How can we always judge things from one side always? What if the woman never wanted the man to see his son ? And the child did not want to see the father after being brain washed .
BTCproMax: Eminem's father reading a magazine about his son in 2001. He last saw Eminem in 1974 when he abandoned the family and left Eminem's mother to raise him in poverty. He died in 2019 in Indiana without meeting his son as an adult. It Was The Page He Couldn't Turn: When Eminem’s Father Met His Son Through a Magazine Imagine opening a glossy magazine in 2001. Flip past the fashion trends, the advertisements for flip phones, and the pop culture gossip, until you hit a massive, multi-page feature on the biggest, most controversial rockstar on the planet: Eminem. For millions of readers, it was just another look into the chaotic world of Marshall Mathers. But for one older man sitting in Indiana, looking at that face was like looking into a rearview mirror that had been shattered decades ago. That man was Marshall Bruce Mathers Jr. And the rap god dominating the charts was the son he hadn't seen since 1974. (to be continued. . . )
The world was never meant to be a happy place marriage is also for better or for worse ,except for threat to life.
Dmthreads: I've sat with enough married people — family, friends, people who trusted me enough to talk honestly — to notice something a lot of us don't say out loud: many marriages that look "solid" from the outside are just two people who've quietly stopped expecting happiness from it, and learned to function anyway.
Let's talk about why.
Divorce is still treated like a personal failure, not an option
In a lot of homes, divorce isn't seen as "this marriage didn't work," it's seen as "you failed as a wife/husband," or worse, "you brought shame to the family." So people stay, not because things are okay, but because leaving costs more socially than staying ever will — regardless of how unhappy staying makes them.
"What will people say?" runs deeper than people admit
Extended family, church members, neighbors, "society" — there's this constant awareness of being watched and judged. A woman who leaves an unhappy marriage risks being labeled difficult, proud, or "the reason it didn't work," even in situations where she wasn't the problem at all. A man who leaves risks being seen as irresponsible or incapable of "managing his home." So a lot of people just... stay, and perform.
Marriage is treated as the finish line, not an ongoing thing
Once the wedding happens, so much of the pressure and attention disappears. Nobody's checking in on whether the couple is actually thriving — just whether they're still together. "Are you guys still married?" becomes the only metric of success, completely separate from "are you guys actually happy?"
Children become the glue, whether they should be or not
So many people stay "for the kids," believing that an unhappy but intact home is automatically better than kids growing up in two happy separate homes. Sometimes that's true. Often, kids can feel the tension anyway — they just grow up thinking that's what marriage normally looks like: two people coexisting, not necessarily two people in love.
Financial dependence quietly traps people
For a lot of women especially, leaving isn't just an emotional decision, it's a financial one. If she's not financially independent, walking away can mean starting completely from zero, sometimes with children in tow. That reality alone keeps a lot of people in marriages they'd otherwise have left long ago.
Emotional needs get replaced with duty
Over time, some couples stop expecting romance, connection, or genuine partnership, and settle into a business-like arrangement — bills split, roles assigned, house running smoothly, but emotional distance quietly widening in the background. From the outside it looks stable. From the inside, it can feel like living with a very polite roommate.
Faith and tradition sometimes get used to silence complaints
"Marriage is not by force to enjoy, endure it," "pray about it," "no marriage is perfect" — all valid in some contexts, but sometimes used to shut down real conversations people need to have about genuine unhappiness, instead of helping them address it.
The performance becomes exhausting
Smiling in family pictures, posting anniversary posts, showing up as "the perfect couple" publicly, while privately feeling unseen or unfulfilled — that gap between the public image and the private reality is where a lot of quiet suffering lives.
This isn't an argument for or against staying
Some couples genuinely work through hard seasons and come out stronger — that's real too. This is more about acknowledging that a lot of marriages that look successful on paper are being held together by fear of judgment, financial survival, or duty, more than actual happiness. And that's worth being honest about, at least privately, even if nothing changes as a result.
Have you noticed this in marriages around you? And for the married people here — honestly, do you think happiness is still the priority for most couples, or has "staying together" quietly become the actual goal? 👇
FSBoperator: All former ambassadors to SA have always maintained that most of the killings involving Nigerians in SA were committed by rival drug gangs on each other.
FFK will amplify this when he assumes his post and let the world know who is really the culprit and reason for these xenophobic response.
and this your mayopic reasoning is why ghanians, kenyans and other africans are also killed. your conclusion is about igbo people, but you failed .
Trump definitely knows what he is doing, he surely knows that those who run out of their country are actually the people who can stay back and vote out any bad Government. Let the people who have advanced thinking do the job. Forget all this internet comments
Very informative.thanks for the effort. I think the major area for consideration is involving an agent, at that point it would be necessary to do a good research, to find a good agent, and know also a bit about the port process, and documents.
AccidentedCars: For the past few years, I've gone down the rabbit hole of one topic: how to import cars from US auctions like Copart to Nigeria, completely DIY.
I got tired of seeing hardworking people pay ₦15 million for a car that I knew only cost ₦10 million to land. That extra ₦5 million is pure dealer/agent profit.
I'm starting this thread to demystify the entire process for free. This is not a "buy from me" thread; this is an open-source guide. I'll be answering any questions you have right here.
Here is the entire process from A-Z, broken down.
Part 1: The Myth of the "Dealer's License"
The biggest lie is that you need a special license. You don't. The secret is knowing which specific Copart yards in the US sell directly to the public. The best ones are in states close to the port, like New Jersey, Texas, and Georgia. This step alone saves you from paying a broker.
Part 2: Finding the "Green Light" Cars
Don't just look for a "clean car." Look for a profitable deal. The best deals have "Green Light" damage. This is damage that looks bad to Americans but is breakfast for a good Ladipo mechanic.
Green Light: Front End Damage, Rear End Damage. (Easy fixes: bumpers, lights). Red Light: WATER/FLOOD. (Avoid at all costs. It's an electrical cancer).
Part 3: The Real Cost Calculation (Don't Guess)
Before you bid, you must know your "walk away" price. Here's the simple formula:
USD Costs: (Car Bid + Copart Fees + US Trucking + Ocean Shipping) NGN Costs: (Customs Duty + Clearing Agent Fee + Local Transport) Final Calculation: (Total USD x Current Aboki Rate) + Total NGN = Your Final Landed Cost. If this number isn't significantly lower than the Jiji price, walk away.
Part 4: The Clearing Agent "Interview Script"
This is how you avoid getting cheated at the port. When you call an agent, don't ask "How much to clear?" Say this instead:
The professional ones will respect it. The shady ones will disappear.
This is just a brief summary of the system.
I've actually compiled all my research - - checklists, visual guides for spotting damage, and more - - into a Free Car Importer's Resource Library.
It's 100% free. If you want to go deeper than this post, you can get instant access to the full library here: 👇
Madam kemi ,i just want to let you know that bianca was right to abort the baby she had for FFK. Please are you and FFK the kind of people to mix up with? FFK has a history of 4-bad marriage, and a serial drug addict. That talks like a cheap market woman.
The last picture says a lot about the marriage. The way she is chesting the guy with breast is like she is in control of the ball game. Her facial expression is just very informative
This is really frustrating my brother. There's going to be a network jam after the site and sever is restored. Due to rush for outstanding registration and data inputs from various people.
I think Reno can only always make sense to fellow dumb ass like him. If P.O blames a governor today as the Chief security officer of the state or blame the president as the commander in chief . What exactly is wrong in that.
There is a problem with this design,because every water cistern (WC)needs direct water to the tank which is stopped by the floater in the tank when the tank is filled. But in this case someone would monitor the water from the wash hand basin to the (WC) otherwise the whole place would be flooded.
I just have one word for this reno and his believer's. How can you actually be in tinubu camp and come to dislodge those that believe in obi on the ballot paper. If not to rig the election. Can Reno think straight for a minute. Even if he tried to bring confusion in LP party, how is that going to favor tinubu and not atiku or kwankwaso, but just tinubu. This guy is just a dreamer or working indirectly for another party.
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Celebrities › Re: Eminem's Father Reading A Magazine About His Son In 2001 by gugus1(m): 2:14am On Jul 19
