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You need to understand the fact that when the first issue happened, she told her dad to beg me and work things out of which part of the agreement then was to ensure he is kept abreast of situation of things before i take action. So she took her matter to her father and she also introduced me to her dad. I did not just report to the dad but did so based mutual understanding between the parties.

Also, what is missing in our society nowadays is the absence of fear for our parents. But if you still insist i am being childish by reporting to her dad. I accept. But think of the fact that we are not talking about boyfriend/girlfriend relationship but fiance and finacee relationship. So i believe they need to know what is happening before she starts to tell them cock and bull stories about me.

You are right jare they are really teambabymamas. This is a lady that will be 31years in 2016. But the lust for men has really affected her. Her father was just beging me to be patient with her. But i have replied him that no man will know her babe had affairs with another guy to the extent of getting pregnant for him and packed everything in the house to the guy. Yet she came back and i took her back. The same thing she is doing now, getting bleeped by another guy now and later when the guy show his true colour, she will be looking for ways to beg again. I have told the dad to forget it.

Dear Nairalander,

This i guess should be the final saga. My girl that i have been sharing our experience on this platform has really let the cat out of the bag. You will recall how she slept with her ex-lover, got impregnated, lost the pregnancy, came back to apologise, got another guy now and finally she said she is tired of me.

This is a lady, i took to Ghana and Dubai twice. Rent and furnished a room and a palour for in Ajah. Got impregnated by her ex-boyfriend. But because she is now with another guy, she said he is seriously tired of me. She had already introduced me to her mum i 2014 as the person she will marry when she came from Ilorin in December. The mum was so happy and in December last year she got her father involved as well by introducing me to him. The father asked her whether she meant what she said that he will not entertained her bringing any other person. She said yes in affirmation.

Now two (2) months after, she found another person and started behaving funny. I informed her dad and mum on this new development. The parents are not happy about this and scolded her seriously. I guess this got her annoyed and said she regretted introducing me to her parents. Her father is still bitter about this development and still bent on giving her daughter to me. She has decided not to call or se her father who reside very close to her.

Now when i complained that she did not give me the audience i deserve, then she came out to tell me not to complain that she is tired of me. This broke the camels back as i did not and cannot imagine she could open her mouth to say all these. This is a lady that i spent a fortune on to change her appearance and everything. But now she sees me as her past.

This is so sad. I wonder what ladies think they are. i love her, gave her attention and ensure she is happy at all times. It baffles me when i remember what she turns out to be. I usually blame guys treating ladies anyhow but i am begining to realise the fact that they don't deserve all attention and care given to them other than to blip them and send them away.

This is really disappointing.

Good afternoon my fellow nairlanders.

I am in deep sorrow writting this story of mine. I had earlier wrote on my girl being impregnated by a south african ex-lover. But later the gist was that the guy was not the south african ex-lover but a guy she had dated and left for more than six (6) years. She went to the wedding ceremony of the guy's younger sister and met with the guy again. She could not leave the party early and decided to stay with her friend who had earlier advised her to stay with her.

The room she was given to sleep was actually the guys (ex-lover) room and when the time for the guy to sleep came, he went inside and saw a her. Then according to her, he decided to sleep with her. The aftermath of the sex was the pregnant she had. That was how she packed everything in the house to the guy. But after 3months she lost the pregnancy owing to the guy's maltreatment.

The guy does not have any work he his doing, he smokes indian hemp and he is very diabolical. So it was confirmed that it was as a result of the guy's diabolic means that made the lady packed out to leave with him. So to cut the long story short, she came back begging but because of ny deep affection for her, i accepted her back and continued with our relationship. She dicided to move to her friend's place who she had also helped with accomodation but still left every of her belonging in the guy's house.

In the course of it we went to Ghana and it was beautiful. Prior to that time, i observe that she will tell me her dad sent for her and the next thing she will go and not come back that day. Most annoying thing is that she will not pick her phone during this period and later switched off when the calls become too much. So i was worried and noted that something went wrong.

later i got her dad's number and begin to discuss with her dad, there i realised that she was lying all this while. So when i asked her where she was going, she got annoying and turned everything to fight. But i still maintain my peace. What broke the carmels back was that she went to Ilorin to meet her mother and to also attend her sister's (junior) graduation ceremony which i financed.

She was to come on sunday 31st January but said she has some issues to attend. Sowe agreed for her to come on tuesday. Around 2pm on tuesday, we discussed and she told me that it is getting late that she will be coming the next morning. Little did i know that she left that same day after our discussion.

When she came to lagos she called and i made her realised the fact that i know she had already left ilorin. As usualshe turned it to a fight on phone and i left her. That was the last time i spoke with her. She did not call to inform me that she has come back. Today i put it upon myself to send her a text that why has she not call/chat/text that she was back. The next thing she sent was that she does not need me or my money again that without my money she will leave her life.

Every effort geared toward talking to her proved abortive as she vehemently refused to pick my calls. I am in good standing with her dad and mom who is beging me not to listen to her that she did not know what she is saying. I feed, cloth, rented house for her. Take her on trip to Dubai and ghana twice.

Please what do i do and where did i go wrong. I need your candid advise and not abuse please. It is a very serious/precarious situation. I love this lady so much. i dont know what to do.

Thank you.

If you could remember vividly i posted to you wonderful nairalanders the story of my girl friend who was impregnated by her ex-boyfriend that came back from South Africa.

Here is the update on it. She later summon courage to call me and told me she needs to see me to discuss what happened. To cut the long story short, we met in one of the eateries and there she told me what really happened.

Don't forget i said i was on official assignment outside Lagos. She told me her friend was getting married and she attended the wedding. Meanwhile she had a relationship with her friend's brother that ended about six years ago. They met at the party and exchange plesantaries. So when the party was about to end, she realised that it was late for her to go home. So she told her friend she will need somewhere to sleep till the following day.The friend gave her a room in their house.

She did not tell me she was going to the party because she knew i will object since i have been complaining on the rate she attend parties. She said she had slept when and suddenly she realised that somebody lied beside her and was caressing her. She got up and resisted but at that time he realised that the guy (who was the former boyfriend) had locked the door, kept the key and increase volume of the radio. She said there was nothing she could do and the guy slept with her.

She later realised after some weeks that she is pregnant and long before then she had been warned not to abort any pregnancy. Now she is begging for forgiveness that she did not do it intentionally and that she can't marry somebody she does not love.

So where do i go from here. She begged me to be patient with her till she delivers.

If you are in my shoe, what will you do. Please i need your candid advise and not abuse please. It is a serious matter and i plead that you should not take it with levity at all.

Thank you.

Good evening all,

Relationship nowadays really baffles me. I really need to understand what ladies want in a relationship.

You see guys taking good care of a lady with the hope of marrying the lady but you see a sharp change in the lady's behaviour and at the end the lady ends up in the hand of a guy who just used her to satisfy her sexual desire or urge.

You could remember my escapade with my proposed wife that ended up in the hand of an ex-boyfriend who came on holiday from South Africa. Not minding the fact that i have invested so much on her. Trip to Ghana and Dubai all in one year, a well-furnished room and a palour self-contain in Ajah and some other goodies showered on her. All she could do was to open her leg and got impregnated within one months of the visit and jettisoned a relationship of 2 years.

So i came up with this question, what does ladies need in a relationship or why do they have to play down on guys who take good care of them and ended up with guys who are just using them.

Good evening all,

Relationship nowadays really baffle me. i really need to understand what ladies want in a relationship.

You see guys taking good care of a lady with the hope of marrying the lady but you see a sharp change in the lady's behaviour and at the end the lady ends up in the hand of a guy who just used her to satisfy her sexual desire or urge.

You could remember my escapade with my proposed wife that ended up in the hand of an ex-boyfriend who came on holiday from South Africa. Not minding the fact that i have invested so much on her. Trip to Ghana and Dubai all in one year, a room and a palour self contain in Ajah and furnished to taste and some other goodies showered on her. All she could do was to open her leg and got impregnated within one months of the visit and jetisoned a relationship of 2 years.

So i came up with this question, what does ladies need in a relationship or why do they have to play down on guys who take good care of them and ended up with guys who are just using them.

Two other serious reasons why some ladies remain single are:

1. They place much importance on guys that live abroad. Whether they are serious about them or not, once you just come from abroad even if it is South Africa or Dubai or any other part of the world. They will be interested in marrying you.

2. Some of the ladies while they were having serious relationship with their husband to be, they are still interested in their ex-boy friend. They are just waiting for the guy to come back and they open their arms to welcome him. The intention of the guy is none of their business. They will just foolishly allow they guy to ruin their existing relationship.

Very very sad. I had that experience and it was very painful. The guy came from South Africa after they had gone their separate ways for two years. He came and the girl open her arms and within the one month the guy spent in Nigeria before going back, she got pregnant for the guy.

Good morning to you all,

I need your advise on what to do in this matter. Please note that it is a true life story and a resent happening.

I met her in 2013 and we started dating, the relationship got serious and we agreed to be more committed to each other. I proposed marriage and she accepted. I took care of her, rented a room and a parlour for her in Ajah furnished the room and she was living comfortably.

I took her to Ghana and Dubai on vacation at different times and everything was going on smoothly.

I went to Abuja to work for one month in April on offical assignment and the whole story changed. Her ex-boyfriend called her that he was in town from South Africa and asked her to see him. They had mis-understanding before the guy went back to base in South Africa. The reason for the mis-understanding was that the guy had relationship with her roommate and she caught them.

The guy apologised to her when they met at the hotel and requested them to continue the relationship. Then the next thing was that they started having sex to the extent that she stayed with the guy for a while in the hotel and visit her subsequently.

I came back and i suppose the guy had gone back to South Africa by then. I observed that my girl did not allow me to touch or have anything to do with her.

I gave her some money to start a business but rather than using the money for the purpose, she used the part of the money to pack all my belongings in the house and ran to the east. Meanwhile by this time she had switched off her phone. She was only speaking to her brother. Who later decided to visit her in the east.

Then the bubble busrst, she was pregnant and since she did not know what to do, she ran away and packed all my properties. I love her so much and even up till now i still find it difficult to get over it.

When i eventaully spoke with her through her brother, all she could say was that i should forgive her. Please advise me on what to do. I still thinking so much about her. The relationship that is almost two years. All her family members have known me and i was taking care of them also. They got to know about this and were all supprise at her behaviour. But she still not talking to me. She will only put on her phone call some people and swiched off again. I have not been able to speak with her after the first one through her brother, even if i tried to call and her phone was ringing, she will not pick before switching off.

I wonder why she had to allow somebody that has not contributed any dime to her welfare to impregnate her without proposing marriage or introdusing her to his family members. She said she had called the guy in South Africa and he said okay. He has not called since then to tell her what to do.

Please i need your advise. No abuse please and note that this is not a nollywood story. The incident happened just last week.

Thank you.