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Samantha125:
How people manage to completely leave their families without even constantly visiting them still baffles me.

I don't know if it's a South African thing or what, but I've seen a number of South Africans of all races returning back to SA after living abroad for a while citing home sickness as their reason for their return, that they couldn't stay away from their family members for too long... One girl who was studying in France even took a transfer back to SA after complaining of the language barrier and loneliness there... There was a time everyone went away and my mom was left alone in the house, I'd call her every morning and evening to check up on her despite my sister's house being only a couple of walks away.

Even those people I know who are working abroad are still very much involved in their parents' lives by renovating their homes, getting them caregivers, and visiting constantly. Only few abandon their parents entirely... So if you're going to migrate abroad permanently, the least you can do for your parents is build them a comfortable house, it doesn't have to be big, but it should be comfortable for their old age and get them a caregiver while financially supporting them once they're too old to look after themselves... And please, whatever you do, visit your parents constantly because they're old and don't have much time left in this world, every moment they spend with their children and grandchildren counts.

I think it depends on the perceived value of remaining abroad. If they feel they have better economic chances there, they prefer to bring their parents to stay with them. I honestly think most people in diaspora are homesick. They just don’t think returning home is the safer option.

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writetopoker:
I have a similar situation here, someone i know his 2 brothers are in USA and UK, and he stays with their mum no help from the brothers

We do need to reimagine how we plan for retirement and the elderly among us. Imagine if he is no longer able to support her.

DeltaBachelor:
Hmmmm. It is well. That's all I can say.

Quite a sad story. I agree.

Kindly take minute to indicate the option that would give you more peace of mind. Care visits or live-in caregivers. Thank you

It began with a trickle in 2010. Some of the folks from school had gotten their PRs and were excited to be leaving for Canada. No problem.

Then a wave rose for Australia in 2013. Even more people from my circle had left the shores of Nigeria. It was okay. Not too bad.

Then the 2020 wave where everyone was convinced no life remained in Nigeria. You know about the exodus that occurred in the following years and how we continue to seek new lives abroad.

Now you’ve left and you’re busy with work and family. You rarely have time. Who will take care of the ones who raised you? How are we planning for our loved ones even as we seek greener pastures abroad?

Did you know that Elderly parents are at higher risk of falls and health issues without regular attention. If your parent needed daily help, would you hire a live-in caregiver or a home care company? Share your thoughts below please 👇”

Dear All,

It has become imperative to create this directory to guide our brothers and sisters who want to rent or own property. While there are several wonderful landlords in the country, there are others who are callous and greedy. There are major faults with the buildings which they hide from unsuspecting tenants until they have taken possession of the property. This directory intends to call out these faults so the landlord is forced to fix them or sell the property to someone who can.

Then we have unscrupulous lawyers and caretakers, scammer agents, scammer landlords and so on. The change starts with you. If this post can help someone avoid renting or buying a bad property, we would have done something good.

Kindly refrain from the temptation to blacklist a property out of spite and keep your issues to yourself. Only speak truth on this thread.

To keep things balanced, we welcome contributions in form of endorsements on posts. If you see a house of horror you’ve also lived in, kindly confirm the current status of the building as things might have changed. If you are seeking a home, don't take status updates as genuine. Ensure to get your building inspector to inspect the place for faults before taking it.

The posting format will be;

1. House of Horror address
2. Flat/space description
3. Issue(s) with the house

Also;

A. Please be as specific as possible. Don’t just say crazy landlady. What exactly did she do?

B. Don’t say wet floor, specify where

C. Do not post pictures of the house or landlord. Anyone who needs further information can request on the post thread.

For a better idea of what I am trying to achieve here, see an example below;

HOH address: 5 Rosamond Street, Mushin, behind the filling station under Jibowu bridge.

Flat description: Downstairs front flat

Major House Issue(s) to look out for:

1.Waste from the toilet upstairs would leak past the drainage in the general bathroom. You could see the feaces pass by.

2. The Landlord’s generator was placed in front of the flat such that noise would reverberate throughout the flat whenever there was power outage. He He wouldn’t move it despite having enough room in the compound to do so.

3. Kitchen sink emits a terrible smell that would subside temporarily after using disinfectant only to resurface after a short while.

Check that these issues have been fixed before moving into the house.

I am sympathetic to the landlords who try their best but in the absence of proper regulation, there is no way to save ourselves and our families from Mold infested houses, water damage, generator smoke filled houses, leaky buildings, stinky soak away, generator noise, don't, flooded houses, power issues and so on. The intention is not to bash, but to raise the standard of product (in this case housing) that we pay for.

Consider this a social service and please post your houses of horror so people can know to avoid them.

God bless you as you comply.

TV console for sale 90 by 85 inches
Solid durable wood
Price: 70k
Location: Surulere Lagos
Contact : 08100629792

I emailed them twice but got no response. I called first contact and was told that they never got any email from UKVI. I also got my branch to send a reference letter. In the end my application was refused because according to UKVI Firstbank did not respond despite the fact that they sent several emails to Firstbank. They also said that they do not recognize any communication coming from the branches and they only deal with the headquarters .

I would advise you go to the headquarters or if you have more time, run your POF in a different bank. Firstbank obviously has a lot of housekeeping to do.

Portex:
I just applied last week and I also submitted a reference letter from FirstBank and I have been calling them everyday to check if a mail was sent to them from UKVI.
Did they acknowledge that UKVI sent them a mail but they didn’t respond in time?

Chairs now available. One 3 seater and 2 singles at 60k

Grimmm:
Not the chairs. The board behind the TV.

Price dropped to 30k.

Hello,

Please was your application successful? First Bank did not respond to the email from UKVI in my case. It appears that they have a problem. I contacted them and they are telling me they have escalated to the proper unit and I should expect a call back in 48hrs. Time is far gone. Does anyone have a quick fix for this? I did my biometrics on the 18th of July.

Portex:
I’m using FirstBank too. FirstBank actually reply mails within 24hrs, I don’t think the issue is from them. I heard that few months ago one of FirstBank branches in Ibadan was dishing out fake POF to people which affected the whole of FirstBank’s reputation. I think anyone using POF from FirstBank should get a reference letter from them to back it up. That’s what I intend to do though I don’t know if that will help my application. If you find any better solution pls do well to post it here.

ontolegit:
Chairs?

Not the chairs. The board behind the TV.

Price dropped to 30k.

TV Console for sale 30k (Backdrop only, other items in photo not included)

Location: Surulere Lagos
Contact : 09159971544

Location - Lagos Mainland

Contact - 09159971544

TUBLEZ:
Contact/location

Apologies. I requested for DMs.

Location, Lagos Mainland.

Contact - 09159971544

Xscape1993:
No contact, no location...

Good Day All,

I have the following items for Sale. Please DM me if interested. Serious buyers only please.

1. [s]Toyota Camry (2005) - SOLD
2. Used LG portable DVD/CD player - NN7,000
3. Brand New Unboxed Binatone Fan 1.5M Typhoon Series - N27,000
4. Garden Accessories and plants - Free
5. Size 10 - 12 Female Wardrobe (clothes) - Negotiable
6. Center Rug (Brown and Cream) (70 by 40) - N8,000
7. Fruit and Vegetable Juicer - N7,000
8. 1000VA Stabilizer - N10,000
9. Big and small Travel Boxes - N13,000
10. Decorative Mirror -SOLD
11. Small bedside chest of Drawers - N5,000
12.Mini 1.5kg Washing Machine - SOLD
13. 35 Baking Pans - N20,000

Location Lagos Mainland 09159971544

Wow! Thank you for letting me know. If I find a better solution I will post it here as you have asked.

Portex:
I’m using FirstBank too. FirstBank actually reply mails within 24hrs, I don’t think the issue is from them. I heard that few months ago one of FirstBank branches in Ibadan was dishing out fake POF to people which affected the whole of FirstBank’s reputation. I think anyone using POF from FirstBank should get a reference letter from them to back it up. That’s what I intend to do though I don’t know if that will help my application. If you find any better solution pls do well to post it here.

Good Day All,

Has anyone who used First Bank for POF received a positive outcome in the past two weeks?

I have read that the visa application could be refused because the bank didn't respond. Has anyone been able to mitigate this?

Please share how you did this successfully. I would really appreciate it.

Thank you.

Hello Everyone. What are the most popular sites in 2022?

Good Day All,

Anyone also planning to write this December and looking for a study partner?
Comment If you are interested, I'll get in touch. Thanks.

Thank you.

Kennyyo:
Sorry I'm just seeing this.

First of, you have to pay cash at the institute to register. I didn't have to pay for accommodation and all that cos I stayed with a friend.

They had preparatory classes I attended but it's nothing really intensive. But you can always pay extra if you want.

Kennyyo:
I'm actually looking at October for both TEF and TCF in Lome and possibly two weeks mini immersion before the exam dates.

Hi Kennyyo,

Please can you help with information on logistics such as Accommodation, location and cost. Preparatory classes. Did you take classes while you were in Lome? Did you register for the exam when you got there or before? I'd be glad for the information.

Thank you.

Ivoryslims:
My first ever post! Please permit me to type in French.

Bonsoir a tous et a toutes! J'espere que vous allez bien? Alors, je viens de completer le niveau B2 a L' Alliance Francaise. Mon experience etait bonne mais ma parole est pitiable car je ne suis pas sure de ce que je dis et j'ai peur generalement. Donc, je cherche quelqu'un avec qui je parlerai la langue française (a partir du niveau B2 et superieur). Nous pourrions selectionner un sujet dont nous parlons pendant une heure ou plus (a vous souhaites). svp, m'envoyez un message. Merci a la avance.

We can talk. Is there Private messaging on this app?