains me whenever he ignores me hence the blôcking and not calling him again and he is from a broken home and this made him skeptical about marriage.
Thanks for reading this long epistle, hoping to get a good advice.

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I wish for money to pay my shop rent which is overdue actually, also pray for more connection for my business.
Also wish for my love this time to last forever.
Wish for peace and harmony in this country.

My dear sorry for ur breakup but let me advise u from experience, my ex boyfriend left me in my 30s also last year and got married to another woman this year January, reason was that I am not tall enough for him, but I can tell u today that I am always singing songs of praises cos Love found me, a much more better person than I ever imagined, love will find u when u least expect it, just be focused, concentrate on ur work or business,take care if urself, love urself, live ur normal life, make friends, catch fun but don't forget God, get closer to God more and u will see everything falling in place.
You will get over him, you will not die from heart break, the earlier u try to forget about him the better for u.

My dear, there is no need to be depressed, just thank God that he has revealed his real character, now you know who your friend is.
Don't do anything because it is not in your hand to revenge, vengeance if for God, maybe that job is not meant for you, when next you are going job hunting it is better you go alone because the heart of man is very deep. This is a new year, lots of opportunities abound so you will definitely get another job that will be better than the one you lost.
Just keep him at arms length because he is not a true friend.
Try also to improve on you English as that will also help you a lot. God bless you.

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I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years because of lack of commitment on his part and I got to know that his elder brother introduced a girl from their village to him and he went home to check the girl out and the girl has agreed, now I am very scared of entering into a new relationship because I don't know how to trust a man again, please how do I get over this fear?

Thanks all for this great advice, I have heard all you said, financial challenge won't stop him from taking me to his village if he travels, so if he travels without me this Xmas then come January I will call it quits, BUT if he didn't travel I will give him till Easter then call it quits if I didn't see any action from him.

I know this is not the right place to post romance issue but I believe I will get a very good advice here. I am a 29 years old business lady, I'm in a relationship with a 34 years old man, we have been going out for one year and eight months now, everybody assumes we are getting married, we also discuss the future together about family and children, but he has NEVER asked me to marry him, I made it known to him that if I don't travel with him this Xmas that it will be the end of the relationship, he kept on laughing and told his friends that I want to leave him, recently he has been having financial challenge and I'm not sure if he will travel for Xmas.
My question is should I go ahead with my plan of leaving him if he eventually travel or should I wait till he is stable then I will know what is on his mind?
By the way,he likes surprising someone, so I don't know what to do, please advise me. Please no yabbing, no one is too old to learn.