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Thanks, all. This matter looks childish as someone suggested above, but it is real, the man said this jokingly, we laughed over it because his wife is my friend. he didn't say it like it was bothering him but I know that he wanted to hear from a woman he can confid in.

A male pastor friend in our church, told me that his wife said he should not sleep with her using a condom, or she will not let him have her. He wanted to know if there is anything special about "skin to skin" as a woman. He fears that his wife may be planning to have another child, something they have discussed previously- (no more kids after 2 girls and 1 boy)
He said that his wife have maintained that nothing will make her pass through childbirth again after she almost died giving birth to her last child. But that she doesn't think it's the right thing her husband was doing, as a Christian.
The pastor in question said that the only way he is sure to prevent future pregnancy is through this barrier method since his wife is not on any kind of family planning medication, and is not willing to use any. She just believe in natural method of family planning, which the Man think may fail anytime.

I told him I will ask other women, and get back to him because I don't have an answer.

Please help me with a solution

@all thanks for the matured responses
It's just that I like every other human has things that she need and want to achieve in life. I have thought of the possible angles to this, but I did understand that he really meant it that child bearing is over for me. I should focus on something else.

Well I think I have to share few things to strangers here because I feel very said recently, and it is turning into a serious hatred for my husband that may lead to something else.
I am about 38, have two daughters. I wanted at least one boy, since this two are girls.
But my husband says no more child for now. For economic reason (the economy is very hard on him, he says)
I am really not comfortable with only two girls and he doesn't believe that things may change in future.
Please I prefer mature ladies and married counselor's opinion on this.
Thanks

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As expected a religious bigot has arrived on this thread to showcase his or her superiority of knowledge and understanding.
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As usual they're so full of themselves that they always believe that they have the solution for Everything.
If you have contrary opinion that seems to spoil their yahoo yahoo. They will result to insulting, even somebody they don't know, simply because they earnestly want to market their ideas.

No need quoting that fellow who wrote that long provocative comment. I have to say thank you for correcting my grammar. That's the only intellectual contribution you have made so far

Bacteriologist:
According to your write up, you are insinuating that the farmers that died somehow deserved the incident because "nobody is innocent of anything happening to him or her." and "everything is divinely arranged so that we have a way of paying back our debt that we owe nature, in form of wrong doings."

Your theory is not only morally flawed, it is egoistic and insensitive.

if you see that angle, also see the fact that I said the killers even if they died and their kids inherites the curse, they don't have any right to complain of injustice of similar action if they becomes victims

Bacteriologist:
Sure...everyone of those farmers going about their business trying to contribute little to humanity providing precious food deserved to be killed in such a gruesome manner.

You're still alive and they're gone so your actions definitely must be more noble than theirs right.. how much more narcisstic religion makes people?

Why not show it to me by replying with more narcisstic egoistic shit.

if you want to wipe up sentiment for a writer up that you have read but could not understand or you choose not to understand, thereby giving one sided interpretation. That is your own thinking, not mine.
Let' me summarise it for you again in a different way.
Any thing you do in this life, you must pay for it someday. You can't behead somebody today and tomorrow, you say you have changed with the hope that you will be forgiven. There's nothing like fogiveness of sins as preached by 90%
of The religions worldwide.

Bacteriologist:
Imagine being so egoistic to think one knows why an omnipotent, omnibenevolent, all merciful god did not save innocent farmers from murderous terrorists.

lmao

No, it's not ego, it's truth that should be accepted by all: there is nothing like forgiveness, every body must reap what they sow in this life. That is why God is not acting. Period.

read the text again to understand my thoughts

longetivity:
I know GOD will not forget us in Nigeria

I'm not sure God forgets, but I am sure many people in Nigeria, have forgotten themselves already

Dtruthspeaker:
Did you not hear of Time of Sorrows?

sorrow is about feelings
The behead heads feels nothing. So it can not be their time of Sorrow

After watching the images of an alarming number of people that was beheaded last Saturday in a certain community in Nigeria.
I was shocked to my bone marrow. The next question that comes to my heart is who is God, where Is he? Is this part of the divine arrangement or just man,'s deviation from the divine nature? whichever be the case, This is amazing how this life is actually making people like us to want to think more deeply about what we know about life and many other things we're yet to know.

Pls for the purpose of this my rant. No one should give me any religious explanation for this killings, whether you are a Christian, Muslim or a traditionalist. We're tied of hearing all that cock and bulls from hypocrites who don't even know anything about God and spirituality.
Back to this gruesome beheading that I think is worst than a genocide, that we know as the worst crime against humanity. Let me re-echo something that I have heard people argue about sometimes ago:
It is either this (God) that this religious leaders talk about every day is different from the Almighty God, who in his wisdom has given us freedom to choose between life and death. And I strongly believe that a lot of people have ignorantly or by divine mandate, chosen death instead of life.
That is why I tell my kids every day that any body that tells you that there's forgiveness of sins, "tell the person that it's a lie, my daddy and mommy said that we'll all reap what we sow some day": there is nothing like forgiveness. Also I don't believe that any body is innocent of any thing happening to him or her. Everything is divinely arranged so that we have a way of paying back our debt that we owe nature, in form of wrong doings. Even if it happens to our generation unborn. Yes! That is what I call spiritual inheritance, just as we have financial inheritance.
This is why I laugh when I see con men who hide under religion to take your hard earned money in the name of breaking your ancestral curses.
If you think there is a bad curse on you from your ancestors, go and find out what your fathers' did that earned the curse and do the opposite of that always (the good things that you can do to erase it from your linage) rather than trying to exempt yourself by force.
Imagine the curses upon the generation of this Boko Haram boys. Imagine also, there kids growing up tomorrow to complain of injustice of any kind not knowing what there fathers' the Boko Haram boys did to people.
If not What better way can we explain this happenings.

Please what ever you are going through in life, take it as part of your own inheritance but make sure you don't leave behind the worst for your kids. A lot of people will not like this because they have done unimaginable things just to survive and be rich, with the hope that the prayers they're making will take away the blood that they have wasted just to achieve selfish desires.

Before you stamped on me with your insults, especially the religious bigots: I am not speaking for Christians, Muslims, traditionalist or even the atheist.
One thing is certain in life freedom of thoughts, and is only a fool that will say: there's nothing like God.
Living a conscious life is the best thing you can do for yourself.

crackhaus:
Your brother has found himself tethered to one of the worst types of women a man can ever be cursed with in life – she feels entitled to a good life, but is jobless and has no interest in working her ass off to acquire some of that life for herself.
On top of all this, she's also someone of poor character, completely lazy, and a spendthrift...

I can't help but wonder why your brother did not see traces of any of these things before settling down with her, I can't understand that... Is it that she has Rihanna looks combined with Beyonce's nyansh?

What a pity!

Now I won't be surprised if she's already cheating on him... and even if she isn't doing that yet, her type won't be too hard to seduce at all.
Either way, she's a lost cause because any woman that can disrespect her husband like this should ONLY be kept close if the man has a death wish.

All that talk about how your brother is seeking a means to lay complaints to her family is a complete waste of time in my opinion. The best way to send a strong message is to kick her out – let her go to her family herself and report him for throwing her out, they will request for an explanation from him themselves regarding what happened.
Even if they don't do this but choose to make a decision to take her side because of whatever tale she must have spun, nothing spoil... it's still good riddance and bye-bye to yeye wife and yeye family.

As for the kids, you can go stay with them to help out after his wife is gone, at least until the families can reach a settlement – whatever that will be.

Meanwhile, please tell your brother to disregard any advice telling him to open another business for his wife to get her busy, or to buy her any those things she's been nagging about.
Even if doing this will bring peace, it won't be a lasting peace because she will simply increase her demands as time goes on knowing how he'll always concede to her just to avoid issues.

A sensible man should never reward a woman's bad behaviour.

thanks so much, you have spoken like a man with much knowledge. For now. I'm staying out of their activities based on my brother's opinion. Is just the anger and frustration that made me open this thread.
Thanks a lot anyway

mariahAngel:
Nothing breaks a sister's heart more than seeing her brother she loves and has so much respect for being disrespected, and there's little or nothing she can do about it.

Op, are you Yoruba?

oh dear you just defined me. I personally think that things are hard for him now because is this my brother that trained me till I got my hnd in the polytechnic.

No, I'm from the east

My brother's wife is troublesome. My brother is a quiet type. When I was staying with them it's always one trouble or the other. I was thinking that it was because of me that is making her to be that aggressive on him so I relocated to my uncle's house.
The bone of contention is always
1.You don't buy clothes for me
2.You don't buy my body cream
3.You don't care if I make my hair or not etc
My brother is just an average income earner that stays in a rented apartment that he pays 170.000 per year. With 3 kids. He doesn't have a car
For me, I think he's trying his best to make his wife understand that this is not time to spend money anyhow because of the economy, to no avail
Last week I visited them and met my brother when he was asking an elderly man in the neigbourhood of the best way to formally lay complain to her family . Because according to him she is now acting more provocative that may lead to a fight. And he does not want to lay his hand on her so that she will not turn the narrative that is because he beats her that is why she was doing what she was doing to him.

I just wish I can advise him but I'm not capable, that is why I said I should seek mature opinion here on what you think he should do

Though my brother said that her brother are not supporting her, her mother seems to be silent when she heard about it sometime ago. That may be because she is too old to even think of cautioning her daughter who she is depending on.


My brother said is time to do something before she lead him to destruction. pls let's advise him.


Updated
Things like to wash bathroom, bath the children, and general house work, according to the wife is no longer her responsibility again. She wants my brother to get a house help that will do those things. Even though she does not work. Since her business went under do to her lack of saving mentallity, and starting another one for her according to my brother is a waste of money.

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silvoice:
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