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So men can cry out their ass that a lady cheated. When they are the master of cheats. Most of them have a public joystick that they share with anything on skirt.

Gone are the days when a man cheats and says the wife MUST not because the lady felt exactly the same way you felt when you Cheated on her

The best thing is you keep your joystick for your woman alone and your toto for your man alone. With that, peace would reign

When ever, the spirit of fornication comes on you, always see the woman as HIV carrier, with that your joystick would shrink back

If only they think of the consequences, they would stay with one woman.

Humanly speaking, it is not easy but asking for God's help (self control) through His spirit would help.

They should also flee from evil appearance that could lead to breaking their marital vows. Some men would see signs of extra marital affairs coming and would still try to shook head/ try to manage the situation instead of fleeing

Pornography and peer pressure also contributes, also, don't nuture the relationship with the opposite sex. Make your wife your best friend.

For deacon/pastors who cheat on their wives; they have courses to settle with God on the judgement day.

Some married men would tell you that they cannot be eating only eba and egusi everyday, then why don't you make varieties with your wife or how would you feel if your wife gives you the same reason for cheating on you?

Just my opinion oooo. No insults pls

My neigbours's wife just shared a sad story that the husband was infected with HIV after cheating on her with her friend.

But why do men cheat?

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The average man is often too consumed with pleasing himself and meeting his own needs in the marriage relationship.  The Bible says in Ephesians 5 that we should love our wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it.  That is selfless love!  That is giving to meet one’s needs without regard to whether you get what you want out of the deal. 

It is true that our Creator designed sex.  He created us to be sexual beings.  It brings no more pleasure to God that Christians have a cold, boring marriage bed, than it would bring pleasure to Da Vinci to put the Mona Lisa in a dark closet or bring pleasure to John Bunyan to have his classic Pilgrim’s Progress in a box of never-read books in your garage.  Sinners are having too much sex, and Christians not enough!  Immodest body-worshipers are consumed with how their body looks, and Christians don’t give enough thought to it!  Sinners are consumed with pleasing their lovers, and Christians could care less.  Sinners are consumed with nude images of strangers, but Christian couples turn off the lights before sex.  What’s wrong with this?  It is not God’s will. 

The sexual promiscuity we find in society is a counterfeit of a godly authentic.  Christians should avoid the devil’s counterfeits by abstaining from lust and immodesty, but we should not avoid the potential of our sexuality within the will of God.  

1.Clean up your mess!‎

I’ve seen filthy habits and filthy homes contribute to divorce!  It is a bad testimony to unbelievers.  If you can’t clean up your bedroom, how can God trust you to clean up your kids’ lives, purify a church body, cleanse a government of corruption,  Come on!  If we’re going to dream, why not dream big!  Pick up those dirty socks with some vision!

Men – clean up your mess!  You will find it quite rewarding in the end.  (Get your mind out of the gutter!)  

2. Clean up your wife’s mess (and your kids’ messes)!

If you want your wife to go above and beyond the call of duty in meeting your needs, then you need to go above and beyond the call of duty! When she’s not looking, clean those black marks off of the stove.  My wife just loves that!  (Although, I did have to take one of the grates off of the stove for her to notice it.)  

3. Stop expecting sex after romantic words and intimate touch!‎

Women don’t warm to the idea that their husband is only smooth-talking them because he wants a sexual release.  She doesn’t like to be treated like an outlet.  She wants to be cherished and treated to romance without regard to whether her husband is personally gratified by the conclusion of the encounter. 

I know that sometimes you won’t feel like it, men.  But don’t you want your wife to have sex with you even if she doesn’t feel like it?  Well, do unto others what you would have them do unto you. We have to do things we don’t feel like doing all the time.  You have to just accept that you’re going to have to tell your wife how lovely she looks and the many ways that she is wonderful and irreplaceable without feeling like it.  You may not feel like being romantic unless you have thoughts of sex; those thoughts energize your sexuality.  But you have to try to be selfless. You’ve got to care for the things of the world how you may please your wife, not yourself.  That takes practice to perfect.  But it is an art that is well-worth the perfecting.  Speak the words that melt her body, give her the touch she dreams of having, serve her needs in the way in which she does not expect, and do it all without any expectations of an exciting conclusion, and your wife will transform right before your eyes!

And if she’s the rare woman that doesn’t respond to such treatment, then at least you didn’t defy your expectations, for you weren’t doing it for yourself anyway, right?  “As Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it.”  Give yourself for her.

4. Turn off the TV, get off the computer, get out of that hunting stand, and read a story to the kids, then “whessle” with them.
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‎There’s something ingrained within a woman’s psyche that prompts her to appreciate a man who enjoys his children. ‎‎ ‎
Nothing provokes me to want to read to my kids more than my wife’s admonition, “It turns me on when you read to the kids!”  This occasional reminder sets me on a marathon of book-reading unlike anything you’ve ever seen! ‎
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5. Have family devotions. Read the Bible, sing, and pray with them.

Even sinful women are attracted to men that are spiritual leaders.  I have known sinful women who developed an admiration for their husband when they began to take the initiative and read the Bible to their children, or expressed a desire to pray with their wife.  A man who disciples his kids fits the mold of a woman’s dreams just like a hand fits into a custom-sized glove.  It’s just the way God designed it. 

For so many years, I squandered our evenings doing my own thing.  I tried to be the leader by leading poorly, spurning my wife’s prayers and petitions to have family devotions.  Even if I was debating theology online, studying the Bible, writing articles, or reading books, I was still being a poor steward of my wife and children.  Thanks to the influence of my good friend, Cal Zastrow, I repented of my selfishness and committed to disciple my wife and children.  We still go through periods when we are so busy that our devotions lack, but for the most part, we have regular times where we sing, read the Bible, and get on our knees and pray together.  This is the most important part of our day. 

Your first obligation, my friend, is to your family.  You are their pastor, their protector, their chief educator, and their provider.  God has given you a great responsibility in the management of their souls.  We must not be like the “unprofitable servant” who squandered that which God entrusted to him and was condemned for it.
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But if you disciple your children in the ways of the Lord, your wife will honor you for it. Don’t work and live for the entertainment of the weekend, my friend.  Teach your children and your wife the Word of God – that is the most important and best part of your day!  Live for that!‎  
I Timothy 5:8: “If any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”‎
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‎6. Keep your promises.

When you say, “Just a minute” don’t make it two.  When you tell her you’ll fix something in the house by the weekend, it becomes the most important thing to do by the weekend.  You can’t start a fire with wet wood.  In the same way, you can’t kindle romance in your wife when you don’t keep your word.

The Bible says that a good name is better than great riches.  When you don’t keep your word, your name loses its value.  Jesus said, “Let your yea be yea, and your nay, nay.”  That means when you say, “Yes I’ll do it today” then do it today!  If you say, “No I won’t do that anymore” then don’t do it anymore!  Keep your word!  Your wife can’t appreciate you when you don’t keep your promises any more than a stock broker can appreciate a stock that’s dropped to zero.  She might be intimate with you out of duty, just like she’ll cook the meals and do the dishes out of duty, and you might get your moment of ecstasy, but even animals can do that.  Make her feel special by treating her with kindness and virtue, and your wet wood will soon dry out!‎

7. Don’t criticize her.

As a physician, I’ve seen some wives that desperately needed some pretty stern reproof.  But it wasn’t in the best interests of the man or the marriage for the husband to be the one to give it to her.  I consent to all the passages about rebuking and receiving rebuke, but let’s be real.  If you want a wife who will melt in your arms and meet your needs with joy, then you have to cater to her ears.  You can’t speak whatever words come into your mind.  You have to bestow favor upon her with carefully crafted sentences.  Try it, just for one week.  Speak no criticizing words.  Only praise.  Only admiration.  Only appreciation.  Let her bad habits go unchecked and her criticism unrequited and you’ll find it a small price to pay for the hefty reward.

The Bible says that your words should minister grace to the hearer, and edify, or build them up. Some people cannot receive reproofs at certain times.  It ministers nothing but grief to them.  Or, perhaps they’re just not mature enough to receive it.  There were times when Jesus was ministering that He told his listeners that they couldn’t handle what He was prepared to say.  It’s okay to withhold reproof.  You can give your reproof and correction to your wife, knowing it won’t be received, and you’ll ice your wife until she loathes the thought of you.  Or, you can give her what she can handle and build her up with your words.  The moment when your words meet her ears can be the best part of her day – or the worst.  The choice is yours.  If you speak praise and adoration, she may be more susceptible to your words of correction, and you may find yourself giving it more gently after she’s launched you into orbit with her sacrifice of praise!

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8. Take care of your body!
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How a man looks says a lot about how he cares for his wife, for he is to cherish his wife as his own flesh. 

Most people don’t realize it, but it is a scientific fact that being more than thirty pounds overweight shortens your life as much as smoking two packs a day!  It shortens your life an average of seven years!  Even just being ten pounds overweight shortens your life by as much as three years!  Every pound you are over your ideal body weight increases your risk of diabetes by 3%.  The risk of heart disease and even some types of cancers goes up with your weight.[ii]  God wants you to be a good steward of the health God has given you, and you can’t do that if you’re obese.  It shows a lack of self-control, which is a fruit of the Spirit, and is a bad testimony. 

When I was about ten years old, I drew a picture of Jesus on the cross.  I was quite proud of it until my pastor told me that it was unbiblical. 

“Why?” I asked.

"Because you made Jesus fat!”

Upon consideration, I guess I did draw Jesus a little wide in the mid-section.  However, I protested, “How do you know that Jesus wasn’t overweight?”  (I expected my pastor to succumb to this argument, given that he was a hundred pounds overweight.) 

But he responded, “How could someone who fasted forty days be obese?”

Good point.  Jesus taught that those who loved Him would fast.  If you find a fat man, you find a man who either doesn’t love Christ, or who doesn’t have the fruit of the Spirit, or who for whatever reason looks like he doesn’t love Christ or doesn’t have the fruits of the Spirit.  If you find a fat husband, you find someone who doesn’t sufficiently care for the things of the world how he may please his mate.  If someone spurns the promptings of the Holy Spirit for the urges of the flesh, they show their first love. 

Many of us need to repent of the lack of self-control that will shorten our lives and which has negatively affected our romance and intimacy with our mate.  And don’t get all offended – you know I’m telling you the truth.  Just bend over and take your spanking and make those changes you know you need to make.  Get on a diet and exercise program, and for God’s sake, turn the light back on![iii]‎


‎9. Date night!
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Get a babysitter.  Find out what pleases your mate.  Take her out to enjoy herself.  Focus on her. Talk to her.  Hold her hand and go for a walk.  Make a tape of her favorite songs, dim the lights, and dance with her. 

Oh, and take it from someone who learned the hard way, don’t take her out on a date in the canoe and make her row while you fish.  (Or fish’ll be the only thing you catch.)‎
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10. Repent. ‎

Many of you have read through my list of ways to bless your wife and thought that you could never love your wife in such a selfless way.  If it is true that you can’t, then the God who created you wouldn’t have commanded it of you.  You can because God commands you to, and if you don’t it is because you won’t, not because you can’t.  The best thing you can do for your marriage is give your wife a holy husband who will love her selflessly.  That begins when you repent of your sin. There’s no excuse for sin.  There’s no excuse for abandoning our Creator for the lies of the devil.

In the Garden of Eden, the devil offered Adam another alternative.  He offered him a counterfeit happiness.  And he took it.  And sin and death entered the world. 

"The wages of sin is death.”  (Romans 6:23)

“He that soweth to the flesh shall reap corruption.” (Galatians 6:

“If you live after the flesh, ye shall die.  But if you through the Spirit you do mortify (put to death) the deeds of the flesh, you shall live.”  (Romans

"Whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.” (Matthew 5:28-30)

 The church is full of unlacerated hands and unplucked eyes, unforsaken sin that’s been offered as an alternative to sex-less marriages.  Don’t take of that forbidden fruit.  The path of the adulteress leads to hell.

If there is sexual sin in your life, you must repent.  Pluck out the eye if you must, if that’s the cost of avoiding hell.  You must do whatever is necessary to forsake your sin and trust in Christ to be forgiven.  Do it now!‎
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As the days of Noah were, so shall also the coming of the Son of Man be. For as in the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that [Noah] entered into the ark, and knew not until the flood came, and took them all away; so shall also the coming of the Son of Man be.

Are you ready?

If Christ had come 2 minutes agao , would you have been rejoicing or gnashing your teeth?

You still have to chance to repent and retrace your steps.

Mmm is coming back big and strong
Haters would be put to shame so soon.

Most Nigerians are natural witches,  they love to see people grieve,  they love bad news more than anything,  they love to see you fail,  they love to see you in pain.  This is why in an accident scene,  majority of the people will be snapping pictures while people are dying just for them to post it on fb cos definitely they will have enough comments and likes from it. 

Post a reasonable post on Facebook and you will only get below 10 likes and about 10 to 15 comments (that's if you're popular)  but post a post that you're not feeling fine,  you will see even your ancestors will like the post and comments their sympathy.  Lost somebody and post it on Facebook,  you will get the highest comments since you entered Facebook, even those you don't even know that are in your friends list will come to sympathise with you.  
I  don't get it,  what do people gain in seeing others grieve?  How does the suffering of people better your life? 

You're a ghost on Facebook,  you hardly comment or like people's post but immediately you see obituary picture,  your become an activate friend immediately. 
You wonder why we don't progress in this country,  the wickedness in our hearts are so glaring that we can't even hide it. ‎
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All these bad mouth people castigating MMM should leave participants alone and not‎e that there threat would never cause panic because we are coming stronger and greater in 2017
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Mmm is coming back big and strong
Haters would be put to shame so soon.

Most Nigerians are natural witches,  they love to see people grieve,  they love bad news more than anything,  they love to see you fail,  they love to see you in pain.  This is why in an accident scene,  majority of the people will be snapping pictures while people are dying just for them to post it on fb cos definitely they will have enough comments and likes from it. 

Post a reasonable post on Facebook and you will only get below 10 likes and about 10 to 15 comments (that's if you're popular)  but post a post that you're not feeling fine,  you will see even your ancestors will like the post and comments their sympathy.  Lost somebody and post it on Facebook,  you will get the highest comments since you entered Facebook, even those you don't even know that are in your friends list will come to sympathise with you.  
I  don't get it,  what do people gain in seeing others grieve?  How does the suffering of people better your life? 

You're a ghost on Facebook,  you hardly comment or like people's post but immediately you see obituary picture,  your become an activate friend immediately. 
You wonder why we don't progress in this country,  the wickedness in our hearts are so glaring that we can't even hide it. ‎
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All these bad mouth people castigating MMM should leave participants alone and not‎e that there threat would never cause panic because we are coming stronger and greater in 2017
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Jesus is coming soon. All these stories we hear is a sign of the end time

It is just a sign of the end time. May God help us