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Which one is church baddie again?

I taya for this generation wallahi

Babatunjo:
This one plenty men learn late.

She's very fine.

Educated.

Good job.

Good family.

Maybe even virgin.

Everything looks correct on paper.

But every small disagreement becomes war. She can't take correction. No respect for boundaries. Always creating drama. Everything must go her way.

And because she's desirable, you start telling yourself:

"Nobody is perfect."

"Maybe marriage will settle her."

My brother, shine your eye. 😂

Pretty doesn't cancel difficult character. Education doesn't cancel it. Money doesn't cancel it. Virginity doesn't cancel it.

People can change, yes. But don't marry somebody based on the change you're hoping will happen later.

And that ex you still remember because she was very fine?

If being with her was constantly draining your peace, stop romanticising what you lost.

Sometimes you didn't lose a baddie. You escaped a problem with fine packaging. 😂

Same applies to women choosing men too.

Choose character with your eyes open.

For those already married and dealing with serious issues, different matter entirely. Work on what can be worked on and get proper help where necessary.

But if you're still choosing?

Don't knowingly marry wahala and start praying for peace afterwards.

Learnt this from experience.
But 99% of men won't hear or understand.
My former university lecturer used to tell us that he married one of the most beautiful women of his generation, but marrying her was the worst decision of his life.
Marry a kind woman who listens and loves peace. Marry a woman who takes correction. Marry a woman who is respectful. All these are more important. I'm speaking from experience.

Samantha125:
But I'm curious, how come those men who are victims of domestic violence hardly ever leave their toxic union?

Speaking from experience (domestic verbal abuse), it's very very difficult to just up and go without an exit strategy in place, especially if a child or children are involved. I'm getting to the point of no return though, and I'm putting things in place for what looks like an inevitable end to this union for the sake of my peace of mind and mental health. For now I'm trapped in this situation. It's not as easy as it looks.

Not yet.
To be honest, since I got married it's been a constant struggle.

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Mirasteel:
I hope you weren't denying him of your thing?

Because I wonder why he would be cheating when he have a good looking wife like you.

My thoughts exactly.
I'm a married man. Forget all these online allegations. Maybe low key she has been insulting him in the house and denying him sex. This gender. No smaoke without fure

Well, for some couples they do get in the way, but more often having children magnifies any underlying issues a couple is already having. If communication was a problem, it only gets worse. Same with intimacy.

Samantha125:
And judging by everyone's silence, I think their experiences are also not so good... Children basically get in the way of most couple's romance.

Samantha125:
Well, his reasons are reasonable... If you're not gifted with the gift of parenthood, don't force it... But he was gonna make one hell of cute babies.

Come to think of it, I've been meaning to ask this question, how do parents maintain their sex life with children under the same roof? Especially if you're those type of parents that usually make a lot of noise during shaboinky?

My personal experience is not a good one. Since our child was born, everything has stopped.

Marry the one who loves you.
I wish I had taken this advice.

Very true.
If someone had told me the unfortunate reality of marriage two years ago, I would not have believed it.
And if I did believe, I would never have married.

Any good news? Ministry of Health June salary?

Cum4me:
This one get job Na why him dey make noise here. Make your hand cool you go see the monster in that girl.

He should marry her first.
You can spend spend 50 years dating a woman but the day you marry her, you begin to see sides to her you never saw.

Spot on.
It's even worse than this because majority of foreign used cars sold at dealerships in Nigeria are accidental or damaged eg flooded cars bought of Copart and the likes at auction, shipped and repaired in Nigeria and then sold at exorbitant prices.
If one has the patience and knows the process, it is always better to buy a clean vehicle and import

BigYash:
I tell people always ,money in marriage is like the blood in the human body . Without blood the human body can't survive,same goes to marriage. Without money marriage wont survive. When a man struggles financially in marriage,see finish go full everywhere

When money no dey, man go chop insult and disrespect taya. Especially if Madam come get small change

Money doesn't seem so important, until you have none.

insidelife22:
He is human
Must he 😁😁😁😁
You know wether him don chop

Lol....
Baba dey manage de small 3k wey dey him pocket for lunch and dinner

When things improve, I will surely revisit this post and modify it.

For now, I'm simply surviving.
And I don't currently have the mental strength or energy to write my story right now.

CodeTemplar:
Banditry.
Yahoo.
Runs.
Political jobbing
Politics
SMEs owner.

Very true

If you are an unmarried man, take my advice on this matter.
Marry a woman of peace.
Marry a woman who will still respect you even when she is angry with you.
Marry a woman who does not ever consider divorce or separation as an option because I can assure you that no matter how much money you think you have, dark days will come and your marriage will be tested through hot fire.
I have seen and heard things within two years that I never thought I would see or hear in my lifetime.
If you like, make big nyannsh and sabi knack the criteria for who you marry.
Your eye go clear.

Racoon:
I wonder why a DIVORCE STAGE was never included because it is one of the most rampant nastic experience of marriage. Meanwhile, married people let relate and share experiences.

Divorce stage runs side by side with stages 3 and 4

akpumping7720:
Which model and is it good for Uber?

Go for one with smaller engine not the EW10 engine that is also seen in 406. That one has slightly less fuel economy than the smaller engine.
Make sure a trusted Peugeot mechanic checks it out for you first before you buy it.

victorazyvictor:
With N3m you can get a clean Peugeot 307. Is durable, low maintenance and fuel efficiency.

I quite agree.
I'm using one at the moment.
Good fuel economy, inexpensive repairs

Fire on pls, US and Israel.
Those weapons must not rust and waste in storage.
We are solidly behind you

tesseract:
Is this not shameful? A country like Nigeria.

Very shameful indeed.

Kushites:
NOT ONLY ZIMBABWE.

UGANDA AS WELL.

Women from these 2 countries see Nigerian men as.....kings.

I've been with them.....If you hang with them, you won't go near any Nigerian woman again.

My former schoolmate went to Uganda around 2012 for a Masters degree and has refused to come back. Na only to dey snap with Ugandan babes with big bum bum up and down he sabi

Beautiful and wonderful news.
How will Zimbabwean women not take all the Naija UK men when they are not only beautiful and shapey but well mannered, polite and well brought up and don't believe in billing and being leeches, no entitlement mentality,no behaviours such as behaving like an orphan or a welfare case.
Very good. More of this

How much is a brand new car in Nigeria?
As in, brand new, not clean non accidental low mileage tokunboh?
A brand new 2026 Toyota Camry costs about $30k to 45k roughly around N50m or so.
How much is a workers salary?
Even a take home of N500k without touching it would take 100 months (8.3 years) to gather. If you're saving N250k monthly, that will take almost 17 years.
There are very few jobs earning N5m or more per month legally but they are very rare.
She's not completely right.

Capernum:
He doesn't look very healthy.

My thoughts as well. He seems to have lost a lot of weight.

Freshandfitpod:
Are you married? If you are married you will understand

Hmmm, marriage is not for the faint hearted i swear.
He/she will find out soon enough.

Why make the false accusations in the first place?

Almost every single bot in Telegram is a scam. Out of 1000 bots, one may be legit.
So just avoid all of them.
No this and know peace

rickpat:
A pregnant woman is like a sick person,this should have nothing to do with equality or any nonsense....if a man is unwell,a woman should give him her seat...so that man is just being insensitive and senseless

Bro,
Comot that "like" from your first sentence.