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I have always heard it that Nigerians jolly in the woes of others to feel good about themselves, but reading it real here felt disappointing.

You are contented but do not relent.

And as for your friends, if you cannot help, learn from them but don't mock them or use their lives as a yardstick for yours.

Life na turn by turn o... thank God for what you have and move on

Fekumzi123:
I have never made 1m before and I'm 40 already. But I'm not complaining. Ayam Mr contented.
I have two friends who have made N30m and N40 at once in the past, they're both broke now and unmarried.
On the other hand, I am married with three kids and surviving.

yeah its all about the money now.

Lovelink1991:
Just tell our president say no need for education if the system has been this bad to this extent.
Today education is more expensive than ever. So school should be completely closed

Lovelink1991:
Why will they learn when the society has bastardize everything with the terms education is a scam

Ask yourself, has the country's education system not been basterdized.


See students going into exam hall for courses where lecturer did not show up once.
Employers paying BSc grads what cleaners would earn.
UTME cutoff even in federal unis
ETC

Education doesn't have to be a scam and not to everyone, but to some extent in this country, it has lost its core value.
But that's not an excuse to start duping people of their money and life to make quick money.

so now that you v given them idea, you will start waiting for that time so the bandits can confirm your prophecy.

shame on y'all

Toolegit123:
Good evening everyone.

Lately, so I decided it was high time I tried my luck with other ladies since my fiancee broke up with me. I must really confess, it has been hectic after meeting a couple of single ladies.

The first lady, a lady of 27 years was the first one I encountered and she was introduced to me by my cousin. M After texting and chatting on Whatsapp for a week, we decided to finally meet. We booked a date and I paid for her transport. On the day of our date, I noticed she wasn't paying attention to everything I was saying and that really killed the vibes I was expecting from our first date. Funny and awkward thing was that she didn't even spend more than 20 minutes on the date and I was the only one asking all the questions. After she left, I only called her to make sure she got home safely and afterward, I didn't bother to call or text her because that wasn't the kind of relationship I wanted.

Then, what actually buried the whole thing was that, even after everything, I was trying to build up a relationship with her even though I wasn't really feeling the vibes. The question that dug the final grave was--"Since the day I left your place, you haven't sent me any money for food and upkeep".

At first, I kept quiet for a while and then replied her--"haven't you been eating before we met?". That was when hell was let lose. The insults I received on that day from her were so much and annoying that the only way I thought I could pay her back was to block her ASAP.

This lady was someone who had her own hairdressing saloon business and I thought I could build something meaningful with her. But to my greatest surprise, she wasn't different from the hungry, younger ladies out there.

I don't think I will commence on my mission on the dating pool from now on because it seems most of these ladies nowadays are hungry and only looking for men who will bail them out of their poverty

So single guys in the house, has anyone of you had a similar experience with single ladies?

She had her own hairdressing saloon and so you thought she doesn't collect upkeep from men??

You con dey engage am for chochocho talk talk

No be you even suppose send am tfare, since you both decided to meet... omo nairaland guys sef, make i sign off

NassBoy:
Kingdom: simpae
Phylum:Simpson
Gene; Simp

If OP was Argentine, his name will be SIMPaoli.

Una no dey ever learn anything about this other gender because you don allow love clog your ears

Stephen0mozzy:
I think DNA test is purposely set so high make the society for no scatter.

Mehn, God abeg oooooo.
Na everyday I dey beg my babe, if you nor like me again breakup/divorce. Nor bring another man pikin for me to train.

No bigger pain than this for a man.

no beg again, na sign of weakness. make up your mind to do dna no matter what, we live in end times

Is this a real story or an ad.

CJStarz:
U cannot even spell ceiling. Wetin you spell na person name, as in Celine Dion

Forget ceiling, wetin e type sef get meaning? his father at in heaven

faceland:
Who who that guy that dropped from celine (like our father at in heaven).

Osariemen12:
Clearance shot it.

Do you mean Clarence A. Peters

Those of you on this thread making series of excuses for the ineptitude of the government to facilitate the rescue of babies in the hands of bandits, God go punish all of una.

it is well, 12 more characters needed

I was wondering if he hit the wood intentionally or missed, cos that range was too close to hit and miss. and na special squad dem be, imagine the non-special squad

DrTee1:
But why did the police have to shoot at the man in the roof who bore no arms?

I know the society is charged, but extra-judicial killing isn't right either. You don't shoot at an unarmed person except the court of competent jurisdiction has passed a death sentence, isn't it?

However, looking closely, despite the close proximity, it doesn't look like the suspected kidnapper in the roof was hit by the gunshot. He should have crumpled to the floor from the roof and died if that happened. However, his descent, thought fast, showed some clumsy coordination, suggesting that he wasn't killed.

Yet, this poses another challenge: how can our security agencies shoot that closely and not hit the intended target?

Nigeria is the new Kenya, with all these weird news coming out of the country

Rapmoney:
A woman was paraded yesterday at Ikom-Obudu Road, Cross Rivers State for using her poo to fry Akara that she sells to people. Trust Nigerians. They showed her a little bit of love and affection.

See the video


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qQCbYNiULjQ

Source: WarriParrot

deep, but this generation no really wan think

how many characters left?

axglide:
As Christians it seems we have forgotten our first love which is Christ Jesus and preaching the gospel cos if we have been evangelizing aggressively we would have reached all these bandits with the good news and these things would not be happening.

You want to blame yourself because of uneducated brainwashed people who want to coerce people into serving their god?

no matter how aggresively you want to preach, evil people will still exist

nawa for una o

amancalledgodd:
Literal terms
It means im a good guy
Whats is good is good
What is bad is bad.
If you vex me i can increase the money to 500k monthly

ahh no vex o

Let's say we all agree, baba is past 80 years old. Wetin do the young prominent pastors/content creators, the CAN and PFN from orchestrating another protest.

While we are dragging pastors, Muric and co sef na groups wey get following, they shd organize protest.

Not to say one thing on media and go back inside as if country don set

princeogbeide1:
Foreign nations will soon call Nigeria a failed state

Wake up, this is 2026. They have been calling us failed for as long as I can remember, in words or in acts.

wfjimmytobby:
There is this calm girl and decent I met about a year and half ago. We met and vibe then start about a week after we met.

She was loving real, not materialistic and very smart, this make me fall more for her..

She was in her final year in school when we meet and she didn’t let her studies affect our relationship. She was always active, infact she was more dedicated and active than me. So I made up my mind that after she is done with school and all I should be able to probably settle down with her.

So fast forward to a month ago, she suddenly changed. She stopped talking to me reply my messages and kept asking her what’s wrong she ain’t giving me any answer despite all my efforts..

Then after that she asked me to leave her alone…though she didn’t block me on her socials and she is not doing any suspicious it really shocking to me. For a girl that craves for my attention all this time and after have already start giving her my 100% she suddenly switch and wants me to leave her alone..

It really surprising and after I thought about everything the only wrong was that I do get mad at her if we had an appointment and she didn’t turn up that’s all..we didn’t even fight or argued much through out the time we were together…now in the situation the question is should I just give up on her and move on or I should give it more time hoping to get answers to what’s wrong…

OP no too reason am, there's an 80% someone has outperformed you and won her heart. She won't have any excuse for you but she will despise you.

If you keep begging her to come back, she will despise you more and you will be worth much less than you are now to her.

Harvery Specter once said: "IF SHE WANTS TO GO, LET HER GO"

Nobody fully understands that gender, even they don't understand themselves. She may return, she may not..but move on

amancalledgodd:
Pls try to get her
Women are really scarce and needs to be treated well. I put my babe on monthly salary 100k and this june is her birthday.
I have an upcoming surprise for her.
Make i no talk much she dey here dey read. Spoil your woman o

one woman don call you 'good guy', op you know what that means

Zero accountability, all they see is opportunity to campaign and embezzle more funds.

Gbadugbakun:
They've been dating for just 2weeks and she wants total loyalty and commitment from him? She's not serious

Doesn't matter. The test might be early, but it shows two things, the guy is not in it for the long run, also, the guy is dumb and will follow anything in a skirt, abandon his senses just to get laid.

OlaOfLagos:
Number 1 on the list of the woman you should never marry.

1. The feminist.She talks about "equality" but really wants control. Every decision becomes a debate. She shames your masculinity, calls it toxic, and turns the home into a constant power struggle.
Sex becomes negotiation instead of passion. Peace is impossible when she sees your natural leadership as oppression. Never marry a woman who fights your role as a man

2. The Single Mother
You will never be her number one priority. The kids and the baby daddy drama will always come first.
You become the financial provider, babysitter, and the bad guy when you try to enforce rules.
Raising another man's children while getting disrespected in your own home is a trap that destroys many good men.

3. The Party Girl
She's fun and exciting in the beginning, but marriage kills her lifestyle. The club nights, attention from other men, and constant craving for validation don't disappear.
Once the honeymoon phase ends, she resents the "boring" home life and starts looking for excitement outside. High body count and zero discipline for building a stable family.

I agree with all your points.. while they are generalized, 80% in those categories are as you said. The list is even longer than this.

And to be honest, we guys have our own too. I expect the ladies to create a thread on types of men to avoid... instead of creating male monikers to tackle OP.

As a man JUST GET MONEY.

There is nothing truly dark about all these... people in nigeria are lonely and depressed too, their jobs barely feed them...

Sunnyshinylight:
The Dark Side Of Living Abroad Nigerians Don’t Tell You



Every day on Nairaland, Instagram and WhatsApp, we see pictures of Nigerians abroad living “soft life” — big jackets, snow selfies, fine streets, clean trains.

From Nigeria, it looks like once you japa, all your problems are solved.

But the truth?
There’s a dark side of living abroad many Nigerians don’t talk about — especially those already there.


Let’s be honest.


1. Loneliness Will Deal With You


In Nigeria, even if you’re broke, you have people. Neighbours, family, friends, noise, gist.
Abroad?

You can stay months without real human connection.
Everyone is busy. Everyone is tired. Everyone minds their business.


Many Nigerians abroad battle silent depression, but won’t say it because they don’t want people back home saying “you wanted to japa, now see you.”


2. You’ll Work Jobs You Never Imagined
That “abroad” dignity fades fast.
Doctors become caregivers.
Engineers wash dishes.
Graduates do night shifts nobody wants.


Nothing is wrong with honest work — but the mental shock is real, especially when you remember how people respected you back home.


3. Bills Will Humble You
Yes, currency is strong — but expenses are stronger.
Rent.
Tax.
Insurance.
Transport.
Utilities.
You may earn well, yet still be one emergency away from crisis.

That’s why some Nigerians abroad can’t send money home as often as people think.


4. Racism Is Real (Even If It’s Silent)
It’s not always shouting or insults.
Sometimes it’s:
being ignored
being over-policed
being treated like you don’t belong
working twice as hard to be seen as “normal”
You’ll constantly feel like you have to prove yourself.


5. No Family Safety Net
In Nigeria, if things scatter, you can manage:
stay with family
borrow food
get help
Abroad?
If you fall, you fall alone.
Miss rent = eviction.
Lose job = real trouble.
No uncle. No mummy’s friend. No village support.


6. Immigration Stress Can Break You
Waiting for:
papers
visas
renewals
approvals
Living in fear of one mistake ruining years of effort.
That stress is not a joke. Some Nigerians abroad are physically there but mentally exhausted.


7. You Can’t Easily “Come Back”
Once you japa, coming back empty-handed feels like failure — even if you’re tired.
So people endure misery in silence, just to maintain the image of success.


Final Truth
Living abroad is not bad, but it is not paradise.
Nigeria is hard.
Abroad is hard — just in a different way.
Anyone telling you japa will solve all your problems is not telling the full story.
Over to you, Nairalanders 👇

Would you still japa knowing all this?

Nigerians abroad, what’s the hardest part nobody warned you about?
Let’s talk — no packaging.

Glimpsetv:

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We4all:
Abegi! Would he have done the same if he were a nobody who can't afford two square meals? People hurl insults at each other everyday, and call themselves names, but the world has not ended.

It becomes a different ball game if you use your status to punish someone just because you have the means. He should take a back seat because he is not entirely innocent. I guess he will come and arrest me too.

what are you saying. How is defamation of charcter likened to an insult.

You don't realize that it is because he is not a 'nobody' that he has to take it serious, to clear his name?

180% still good, actually whc app be dat sef.. cos FairMoney no fair at all, at times half a dozen months sef d interest bills don enter 200%..

airsaylongcome:
Are you telling me that the CBN approves loan apps that charge 180% per annum as interest?

Plus is the CBN the one in charge of credit score?

Josbreed:
Is the person who posted this on Facebook a NLder? If not, how will the advices from here reach him?

The advices here are for any other persons in similar shoes for decades to come..

3 issues that may cause issues with sex (erection or duration issues) are Excessive Masturbating, Depression, and Unhealthy living.

OP try to fix ur problems first before marriage, then make sure you are emotionally and sexually attracted to your partner. If you have problem getting it up at all, you have to seek medical help and no stop dey pray sef...

Eat healthily, take fruits, and be calm.

Cos Anxiety over erection mata sef dey identical to impotency, i think its called Performance Anxiety. That thing bad gan. one useless girl wey dey kill morale bn wan make me get PA dat year... now, at times during knacking after exhausing all the styles in the book, i just flash back at those times wen ... sha Marry person wey una find una selves sexually attractive o or at least does not see sex as a tool or weapon.

But how will you no sef since u guys might both be acting like sex is a taboo sha make sure she is a virgin, cos a non-virgin telling you no touching till marriage is a giant Red flag. Trust me its cos they've seen and done it all and time don dey go for their head.

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