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Biodun1929:
OP, I was EXACTLY like you a few years ago...I mean to a T. I still hate going out, but I am better now. First of all, if you masturbate, stop it...or at least reduce it drastically. If possible, have constant sex...lots of sex (ofcos with the same person). Then focus on something, one thing...till you become an expert in it. It could be anything...animals, writing, politics, power of the mind...anything. Just be so good at it that people have to come to you whenever they want to know about it. This will boost your self esteem. Start with this...You will get better.

OK,thanks alot

TimiRume:
Make videos of yourself before leaving the house and watch them immediately. Do not leave the house until you make a video. This would strengthen your confidence muscles. Concentrate on your positive gestures, your words while seeing the video, and don't pick too much faults.

And Or,

Change your walking or sitting posture. Walk with outstretched legs and your head upright.If you overburden your legs while walking, or sit wrongly it would not send enough energy to your brain. The body function can be distorted by any little change we make. Think about what you started doing to your physical body 6years ago and stop it.

thanks, that's a great physical education tutorials

Elliot2:
u can't experience this shit without becoming a vaseline crew member;they must go together. It is a shitty poo situation. I suffered it for over eight years, but my saving grace was my roomie back then in sch. Bad nigga reformatted me.

No oo please don't generalize oo...I don't MASTURBATE

dicksonadams:
Take fancidar

Fansidar?? No be Malaria oo?

webtutorr:
Just start practicing to do those things yu have phobia for and u will get better soon

thanks

Itzurboi:
It is not a problem, that's just who you are...
**Modified
You need to accept, embrace yourself for who you are. Has it occur to you that there are people who wants to be of your type, just like you are wishing to switch side.
For me, going to see a professional in this case is just like trying to submit yourself for a new phobia test...
Why am i telling you this, i am like you with little difference.

ok,yes there are.

Thank you.

snowblaq:
You'll see a general practitioner.. ..who would then refer you to the appropriate specialist.

thanks

Wizdray:
Same here. Can't stand infront of group not to talk of crowd Wentin man go do abeg. Mine is from childhood, seems I inherited it

Your case is same as mine ooo,but I can talk in crowd.. Maintaining eye contacts is my problem.

Coolbrisk:
I use to be like you

How do you get of that situation?

Apcboy:
.How many friends do u have?
.Pick a outdoor hobbie or sport
.Try not to stay indoor everytime
.Try to chat more with friends online it will build confidence
.Apply for a job


BTW i know u must be a strong vaseline extremist

My friends are my course mates and classmates during secondary school days. Noo oo ,I DON'T MASTURBATE OOO

I have a job

Thanks alot

spencekat:
Is just the mind.Work on your mind.

OK,thanks

Hedonini:
Hang out a lot, even if alone at first. Drink a few beers. Hook up your dream girls (they are closet runs girls, you would see them if you hang out a lot and know what's up). F.u.ck a lot. I repeat, fuu.ck a lot. The experience of demystifying your dream spec does wonders for your Psyche

You would see things, experience things, learn things. Your body go come down.

Social anxiety is a product of isolation and exclusion. If you defeat isolation and exclusion, then say bye to social anxiety. Soji yourself by following the instruction in my first paragraph. And thank me later.

hahahha@ first paragraph... I don't drink runzz...I am married oo.Thanks a lot for your kind suggestions

lepasharon:
For 6 years? What made you come like this?

Actually,it started during my final year in school.I was a hardworking student then but couldn't get d CGPA I wanted coupled with financial problems I was facing then

Alepa:
How old are you?

I am 29years old

Dreambeat:
I would suggest you see a psychiatrist.There are some behavioural therapies (e.g CBT ) that you would benefit from.You may also need medication if necessary.

thank you

mightyhazell:
Sociophobia...there has to be an underlying cause. Were u abused physically or emotionally as a child? Were u restricted indoors mos times? were ur parents/guardians paranoid about the world? (evil ppl,witches,poison vendors etc)?

U need psychoanalysis psychotherapy and u need to be more focused on real goals and motivations like money making.. These will help bolster your confidence and make u forget to some extent, people's perceived scrutiny Towards you..

No,I wasn't abused physically or emotionally. No o,my parents never restricted me. My parents are none of d above listed. They interact freely.My dad is an academician.
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Thanks alot

PapaNdiGuy11:
Self discovery

pls explain

anselm791:
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. WhatsApp - 07032051102

Please check your WhatsApp, I have sent you a message.

teabing:
I think masturbation is the cause, i experienced this back in the days.. The feeling is crazy you walking the street and having the thought that everybody is looking at only you.

No oo,I don't masturbate oo

oasis10:
I use to be you, but my elder sister helped me, she will always say that eye contact is the best means of overcoming this, learn how to maintain eye contact, always say to yourself that human eyes can never kill me, say it to yourself as you maintain eye contact, soon you will be fine.

thanks a lot,I will try this

Emzyme:
story of my life


its hard living this way

i think mine's even more severe

chaiii,so how do you find a solution or remedy?

dominique:
A psychoterapist should be in the best position to assist manage the condition.

ok,thank you

dominique:
What you described is a condition called Agoraphobia. Go read up on it

Pleas if I am to visit a hospital, which type of Doctor should I see ? Psychologist,psychotherapist, etc? thanks

dominique:
What you described is a condition called Agoraphobia. Go read up on it

OK,thanks a lot for your suggestions.

I will read on it

Cc Dr Lexusgs Dr Uche

Doctors in d house

Good evening

For the past 6 years I have been having social phobia or anxiety... to the extend that

1. I hate working along a crowd or an open place...especially when I am alone
2. I find it difficult to maintain eye contacts when communicating
3. I feel nervous working along a street ,etc
4. I like staying alone especially indoors.


Doctors in the House,pls what are the possible solutions or remedies to SOCIAL ANXIETY


Thanks alot

Auladimeji1:
Iron pant

hhhaha so that it expands directly proportional to d increase in size of d something

of course I can do it.Please what's wrong with that?

So far I love her and I can spend my hard earned last kobo on her...I see nothing wrong with washing her pants,bra,etc

I can even wash and iron it

nursennenny:
I think I can render some help.I am a nurse n Nnenna by name.I can recommend some drugs cos it has worked for many others.Call me on 07037257678 if u are interested.

I am interested