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Ynix:
If you guys are Christians your dad and mum should send him to go and learn a trade far away from home, or perhaps to go and live with a disciplined pastor that will make him fast and pray may be he will become a pastor in the future or a trader. If Muslim same thing send him to a cleric, it's either he learns a trade or the other, both ways he will become good for himself but the Best is keep him far away where he will be disciplined. [b]Sending him to live with his mother will lead to him eventually harming your family based on this mentioned anteceden[/b]t

how the boy go harm their family please. Explain to me like a primary school students.

faithfull18:
Well, it's mostly on NL and social media, men are 100% providers, in reality reverse is the case most times.

some women are the breadwinner of their family while their husband is much alive and healthy. I've witnessed one myself. This woman struggled to sell Akara and pepper while the husband sit idle at home. He has no job. The woman feed him and their 4 children in one single room. He always deny the woman to his friends outside calling her his sister. Do you know what? This woman still sleep around just to get money from men to feed her family and her husband is aware of it. Several people have told this woman to leave this man but she wouldn't listen.
Some women are going through hell In the name of marriage.

immortalcrown:
If you have brain at all, point out where I support the man for not working. If you have brain at all, explain how asking why the man is not working means supporting the man for not working.

My point is that the woman providing for her home is better than she divorcing her husband when the marriage is peaceful. If you have brain at all, explain how the statement means supporting the man for not providing for his home.

If you have brain at all, point out where I justify laziness or where I justify the man not working. If not that you are delusional, you won't even claim I am justifying the reason the man is not working. Nobody here has been able to give the reason why the man is not working. So, which reason am I justifying about the man?

Tell me how op colleague is better than my cousin's colleague friend mother that divorce her husband for being LAZY and JOBLESS and she's doing fine today with her kids while the man she left is still unmarried, JOBLESS and lazy? How is op colleague better than her? Please tell me

Me I will give you 100 ways my cousin's colleague mother is far far better than op colleague

immortalcrown:
If you have brain at all, point out where I support the man for not working. If you have brain at all, explain how asking why the man is not working means supporting the man for not working.

My point is that the woman providing for her home is better than she divorcing her husband when the marriage is peaceful. If you have brain at all, explain how the statement means supporting the man for not providing for his home.

Don't let me believe what the other person said that you're a LAZY MAN. My cousin told me about her colleague in office. Her mother divorce her father because he's lazy. Always sitting idle at home doing nothing. She had 3 kids 2 boys and a girl and she divorce him. This woman today is doing pretty fine. She has a supermarket in Lagos, own properties and one of her kids school abroad. The second born of the woman was my cousins colleague. Did you know what? The last boy took after his lazy father. He dropped out of secondary school, jobless, and sitting idle eating his mother's food. This guy in question is a twin. The second boy is the one in US doing his masters. The family had done everything possible to make this boy useful in life and not end up like his father all prove abortive. After series of advice from family and friends, he said he wants to learn mechanic and he has been learning it going to a year now. Their father is still jobless till date and unmarried. Their mother never regret her decision leaving the marriage. Any woman who married a jobless and lazy man should leave that marriage without thinking twice. It is forbidden to be lazy as a full grown man. Stop disgracing yourself here bro.

If you don't want your daughters and sisters to end with a jobless lazy man please stop justifying reason why a medically fit man should be lazy.

CrushObituaries:
God will disappoint the craftiness and devices of the embittered bitter grievingory Obi people, let them gather themselves together, they will be smashed to pieces

hand go soon touch you

immortalcrown:
You cannot dodge the manifestation of my prayer in your life. It doesn't matter how you twist my statement.

What you wish my daughters will happen to you in 100 folds unless you point out where I wish anybody such a thing.

nobody twisted what you said. You claimed the woman understand what marriage is without calling out the husband to know what he has been doing since all these years watching his wife carrying the family burden. That means according to your view. It is okay for the woman to be carrying the family burden, even though the man is jobless. Provided the marriage is peaceful. You're okay with it. And i pray for your daughters and sisters to be like the woman. At least they will have a peaceful home

immortalcrown:
You cannot dodge the manifestation of my prayer in your life. It doesn't matter how you twist my statement.

I do not wish any woman a poor husband. My point is that poverty is not a reason to end a marriage. If my daughter gets married and her husband is unable to provide for the home but the marriage is peaceful and she can provide for the home, she should keep the marriage. How does this mean wishing my daughter a poor husband? Answer this question if you are not delusional.

your daughters and sisters too will understand what marriage is since they will end up like the woman. No need of dragging this matter too far

immortalcrown:
Be it unto you according to your wishes for me.

As a matter of fact, what you wish me will happen to you in 100 folds, unless you point out where I wish any woman a poor husband.

Interesting

I thought she understand what marriage is? Won't your daughters and sisters understand what marriage truly is?

immortalcrown:
Extreme in what sense?

I pray for your daughters and sisters to end up like the woman. Say amen please

immortalcrown:
She understands the meaning of marriage.

Is that not too extreme for a woman whose husband is alive?

TheBiggerHUB:
Let her do that herself. Apologize to every nairalanders she defamed and also apologize to the president

The president?

GuestMode:
Na ahnie face be that, her real name is Anita SebakeOgene Osanebi, her cup don full so I had to dedicate my time to reason her matter.
she really made a mistake trolling my moniker and others telling Nairalanders NIanaIyst died and was knocked and crushed by a tippper and I have a pale looking fingers and she paid my fees and also she supported my mum to start a ponmo selling business. She started it first not knowing she has trails and history on this forum that I'll uncover her first moniker including her account name and details she uses to solicit and begged for money all over this forum.
Audio billionaire ahnie with a faded colored 50 nairaland faded jean

please you guys should end everything. I believe she has let go of everything. Just let her be.

@Silentgroper

I put it to you that this is nothing but a FICTION. Myself and few others persons on here are smart enough to know that. It can easily be deduced from all your comments and responses in relation to your post. You can only fool yourself and your likes. Not me or any sane person here.

Anonymous2024:
The erosion of trust between my wife and me began with subtle details that have shattered the foundation of our marriage. 


It all commenced with innocent glances at my wife's phone, where I stumbled upon messages containing images of alcoholic drinks from our refrigerator sent to John, a mutual friend who also happens to be her friend's husband. Days later, John presented my wife with a drink similar to the ones in our refrigerator and said it was for me. However, the gesture sparked a disquiet within me, as I knew John was well aware of my drink preferences, and what he offered differed.


Upon my return from a month-long trip to Nigeria, I uncovered a call log indicating a lengthy conversation between my wife and John spanning nearly two hours. When pressed for an explanation, my wife grew defensive, evading the nature of their discussion. Months later, she attributed the extended dialogue to a three-way conference call involving John's wife, ostensibly discussing a fellow church member's troubles.


The final blow struck when I stumbled upon a screenshot capturing a video call between my wife and John. Her explanation of its origin is that she couldn't recall how the screenshot found its way into her phone. Seeking counsel, I confided in her father, who asked me to forgive her while warning her sternly to desist from any adulterous affair. 


A few months after the intervention from her dad, I discovered a saved screenshot of a photo featuring myself and John on a beach and wondered why she had a screenshot of that image on her phone. I have also seen WhatsApp messages from John appearing on my wife's phone during our time together. Despite these revelations, I chose silence over confrontation.


Due to all that has happened in the past year, I am already doubting the paternity of one of our three children and contemplating a divorce. Please advise!

be careful and don't let anyone scatter your marriage. There's no where pointing that your wife is cheating. Thread gently

fyzaila:
Contact berekete family radio, either online through their original Facebook page or YouTube channel. If you can get their phone number too good or travel down to Abuja games village and visit them. They'll sort your issue.

I've tried to contact them online but i didn't get any response. I don't know what else to do

frozen70:
This is just terrible, may God make away for your family.

Have you made an attempt to visit him in prison to be sure he is still alive, if you have done that, then

Why not go through human rights to get your brother out since the company actually ended the case but they went to jail because they couldn't afford police bribe

As for your brother daughter, she will be fine, just take care of her as much as you can

presently i don't know where exactly he is. Although i have sent an officer to help me check for him at federal SARS ikeja and i was told he's no longer there. The officer said for me to know the prison he is presently I'd have to spend money to achieve that. He said I'd start the search from ikeja where he was before, then they'd direct me to where he was being transferred to. That is how i can locate him according to the officer.

ggoldmine:
It's best to drop more details about the SARS command responsible. Someone here could help. Have you tried to visit there recently? Is your brother still alive? Someone suggested meeting with a Human rights organisation... that's a good start.

it was federal SARS at ikeja. They took him there 2014. I sent an officer to help check and he said he's no longer there. He said he has been transferred. Then i asked him how can i get to know where he is presently and the officer said it's a process. He said I'd spend money starting from federal SARS ikeja till when i get to where he is. The officer collected money from me before he could help me confirm if he's still there. If i had gone there myself I'd spend more. I can't drop his name in a public space. The incident was on newspaper then.

WantsandMore:
About time the little girl knows the truth. It'll hurt, It'll be tough but better than peddling lies...

we can't try that. She really love her mother. I can't afford to lose her. She will later know i understand but not now. It's too early.

Hedgefunds:
You want me to tell you about human right lawyers ?

You don't know about them...

You want us to tell you to visit him and know the current situation .

No where in Nigeria will bail be 1M as far back as 2014 ...Go and do your findings.

What do you want us to do now.

sell any of your dad asset or you sell any asset on your name and pay the company off so he can regain his freedom.

If you are sure the company is no longer interested in the case. Go to the company .ask them to right a letter to that effect and hire a lawyer to follow up..

with less than 100k am sure this will be done.

My late father doesn't have properties. The only house he built is in the village. It's more like a family house even when he was alive. That was where he buried his parents while some family members live there. That was the amount they demanded before they can release him then. We do spend money just to visit him. Almost all of the police officers on duty will demand money from us. Ever since i lost my father things has not been easy for me and my family. Although when he was alive he wasn't really doing much but his presence means alot to us. I was the only one fairing for the family. Because of family responsibility i got admission twice but couldn't meet up due to finance.

I later struggled to see myself through school and at the same time supporting the house. It was so ifficult for me checking up on him because things were so hard on us. I later sent an officer that someone linked me with to help me check him and he said him and his friends are no longer there. He said I'd have to pay for him and his colleague to help me know where exactly he is. My family struggle to feed daily. You can never understand the pain we're going through.

I wish to see my brother alive. I want to see him. I want him to see his little daughter. I want him to see his mother alive.

I want him to understand that we didn't abandon him.

Good day all,

My parents had 4 children, 3 boys and a girl. I have an elder brother who happened to be the first child/son. My immediate elder brother is the second child and . I'm the third while i have a younger brother. My dad is no more. He died 2018 through illness.

My elder brother was working in an industry and also running part-time program. I observed my elder brother behaviour and i informed my dad. He promised he'd talk to him. I've called him myself several times and talk to him but he would claim he has no skeleton in his cupboard. He wouldn't just listen. My brother left the house to get his own apartment outside. He do come home with his friends so i was opportune to know some of them. My mum also called him one fateful day and told him her spirit doesn't welcome his friends. She asked him to end the friendship and he promised to do so. January 2014 my brother's fiancee came to inform us that he has been arrested by the police and some of his household items was carted away by police officers. He was taken to the federal SARS at ikeja. My father went there with his friend. When he arrived home, he informed us that my brother was into robbery. Him and his friends worked in the same industry and they are into stealing the company's goods selling at giveaway price.

I wasn't surprised when my dad broke the news. Interesting part of it was that as at 2013, he has stopped robbing the company with his friends due to tight security measures put in place so they all feel relaxed thinking all what they've done is hidden not knowing investigations was ongoing. They're 8 in numbers that was arrested, his fiancee put to bed May 2014. She was already pregnant for him before his arrest. I learnt the company later let go of the case and asked the police to free them. Unfortunately, bail isn't free in Nigeria. The police asked them to pay one million naira each before they can be free. I learnt 5 of his friends were able to raise the money probably through family and friends and they got their freedom. My brother and two of his close friends were still there. We tried all we could and raised #300,000 but he wasn't released. I finished my secondary/high school 2014 and was working to support myself and family.

2016, my dad got a connection of people that wants to buy 100 acres of land. He has a friend who's a surveyor and my dad would get 18 million naira commission according to him. This was the only hope of getting my brother and his two of his friends out of police custody. The people bought the land truly and made 50% deposit. My dad was supposed to get 9 million naira but the omonile/land owner ranaway with the money. The people that bought the land arrested my dad and his friend thinking they were involved and also with the fact that it was my dad that introduced and his friend that introduced them to the omonile/land owner. After investigation, my dad and his friends were released while the man that elope with the money was arrested and put behind bar.

I observed after the incident, my dad had been falling ill on different occasions. We last stopped seeing my brother at the police custody September 2016. My dad died 2018, my elder sister died march 2020, my brother fiancee father died 2021 while my brother fiancee herself died last year. Her family pressured her to remarry claiming she's still a young lady who had just a child. She told my mum and my mum advised her to follow her mind. If she wish to remarry then she wish her all the best. She died same year she remarried. I learnt she even talked to her daughter on phone through my mum before she gave up the ghost. She had a girl child for my brother and she'd be 10 this month. Unfortunately, her mother told her who her father was which is my brother. She always shows her his picture on phone. She knows her father's name but she hasn't seen him before. She doesn't know her mother is late now. We lied to her that she travelled abroad and she's the one that can call us since we don't have her number. Her maternal grandmother also died early this year.

The little girl always cry that she wants to see her mother and father. Even my mum will be crying in her presence and I've tried talking to her to stop it but she wouldn't. She cry almost everyday. She always talked about her son my brother. She honestly wish to see him. Sincerely I can't even say if he's alive or not. Even myself do cry sometimes behind close door. I wish my brother can get his freedom. I understand he was guilty of the crime committed which i wasn't in support. I felt he must have learnt his lesson and i also feel for his little child. The girl will be 10 soon and she hasn't set her eyes on her father. She will also not see her mother again.

I don't know what to do