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So what about when women want to work is that ok with many husbands?

Radiant:
D'u have a brother that you always "help" to wash his clothes? D'u ever ask him to wash yours as many times as you do his? Is this feminism?

No it's not feminism, but it's not pleasant either, it's just the yoke we bear as women, I guess.  

_{my brother's only three anywayz}

Jackal:
If i wash your undies this week. . . .u wash mine next week kind of thingy.
That to me is GROSS!!!!!

And you don't think she'll feel the same about washing yours?

Women may be weaker physically but not in many other respects. The man is the head of the home I agree, even though not all men want to live up to that responsibility, but if I get married I wouldn't want to feel like my life is being run by my husband, marriage isn't supposed to be a dictatorship. No one likes to feel or be treated like they are less than someone else and men should understand that. Marrying a feminist is asking for trouble tho, if she's an extremist she won't want to comply with the typical wife's role.

Can I just say some women do like nice guys, I love them, they always make you feel special. I can't understand why a woman would chase after a guy who probably can't even remember her name. But let me stress you can be nice but desperation is also a turn off.

No one can tell you whether to stay or leave, if it's something you can handle then support them, but don't stay out of pity or because you'll look like a bad guy if you leave, stay because you want and love them.

cuteruth:
Its always fun and people do respect female engineers.

That's certainly good to hear, I am a bit apprehensive about being able to fit in and be integrated in a male dominated work environment but I guess it's not so bad nowadays.
So would you say it's a worthwhile career or are there any obstacles you v'e had to face?

Nwaka77:
Yes, it will. A relationship is hard enough much less with someone who is schizophrenic.

Not your partner being schizophrenic, the partner's parent , would it be a big issue to you or could you over look it, bearing in mind majority of the time the ilness is kept under control?

There is no reason why rational adults should stoop to such a level and hit their partners. If they feel this is the way to handle a dispute then they aren't mature enough to even be in a relationship. Either they have anger issues or they want a sense of control. Fear does not equal respect, your spouse may fear you but wont respect you. Regardless of what country your in it's all the same, unfortunately the Nigerian government shows little concern about the wellbeing of their citizens which differentiates us from the Americans and Europeans. There are no support groups, no social services it's every man/woman for themselves. In America if your husband slaps you or wife attacks you it becomes a federal case, as for Naija, if your husband slaps you then I'm afraid you just got slapped end of story.

Let's look at the definition of rape: 'to force someone to have sex with you against their will' so if for example a women holds a man at gunpoint and threatens to kill him if he does not have sex with her and he unwillingly does so, technically isn't that still rape?

Really I'm aware of the risks, but my question is if you were in a relationship with someone, is it something that would put you off them?

It's really up to the individual if their love for that person is strong enough to endure it with them. Some diseases are contagious but not deadly and of course some are both. Just ask yourself "if it was me with the disease would they stay with me?" If they would then you should be able to do the same for them.

A lot of women actually don't think the vagina is an attractive thing, I certainly don't, but I guess it's what you do with it that matters.

Someones gotta put Common in there, I mean 'I Used to Love Her' is a Hip Hop classic and the guy is very articulate with his rhymes.

Cyclone5:
Sometimes you can get emotionally caught up even before you really know the other person. I suppose thats attraction for you. Then the sex just seals some kind of commitment. But I agree. Be cautious at all times and there never any need to tease.

Good point, seems like you can't win really  

Jackal:
I agree 100%.

Thought this day would never come

In that case if someone wants to agree to that they can, now that we've come full circle I'll state my opinion as: playing hard to get and being cautious are two different things, Teasing someone or playing games is uncalled for, like I said before if you like them be straight with them. Just be sure of them first, before  becoming emotionally involved in a relationship.

I think it has, it's more a case of genetic factors combined with environmental factors that determine wether you suffer from it. For example, If two people both have one schizophrenic parent and Person A had a happy upbringing and a moderately happy life and Person B had a troubled childhood e.g abuse and an unstable life then person B is more likely to suffer from it. It is quite rare though because something usually triggers it like drug abuse or depression etc.

Were from 2 different worlds entirely

Define, saying "YES", what would they be saying yes to  

My mentor is Jesus, I want to be just like him. Seriously, I don't have anyone I can look up to in my life to guide me, so I look up to the epitome of perfection.

Where I'm from that expression usually means willing to go to bed with someone, fare enough.

About the history thing, if I found that a guy had even a few sexaul relationships in the past I would want him to get checked out first for my own peace of mind. If he doesn't want to, then we can call it a day.

Jackal:
You can learn such history while the relationship is on, can't u?

Sure you can, on your way to the STD clinic  

I also feel it's irresponsible if you've only just met the person, you need to atleast know their history, they could have sumthing! If your already friends, then there is a little more trust i suppose.

Jackal:
What is wrong in saying YES on the 1st date IF u like the guy a lot?
Tell me, what does that take away from u?
Mention one disadvantage or harm to a relationship by saying YES??

I guess we just have a clash of morals I think it's out of the question and you don't.

Jackal:
What makes a woman cheap is the number of men she allows to pinch her HOLY GRAIL not saying YES on the 1st date.

Please tell me your only trying to make a point because saying yes on the first date isn't a good thing either.

stillwater:
@ topic

It's necessary as a teenager- We all know at that stage there are a lot of randy and whorish boys just wanting to get into your pants, so a girl has to guide her heart by playing hard to get  . But as you grow older, you are likely to take the bull by the horns .

That's certainly true didn't think of that

@ jackal

so if u were to ask a girl out, are u saying you wouldn't hold anything back. If you really like her you'd tell her exactly how you feel even if your not sure she feels the same way. You'll spend time and money on her and wouldn't mind if it didn't work out?

*just curious*

Doesn't mean they can't bond and gradually the other person let's their guard down, maybe I'm just biased, but as they say "once bitten, twice shy" .

Aaawh, that would be great, never been on a party b4  

lasagne's one of my favourites I also like spaghetti bolognase but it can get quite messy, wouldn't want to embarrass myself on the first date

you can take me out to dinner instead, I love anything italian

depends what kind I'm underage