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MRbrownJAY:
so can you look at someone and from the get go knows that you want a future with that person without knowing them in depth?!
relationship are there to figure that person out,discover them,discover if you guys have something in common, if that person is what you truly looking for etc etc etc.
all cars looks great from the lot but only a "test drive" may tell you ifits right or wrong FOR YOU. some people can drive it for 5mins and know its THE ONE while others may need a longer "test drive"

U are missing my point here. Im saying that you should ask yourself that before even commiting into a relationship and wasting peoples time. Like now that Im 26 years old. I should search myself. If I dont want to have a serious relationship and dont want to get married, I should let my bf know earlier that I dont intend to have a serious relationship. I mean why keep quiet and get your partner guesing like a mumu?

^^ Abeg oo sista, no vex.

When a person is at their mid 20's or mid's 30's, whats the point of being in a relationship when you dont see a future together ahead of you? I mean common, its not like u guys are 15, 16 and in love. . . <<< This is just an introduction to everyone whom is at their Mid 20's of course

Well poster,

ask him if he actually wants or plans to get married or not in times to come.

Ask him if he sees the both of you together and having babies and being a family?

Ask him if he actually plans on having his own family some time?

If he can't answer this, than just leave him and seek another guy. But than again, maybe cause he doesnt have what it takes just yet to get married and have a family. Some guys would rather try and get some cash or maybe to have some security like buying a house before he starts his family. Ask him naa.

ayettymama:
kaiiii

as cap did make a serious generalisation but ill advise the poster to follow it

u cant trust most of the men comin from nigeria

trust me - its better to be safe than sorry

if u must date a ngerian try one that grew uop abroad

at least most of them dont have serious dead people in the closet!!

Oh noo, for this I have to disagree with you. Ive met many many Nigerian men despite to the fact that I am in malaysia, there happen to be many Nigerian men here and truth be told, as famous as they are for cheating, scamming, lying, drinking and fighting. . . . Well, not all are like that. Ive met quite a number of Nigerian men whom is basically the good guy type whom doesnt commit into this kinda acteven if they have to die. They put their trust in God and they believe they will be a better day for them so nope, no all Nigerians are like that.

Poster,

yes like what some posters said here. Hustle means to find money. He has to be a man to find money which might be the cause of his busy schedule lately and hardly finding time for you.

And no, the tribe or culture or a person has nothing to do with this.

I guess all you have to do is that if you are not happy with what he is doing to you or the way he is behaving, tell him what you told us exactly and come to terms with him. Communication is very essential in this time of need

Girls might be a problem but men is overall an evil animal Proof? Check all prison in the whole wide world. Statistically, they are more more MORE men in jail than women. If someone goes to jail, that means that person has a problem. Oops! Now who has a problem?

I am into girls as well!

Blue Magic:
I think you are talking about possessive and not obsessive.

Why is it that when we see true love, we run?

Yes i am talkin about being possessive but at the same time i know what am talkin about when i say being obsessive. Cos the situation has gone beyond possession, its more like an obsession now. I know she loves me & all which i also reciprocate, but love doesn't have to turn into an obsession, does it? Imagine if a i'm the one givin her all these rules. Will she be comfortable with it? I don't think so? This obsession is hurtin d relationship cos its more of a trust thing!

U did not answe my question! 

Blue Magic:
U have no idea! Tried talkin 2 her & all, she jst suspects me all d time. The only girl i think i can talk 2 is my sis. This situation is really really annoying. I mean she's a great person & all dat but this can't be normal, can it?

U talk to her about it and what did she say? Did you tell her directly whats on your mind?

Gosh! That kinda attitude is kinda annoying. . . Seriously! Well, u are not her mother or father to really teach her but what you can do as a partner is to tell her that its not right towards you. Talk to her.

Handsom Guy with Scars

Missy B:
Keep kidding Yourself!
I can't understand why 'em nor ban You (190) from Earth sef.

ROTFLMAO!!! eXACTLY!

adconline:
my friend went out with this Naija gal and the did her normal mantra, do you have a girlfriend, why did u break up and all of the above questions. Some days later, she started making some silly monetary requests and my guy was like if you wanted me to pay all your bills why would U care if I had 100 girlfriends? maybe she wanted to make sure that nobody else was milking the cow with her. So my question is this why should some Naija gals care about a guy's relationship history if all they care for is money?

U ask the question and u have already answered it.

Abbey, so sorry naa. Im missing you as well. But maybe cause Im not that hor. . .ny to be in the Sexuality Section

Yes naa we did but we plan to move to another apartment somewhere this year. Not sure yet.

Pweety and Abbey, sorry naaa. Im becoming a Chipsmore Cookie. Now u see me now u dont

Abbey, Sorry ma sweets. I have been really busy lately and more businessssss to come  

Hope u are doin alright  

Sorry Lady. I completely forggoten this thread

I have been very busy. How your side?

i cant believe the maturity level of the guys here. And u think men have not ruined  women's life abi? what is there to complain when u're not the one suffering from period every month, when u're not the one suffering from emotional breakdown due to period every month, when you're not the one giving birth. And whats better off, You dont have to take care of your house as well as go to work all join one go (cause her husband cannot support his family fully in terms of finance) and take care of your children as much as a women does. Basically the way I see it, all you have to do is to come out with the money and here you are nagging and complaining. . . . . . Sorry guys, but you boys complain too much!

Oh Oh ^^^

Poster, you are right about Abbey_City. She is one in a million and genuine. I thank God say you have good taste.

if you dont like Naija girls, than go for someone else which is not Naija than.

I met a Naija girl here on Nairaland and she bought her bf a DKNY watch from the UK for her bf for Valentine's Day and iut cost a BOMB! What Im trying to say is that poster, you are generalizing. Just because you met with the wrong bunch of girls, doesnt mean that all of them are the same.

DonChippy:
Just want you to know you're worth more than rubies, diams and gold to me. I love you so much, tell your bf that someguys here appreciate you lots if he ever mess up, _{will try to abide by the rules hoping debosky won't bann me for life.}

Chip, Thank you for the compliment naa. I really appreciate you as my brother. Uve been here for me through good and trying times and thats why I admie u alot.

It depends on what have you done which made u to get a ban from NL. but u sure u did not get banned maybe because of spamming or sumthin? I know I get bannd many times here from Spamming but I alwaqys thought prhaps I was arguing with sumone

Chip, if you feel offended by a certain post and you think it was discriminating and humiliating and all, just click on the Report to Moderator button

Poster, never believe what pictures you se online. Its bestto just surprise yourself and go there and see the real thang.

Hello Brotha. Abeg. No hard feelings. People we dont like we leave them and wishing them a better life and people we like we appreciate them and cherish them to the fullest. Thats the only advise I coul give you which my father told me before.

Poster, nope. I dont think so. I go to my bf's apartment to stay a couple of days if Im in the area and his housmates are there. One I always yab with him like a bunch of Amebo day and night and the other one we wath TV till morning and we lie down on couch till morning. It just comes to say that all of us are making ourselves feel like at home and living life to the fullest

Chykason:
Gabry, are you a mod?
I checked your profile and saw 'active poster'
does this section have a mod?

Nope. Im not a Mod and Yes Im a poster and No, this section has no Mod.

BrwnSugar:
Gabry- thanks, he says he is busy but we are working on that, but I dont think meeting should be the main factor. What happens when I go back?

When you go back or when he goes back? Well, him visiting you is for you to get to know him face to face and see if you really would like him or not. Dont tell me you only want him online and dont want to make any further actions to get to know him better? Thats if tyou are still interested otherwise if you think that he is a waste of time and is playing around with your emotions than leave and seek elsewhere. Cause truth be told, you should seek someone whom you would really want to be serious with.

The reason why I say he should come visit you its because its safer cause its in your territory.

If based on what you described, I would say the guy is not serious at all but Its hard judging based on what is written. I get alot of misunderstandings when it comes to that section

Sugar Baby,

Love and relationships are tough. I had my fair share of it but you know what I will do? Well, i dont care about the number of times he calls or he is busy.

Step 1: If he claims to be serious, he must by all means fly to the states to visit you under his own personal expenses without havin you chip in a cent. No visit, no relationship!

Step 2: Well, I will tell u step 2 when hedoes Step 1.

Mehnn I love shakara!