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I learnt that if you can't avoid it or enjoy it then, you have to accept it.
Life isn't always sweet. It's not a bed of roses.
Tough times will always come through inasmuch as you weren't born with a silver spoon.
First born or not doesn't make the suffering lesser for you in some homes.
Keep working harder.
My small advise:
1. Don't waste your life, skills, talents, on Yahoo. I wonder how people feel peaceful after scamming somebody of something they also sweated to have.
The best way to make yourself happy isn't at the expense of the innocent's happiness.
Don't back up criminality with a story from many years ago; we weren't even born then.
2. If you're a christian, devote more time to prayer.
The reason most people never improve is that they spend more time complaining and looking for the simplest way to make money.
How much of your time have you devoted to prayer ?
3. Have Faith. Don't stop believing in God
4. Tell yourself you're bigger and better than a scammer.
5. Conquer depression by all appropriate means.
6. God has given to us all things that we need. Unlock it through prayer
7. You'll be fine. Don't be overly desperate for Vanity.

[quote author=victorazy post=115830424][Smiles]
Sorry dear, when it comes to my future, the ability to predict it is not with men.
So, you're wrong with your assumption.

if I may ask, how long did you both date or get to know each other before upgrading your relationship status to "married"?
I'm asking because I think during the course of courtship/dating, he should probably have mentioned to you, the duties of a woman in his own point of view. And if he did, why didn't you take it as a red flag?

Secondly, these are some signs that your husband is gradually falling out of love for you and it actually calls for alarm if you must save your marriage. Well, the thing is that, for him to still come to you for sex means he's still having a thing in his heart for you (although, men can also have sex with people they don't love).
If what you're trying to communicate to us, is that he wasn't like this before marriage then you should be ready to play a role of revival in your marriage because, I'm seeing a crack.
Uhmm... What kind of wife do you think you are? Are you still the type he got married to?
I just have few revival tips for you that I think would work if you have Faith.
1. Try not to make him moi-moi even when that's what you have on your food time table. You could make your kids moi-moi but try make another for your husband. Do the things that would give him joy, Biko!
2. Call him for a peaceful talk. Don't be rash, present your case to him calmly and reason together with love.
3. If you think you're no longer the woman he married, adjust...
4. Be a submissive wife. Men don't like when women try to equal themselves with them. I know you're both united in love but please give him space to play his role too.
5. Pray for your marriage everyday.
6. Invite LOVE. Remember, GOD IS LOVE.

For many years now, I've noticed a culture that is practiced by quite a number of people and I find it abnormal.
I'll be throwing a question to the house to see if any one has an idea regarding why the culture is being practiced.
1. Having a good bathroom in the house, why do people prefer brushing outside, in the open?
2. Why do some men, forbid sharing buckets and toilet with a woman?

Are these practices traditional? If yes, what do they really mean? And how were they originated?


I've being a Nairaland guest for 5 years and I'm finally a registered member. So, I'd appreciate that this being my first post will produce reasonable comments only.

Thanks.