christianjoy:
Sorry for your self then

I guess you are a minor that have nothing to offer to the society, you still roaming about the hood playing bet and Baba ijebu
I pay my full taxes as a Nigerian, so when I talk about relationship please hide, the head of agbalagba is not meant for child’s’ play

Maxxim:

Yeah I did not finish reading it, but whatever your conclusion is make sure you're mentally and financially ready, because these people rushing you won't be there when issues arrises. Hope you know Nigeria's economy is enough to make one perish in poverty.

Yes you are right.. thanks you

christianjoy:
This one go school so

No, just need your reasoning as person wey go school mbok

Innobee99:
Na only jobless people go read this shit finish

No smart person reads everyday, the same way I reads on people case here in NL

Adejo1:
No matter the advises everyone is given you here, you will still do whatever is in your mind.
There was a time I was traveling inside a public transport, there was a man telling us about how he met his wife.
He said without his wife's knowledge he travelled to her home town just to know the mom's character. According to him, he said whatever character the mom exhibit same as the lady.

Naked truth, but gene comes from both parents not just the mother please consider that. The girl father is my kind of man, so strong and hard working at young age. The mother is not just a bad person but she get characters that easily pisses me off, like she too like prophecy and ministries stuffs, she talks a lot and always want you around but I’m not that kind of person at all

Maxxim:



What is this bayii
This guy is confused abeg

Yes is why I brought up the matter here, I believe you couldn’t read what I wrote, I am ready to marry and I have serious plans of relocating due to some reason ms not just this marriage shit, but the rush is what I am not taking. If you are a hustler and paying your all your bills for over 6years even as a student, you’ll understand my plight

dawnomike:
I understand how you feel about the whole thing... Forget being a Simp or a Redpiller here. This is matters of the heart.

You have to brace up for what you want... You and your girlfriend should take the bull by the horns by speaking to her parents together.

Since you are kinda close to them already, both of you should sit them down and tell them your minds. They should give you both some breathing space for a while to grow and be more stable.

Love is not all that marriage entails... It is a lifelong commitment

Thanks you

purejustice36:
No dey stress yourself this boy

Just give the girl belle and the family go carry her dash you period

Pure justice time for belle go soon reach, I have big eye and big dreams. Always on a moving tracks, I will not wanna suffer anybody because I am chasing my dreams, at this point, I’m just thinking of using engagement ring and introduction buy more time while I do my thing

alhaji04:

tho i didn't read all ur writeup, i'll suggest u talk to ur girl to talk to her father politely about how u feel, let see if things will change..i do understand how u feel.

You can check the WhatsApp screenshot, it is kinda conclusion of the whole story

TheNoble007:


Just be careful to avoid unnecessary headache. I know a guy who was courting a lady. One day, he saw her watapp status was one of the excerpt of a Native doctor like in a Nigerian movie. She posted that in the morning hours according to him. He confronted her about this, and the lady declared that we all praise the same God and she was focused on the words. This guy listened to reason and severed the relationship. It happens that she hails from Enugu Agidi in Anambra state.

Use your head well.



Shalom.

I’m trying to understand the native doctors part hahaha. In trying to be careful but seriously I have nothing against her just time

Dammyseyon:
Senior man, please ignore the naysayers. My little pinch of advise for you is stand your ground even if you are threatened on losing your babe, stand your ground.
How old is the girl in question that you are being pressured to get married.
This issue doesn't need to get to you to the point of frustrating you, you love their daughter but your destiny is not tied to her na.
Inasmuch as struggling men needs virtuous women, you will find another woman 10x better than their daughter na because you never try.
No disturb yourself, focus on yourself abeg.
Shikena!

Thanks. She is 20 now, been from a very strict family, she is the first child and what surprise them is that since 2 years now, the girls acts like I’m the only one telling her what she does. She respect and loyal to me like I’m her God, I made it like that but I think the parents are scared, even to some extent the mom was asking her if she is sure I’m not using her spiritual.. Mind you I’m always mean and I keeps my distance 24/7 even with them living in same districts with me but I fail to come around as they wanted and that baffles them. I have a positive plan for my woman but seriously I need time, like more 6months to 1 year

care4you:


You need to calm down first...it seems you are under pressure....

You need to sturdy your girl first cus something is off about her but the the love you have for her won't let you see it...

My guy, let me tell you the fact. When it comes to marriage, love can never be enough. Marriage no be friendship... marriage na lifetime journey...

Allow that your babe to add one or two years with that you will experience who truly she is...

...

AND ONE OF THE REASON FOR THIS PRESSURE IS ALSO BECAUSE SHE IS THE FIRST CHILD IN FAMILY OF 4, ONE OF THEIR FEAR IS THAT I COULD BE A PLAYBOY AND MAY DUMP THE GIRL

care4you:


You need to calm down first...it seems you are under pressure....

You need to sturdy your girl first cus something is off about her but the the love you have for her won't let you see it...

My guy, let me tell you the fact. When it comes to marriage, love can never be enough. Marriage no be friendship... marriage na lifetime journey...

Allow that your babe to add one or two years with that you will experience who truly she is...

...

Thanks.. what if I use engagement and official introduction but time for the one year, do you think is the best. Another is I must say I know her at almost adult age 18 I know her might and flops. I’m active street guy and to my understanding I get small sense. when I say she is good she is good and I can easily know any secret from her as she hardly hide things from me thought sometimes she fails but I later found those out, her flop level is 2/10

alhaji04:

1. Y not make it short, to points
2. nigga's dey curse u here, doesnt mean dey hate u. it means dey don like d way u handle things with ur girl & her mother.
3. op, if u knw u cant take such headache frm dat family, pls move to d nxt girl and leave their daughter alone.. u are matured enough to take good steps. peace!

Thanks, the girl knows what she want and she sacrificed everything for me, I love her and wanna make her my partner for life. I just don’t like the rush. The parents (father in particular) acting like he has better for me after marriage but the truth is I don’t like that kind of help, I hate insult so much and I’m avoiding it

muhammadhan19:
Think with your head n not with ur heart!!!
Only u urself knows whats good for u n what's not. Never be forced,pressured,succumb to do what's ure not ready to do no matter the condition, love, fear etc surrounding u at that moment. The lady is still very young, I don't know y their forcing her into marriage now, maybe due to fear of bad guys who waste women pressure time n later dumped them, who knows....
In life hustle, but never rush to make money.... Also, never rush into marriage cuz e get why.
Pls ensure u achieve 75% of what u planned for b4 u marry bcuz marriage na different ball games, e no go tey b4 love clear for ur eye when different issues start coming in n u gonna blame urself, the lady for any misfortune leading to unhappy family....
from what uve said, it seems d lady loves u.
Oga its time for u to be a man, man up go see her parent n tell them when u will be ready and stand ur ground but with respect. Shit happens never be afraid to loose anyone cuz e get y....
Do what u think is best for u first b4 anyone else... PEACE OUT....

Yes they are kinda scared because even the girl and her family made me popular with this relationship and I’m also kind of popular dude in my location. So they are scared of me dumping her which I never have the intention for once

Nutase:
You are trying to justify your rude anti social behaviour with being a redpillar.
Lemme tell you something you don't know, the very moment you choose a partner and the parents accept you, they automatically become your parents. They are trying to develop a healthy relationship with you but your pea sized brain is forming redpillar. May God help you to loose this girl then you'll know that good families are hard to come by talkless of spouses. You don't know what help her parents can offer to your destiny. Continue running.
Their is no difference between you and Osinachi Nwachukwu's husband. I just pity the poor girl who is crazy in love with you.
I'm glad you said her parents are not poor and dependent on you.
You also fail to realise that you'll have a daughter tomorrow and someone will do same or even worse to you.

Continue....

Please I’m not using my girl, I love her so dearie and treat her with absolute respect while I treats her like a Queen, I like her parents because they are young parents but nwanne I don’t send their money, I just pray for peace at all time. They know I am their daughter’s first love and they are scared of me leaving her for another woman I think

YourHighTension:
They are already drumming and dancing when you haven't even done introduction?

From your writing, I think you liked the attention they were giving you after you visited and you allowed them pull you into the 'my in-law' quagmire.

Marry her. But you should consider relocating, far away from their immediate reach.

I love this Sir, I am considering relocating

Holybaddo:
Make it clear to them next time you meet with her parents and they bring up the topic.

As a niga: Propose to her, give am ring that will buy you time till you are ready.
If them come again tell them say you dey gather money for wedding,bride price tell them say you wan do all once. Thank me later
#HolyBaddo$#

I’m thinking of that ring stuff

ruffkenny:
Just be careful sha,u never know the reason they are forcing the girl on you for marriage,u are still young and I think u should take ur time and still be meeting other girls at the moment and at least get to a certain financial stability before this marriage thing,plus that family talks too much and gossip a lot,are u sure u want to enter such a family? Things might not be as u see it with ur gf,listen to what the guy above me said @care4you

Yes the problem; they talks too much

care4you:
If you marry that girl trust me you are finished...from your write-up I can sense that you are from Anambra state...

My brother you are truly confused.... No allow them pressure you guy, a failed relationship is still better than a regretful marriage!

And try to know the reason why your mom dislike her town... that's the most important part...

Have you asked your self why her mother is desperately pushing her out?... you don't really know the the girl you're dating, she's just showing you the part of her that she wants you to know.

But if you insist on marrying her...then, my brother gaa jụọ ese ofụma.

Cc: Georgekyrian
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The reason why my mom don’t like the town is simple, my mom’s brother marry from the town and the marriage is headache, my elder sister too was married to that town and she is on verge of divorce. So my mom is surprised that I am dating a woman from that same town, so she is just lamenting that I have to be careful, now I am taking my time as mom said not that I must do as she said just taken my time to get if formal

Chris2863:
I tried finishing this your story but meeeeeehn, I got tired. If I happen to finish it, I go drop my own opinion but for now, go and get your PVC if you don't have one

I have and I got passport incase

Danielle09:
Hey kiddo stop quoting me, koshi danu

Lol, come advise me private. In this I accept I’m a kid but I wanna learn new things.
Can I email you?

First are you married and secondly if is just relationship I will want to know how you deals on it

Many people causing me here don’t know the kind of person I am, I’m not a simp.. I’m just doing my thing, if you meet me, you should be scared of me.. believe me 100%. I am everything you can think of and have foot soldiers too, I’m not a simp
I just need advise them I will decide what is best for me. I might not marry soon or I could, na me know Wetin dey my head

RedPiller:
Op.

Read my Moniker 9 times loud.

Then read my signature 71 times before 12:am.


Your brain is dying.

But do you understand, I’m not suffering in my relationship, I’m gaining and I’m doing fine

Danielle09:
On top the rubbish wey u type up there, you kan add to be continue... Mumu ode oshi

If this is the only thing you have to offer then you no get yan

duduade:


I couldn't even read the rubbishhhhh

Looool

You won’t understand, jam me for street you’ll understand I’m a full time mercenary with touch of holiness

DonBenny77:
You be mumu

Bro I am not a poor boy, is my girlfriend and my wife to be. Curse me if you want but I like standard

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MufasaLion:


You'll be caught and I hope it's sooner.

Na lie

Marriage is not do or die affair, please don’t just rush it, give it time and reminisce if it true worth it, work on your marriage it could worth more..

NL are not use to this kinda issues

VandalSavage:
China has a plan

the way they troop into small poor African countries in the name of investments is suspicious

I'm glad they aren't that deep into Nigeria

They are. The APC government is working with this people Uncode, remember second Niger bridge..
PO went to Egypt, BAT went to China
China is deeply into 7 African countries now and is a project