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[quote author=Mynd44 post=65876942]Why have an affair when you can divorce him? He has made it clear that he does not want you anymore so why bother?

Everytime I hear nonsense like "I am staying because of my children" I wonder what that is about. As much as broken homes affect children, a home that is in conflict does more harm than a broken home.

You have 3 boys and you are allowing them see their father treat you like a rag yet you think you are doing the best for them? I hope she knows those kids will probably grow up to make useless statements like "why can't women of nowadays endure like my mother did?" She is raising children that will think it os okay to do this and a "good woman" is supposed to soak it in.

You are supposed to show your kids that women need love too and deserve respect.
You are supposed to let your kids know it is wrong to be mean to other people.
You are supposed to show that marriage is not by force, that people deserve to be happy even if it means going their own way.

I hope she makes the right choice and does what is right for her sanity, her well being, the children she claims to live for and the culture.

But then again, what do I know? I am even single sef[/quote]

It's very easy to type and advice.

When you marry, after 5 years come back to this your advice and re evaluate if it will still make sense to you. You know waiting 15 yrs mean? 15?

Thank God the marriage is not an abusive one.. She is a woman for Christ sake - This life no easy for anything but there is always a solution to everything. Two years is too long for a woman to let her husband ignore her.. Having lived with a man for 15 yrs but can't tell or no about an attitude change in your partner is a big problem.. She can still fix things if she is ready to work the work.. E no easy but it's possible.

Shugavee:
self control!!! Mr man, self control!! That's her body not urs!!

Then let her keep that her body in her house

Nnaabros:
Stop sounding holier than thou miss/Mrs.

Its the way you dress that you'll be addressed. That's not just a statement. Its a fact of life. A man gets sexually charged and aroused by the sight of a woman's body while woman usually by words, touch and sight of a man. Its natural, the way God made it.

When you wear skimpy revealing clothes that expose your body parts, you're sending a message to guys, whether that what you intend to do or not. Only the strongest of men will be able to resist it and will a lot of effort. Every vein and impulse in the body will become charged immediately. That's why many guys quickly turn their eyes away to avoid falling. Sexual attraction is one of the most powerful forces in the universe.

For Gods sake why advertise something you're not selling. Many of you girls are just so ignorant. Why advertise and expose your body if your are not offering it? You want to look beautiful? You want attention? By exposing your body? Later you'll be crying that you were raped. That men are perverts

When a man gets continuously exposed to the sight of a woman's body, his natural sexual resistance gets weakened to a point where he'll feel forced to act on it. The worst thing a girl wants to do is to keep exposing her body to a guy when she knows she's not ready for sexx, worst of all in his own house, because it will get to a point where he may no longer hold it anymore

You think a mans body is made of firewood? Go to a guys house and expose your body and see what will happen to you. The strongest will order you out of their sight. The weakest will come for what you're offering to him. Whatever the case, you get what you deserve

REALITY.
But why are most young girls so ignorant nowadays?

donstan18:
She's not right, she can never be right.

Why on earth should a lady go naked before a man in his house in the name of waring his level of control, what manner of fvckery is that?, what brought her to a man's house naked?, to charge her phone abi?

This has nothing to do with self control, this has nothing to do with a real man, this cannot prove a real man, any man supporting this lady on this, is doing nothing but deceiving himself and claiming self-control before the forum. Let's face the truth.

If a man nakedly burst into a lady's house, he'll be charged of sexual harassment, isn't it?, but here you are, typing about self control

You typed of a lady wanting a decent conversation with his guy, a decent conversation requires a decent dressing and appearance, you dare not go naked to seek for a decent conversation, you dare not.
Look decent for a decent conversation because you'll be addressed the way you are dressed.

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Any feminist wey dem born well, make she naked come my crib in the name of feminist, I go fvck all the holes wee dey her body, her mouth, ear, nose, anus, pussy, even her armpit.

Thunder fire all of them!!

Now this is HONESTY and I love it.

Cheers!

DrinkLimca:
She is right..
we as guys should learn to control ourselves when it comes to sex..

When we try to make a move and she rejects or tell you she is not in the mood,, a real man should respect himself and let her be..

Sometime in life,, we are not just in the mood for sex,, it is not every time that we will be demanding sex from our girlfriends,, at times a decent conversation and a shoulder to lie on are all she needs.

As a pointer to the article, you are DAMN WRONG and out of place with this your narrative. Please lets try to be truthful and real so that in reality we can handle and also avoid certain temptations..

Men are moved by what they see and it's a natural phenomenon. Na God put am there..

YourWife:
I won't agree to that. Why do some men leave their girlfrnds/wives and follow other girls/women?

I'm sure u won't like me saying all dicks are the same... More like if you have been dug by a dick, you have been dug by all... Irrespective of size, width, curvature, rigidity, and even the ability to use the tool your papa gave you! I mean.. Its like saying a one minute man who can't even get you wet is the same as a man who makes you squirt!

You miss the point - Pvssy is pvssy. Men are not driven or attracted by pvssy but by physique - body, shape, softness, smile, beauty, sexiness, etc and not pvssy. Pvssy is just the end game of that physical attraction. Its a mentality thing for men.

The level at which a man is physically attracted to a woman will determine how hard he pounds her and drives deep when shagging.

That one minute man thing is subjective most times and not objective. For instance, when there is real physical attraction, a woman can play, touch, handjob, mouthjob, tighjob, etc a man to cum in very few minutes ESPECIALLY on first dates without pvssy fvcking but wount get same result from second dates and above - dose that make him a one minute man? So it all depends but not also excluding the facts that there a men with over excitement problems.

highqueen:
sex this sex that..nonsense

Don't downplay this. As it stands right now, SEX and SEXUALITY is what drives the youths and society of this generation and I don't see it getting any better in generations to come.

The article is resourceful in terms of information. Information and knowledge is key in decision making.

Like the last paragraph says "TAKE OUT THE GOOD AND MIND FLOWING SEX AND SEE IF THERE IS ANYTHING LEFT TO HOLD ON TO." This is how a good decision is made in relationships because it will help one think straight and also see reality.

Mortiple:
Well, I love the the originality of this concept.

Message of the concept (my personal opinion):

*Wifey is proud of what her husband does for a living (ie fishing)
*Wifey isn't a lazy type that seats back at home while the man hustles alone.
*Husband is leading from the front line and by example
*Husband will hustle more than his wifey (as demonstrated by casting the net)
*Both are proud of their identity.

May God bless this union!

Over sense nie de worry you

nextdoor84:
Go and look up what the so called Niger delta means..Akwa ibom and cross river don't fit that defination.
Shalom

Oya na, do d needful. Just carry knife and butcher the map of shithole (Nigeria) and put akwa and cross where u feel and no de fit.

Shalom!

Adebowale89:
no jealousy here nigga, GEJ was my mentor during him and yaradua regime, his past stories inspired me till date but he failed in governing Nigeria with his incompetencies

if Nigeria is like those Asia countries that jail on corruption, he should be in prison by now and all other past presidents including obj


what's bad is bad, there is nothing hero about GEJ in his administration but saving future loss, he was

Well, at the bolded

I see that phrase as subjective and not objective. In reality Nigeria so far has been a failed state from creation. If you go through our history from the days of amalgamation, you will see a very strong decline in terms of infrastructure, economy, education, health care etc, instead of growth and development. Right now you have a country that would rather encourage people to cut corner to become successful rather than through sustained hard work and creativity. Badbelle everywhere.

The reality is that no good man can right the wrongs but the PEOPLE; rather we choose the soft landing approach which is to come online to rant and apportion blames. No man in this world wants to fail but sometimes we fall short.

UNTILL WE PUT OUR HOUSE IN ORDER, EVERY LEADERSHIP WILL BE TARGED A FAILURE AND THE COUNTRY WILL FALL INTO MORE RUINS.

GEJ HAS MOVED ON, I HOPE WE ALL DO.

CROWNWEALTH019:
poor man they carry religion for head


Go see how all those Saudi princes they shag off prostitutes in Europe while they tell the poor to abstain from such. Religion is truly the opium of the people

Europe too far. Just go UAE during there Holidays towards the end of year. These Arab guys come form Saudi etc and book the whole hotels for there friends and girlfriends. Enough expensive boos and shagging to death. They play life like the world is ending soonest.

No body tell me Na with my eye I take experience am and not once.

Samidoh:
why show us only one place
This is the portharcourt park
While the whole of Rivers State Is dirty

That is a fat lie. Rivers state is really trying in terms of infrastructureS and expansion.. Most of the road are very good to drive on and more projects are on going.. My only complaint is JOB CREATION FOR THE YOUTHS.

The Govt should promote and encourage entrepreneurship and also provide the financial backing. Also, Rivers state need to revamp and bring back to life dead industries and factories and also woo more investors within and outside the state to invest heavily in the state.

nextdoor84:
Nice one...this will lead to the economic explosion/growth in the old eastern region!!

Kudos to the government of akwa ibom.

At the bolded

Bros, I beg we are in the present and anticipate a better future irrespective of the so many set backs.

NIGER DELTA.

Adebowale89:
you should control your sense of reasoning. if your IQ is active you would ve comprehend my analysis


you folks should stop quoting me if you can't comprehend a mere opinion

Adebowale89, your plenty English will not help you become a better person. Slow down and control your jealousy. It will help you see far and go far. Cheers! My IQ

Adebowale89:
getting appointment doesn't justify he's not a failure but his peaceful handover would made me to continue to respect him





congrats GEJ

Nigeria has been a failed state oga from the time of creation with a failed military constitution, control your jealousy.

MahatmaGhandi:
I am so happy for you. This is the fate of many men out there. They are practically reduced to almost nothing after matrimony and the painful thing is that don't see it coming until shit hits the fan. But I also know of women who have put their foot down as regards interference from their family and were betrayed by their husbands. Some of them are back to their father's house again. Life can be so complicated sometimes.

Very true at the bolded.

There are also women that would do anything to protect there husband's interest and pride given the negative financial trend at the moment in the family.

Writing this from experience.

OneCorner:
See as mouth wide like hippopotamus
Ibo girls and woworness...
dem go come get bear-bear join

That is not true. Igbo women are like angels, over fine de worry them. I'm not igbo but a Niger Deltan. And the most part is most 8f them are actually very industrious and intelligent.