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Ruskov:
The guy will sponsor her , and not want to see the colour of her undies? Low minded Guys of nowadays that see all girls as prostitutes? What are you even saying sef?

Imagine someone giving her advice , and the only thing he could say is start olosho work. This will tell you the calibre of monsters we have in the name of guys.

My advice is , if she can have patience and do tech , UI /UX and have some cash she can raise or this drop shipping, the best for her. As for her and guys , make them no ruin her life for her abeg. She still get bright future ahead.

Thanks so much! I'm so grateful...
I really don't know what word to use in expressing how happy and loved I feel.
Thanks!!!!

OBTOREPA:
Is well with you, pray with proverbs 21:1. To turn the heart of your father. Don't ever defile yourself for any Reason, remain humble to your parents no matter what. God is faithful.

I will!
Thanks a lot...
You have no idea what you've done for me. I'm so grateful

professore:
have you tried churches? They help.

I'm a devout member.
And God has started his work already...
I'm so grateful!

Lat1ene:
You are welcome my sister

See you at the top

You should also get a mentor, who have face and handle similar problems and is now in school

See you bro🌹
I'd take your advice... Thanks dear

Tadeus:
Please don't, you too young for that. Marketing job or secretary job in pH it real won't pay your bills instead lear digital skill.

Please calm down, and put in more pressure to secure admission. Some people will volunteer to help you here but lots of them are after to have sex with you. Don't take their offer. Talk to your dad, let him know what you are going through. Was your dad aware that your are depressed? If I may ask, were is your mum?

Thanks so much!
Nairaland is a blessing...
I've met angels oh!!!
I really appreciate you.

dustydee:
Apply to universities with less competition. They are mainly in the North. Then if you do not get your preferred course, don't worry. Go for what ever you are given. You will figure out the rest later..
I wish you the best.

Thanks a lot!
So many angels reaching out to me😭... I'm so emotional right now. I never thought I would get people talking to me with love. I just wanted to let my story out. Thanks!!!
I love you all🌹

Lat1ene:
First thing you should know is this, from your write up you think you are special, your condition is special and you deserve special treatment , but I am sorry, this is not an attack on your self esteem, but you are not special and your situation is one that many have faced and conquered.


Not getting admission is basically from your side, I knew somebody like you who face almost the same problem in 2019, no supportive parent, but he passed trough it and escaped from house by getting admission.


You are also deluded that admission will solve all your problem, but schools itself had its own set of problems. So get used to life, pick your things by demanding it with sheer effort and forget about running from hone, nobody outside will welcome an 18yrs old for no gain, we now regard you as adult

You're right. It's the bitter truth!
Thanks for letting me know this

fabolouz1:
It's an irony you said you are wise but unfortunately running away is not a wise decision

You know little about wise men. Wise men have fallen even when they could have helped themselves.
Their hands were just too weak to do anything for themselves and I was in that state last night.


A wise man needs a wise friend who he can turn to when his wisdom is failing. That's why I thought: "instead of bottling these feelings inside, let it out!".
I've made the right decision because so many wise men have been able to give strength to my weak hands by reaching out to me through text, calls, emails and comments here.
So many wise men are Nairalanders and I celebrate you all!!!

Anny69:
Why did you apologize? He said he was trying to advise you but is the bolded really necessary? It's giving perv vibes. Take that guy serious at your own peril.

Btw, you're welcome.

Yeah! I just don't want to be the reason you both are fighting with words.
I won't overthink the "I love you" and about the hug, he's only wishing.

Thanks again for looking out for me. Your kind is rare!

Emceecee:
Go and google 'Acres of diamonds', it's one of the best speeches ever given
It applies not just to you, but to everybody, let me explain

You said you're a counselor, motivational speaker, inspirational writer and an upcoming writer, yet you're looking for money
and the way you do that is to go to school so you get a certificate, i assume you'll use to find a job and get paid

2 questions to ask yourself:
What's the use of your certificate?
Why do people give money?

Money is a medium by which people exchange value
Value is something that solves a problem.
The people who make the most money, solve the biggest problems; think apple, dangote, oil companies.

You want to get a certificate so someone sees it as credibility, so he can employ you to help him solve his problem, which he'll pay you for
Meanwhile, you were solving problems for many people and doing it for free.

In case you can't see, you already have what it takes to generate income, i assume you just don't know how to sell
By sell, i mean get people to pay you for a problem you can already solve.

In other words, use your skills of counseling, speaking and writing to solve problems for people and get paid.
I wrote about this somewhere if you're interested, msg me, if not, look out in case i decide to make a post on it.

You desire to remain chaste until marriage is admirable
If people give negative remarks, just ignore them.

I'm amazed at how people are showing love to a girl who they don't even know. And it's because of that I've chosen to stand strong.
I really appreciate this!
I'll message you.

Danmisra:
At this point u have to continue praying for Guidance.
Try to be patient with your father and also include him in your prayers for God to let him see the need to assist you. Know that you are not the only one with this problem, they are many but they exercise patience and prayer because that is the key.
Since you are good ( productive ) as u stated why not try to monetise it and add some skills to it that will bring more money to u.
This your present age is tempting . You will be bombarded with different thoughts(ugly ) once, so u need to be careful don rush pls because some people will take advantage of you being a girl because they know you have Weird feelings coupled with this money issues.
Talk to your uncles .

This is so spirit lifting...
I appreciate this.
Thanks a lot!! I will do just as you've said.
And about my uncles, my dad doesn't associate himself with his family and my mum's, she has just two brothers and they really don't care if she exists.

Regardless, thanks a lot!

Borntosmoke:
You must be a big fool!!!, I was only trying to advice the girl and u brought pervert to my discussion.

I'm sorry about the misunderstanding. Not all males are perverts.
Thanks for your advice.

@Anny69, thanks for looking out for me.

babamoha:
With all what you wrote about your self that you are a motivational speaker and also a counselor
Why don't you creat a page on YouTube and other social media and start posting your videos breakthrough might come from it and you will be free from financial difficulties.

I'd really love to do that but I'm managing my phone. Hopefully, once I get a new phone, I'd do that.
I really love your idea an it's not the first time I'm getting this suggestion.
Thanks a lot! I appreciate

babamoha:
If you finally get admission how will you pay your tuition fee and how will you survive?

God said everything is possible.
I'm hoping my Faith works.
And I'm sure it has began working already

BATified2023:
18 year old dey motivate n counsel

Wetin u don see wey u wan use d experience guide people?

Studying my Bible has taught me a lot.
My family has taught me a lot and I've also learnt a lot from people around .
What I've seen? The things that I have experienced? Age had nothing to do with them.
Thanks

vanesa:
I will be willing to offer you a study scholarship if you are really serious with your Education. Inbox me

I will! Thanks a lot...

gigabyte13:
😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😅🤣🤣🤣🤣😅🤣🤣
You wan run comot for house

NO LET ANYTHING STOP YOU
RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN
E NO GO BETTER FOR WHO SAY MAKE YOU NO RUNNNNN COMOT FOR THAT HOUSE

LAST LAST
YOU GO GET SENSE NO SAY
PEOPLE WEY TALK SAY
NO PLACE LIKE HOME
NO WERTIN DEM DEY TALK

Yeah! No place like home. A good soul also told me not to run just because I have legs to run but I should run only when my life is in great danger.
Thanks but no thanks.
I'm not running away from home.

Sijo01:
If it's not too late to buy the past questions let me know.

What part of Benin are you?

It isn't too late yet.

I would really appreciate your help
Thanks a lot!!

OBTOREPA:
While thinking of running away, beware lest you fall into wrong hands (Organ harvesters, human traffic etc. )
You have a great destiny and devil is fighting it by all means. So you needs to pray fervently for God's intervention and I'm assuring you that this storm will be over and you will have your testimonies in Jesus name.
Secondly, you didn't mention your mom, how
is she?

Yeah! Thanks to good people like you out here, I'm done with the thoughts of running away from home.
I won't.
Thanks a lot! I really appreciate your edifying words 🙏

My mum is fine! She's managing her husband and loves him but prays he changes soon enough.

dawnomike:
Glad you feel better, I really wish I could irrespective of the thoughts and mind of some reprobate minds up there in the comment session.

Let's do this, give me the access to speak with your parents. I know the owner of Unival institute in Benin city who is a top shot at the psychiatrist hospital in benin.

We haven't been in contact in a long while and I will see if I can get through to him to meet with you and confirm your stories.

If you're parents will be willing, he can offer you a job or I see what weights to throw around to help you.

But first, I need the consents of your parents

Sure! I can get you to speak with them. How do I go about it? Should I send you an email?
I really appreciate your help 🙏

nairalee:
I don't know how genuine this post is cos nowadays many rubbish stories make front page just go gather traffic and comments for nairaland.com. However, if you're serious about running from home because of this, u better stop being serious.

If u really need 2,500 just speak up and you'll get it

I wouldn't do this to gather traffic and comments.
I won't do that, please 😞
Somebody asked for my account details already, thanks 🙏

papae1:
Hahahaha 18 years old and has written jamb 3 times hmmmm.....

I wrote my first jamb @16, going to 17. The second was at 17, going to 18 and this year's own, I wrote at 18, going to 19

Gloriagee:
Send your account number and I'll send something for past questions? Do you still want to try another school?

😭May God bless you abundantly!!!
I really appreciate this 🙏
Yes, I would like to try another school

Escapist:
What about about your mum?

She doesn't work.
That woman has tried so many businesses but all has failed. This woman even hawked rice but still, the business collapsed.
I wish I was rich, I would make sure she doesn't do anything stressful for the rest of her life.

Somehow, I beginning to think my dad is responsible for everything because there's no time he comes around that he doesn't mock her with her failed businesses. She would cry, her BP would rise coz she would start thinking of what to do with her life.
Now my dad, is advising her to start selling nylon. The wife of an ASP. This man can start up a good business for her but won't.
She's frustrated too.
Sometimes I blame her for getting married to him. She's all regretful now because her daily confession is that "I thought he would change after we start having children but he didn't. Even when we were dating, he doesn't give me money". And I'm like, what kind of love did you feel for him?
The man hates his wife so much! Abeg! It's a very long story.
My mum is just there, still thinking of what business to start.

Her last business made her take several loans. She took those loans to please my dad. You know why? He would come home, scan her store and say "eee! Na like this your store scanty? You nor even sabi business". We were tormented by those he owed and even hunger almost killed us. Her debt ran into millions. Did my dad help? Never! Not even one time did he try paying.
My twin and I were forced to work and our salaries, we used in paying the loans. Until las las, my mum's twin sister came to her aid and paid the rest.
My dad is selfish and cares about nobody but himself. I feel the little he even does is just so the society won't see him as a bad person.
Everytime anyone visits or sees us, they're always like "omo! Police children, una papa dey try oh! See as una dey shine". If only they knew... If only they knew that some days when they said those words, we were super hungry, broke and weak.
Thank God for everything!

Aemmyjah:
You are correct dear
Don't mind Kobojunkie
She's claiming christian but fighting against everything in the Bible

Another word for contradiction is inaccuracies
Why will Jehovah, the Author of the Bible allow inaccuracies in his book?
Human authors have tried hard to ensure that their works are accurate, how much more God?

Where they fail to gain understanding, instead of humbling themselves, they say the Bible is nit accurate

Thanks a lot!

Aemmyjah:
You'd better stop arguing with Kobojunkie for your own good
She's keeps contradicting herself and the scripture
You yourself can see it and knkw when to end a discussion

She says the action of the sons of God on women is not an evil (sin) against God. What then is it? A righteous deed

All books and letters ij the Bible form the scriptures, she has her own exceptions based on what Paul wrote to Timothy.
The more you converse, the more you see it for yourself

I'm done with the argument already. I try as much as I can to avoid arguments like that.
Thanks for letting me know this. I appreciate

Stevenbright:
There is an aspect I want you to look into that might hold the answer to your quest!

How resourceful are you at home (to your dad)? By this I mean if he is the type that run his business, find a way to be of help to him in the day to day running of the business.

But if he is a salary earner, you need to find a way to be very resourceful in the home keeping aspects: younger kids academic coaching, school home work assistant to them, cooking, washing of his clothes etc.

This can motivate him to be of more help to you in your academic pursuit. I am saying this because of his assertion that shows he is in a hurry for you to get married which implied that he sees you as a burden!

He's a salary earner (a mobile police officer), he doesn't live with us and comes only to visit. Usually,when he comes, he brings already washed clothes he'd wear for the 3-4 days he will be staying.
I've taught in schools, worked as a home lesson teacher, and worked as a waitress just so I can support him. I've been doing these things since I was 16. He never appreciates. Most of these jobs I had to quit because he felt I was earning millions and stop taking responsibility in the house. It got to the point where my mum would ask for feeding money and he'd tell her to ask me for my salary. Salary of how much?
My first teaching salary was 10k, the second, I taught 4 subjects and was paid 12k, as an home lesson teacher, I taught 4 students in my house and was getting 1k every two weeks from each of them. My mum stopped me from being their teacher. She said the children made too much noise and crowded the house; and lastly, when i worked as a waitress, I was paid 20k.
I worked just so I could buy myself sanitries, pay church levy, recharge my phone and buy new clothes.
No one does these things for me.
I got the beating of my life last year. What was my crime? I asked daddy to give my five hundred naira for sanitary pad and what I got was "abeg! I nor get! Ask your mama". I got angry because I was on my period and secondly because he was spending so much money in fencing the house and I only asked for five hundred naira. My mum would give if she has and I know that. She spoils us even if it's just 2k she has. I wish God had blessed her Instead.

He's hard to please.
One day, my mum served him food with one piece of meat, he called it "prisoners food". The next day, she served him with two and his remark was: "Na so una dey waste food for the house". My mum attempted to remove one since he complained but he didn't allow her.

One thing I know is this.
The Bible doesn't contradict itself. You just haven't read with an understanding.
You should yield into the ministry of the Holy Spirit. He's a good teacher.
The Bible isn't a story book you read and question anyhow.
It's complete and perfect. We just need help from the Holy Spirit to understand certain things.

It's not wise to argu on what God has said.

Kobojunkie:
Here's a mistake that most make going to read from Scripture, you go in expecting it to conform to a story you have been fed about what is written in it.

Here are some ideas that are not expressed in the above passage which you seem to take with you.
■ Nowhere in the passage above does it state that the sons of God did evil against God when they took for themselves wives of the daughters of men
■ Nowhere in the above passage is it written that God chose to punish mankind because of the actions of the Sons of God. Pay close attention to what God is written to have said in verse 1-4, "People are all human..." Even after the matings with the Sons of God, the people remained all human— not Sons of God, but all human.
■ The Nephilim, mentioned in that passage bear no direct connection, to the Sons of God. Rather they are connected to the ancients, most likely Adam himself or his direct descendants.

2. Every race we have on earth today can be traced back to pretty much the same ancestry. Why do you conveniently exclude the race of giants from this same?

Maybe you should read from another version of the bible.
Yours could be one of those Bibles that have been tampered with. The type that some people would intentionally omit words from.

King James version: Genesis 6:1-5 And it came to pass, when men began to multiply on the face of the earth, and daughters were born unto them,
That the sons of God saw the daughters of men that they were fair; and they took them wives of all which they chose.
And the LORD said, My spirit shall not always strive with man, for that he also is flesh: yet his days shall be an hundred and twenty years.
There were giants in the earth in those days; and also after that, when the sons of God came in unto the daughters of men, and they bare children to them, the same became mighty men which were of old, men of renown.
And GOD saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.

Check it out by yourself. If you're not satisfied with the King James Version, you should try the New International Version (NIV)

Kobojunkie:
What you claim is not at all of Scripture. I suggest you open your eyes and mind to what is in fact written as opposed to that which is of the imagination and not recorded therein.

You remember why God had to reduce the lifespan of man?
Genesis 6:2-4 That the sons of God saw the daughters of men that they were fair; and they took them wives of all which they chose.
And the LORD said, My spirit shall not always strive with man, for that he also is flesh: yet his days shall be an hundred and twenty years.
There were giants in the earth in those days; and also after that, when the sons of God came in unto the daughters of men, and they bare children to them, the same became mighty men which were of old, men of renown.

The NIV version would put it as: "... when the Nephilims were on earth..."
What's the meaning of the word Nephilim? (Gen. 6:4; Num. 13:33, R.V.), giants, the Hebrew word left untranslated by the Revisers, the name of one of the Canaanitish tribes. The Revisers have, however, translated the Hebrew gibborim, in Gen. 6:4, "mighty men."

As it is written, those Giants (sons of God), had carnal knowledge of the daughters of men and those daughters gave birth to Mighty men (giants) in manly form.

Goliath was from a race of giants. Elhanan was also a giant who killed Lahmi, the brother of Goliath.


I'd love to add this:
You need to know that the bible is a book for men and it expires. It would expire when the world comes to an end.
You can't know much about God, where he's from, and stuffs like that by reading the Bible.
It speaks on how our worlds were created. The heavens and the earth.
Heaven is for man, earth is also for man.

And one more thing, God's words shouldn't be questioned. He doesn't make mistakes. He's perfect. If he says "this is this" then that's it for me.

Martinsmine:
Dont run because you have legs to run but run when your life is in great danger.

Marvelous words...
Sure thing! I won't run unless my life is in great danger. That's great!!
Thanks a lot. You're a blessing to my generation.
I won't run

TheBTCinvestor:
Come to ph il give u free accommodation and get u a secretary or marketing job

I'll put this into consideration. Thanks a lot, I appreciate 🙏