₦airaland Forum

Levels1:
The business is indeed Lucrative

Where in Ogun state are you planning on rearing it ?

Have you get a farm to take your stock ?

If within Abk, you can reach out to me.

Israel5:
Please (even though I know my appeal with fall on deaf ears too numerous to count in this forum), approach this issue with logic and without prejudice to the people involved.

My wife and I are duly blessed with a son who is in his basic 5 now. Also, we decided to get the daughter of one of my cousin to stay with us. She is one of 7 children. So I wanted to help raise a CHIMAMANDA.

As my rule, every child of same age under my room attends the same school and calls us Dad & Mum. The school part didn't quite seat well with my wife, who had a different opinion, but I prevailed anyway. Because na me dey pay school fees.

The girl is a year older than my son, but due to the level of education at the village before she came over, we made her be in the same class as my son. She met my son in primary 2. Now they are both in basic 5.

A shocker happened: This girl keeps coming up in the class, while my son keeps running away from the top. We've tried extra lessons, even tried changing schools. Now it looks as if the girl is better suited for school than my boy. She reads, spells and memorizes things too marvellous. I bought a dictionary cos of that.

I even buy gifts for her (for coming top) more than I do for my boy, to make him sit up, but my pikin nor send me o. Guy use cry & Woman power make me buy am bicycle. 😁

I would think he's being a spoilt boy, who believes daddy & mommy is there, I don't really know. But I am hopeful.

Now, my major issue is my heavily pregnant wife. She wants the girl to be changed/enrolled at a different school. In her defence, she wants her to be available to help her take care of things. The kid's school close by 3pm. She suggest government school that close earlier. I see sense in what she said but I feel like I'll be unfair to this young girl.

When I tried to have a healthy debate on the idea. Na so madam start to dey talk plenty tins wey I nor fit type.
I have accepted to do her wish from September for peace.

Please, do you see another way I could avoid problems?

Is she right to have asked that I changed the girl's school just because she needs help around the house & her business?

Apologize:
Chimamanda Adichie, you are a liar,

The Nigerian Civil War was a tragic series of complex political, ethnic, and military events, not a fictional tale of religious persecution or oil greed.

First, let’s set the record straight. On January 15, 1966, a coup was carried out by mostly Igbo junior military officers, including Major Chukwuma Nzeogwu and Major Emmanuel Ifeajuna. The coup led to the assassination of top political and military leaders from the North and the West, such as Prime Minister Tafawa Balewa, Ahmadu Bello (Premier of the Northern Region), and Samuel Akintola (Premier of the Western Region). Notably, President Nnamdi Azikiwe, the only prominent Igbo in national leadership, was conveniently out of the country on medical leave at the time.

chiommy123:
Because man was created in the image and likeness of God and God knew the abilities he gave man that he can do the naming and so much more.

mayDtolu:
These days, I honestly don’t understand the point of marriage anymore.

Every Saturday, there’s one wedding or another. Fancy dresses, smiling couples, emotional vows about love and loyalty. But by Monday? One partner is already texting someone else’s spouse.

Why get married if you’re still going to cheat? Is it love—or just pressure from society, family, or age?

Now here’s what shocked me…

A married father of two casually told me:
“I don’t really cheat on my wife. I only did it twice last year.”

Excuse me?? 😳

So I asked, “What if your wife also cheated—just twice, like you?”

His face changed immediately. He said, “God forbid! She would pack out of my house instantly!”

That’s when I realized—we’re living in a generation full of double standards.

So let’s be real:
• If you’re not ready to be faithful, why not just stay single?
• Why ruin someone else’s life with your indecision and selfishness?
• Why do some men think cheating is a “mistake” when they do it, but “madness” when a woman does?

Nobody’s forcing anyone to marry. But if you say “I do,” then do it.

Nairalanders, I want to hear your thoughts:
Why do so many married people cheat today?
Is monogamy becoming unrealistic?
Are people marrying for the right reasons?
And why are the rules different for men and women?

Greatmec:
I have been married to my wife for close to 20 years now.
My wife is a very faithful woman. But I can describe her as frigid. As sex/romance/love making is her weakest point. Since she scores very high on almost every other indices except intimacy I thought I could manage.

Anyway 8 years ago I traveled outside the country for 2 years and came back as I used to do. But this time around I noticed that I could no longer get an erection when I want to do the do with my wife. Since then I/we have done everything to look for solution, but curiously till now non has been found. If I go in with another lady everything works out very fine. If I even use an artificial V.G everything works fine. But once I near my wife my John Thomas will not stand. If it makes a mistake and stands a little and enters the honey pot then it will ejaculate within 10 to 30 seconds. It is extremely frustrating.

I have tried medical solutions severally. It didn't help. After several studies I have come to the realization that someone must have placed a charm on me or my wife for the sole sake of giving me temporary impotence only when am with my wife. Something like "Tesho" a charm placed on mostly Yoruba girls to prevent them from having intimacy before marriage. Anyone that wants to have intimacy with them will temporarily become impotent. And if such charm is not removed on her that scenario shall continue throughout her lifetime. That is the scary part. Such charm has no expiry date.

As a matter of principle I do not and have never patronized native doctors. So I have restricted my solution finding to Churches/pastors/prophets etc. Unfortunately after 8 year, till date I have found no single solution.
Right now I am open to getting the solution wherever I can get it.

The answers I seek are:
1) Who placed this charm
2) Is it placed on me or my wife
3) Most important: How to end this charm

I reside at Aba, Abia state.
a) If you know a good church/ministry or man of God that can solve it please inform me.
b) Otherwise if you know a herbal home/ native doctor that can only solve it and not make me enter into some other fetish/complicating things please inform me.
Please help a brother out of this frustrating situation. Thank you all.

apprentist:
Hello Guys, let me first of all say the cliché "It is well".

Now let we start.
I met my wife years back just before the COVID-19 year during which we dated for almost a year and then eventually got married just when the lock down was reducing. I started this story this way because I wanted to emphasis that during that period, we had so much time to bond and she was mostly available to me as she only worked on shifts 2 to 3 days per week.
We could sit and talk for long, go out at late nights and have great s*x as frequently as we needed.

This I think gave me a mirage of an anticipated marriage life so I didn't hesitate to take it a step further ones the lockdown was relaxed.
I also made it clear to her that her job would have to give way when their kids start coming as I had plans to assist her further her edu and also put up a biz for her.

Speed up to after COVID-19, she resumed work which till this day demands 5 days a week and 2 to 3 Saturdays per month all from 7:45am till 5pm. Often times she'd return home tired and would manage to make dinner and off to bed till the next day circle continues.
It became worse when we started having children. I drive them to school as early as 7:40am before dropping her off at her job. And then I'll pick them up by 5:30pm or 6pm when she's done with her job for the day (let me mention that this extends to public holidays and school holidays or breaks).

I got tired and in December 2025 I told her she has to quit the job. My plan was to enroll her back into a private school after my kids are Upto 4 years as one of them still depends on breast milk. I also gave her the option of starting a business which I understand is a dynamic move and might not be successful, but at this stage of my life it's something I could afford to risk and so I didn't mind.

I must also mention that out of a 100% sex, 50% is not mutual as I could sense she isn't interested and 40% is a denial as she would rather deny me of s*x with the excuse that she is tired.

Simply put, I'm tired.
I'm a Christian and divorce isn't an option. Also I can't cheat, but I am starved of s*x and my kids are not given the attention they deserve.
Pls advice me

unzend:
Hello everyone, I need your opinions on this issue that’s causing some interesting situation at home.

I’ve been working fully remote for two years now, taking care of the kids and managing the house after moving into a state in Nigeria from Lag. (I was hybrid before and go to Lag weekly before- not easy). Last Friday, my wife came back home from Lag - we stiĺl maintain our house there cos she works there , and everything just went upside down.


I stepped outside to take get somewhere, and she checked my phone (we’re recently being locking phones). She saw a pregnancy scan on my phone that mentioned something about “breech presentation.” The thing is, this scan isn’t mine! It belongs to my Farm worker’s wife. He showed it to me while talking about her condition, and I took a picture to keep it for him for hospital records and future reference. That’s all.

When my wife saw it, her mood changed instantly. She started asking me tough questions, but I gave vague answers cos I knew her tendedncy to have persismistic thoughts and conclusions. Haha! She concluded I got another woman pregnant. Before I knew it, she called my mum, then my dad. That same evening, my dad came over to comfort her. From his expression, it looked like he also thought I messed up. I just excused myself and left the room.

Now, my mum and dad have called me, saying they’re disappointed and telling me to repent from “adultery.” I got upset and told them I’m a grown man who can make my own choices, and I haven’t done anything wrong.

She informed all my in-laws and says my FIL is really angry.

The while situation has sent my wife into a spiral—she’s paranoid, heartbroken, and acting sick. She’s telling me to pay off this “woman,” block her, and never speak to her again. I told her I won’t do that cos the woman may have being her!

Right now, I’m just letting things sit to see how it plays out, but the tension between us is heavy. My wife is not herself, and my parents are treating me like I’ve sinned. She even acted up to the point She was prophesying my Downfall cos of my Adultery. Like in the spirit the 30 minutes straight. I just dey shake my head.

What's your opinion about this, I plan to keep it on for as long as I can withstand the drama.

yarimo:
In anambra state? Hmm peter obi and oby ezekwesili will never react or condemn it

nairalanda1:
Well, at the end, there are probably a lot of similar people walking around in rwanda, sierra leone, liberia, etc etc.

People that commited brutal murders , who all got rehabilitated because, the alternative is continuning anarchy

Back in 2009, such people were lined up and shot dead by soldiers.

And the whole thing was on camera.

And guess who used the video for recriutment purposes....it was Shekau. With the added story that it was christians killing muslims. Can be very provoking...like the shootings at the Niger bridge in 2016 led to many people joining ESN and shooting back.

IN cases like this, you try rehab...or you risk the army fighting a forever war. It may work, it may not.





Remember that many Boko members are still on trial, and many hardcore members are still in jail. NO rehab for those.

safarifarms:
You mean Africans are where they are because they chose to belief a different history from the one you want them to belief? How does snake easter or Christ easter affect the conditions of Africans?

Samajogs:
This slowpoke is a Muslim...I'm not surprise

advanceDNA:
Lol.....first ...what do u even mean by renewal ?renewal of what?? Nigga u funny...christians don't celebrate any renewal.. ...

You Probably need to do some research because
there is a reason those that made a religion out following Christ, i.e the Roman Catholics)
fixed the remembrance of Jesus on that month ...it's the same thing with Christmas in december...... Jesus was never born in the 12th month becos we ddnt have 12 months initially

Furthermore, there is nothing like celebrating the birth or death or resurrection of Jesus originally ..it was a political move by the roman catholics just as the Muslims also started their Mohammed birthday and Salah celebration.

Like I mentioned earlier... this current 12 month calendar is an addendum to the initial 10 months calendar ....so the death of Jesus was not remembered in the April /4 month to begin with...

the so called coincidence u are referring to was deliberate by the roman catholics, a political move to kill the popularity of other pagan celebrations that existed thousands of years ago because the Catholics needed to use Christianity as a control tool by installing the king of England as the head of the church so the Monarchs of England can in turn give them the political relevance and financial resources backed by royal decree..

But hey!! U are free to believe which history u want ....I'm just saying u are doing the same thing as others that also believe the history they want

yinkeys:
Would’ve been easier if they had no kid
Not as easy as you think
They are bonded for life

Wakatumbit:
I and my wife have been married for close to 5 years now and we have a 2 year old baby.

The issue I'm having with my wife is that she has become a liability to me, she doesn't want to do anything.

I opened a business for her which I have spent almost 3m+, she doesn't even go to the business, I've paid rent twice on the place but I'm not sure she has even made upto 100k from it.

She doesn't do anything at home aside from cooking, she just wakes up in the morning and press her phone from morning till night, she won't sweep or clean the house, I can't even have an unexpected guest in my house because the house is always dirty and everything. The kitchen always looks like a cesspool of infection because she can't even clean it

All she wants to do is take pictures and look fine, recently she complained that I don't give her money for her upkeep and I told her that the reason I opened the business for you is so you can have your own personal income as a woman.

Through out last year, all the money I made I didn't see anything (I just struggled to get a car), because of expenses of my family and my wife isn't helping out at all.

She wants expensive things and she doesn't want to work. I'm really considering my options in the marriage because I can't continue living with that sort of a woman.

Chilipepper:
Amara and Olayinka Finally Tie the Knot in the US!

What started as content and cruise has become reality. Amara and her partner, Olayinka, are officially married!

The couple, Amara (Igbo) and Olayinka (Yoruba), began their relationship in Nigeria but faced constant scrutiny from netizens. Seeking a place where they could live freely, Olayinka moved to the US first, got settled, and Amara joined her in 2023.

Yesterday, Amara took to Instagram to reveal their marriage, making their love story official!