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ifihearam:
Be like you dey use us catch cruise...man nor dey weal like this...any other update?
What of the guy who offered to give you an app to spy on their whatsapp messages?
Your wife don finally calm dow? last she dey vex for you as you call her people abi your sister

Seriously no cruise catching here, as the matter take happen na him i lay am down here, i message the guy wey fit help with whatsapp spy, though her own phone is not passworded, like i said formerly she has graduated from keeping secret on phones, u cant find anything there, na that my bro phone i wan remotely spy on, cos i dey sure him nor go don delete anything. The guy i sent a message to have not replied me yet for the spy. Madam sort of calm down after he brother spoke to her, just like i said she doesnt listen to me, she does listen to her brother, reason why i feel she stopped taking my bro call since that saturday.

jimmychang:
Sir,what do you expect.Sir stand your ground,stop allowing your kids to go see your half brother and also learn to say NO ...learn to say NO without explanations to YOUR MOM and HALF BROTHER RIGHT TO THEIR FACES.Your kids might even be seeing him more of a dad than you.It is not you fault you wanted to help your bro in his trauma but you refused to set clear boundaries.

Meet your bro man to man and talk.Tell him it is time for him to move on and get a woman for himself.Abi you still dey look am like Broda.This is your home for Bleep sake.All hope is not lost.I wish you the best.

We dey wait for update sha.

The truth is that my nature as a philanthropist and a nice person has led to my acting weak, though out of everyone in the family, I have been the only one that has put him in his place sometimes, the others fear him. I could be very slow in reacting but my ending actions are always as brutal as apocalypse. I will from today refrain him in having his way in my family.

oh well na bashing left and right remain now. The battle is not lost, sebi na my carry my matter come here.

NoToPile:
The more I read his story the more irritated I get, he cannot talk direct to his bro, he wants his wife to do the rejecting, she should use story to prevent him from taking the car indeed. He can't simply say my wife's car won't be available. Now he's calling her manipulative

This guy knows what to do he just isn't ready yet.he still sees his wife as the problem while he and his people are the problem.

The level of disrespect is so terrible and seems the wife needs to do something about it at this point, the only problem is they all are looking for who they will blame for their family's discord and maybe she doesn't want to fall into that trap.

I agree, i would have done better, probably make up an excuse, or just out rightly tell him NO.

Another episode to this story was that, on Tuesday, he just called all of a sudden that he needed to travel to Ibadan, that he;s car legs arent good enough, that he needed one of our car to travel, this naturally is something u cant try with him. Because I drive a 2019 camry, madam drives 2017 and we have a 2009 toyotal corolla for rugged moves, hes intention was to either borrow my own camry or better still take madams, so whoever gives him his or hers will temporarily be using the corolla pending when he returns. So I told him point blank that my insurance has expired, that I cant release mine, he now asked of madams, I was like im not sure if insurance is expired or not, he said hes leaving his house right now, not knowing he was just few seconds away from us. On getting to ours, madam was at her shop, so he asked me to follow him down there, I sent her a txt to use story to refuse borrowing her car, but I guess she didnt see the message, we got there, she immediately succumbed to the request, while moving her stuffs from her own car to his, right in from of me there, was using style to touch her shoulder, well as a simp and a weak man, I could not do anything or say a word. He took the car and left. So yesterday morning which was when he was spose to be back, I had a convo with madam that once he comes to ur drop ur car and he ask for the kids to be taken, tell him they have started lesson and their lessln teach will be around that yesterday afternoon, so he wont be able to pick them, cos I made my point known that I dont want the kids taken to anywhere for now. She agreed, 40mins later my bro called and said he just spoke with madam now regarding rhe children for pick up, and she said he was to call me and ask, so i was like well they are starting lessons today, he asked me when they will be free, i was like i will let him know, the convo ended there, not knowing he called madam back to ask her that ok when are they starting the lesson, she responded saying Monday, so he was like ok hes coming to pick them so he can return them by Monday. So when madam and I were talking, I asked if he has come to drop the car cos i wasnt home, she said no, but that they spoke again, and she told him its Monday the lesson starts that hes coming to pick them, I was now like but I just had a convo with you few hours ago telling what u needed to tell him that they start lessons today (saturday) why now tell him monday, she said oh well ii didnt hear u well, it sounded like u said Monday. i was blown away to see how petty and manipulative this woman can be, I told her that with the way things are now, you seem to swing his way, and his demands seems more important to you than the instruction i gave, that with this alone, i can assume there's something brewing between you both. Omo she got angry and called my sister in the USA, who called to hear my side of the story, after explaining myself, she said thats the reason why it is always good to hear other side of the story, that she feels its high time she gets a wife (my bro) and start a new family instead of trying to start a fight in someone else;s home.

When I got home, I saw her in the visitors room seated on one side with an angry face pressing her phone, so I called upon her immediate younger brother and explained past and current events to him since he listens to him, i felt it was better for me to at least let someone from her own side know whats going on and what am facing. So i think that one spoke to her, so while my bro was on his way to drop the car, he started calling her and she didnt pick, oh well I didnt know until he himself called me and asked me why she wasnt picking, I was like she may be moody or probably does not want to talk to anybody. My people na where my life dun reach be this, I am finished at this level.

Timiblanko:
Does she use WhatsApp? I have an app that I can give to you that you can use to track her WhatsApp messages.

check ur dm

Having to go through so many posts here gives me mixed feelings but not a judgmental mentality. Me myself and I knows what to do from today. i admit that I sulked in, I admit that am a weakling even though deep down am not, but I can be classified as one since I didn't man up and do what i ought to do at the right time. Let me quickly clear some air here so I don't get misinterpreted.

The issue of him yelling at her was never in my presence, she will always report to me because when most of the yelling happened, I was never present there. The only time wotowoto was sprinkled on my face was when she asked about their outing, and the giving her meat he already bit off from. Aside thsi very issue, my marriage have been encompassed with so many issues, my wife lacks respect for me, not because I dont deserve to earn it, but it seems her upbringing is somewhat the reason, and yes I dont trust her, so many things have occurred that signals infidelity, but havent really gotten a vital evidence to hit the nail on the head.

Now listen guys, there are other branches to this issue that I havent laid down, because if I had done included it to the initial post, you guys wont highlight the main issue at first. Most times when we have issues, she seems to call my brother to call me, because she feels hes the only one that can convince me, though many attimes i stand my ground on my decision and he does nothing but to respect it, though he dishes out advises to serve interest of reconciliation. So after plenty reports to him, he one day asked me to get me a girlfriend that instead of getting mad at all her shenanigan's, that having a girl out there will at least make things most soft in accordance to my reactions, I was like well I have a gf (which I dont) that shes actually the one that have made me reduce the reactions towards her whenever she messes up, I wanted to see what he'd say next based on my suspicion of them both to know if hes trying to set me up, so I was like though the girl have relocated to Canada so we ended the relationship. Lo and behold, one day my wife and I were arguing, it was issue over suspicion of her having an affair, omo the told me point blank " i don hear ur gist" u get gf outside. The way it sounded, she was 100% sure of the statement and my mind went straight to my brother. The whole ish is stringed together in a way where I just feel i dont know where to spread my net to actually get to know whats going on. But then I leave everything to God, though am watching.

YourFavorite21:
Between you and your Half-brother who is older?

He is 9 years older than I am.

obiekunie01:
Bro what really do you want to hear from us that you don't already know but too scared to face it.

is it the fact that your step-brother has used the frustration from his ex-cheating wife to knack your hoe-wife's brains out and turn her to his sex slave just to prove to himself that he is still a worthy man and that all women are cheats!

or you just want us to tell you to relax that you will soon end-up 6feet below so they have the freedom they so desire so as to continue their unhindered kpanshin.

or you just want to hear from us that your mother is also aware that they are fucking themselves mad but advised your hoe-wife to keep answering your step-bro whenever he calls her so she wont provoke your step-bro into spilling the beans on her.

ok i get it - you want us to tell you that your wife is so used to fuking your bro that she is no longer afraid of what your reaction will be if you finds out.

Ok. let me tell you this, whichever way you want it, you are already a loser.

You either man up and cutout with the little respect you have for yourself by divorcing you wicked asawo wife - dont even give her any reason for the divorce. just go to court and seek to divorce her on irreconcilable difference and fear for your life. that way, you would av defeated them totally. (thou when you divorce her, be rest assured she will move in with your step-bro. but he will dump her after 6 months cause she will no longer give him tht excitement of fukn your wife).

But if you decide to continue with the marriage, i guarantee you that you will soon be dead - max two years.

take care of you bro.

Let me quickly clarify this also, the issue of te kids not being his isnt 100% classified under infidelity issue, it was discovered that she has hormonal issues which cannot mke her get pregnant, so the mother inlaw arranged for this elewe omo, herbal ish makers to prepare concussion that she takes and make her tummy swell to make her look pregnant, and when its time for delivery, the take her out of state,a nd they arrange the kids from baby sellers and claim she gave birth, no wonder during her paternal period, she never lactated, and never breastfed any of the children in the presence of anybody. This is how the whole thing went down until the secret leaked. My brother, things dey occur

gaby:
There's something fishy smelling between them.

E be like say your brother hold small if yes, your wife got easily carried away.

If it smells like poo, most times it always is poo.

Never doubt or relegate your gut instincts/intuition.

I will only quote this based on the fact that plenty people are likely saying the same thing as him doing financially better than I am. Well let me put this straight, from children of 4 from my mum, am the last born, he is the second, I have been the one off the 4 taking care and feeding my mum in the last 23 years or more, bought her a car etc. Now to tell yall, he aint financially sound at all, I cant count the number of 400k, 500k, 100k, 150k i dun dash, some of which he borrowed but never returned, to even say the recent car 2013 toyota camry is driving right now, I bought it for him from the excess of the crypto deal I had with a friend in USA, which my wife knows of. So theres nothing as such as the current situation being based on the fact that am leaving off of him.

Osoboshi:
Man this ur brother don too cross line,and ur wife e be like u no dey put am for line if she do wrong.
My advice is look straight into there eyes and tell both of them what u don't want.u need to place authority in ur home

There are plenty things that have gone down the line that I had to stand my ground on, but yet she still do otherwise, I cant do more than what is meant for a man to do, trust me I always stamp my authority diplomatically, it just does not work.

Slynation:
Interesting...if I say lemme advise you, gbese will surely happen, so I rather keep my mouth shut

But since she's your wife, try checking her whatsapp chat with your step bro, because from the look of things, your step bro sees your wife as "Our wife"

Because I formerly get access to her phone, she has graduated from keeping any secrets there. So am not expecting to see anything there. Trust me

HarunaWest:
From the look of things. He has a secret that you don't know. A secret between he and your wife. I don't think they are having an affair. First thing first, run a coded DNA test on your kids to confirm paternity before asking other questions

I already ran DNA on my son, he was the only one that I doubted, but result came out that am the biological father. However instinct kept telling me to run it again.

mystery22:
You are a smart man to have noticed..
Now what I can tell you is he knows something about your wife you don't know . probably an affair it something else..And you have to investigate quietly

This same thing you stated, he knows something about madam that I don't know was what the only person I confided in told me, my former boss stated some months back. Investigating what it is is what I dont know how to go about.

omotoshodontee1:
M having hard time in believing this story Sha... very bitter to swallow

I wont come here to type a long epistle like that all in the name of formulating or making up a story. It did happen.

mods, kindly push this post to the FP

Hi guys,

Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife.

So I'm 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.

He's bossy and very vulgar plus he's controlling, everybody knows him for that, he was married 13 years ago, however after his family relocated to the USA, he later found
out that his 3kids aren't his, the marriage ended like that, ever since then he's been traumatized, emotionally and any other way one can describe him as. Sometimes in order to at least feel that children presence around him, he would ask me to have my children come over to his place for some days, and I could witness how that really helped him over time, but then I noticed the absence of his wife started making him familiarize with my wife in certain odd manners which I was not really down with.

For example, if he comes to our house, most times comes around with a friend, either female or male, my wife seems not to be the attache type who would sit with us in the living room, she will rather be upstairs in the room, I have witnessed cases where he will shout at her, saying how can everybody be here and ur there upstairs?

There was even a time when one of the visitors he came with sighed and made face in a way that defined, wow, "was that necessary". Or times when he will ask her to cook stew for her, if she forgets or probably didnt want to do it because she knew it isnt her duty, she will be yelled upon, you'll here things like, where
is the egusi i told u to make, even the one you made last time, u didnt put enough this and that

Now yall might think am a dullard or a simp, or someone too relaxed as gentle and as patient as I am, I be original demon, if I start my madness, the result will end in eternal damage, and our family background from my mums side where this my brother was born, we tend to uphold unity over adversity, so when things like this occur, mum would rather have us calm and not fight so unity can continue.

So sometimes last year, the major issues started grooming that made me start to think if there was something going on with my step and my wife, it started with when the kids were with him, so madam and I were suppose to go for outing, so we decided to branch at his place to check up on the kids, on getting there while in his living room, he said to my wife "I like your hair" she responded thanks, he was like are u guys going out, I was like yea am taking her out, next thing she asked my madam, so when are we going on
our own outing? I shrugged and didnt understand where that came from, though she didnt answer him.

While we were leaving, I was waiting for her to bring up the topic and put it to me that why did ur brother say such a thing, even if its a joke, its too expensive, but she didnt, I brought up the topic, and she was like shes surprised too that she never thought he would say such a thing.

5 days later, we had a family party in his house, my other brothers, cousins and my mum, my children were there, while the
caterer were cooking outside, and we were all in his living room drinking, he opted to get some meat to dish and give everybody to at least be chewing something, he served it round but when it got to my wives turn, the one he already bit off from was what he gave her, funny thing is, it was only my mum and myself that saw the scene, my wife was not aware, that was when I knew something could be going on.

Afterwards, I put the ish through to my wife, she acted disgusted and said she cant blv he would do such, that although my mum already called her to say the same thing. So I asked details of what she discussed with my mum, she said my mum advised her that whenever he calls her, she shouldnt pick, that when he knows its obvious that shes avoiding his call, he probably would want to report to her, and then she will now break the silence of what she my wife have been experiencing with him thus her refusal to pick his call.

So I called my mum and I was like being calm, patient and cooperating with the useless policy of the family doesnt mean that the recent things happening won't seat any longer with me, that am gonna have to confront him and put him in his place. My mum begged me and begged, cos she's 76 years old, I considered and I had no choice but to cooperate with her advise.

The funny thing is, after this whole ish, I asked her that if he calls, will you pick, she answered yes I will, but I will have to see what he has to say first to know if I will continue the conversation or not, I was like for real? You must be kidding me, it means something that I am not suppose to know of is happening, she was like oh well its ur fault, why didn't u confront him instead of listening to ur mums advise.

Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup.

Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening
that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.

Mods, if you can please push this to FP, will truly appreciate.

Hi guys,

Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife. So im 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.
He's bossy and very vulgar plus he's controlling, everybody knows him for that, he was married 13 years ago, however after his family relocated to the USA, he later found
out that his 3kids aren't his, the marriage ended like that, ever since then he's been traumatized, emotionally and any other way one can describe him as. Sometimes in order to at least feel that children presence around him, he would ask me to have my children come over to his place for some days, and I could witness
how that really helped him over time, but then I noticed the absence of his wife started making him familiarize with my wife in certain odd manners which I was not really down with.

For example, if he comes to our house, most times comes around with a friend, either female or male, my wife seems not to be the attache type who would sit with us in the living room, she will rather be upstairs in the room, I have witnessed cases where he will shout at her, saying how can everybody be here and ur there upstairs, there
was even a time when one of the visitors he came with sighed and made face in a way that defined, wow, "was that necessary". Or times when he will ask her to
cook stew for her, if she forgets or probably didnt want to do it because she knew it isnt her duty, she will be yelled upon, you'll here things like, where
is the egusi i told u to make, even the one you made last time, u didnt put enough this and that. Now yall might think am a dullard or a simp, or someone too relaxed
as gentle and as patient as I am, I be original demon, if I start my madness, the result will end in eternal damage,and our family background from my mums side where
this my brother was born, we tend to uphold unity over adversity, so when things like this occur, mum would rather have us calm and not fight so unity can continue.

So sometimes last year, the major issues started grooming that made me start to think if there was something going on with my step and my wife, it started with when
the kids were with him, so madam and I were suppose to go for outing, so we decided to branch at his place to check up on the kids,on getting there while in his living room,
he said to my wife " I like your hair" she responded thanks, he was like are u guys going out, I was like yea am taking her out, next thing she asked my madam, so when are we going on
our own outing? I shrugged and didnt understand where that came from, though she didnt answer him. While we were leaving, I was waiting for her to bring up the topic
and put it to me that why did ur brother say such a thing, even if its a joke, its too expensive, but she didnt, I brought up the topic, and she was like shes surprised too
that she never thought he would say such a thing. 5 days later, we had a family party in his house, my other brothers, cousins and my mum, my children were there, while the
caterer were cooking outside, and we were all in his living room drinking, he opted to get some meat to dish and give everybody to at least be chewing something, he served it round
but when it got to my wives turn, the one he already bit off from was what he gave her, funny thing is, it was only my mum and myself that saw the scene, my wife was not aware, that was when
I knew something could be going on. Afterwards, I put the ish through to my wife, she acted disgusted and said she cant blv he would do such, that although my mum already called her
to say the same thing. So I asked details of what she discussed with my mum, she said my mum advised her that whenever he calls her, she shouldnt pick,that when he knows
its obvious that shes avoiding his call, he probably would want to report to her, and then she will now break the silence of what she my wife have been experiencing
with him thus her refusal to pick his call. So i called my mum and I was like being calm,patient and cooperating with the useless policy of the family doesnt mean
that the recent things happening wont seat any longer with me, that am gonna have to confront him and put him in his place. My mum begged me and begged, cos shes
76 years old, I considered and I had no choice but to cooperate with her advise. The funny thing is, after this whole ish, I asked her that if he calls, will you pick,
she answered yes I will, but I will have to see what he has to say first to know if I will continue the conversation or not, I was like for real? You must be kidding me,it means
something that I am not suppose to know of is happening, she was like oh well its ur fault, why didnt u confront him instead of listening to ur mums advise.

Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam
was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother
called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup.
Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening
that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.