bukatyne:


Often times,

There are markers of people's behavior.

For instance, if someone is a bully or timid, you know they have low self esteem.

It is in your interest to help them boost their self esteem and/or research on the personality traits of low Esteemed people and see if you can deal.

If a person believes in traditional roles, you find out the likely expectations and roles and see if they align with your own vision of marriage.

Etc. Etc.

Roough estimates. Anyone life offers a partner that gives peace don't know what's up. To e marriage is luck, pure luck. This being said, like i say always, na bad woman them dey take sabi beta wife, na bad husband dem dey take no good one. Sometimes people dn't know the value of what they have till they see another hellish being. In all, to me, marriage is luck, and like you said all of these are randomized estimates. The angel today can transform to the devil next week

bukatyne:


Very true.

But again, why would a man marry a toxic woman?

Anybody that doesn't give me peace is out of the window fast.

I don't have the energy or patience for drama or as it said in pidgin 'dem say, dem say'.

You don't get the point. How would you know the one you're treating with all the niceties in the world today won't transform into a monster tomorrow is the point.

Exjoker:
I am an intensively phone user, so I need a phone with a strong battery life span

Use the phones recommended

PrimadonnaO:


In the first instance, a toxic partner shouldn't be married. What's the point marrying someone you can't love wholly and treat right?

A woman who's treated like a queen will never perceive her man as weak, except she's inherently damaged or has never been loved right. The thing about treating a woman right is that she'll submit easily and return your care in a hundred folds.

Tired

Infinix Hot8 or the likes of Samsung A50

Yewandequeen:
hi hi. I v been around, trust ure good?

Mathemacian? Lol wat do I know?

I know na

HRHQueenPhil:
gbam..infact na Holy spirit reveal this one

RisenPhoenix:


Among other things, like closing one's eyes to the unimportant faults, giving her a degree of autonomy in how she runs the home, not going too deeply into the minute details of home or personal expenses; and as you proposed; taking her input into consideration when making decisions that will affect her. All without being too lax however, nor by handing over too much autonomy or delegating too much authority. It all comes with practice.

Of course, the assumption is that the husband is fulfilling his end of duties and responsibilities fully. If she is expected to be the woman of the house, he's expected to be the man. No one-sided contract here.

Sound. Respect

Closing eyes to unimportant flaws something many need to learn and granting home front autonomy and freedom in handling home affairs with healthy liberty

It's been long o YewandeQueen Mathematician hot brain

Belafonte:


Well, she needs companionship, and that’s what you’re going home to do, to be her companion. However, she also has to be reasonable with her demand for quality time. Healthserve spends five hours on average commuting to and from work, it would be very silly to demand he gets home earlier than he naturally can. He’s not going to teleport to and from work.

Brotherly. Respect to the brotherhood

Jman06:
Op, it depends on the kind of lady you married. It is good to study the background of any lady you plan to marry.

If a lady is raised in a decent home where the mum and dad live peacefully together, chances are high that the lady would have learnt from her mother how to keep a home.

Also, the kind of friends a lady keeps should never be overlooked when deciding whether to wife her or not. This is because it is hard to find a lady who reasons on her own without being influenced by her friends. If a lady is surrounded by pseudo feminists, men haters and gold diggers, brother such a lady is not good for marriage.

In summary, marry from a decent home. Maintain close and friendly relationship with your in-laws (mil especially) and you'll see how successful your marriage would be.

My brother you're preaching. May God bless your wisdom. Please have some beer on me and send me the bills. Your head is there. Up there

Kamani8:

Loool. Thank me later

You bet

Lol

Kamani8:


Balance is the key. If you know how to treat her wella and when to withdraw when she oversteps her boundaries, she'll find you a bit mysterious and she'll keep yearning for that your other side which in turn will keep her on her tippy toes all d time.
But if u continuously treat her like a man, the day she finds someone that treats her like a woman, the rest will be history.

The last paragraph you've finished matter my elder. Twale

Millenniumlady:
I AM A FEMINIST and Nigerian men hates feminist

Oh feminist. I wish you well with your life choices along with its consequences. Best of luck

Millenniumlady:
Tell that to married women..... i can't marry a Nigerian man to start with

Ha.ba what did we do to you aunty

Kamani8:

Lol

I didn't say give her control. Don't do that. But treat her like a queen. Like she's the most important person in your life

Please be careful about all these treat a woman like a queen. 80% of times its perceived differently by the other party albeit received as weakness and low self esteem. For me, I've reworked my model and advice men to do same which is to treat a wife same level same way she treats a man.. This gives access to recall recoil and remove in the event of drama that arises from too much accessibility and familiarity



It's not always how the woman is treated. It's how she interprets the gestures extended to her. Some people are toxic and don't deserve goodness. Trust me. From my little days in life. I've come to understand why some people are gifted toxic partners. If they had peaceful ones, they'll kill them, snuff the life out of them

Peeress o.ya o Ayam waiting

SweetCunt97:
How do u know?

Cause over time I've learnt to discern what reality is from illusion and how to detail the difference with high precision

Kamani8:
The do's

Listen to your wife
Make her the queen of your home


And don't cheat on her

Next thing she'll yet be discontented havingnconquered you and Luke move to next phase give you like to eat, transfer ownership of your estate to her name while you're intoxicated with love under the spells of her people. Next the man crashes and contemplates suicide.


Being contented in place is more individual, internal than external to me

Millenniumlady:
If you can't come home early don't get married at all

You Don dey v.ex egovine name you talk say you wan be land lady. We get house for Sangotedo I dey work for V. I na wetin make I do o.

SweetCunt97:
You simply have to be the man and be in charge. Loving someone should not translate into weakness.
A man who takes charge even though ain't rich is simply diamond.

These days all forms of taking charge, being in charge, leading is out rightly challenged and attacked however pristine the motive is. It's until women make bad decisions serially and have suffered the burnt of it humility cones in to let a man lead. At this extent half of men would have died or have been destroyed in the marriage. Trust me I know

Millenniumlady:
Who go look after the wife wey you keep for house

SMH. Body dey sweet you baa. So I go dey run cum house from work because you be Bomboy no bomgirl abi. Smh. Just from V.I to Sangotedo takes three hours after work. That's 3 solid hours from traffic. Body dey sweet you. Reality is different from fantasy o cherrie. Talk say you no want competition say na strong marking you want do den we go Kiki arrange how to dry put tracker for men Bobby no body

Contentment is the secret. Contentment is everything. Covetous people even in abundance would still fall out of line. Cause discontentment in itself is mental instability and sickness.



Show me a person without contentment or one that doesn't understand it, I'll show you a devil yet to be discovered. This truth isn't gender biased. A covetous male is the devil's right hand man and would never be satisfied or appeased

Millenniumlady:
If you get mind try slap me

Receive it Make man cums back early for work. Cum early cum do wetin

Millenniumlady:
It takes a lot to keep lady in marriage men that listen's,care,comes home early from work,provide for the family, puts her first and must be very hard working and great in bed i think this will keep every woman that wants to be kept in marriage The truth is Nigerian men are always eager to get married but finds it hard to stay married

See as your hand dey draw like okra. If I tear your hand, no you hot slap. Back from work early Kor, don't go to work at all nii. Make everybody dey form Chuck Norris. If the end, we go all dey alright either single or coupled

LoveFayfay:
OMG that one strong ooo

God bless Trump. I approve of this.

HornyTave:


You lie, I've 2 acres of plantian in the heart of SS, Benin to be precise and the highest we sell (during April is 14-15k per dozen) and during cheap times it goes as low as 8k per dozen.

mtchew, all these scams on nairaland

Oga. I've seen your energy. I won't oblige you. Show me where I made an advert let alone planned a scam. SMH. Abuse of social media is really. Something



I'm sure you blinded yourself to my comment where I said for me 800naira should be used for projection. Once you people have small knowledge you can't put it to use without quarrels, arguments and all sorts of fights. Smh

uboma:



Why use your alternate moniker here? You had earlier made your comment using healthserve.....

You're excused

Arueme. Iran sent a stealth Trojan horse still in its body to avenge Solemani in form of a diplomatic operative. Damn