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Hi Nairaland, I need advice.

A friend of mine gave me a girl’s number. I know she’s in my church, and I really like her. I’m wondering if it’s okay to message her. I’m trying to stay confident, grounded, and not come off as needy.

Here’s the situation:

My friend said I like her, so he passed the number.

I haven’t messaged her yet, and I don’t want to lose my frame.

I’m aware she may not respond immediately or may not be online.


I want to send a message that is friendly, confident, and emotionally intelligent — something that sparks interest without being overly flirty or desperate.

Nairalanders, how would you word this message? How can I approach this situation correctly without losing my confidence or frame?

Hi Nairaland, I need advice.

A friend of mine gave me a girl’s number — she’s in my church, and I like her. I’ve already sent her a message:

> “Hey, a friend passed me your contact. Thought I’d say hi. How’s your week going?”



She replied “fine,” and I want to make sure I stay confident, grounded, and not needy. I don’t want to come off as over-flirty or desperate, but I’d like to spark interest naturally.

I also want to handle this in a way that’s emotionally intelligent and high-frame.

Nairalanders, how would you reply to her “fine” in a way that is casual, confident, and subtly interesting?

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