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Riskie:
As long as you did not choose your sister's husband for her she has no right to choose who you date. You should tell her this. Maybe there are things you don't like about her husband, but I'm sure you don't make a fuss out of it. In the end your sister will not be the one to live with your guy, so it's honestly none of her business. All your family can do is give you advice. They have no right to impose anything on you. Your bf seems to be handling the situation in a mature manner and he should continue to do so. Maybe your sister will come around eventually when she sees that he is kind and patient. If not, then oh well, it is not her life.

No. . Actually i really like her husband. Infact when they were dating, I get along really well with him. I purposely mock him the other day cause I wanted her to feel how exactly how I feel even though I have nothing against him. I just wanted her to stop mocking my bf and thats all. but seems to me the other day, she dont seem to get the picture I guess.

brutal:
Damn ur sister.there's nothing 2 be confused about.she mussn't force anything on d poor guy.if i were him i might hit and teach her some lessons.

Oh nonono. . . One thing about my bf. He does not agree to hitting a woman ooo. . . If he gets mad, he would just go for a walk and than when he feels better than he would come back. Thats just him

patwhizkid:
May 27th

Huh same like my bf

Tatase,

Ok, thanks. Ill try that and see how it goes. have you ever had this problem before?

Tatase:
I think to keep the peace just keep your love life (with your boyfriend) separate from your family life (with your sister) for now. They don't have to be best friends, even though obviously it would be easier if they at least got along.

There's no real need for your sister and your boyfriend to interact since they can't get along but make time to hang out one-on-one with your sister because it's important to maintain family ties and also its not nice to ignore your family/friends just because of love. However, when u guys are hanging out, just keep the discussions off your love life and if she asks about him, just tell her that you don't like what she has to say about him but that YOU like him/he makes u happy, and then change the subject to something else.

Also don't say bad things about her husband and if she persists in talking badly about your boyfriend, excuse yourself from your hang out session and leave so that things don't get into a nasty screaming match again.

Well the problem is that if he comes to my hometown, he automatically stays in my family's house and my sister is always here as well so how can I avoid? its really impossible ooo

However, yeah i would try to do the part where I tell her and dont want to talk bad about her husband.

biina:
Qs:
1. Does she say them to his (ur bf's) face, and if not does ur bf know that she says such behind his back?

She says it infront of his face and also behind his back but infront of my face all the time. He knows and I know he does not really like it but he just kept quiet. And he tells me that even if my sister slaps his face, he is going to take it in and going to swallow it cause he knows that he will never have a fight with a female no matter what. thats all he said.

biina:
2. Are your parents and/or her husband aware of what she says?

My parents is aware of it and thats why my mom always tells her off and than theres the fireworks going on after that between my mom and my sister. My father usually do not really like to get involve in conflicts as such so he leaves my mom to do the talking most of the time. As for her husband, he is not bothered on what she says most of the time and yes, he also aware of it.

biina:
3. Whats ur bf's opinion of ur sis?

My bf aklways says that my sister is an ajebota (well, I have to admit it is quite true ) and he always says that no matter how she treats him, she would have to admit that he is dating me

biina:
Your best option is to avoid having to choose between your bf and ur sis, as they play different roles in your life

Just that I dont know how much more can I take from her mouth. . . Just because he is a foreignor, he has to work harder compare to everybody else! I have a guy whom likes me alot before and he is a Malaysian and even though my sister dont really know him that well and also I dont introduce him to her, she likes him alot regardless of whether if he has done anything or have not done anything. . . so I just dont know what is up with her.

LOL Ok. Stop playing around now. . . u can do whatever you want to do. . . I dont really care just stop playing around and stop bugging me!

bloody hell!!!

is this like a joke?

u need to give me some time naa cause i was something else beforebecoming a catholic. am still new at this though.

I had some nasty past history before so uhm. . . In time bro. . . In time. . .

So have you decided where you wanna go for your work? actually asia is ok just that you have to becareful at the beggining than after that if you have friends its not thast bad.

URGH!!! Now Im confuse!!

bloody hell.

I hope so iice.

speaking about my grandparents in the past washing clothes. . . I honestly got oofended when there was one time we went to a chinese restaurant to eat and my father ordered Chicken Feet Stew. Well. . . when we were young, we use to eat it alot just that it has been such a long time that we have not eaten it and my sister was complaining saying that those chicken feet is dirty and disgusting because it touches the ground and it steps on all those shit and all. . . I was thinking as if she dont eat it before like all the time.

I dont know what is going on with her. . . But I came to a conclusion that I just feel like Im on my bf's side and not hers especially when I think that she is wrong.

minto:
You may be right but in this case, my friend seem to be the major problem in his marriage.

what did he do?

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Tough situation. I always thank the stars for my brothers
I agree with Topup on the heart to heart talk. If you used to be close and tell each other anything, i think you have to talk and hopefully it's works out. If it doesn't, at least you told her what is in your mind and heart. Maybe if she saw that foreigners aren't that bad

I know exactly what you mean by being offended. My SIL always flies into some rage when someone says shit about my bro or the family Warrior princess na wetin we dey call her [/color]

we did the talking and thats how we ended up fighting. My sister is a hot tempered person and hmmm. . . its hard ooo. . . I told her one day that i dont like the way she talks about my bf and I would appreciate if she does not talk like that and than she said i cannot help it if your bf is from Bushland. . . She said it cause my bf likes cooking at home instead of eating out in restaurants and also he washes his clothes using his hands instead of a washing machine and stuff like that.

And soon I talk bad about her husband and than she got offended and then I told her if she feels offended, ensure she dont ssay those harsh thing about my bf again and she started throwing like chairs and glass and slippers at my area. . . Hmmm. . .

davidylan:
she's racist? Oh well except to whites of course.

no, I cannot say she's a racist but maybe she is the type of person whom is not that sociable or adaptable to different things. I tbink because of our closenest with her, she does not want me to move out of the country.

SeanT21:
DO NOT TAKE SIDES.***Keep them away from one another.Do not talk to your sister about your Bf and do not talk to your bf about your sis.***Stay Neutral.

but wont that be worse off? She will continue to mock my bf no matter what and our relationship will be far distant.

topup:
[color=#008855]It depends on how much I love him, family will always be family and if he is worth fighting for, I will fight for him, and pray that my sister comes down from her high horse.

I know how much responsiblity will be on my shoulders, having to reassure her that she's not been replaced and such.

I think this can be sorted over a heart to heart conversation, it works all the time for me and my sis, we're very close (used to be a lot closer though ). The heart to heart reassures the sister, where they stand in the other sister's life and let's both sides understand the other.

If you just fancy this guy, I still think try your best with the relationship and just ignore your sister, but if you are sure he is THE ONE, you should fight for him and have the conversation.
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Well, we have been together for 6 years now. And Im basically always very offensive when someone bashes him up. And it gets to my nerves when my sister bashes him and always has something bad to say about him on a daily basis. Almost ooo. . .

*Toyinrayo:
Petty situation.

If my man can't eat my food (which he better ), what's my sis (thank God am the oldest) 's own with it?

Na her mouth she dey use eat am?

In this situation, I think God for responsible naija men ^{*sips juice*}

Its not like he doesnt like the food, just that he is trying to avoid taking too much sugar and my sister always loves sugary stuffs so she always buys sugary food for all of us and when someone is not eating, she will get offended.

To you it might be petty cause like what you said, you're the eldest. My sister is 5 years older than me and usually the eldest are always know for their bossy attitude. . .



I talked to my bf about this and he told me to ignore her but it just gets to my nerves. . . .

My sister and I have been very close since young and we basically tells each other on every single thing!!! even sex, bf's (well, thats her cause I dont do or have any that time), what underwear are we wearing and so on. . .

But ever since I have a bf, I dont tell her anything about the both of us. . . its not like I dont want to tell her its because at the earlier stage, when I talk to her about him, she always bash him up (My sister does not really like me dating a foreignor to begin with and also I just feel that ever since I have a bf, she feels like she's being left out) and also she always compares my bf to her newly wedded husband.

Like if my bf does not really favour eating sweet food, she would say this. . . I dont understand your bf! If frezer can eat it I dont see why he cant! Is he gay or what?!

You know,. . . Stuff like that can be very hurtful . .

And than theres one day she mock him again and I got so angry that I mock her husband back and we were really fighting like wild cats and dogs. and than soon she told me that ever since I have that foreignor bf of mine, I have never payed attention to her. . .  she is the same anyways with her hussband but I have never complaint. . .

Mind you, I have tried to plan outings with her and her husband and my bf and I together but my sister does not like it at all. . . She's that typical Malaysian whom likes to mixed with her own kind and is not comfortable mixing with other race. . . well. . . apart from the whites

Guys, will you be at your bf's side or your sister side?

If my man cheat on me, it depends on him if I should forgive him or not. If he says he loves me and not that lady and he will end it, I will give him 1 month to end it and I will forgive him but if he loves the other girl or I caught him again cheating, I will forgive him but I wont be with him anymore.

If men cherished their wives to begin with, there shouldn't be a girlfriend in the picture at all. . . Dont you think so Poster?

So if men have gf's yet they are married, its obvious that they basically have a problem in their marriage life.

Yeah,. . . Thats the problem right>? Its always the problem! other people have went through the same thing and you refuse to even notice or be cautious just by listening to other people's story. . .


I no talk anymore! am tired jor!

sheeshhh Poster, have you even considered telling your wife about how you feel?

The problem with you men is that you are blinded by beauty thats why you get shit in the end of the day (or so you think you get shit) and than after marriage than you regret. . . U no like you tell her ok? Do you expect her to know what is on your mind?

And are you looking for a perfect women abi? if she is good at one thing doesnt mean she is goos with another. U are plain selfish!

Really? I just got the mail today naa. . . what year is this news?

so who's the father?

Uyimen,

So you're a Jew?

Im a Roman Chatolic. Am not a strong one though cause I dont go to church often unless if being forced by my bf or if Im singing in the choir. and I have never open my bible to read. heheh1 i do have abible but I put it under my pillow so I sleep on it. Most of the days I say my rosary though.

MrCrackles:
Topic

I will pay a GAY man to rape Obasanjo!

Yeah. . . Make sure his d*ck is the minimum size of 9" at least!!!

i am seriously not sure. heheh!

Hey, this topic has been flush down the drain 2 times ooo. . . Who brought it back to life?


Rock, u use your hp to browse? Huh? Thats complicated with the small screen ooo

hey bro, no mind Affi. She is just kidding now