streetpaddy:
I just came to Owerri from Delta state, I didn't know that wearing red and black was a problem.. they stop ask me if am a cultist Omo see as dey dey gave me heavy punch, I told them am not a cultist at gunpoint they ask me open my phone gallery to confirm if I wasn't a cultist, they didn't see anything they ask me to find them money, I told it is my transport they said am I playing with them I gave them, Omo my phone was with them, they didn't want to give me back, Omo I had to knee down o.. before dey gave me the phone.

Has Nigeria gotten this bad, this happen today 12:00 in the market people were looking they couldn't do anything...in broad daylight..

I can bet my preeq say they didn’t show you gun, you’re a toy, they only told you they have guns and you bow.. if is upper iweka I will agree depending on time of the day.. Owerri Agbero no get gut to carry gun around Douglas at blood day light, don’t argue with me OP

Bonesbreaker:
Dude your wife is doing this intentional so play the bat game start by making a female tenant friend discuss with her ur plans then start the opposite thing ur wife its doing but first accuse ur wife of cheating that will put her on a still moody then kick off this plan i said here give that particular female lady attention that your wife will be jealous and regret her actions towards you. Ignore the male tenant let him be the swan in ur pawn game, warn ur kids never to collect anything from him again.

Let me say from what I have observe from women, I don’t like playing games, I place orders and I am extremely ready to take any decision that people least expected from me, I don’t even have to warn or flirt with another woman, I place my actions that whoever involved will reason two times before coming closer again.. I don’t play with people wife/gf so no shine teeth with my own

marcopollo:
Your suspicion is legit. But who is your wife not to listen to you? Why are some men like this? Who married who? Or did she pay your groom price? You don't need to involve any third party. Be very decisive with what you want and take a definite stand on this matter. Let her know the consequences of disobeying you which might lead to separation. Yes, it's that serious. Who born monkey?

In all (and this is very important), stop eating her food and don't sleep with her till she comes back to her senses. Be spiritually alert, also. Make spiritual consultations to know what she's up to. Women can do anything to get what they want, before she turn you to mumu.

The way our men gets weak this days dey mad me, I am just newly married but I know even in years to come, if my woman cannot keep my order then the marriage may end up been story for another day..
Moreover I don’t entertain people contributing nonsense in my life, so if matters play between me and my woman, I got no advise from nobody.. na why I Dey try make big money

Come

verygoodbadboi:
Of cause I understand the more energy part of being alone. Might be because You probably love reading? I'm guessing you recharge when you read In fact Reading gives me joy. I get to read more than 100 topics posted on nairaland and other forums on a daily basis.

The community we reside when my child is of school age will determine the school they will attend.

Yes you’re right, I read and mostly work online, I train myself like from childhood, someone said something about ‘society we grew up’ then this has always been my excuse when my people complain of me been a loner, me self knows I’m trying my best to socialize, omo is not my calling, funny enough from uni, I had always represents and leads in social offices till today..

Nwafor Agulu, Obodo dike di n’ Anambra state..

Go kill am make we see, just Dey play

Aladdin1:
Am an introvert too.but i noticed that many introverts allow themselves to drift unnoticed into an extreme isolated and secluded unrealistic and unhelpful cacoonic lifestyle.some become antisocial and prone to social anxiety disorder and borderline personality.so we gat to watch that lifestyle.

Yes I also advise introvert to be careful and apply socialization it helps

verygoodbadboi:
Lol am like the op and i attended both primary and secondary school boarding. Does boarding school have influence in being an introvert. My newly married wife is complaining about my introversy o. Sometimes She is pissed about it

That’s it, as for me I have most of my niggas around my creep, once once we plan on meeting, lodge and chill out, sometimes days and weeks outside our home, that deep spirit in me no go wan follow up but finally I will force my self to show, going to events same thing, i learnt socialization and is cool but my introvert part I appreciate a lot because I have more energy been alone.. I don’t know if I made sense
As for boarding i went to only boys seminary schools all through secondary school, i on my own all my kids will go boarding if they wish also but it will all be a mixed school

I’m directly a carbon copy of you OP, my newly married wife issa vibe too that suit my introvert nature too and we believe we are cool with it.. I belong to social clubs and more that makes me go out once once, that would help you a lot and I forces myself to socialize presently but it doesn’t change the fact that I’m damn introvert
Did you attend boards school?

Shame on Nigeria, more countries will deny us visa come this year and beyond

Oga take time

Jovialjune1:
Husbands don't also lie to their wives? Like I don't understand the surprise here, why is this a thing when it comes to women when we know people lie to each other everyday?

Stop this equality, is killing you.. my woman can’t lie to me, I can kick ass for that

Heroicvic:


Some things just doesn't add up, how please
How will Peter obi stop cultism from osun state?
Y'all hype this man alot, I really hope he wins

We’re not hyping him, Broda Nigeria needs Obi.. trust me we are not stupid to push the Obidatti movement

Black breast/nipples is always the best for me..

Cubalabloo:
I wish Peter Obi would win the forthcoming Presidential election come next year. However, there is no possibility.

So so sad about that!

You have less vision, is sad

I’m a product of boarding school, Junior secondary is Seminary and senior secondary in mission school. Is the best thing that happened to me.
Only once had someone- a seminarian in my ss2 (na me find trouble, because he can always dash and buy me gift till after that day which I stopped) made homosexual advance to me and I rejected with full force.. well I’m handsome but kind of introvert and also too strong to reject what I hate. Blame those moral failure on parents.
maybe I will say thanks to those sweet Auntys that molested me from tender age At a time life made me stronger

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Aldol:
What is all these nonsense I just read

You came on Nairaland few days ago, probably you cannot read anything

Hustlerlomo:
You be mumu


Very big one.�

Okay I already check you have nothing to offer

anonymuz:
see you have good plans for your family. Let me tell you make those good things fulfil at least 70% before verging into marriage. I'm talking from experience. Marriage has no date until you chose one.

Yes thanks very much

loosecanon50:


OP you sound like you're from Anambra. But I want to ask you a sincere question though. Is she from Imo state? Nwanne Jukwa ese ofuma oo, maka adi amama

Thanks

anonymuz:
that step you are about to take might not go well at the long rUn. I faced the one that was intense than yours. See Bro. Pls take your time. Let her expose to the flip side of reality. Mine opened eye in school,cheated forgave and moved on. After schooling,we became so close even introduction dey learn...at a point, 2017 she started pressurising me as I wasn't ready mentally though finances was good then. After a while when started attitudes but thank God she left on her own. I later thank God I didn't get married to her. I later discovered that she wasn't ready while she just wanted to be Mrs so so and so. Bro marriage is not relationship or courtship.marriage is a school you never graduate from. You use head Bro. I don't see love here I guess you're being infatuated. No offense.

Now the problem is my age target to get married for my own good and I am kind of having some other plan like traveling with my woman to another country for good. another is the kind of woman I want to marry which she is.. do you read where I wrote that I have a company that deals with modeling ladies. Woman is not the problem but the thing I want.. I cannot forgive cheat even in relationship, a woman I marry can never cheat is a tradition unless she is ready to hurt herself by herself, so my fear is not infidel character but I need energetic person and ready to understand me in full. Many people already takes me as lover boy and I am just laughing. Love is not the issue but the issue is that this is a woman I can easily marry and understand. For 2 years we have been best friend and she fears me more than any person now, I can’t beat a woman but she knows I’m not a child

anonymuz:
she's 18? Guy relax..she still naive

20 now and we have been together 2 years and now

Thebadpolitican:


That's a nice step ,if you desire it, remember is you first before anything so if it's your decision
Then go ahead, it's what suit you we are after because women na men necessary liability

Thanks and nice words from you, I appreciate and will sleep over it

Thebadpolitican:


Sit them down and talk heart to heart with the father ,if you're to marry the lady in the future this Is the first step baldness if they won't see reasons then a much harsher step in the end they will respect you as long as your intentions are true

Thanks so much, but let me ask?
Even before this rush & push I wanted to engage her and do her introduction normal. But I want to give a long space like 6- 9months before marriage proper. Do you think is okay? Why I choose this is because I have standard I want to set and been a girl that still growing up in her parents home, I want to use the period of engagement to make her closer and let her spend some weekend in my place (knowing fully that after introduction the parents will allow me). Then I will watch her and myself closely. I do good business and I have people I feed in my home so having her with me won’t make her hungry as she get skills too, I can easily make her go to school but do you also think I can make her parents support us well in the school aspect, is the only thing I expect from them and nothing more. I have 3 school close to me she can easily drive to school anytime and come home. As for the parents shenanigans and me knowing the kind of guy I am, I can control it. Can you advise me to engage and do like I said here?

Ulunne777:
Just dey recharge your battery for free without any commitment.

You are a mad man

Please no insult, I’m an active guy that can get any woman of my choice easily. I always try my best to be but faithful in my relationship, as for recharging battery I pays her bills so well and that is what baffles people around me, since I pays her bills why shouldn’t I just marry her, normal African mentality.. thanks you

Thebadpolitican:


Allow that girl go School first. u fit propose Sha as u do make mistake go show face give her family ma there b d Bleep up and eblike u dey use d girl do wifey duties known fully well by her parent's

Or don't even bother proposing my second option. Stand your ground that you're not marrying her let her go to School first, if you don't stand your ground now the parent's go still pressure you and the girl after marriage especially when the said gf would later be taking side with her parent's it would be over for you....

If you love her, marriage is not the only way to show it , it tells her parent's is not even responsible allowing thier daughter to get married when she is not yet in school

If they ask you to stop seeing their daughter that would only be possible if she agrees to stop seeing you, if that be the case you guys have to draw a separate line in the new found qualms in the relationship you can't he expecting her to be doing wifey duties if you had her doing it before, your girlfriend will be in Total control of her parents,if you can hold on to that till you're ready Good

In the end only you can weigh your option better bcus only you wears the shoe
Keep the elders updated even the eldership needs advise sometimes

No like no ones does anything for me, I don’t allow her do anything in my house, I have people to do it. They just feel I am prepared and their daughter is very loyal to my government, so they are forcing to hand her over to me so quick which I don’t want in a rush

Screwcode1:
You disvirgined there daughter, Christian parents don’t joke with this, you both have been playing husband and wife role, now why don’t we make it official, I believe this must be the parents thought, never conclude cause she came from a rich home, that if you marry her you will get monetary support, once you marry her you will see things clearly, do this, go meet the parents tell them that you will marry her daughter once she is done with schooling, now watch there reaction and response

Alright, thanks so much

KristaPretty:
First of all I feel passed for wasting almost 20mins trying to understand this shit

Secondly you keep saying red piller, confirm boy, this and that, oga you no get level!!!

Jew wey de try reason esef.

You are not ready, don't let anyone force you. From the chat, it's definitely coming from YOUR OWN girl making it seem like it's the family pressuring her to marry. She is behind all these, shebi me sef na woman

Two options you got, let them know plainly that you are not ready or you marry and end up regretting

When people begin to rush or put pressure on you, especially for marriage then you need to think and watch twice

Lastly, NEVER YOU EVER TYPE SUCH A LONG NONSENSE AS THIS

Thanks you for the advise, but you take idea yab me. This is Nairaland and I used my main account which had been active here for over 8years, I uses those phrases to fits in my dear

Nutase:

There fears are valid. If you were in their shoes wouldn't you do the same?

Yes I will

Christboy320:
From the little I read ,if you aren't ready yet and you want to marry the girl ,all you have to do is to propose to her ,give her a ring and calm everyone down oya begin do your normal routine till you are okay and feels like it's time

Nice! Thanks you, just been my best plan for some moment now