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Sapasenator:
The burden is not your to carry and never let yourself be emotionally blackmailed into thinking otherwise.

Nigerian parents have PhD I Emotional Blackmail.

It was their decision to have sex and family so they should take care of the children.

Being close to God experience in Nigeria is similar to the feeling you have after smoking weed. Your life is in your hand and never let your failure parents ruin it like they did your sister.

It is not in all cases that old age equals wisdom or experience.

That's true, I've come realize if I continue like this with them they'll ruin me

Obeyudavid:
Call your dad and tell him about everything , tell him you want to leave house that you feel like to be alone , before you take any step . God will be with you . Stay safe .

thanks for the advice 🤲🏽

theenchanter:
he's relaxed. He's already docile since he's no longer taking the responsibility of the family. If all u wrote here is true, u're now the unofficial head of the family.

U won't have ur own life until u leave there, ur dad have to take the mantle of a father once again while u assist in any way u can.

Bro, if u don't act fast, u will keep taking care of the family cos it's already in ur psyche to be responsible for the family. Time will pass u by before u realize that u have ur own life to live.

I'm realizing that as of recent, because I nor small on terms of finance but my money keeps going to family. If not for these expenses I'd have rented an apartment already now and be focusing on things for myself, the stress is just too much as it is..... I don't know how to talk to them because them dey quick take offense, what I'll just do is limit everything as it is

Mindlog:
Your dad being a welder, why hasn't he gone into the welding of gates, burglary proofs etc?

I really don't know why he hasn't honestly and he's very creative in his craft, he's not just industrious as a person and likes following rules and structures

Fisiryorh:
Long write up buh, I would move out if I where thee..

Go live elsewhere. Far away from all of the drama..See yourself Excell and thank me later...

True that's what's on my mind seriously

Hey guys, it's been a while if you knew my past posts you know I come on here to let out steam sometimes when it gets tuff with my family.

My parents are still people I continue to be very amazed at sometimes, not in a bad way but in a very concerned way. What brought this topic to my head is that fact that my parents have been on my neck lately because I've been skipping family prayers most evenings.... The thing is I purposely do it because I'm very tired of seeing everybody, not really that I don't love them but it's that I'm just not in the mental state to engage in family for now.

I already made it clear to them that I always pray morning and evening, I have proper fellowship with God and in everything I do because I basically have an oath with God (that's personal) the thing is they still keep disturbing me and telling me things like "don't feel too big for God", "don't leave God presence", "it's God that is helping you make this money, don't forget what God told you that if you leave him..." and things that make me feel like I'm a sinner and I'm being prideful


When knowing very well that I great everyone and my sister's in the morning, I pay respects to everybody in the house even do I pay for most things and I still have a good relationship with God.

Now the thing is this... I've been very stressed lately because my family has taken 70% of my earnings from December till date so far and in my calculations I've spent 1M+ in just 6months plus by paying the rent this year and the three times I've bought food stuffs in the house and other mini bills so right now I don't even have money anymore, I'm tired because the family is draining me

I don't have support from anybody and we are 5 living (me, my mom, my dad and my two senior sisters) , I worry more than my age and I have developed anxiety because of this reason (I'm working on it), I've been taking care of these bills and things since I was 15/16 years and im 19 years now but I've not made any reasonable thing for myself at all, money i suppose to save I use for family because if I don't we won't eat or survive.

My mom sells plantain and my dad does welding (pipeline and others) but he doesn't have a job for 8 years now so he does agent work to support himself for now and I'm really not angry with him at all because I understand but I atleast want to be left alone to my peace at the very least even if thats all because I'm trying, I'm trying really hard to sustain everybody

My parents did same to my sisters when they were my age by limiting them, controlling them and stopping them from socializing or going to public university then and now they're above 25 (not graduates, at home all day, no job) and I'm left to carter for everybody.

We don't have any good source of daily income and I don't even think they realize that at all, I know prayer is good but goddammit we need to do more because our lives are wasting but nobody can see it but me, they keep talking to me but all i just think is 'none of us are even supposed to be home at thus point of our lives'

With my little successes I'm never supposed to be broke but I always find myself so before now because I limit myself for my family, I don't even spend on myself that much but huge money goes into family and mostly food for everybody, it's a huge burden but I never speak about it to anyone in the family for respect of my father and mother because I know if they had good job I wouldn't be doing so

My sister's on the other hand I partly don't blame them because it's this controlling attitude that made them like that and I don't even know if they realize it because I really expect them to go find jobs even if it's 20k a month to ease my stress, I just paid jamb registration for them recently even though I couldn't do for myself, my parents restricted them from working and finding out life for themselves years ago that they nlw solely depend on my parents to do everything for them even sort out their jamb resources (im disappointed)


I can't tell them about my concerns because they tend to shut me up if I do talk about them getting jobs sometime ago so I just gave up and promised myself to only provide but sort out my own life


I'm trying to gather money soon to park out and only send money monthly for them but I keep wondering if they have nothing doing now then what if when they're in school? It's not like I can't continue giving them money but it's that fact that I'm worried of what if they don't really find their foot in life because as at now they aren't making efforts at all


That's why I said the way my parents are is so loving to the point they shielded us from the reality of life, if not for God helping me I don't how we would be surviving if I act like my sisters because......


I have had to break free from the cave we were in to experience life myself, I have had to put up with fights my sisters couldn't with my dad to break free from something's, honestly I need y'all advice: as breadwinners from not so rich homes how did you survive taking on so much responsibility and if possible I need help to be able to make more money because as at now I'm serious looking for money as I don't have an online job anymore


I'm speaking up now, if others are shy I am not: HELP 🤲🏽 ADVICE AND TIPS WILL BE APPRECIATED

chrisseun:
No wonder. But I was also thinking, is there a way to optimize this thing or one should just get rid of it

for me it's the solar that doesn't work well, I'd suggest selling and adding money to get sun king fan because that's what I'm gonna do.... Duravolt are thieves selling us a generic fan

chrisseun:
It’s not just you. This product is shit

Just even found out the product is rebranded sef not actually them that made it, multiple companies just rebrand the same thing

(Different companies names on the fans below)

Kennyflyair:
How many hours charge gives you that 6 hours usage?

like 10 hours, the fan tire me fr. At this point I would be getting another fan

Kennyflyair:
How do you charge it, by electricity or follow come solar panel. And how long do you charge it to give you the 6 hours

just bought the fan it lasts that 6 hours if i charge it enough but you see that solar panel charge..... na complete rubbish, I'd put it the whole day and nothing charges

santaclaws:
Don't listen to this Balablue guy 👆🏽 above telling you not to wash your penis with soap, he doesn't know what he's saying.

In fact, this is the period when you need to bathe at least twice daily, preferably with a medicated soap like tetmosol or dettol... that's apart from antifungal creams that you need to apply daily around your penis and your inner thighs where you have the jock itch. The only correct thing he said was that you need to wear loose clothing which I also implied earlier cos tight clothing creates a breeding ground for jock itch.

Bathe 3 times daily with medicated soap if possible... wear loose clothing (boxers are optional) and do away with those spandex/nylon/polyester materials, they don't absorb sweat like cotton and they're very bad for the skin, that's why I don't wear nylon/spandex boxers myself.

Like I said earlier, don't rely on self medication alone, go for a checkup.

yeah gone for a check up and they gave me anti fungal medicine and then they prescribed anti fungal cream for me too. Thanks 👍🏽

Chibuzoripob:
long pole with small table 🏓 balls

why the f*** are you staring at another man's balls so proudly?

ShitStain:
Bro have your fingernails always looked like that? It looks like they're are clubbed. You should talk to your doctor about that if you do not naturally have clubbed fingernails.

that's how my fingers are 🫴🏽

santaclaws:
Ok then, try the antifungal creams but try to visit a hospital as well since you're sexually active.

Better safe than sorry bro. All the best. 👍🏾

yeah very much, I'm concerned about my sexual health very much too in regards to the already fixed appointment tomorrow. Thanks though for the mature response

wrongman665:
truelywicked

the guy na bastard 😂

santaclaws:
You're a crazy guy... stop scaring him jare 😂😂😂

@Helpfulbro
From the look of things, I think you have a fungal infection, though I am not sure if there's an underlying STD cos of your own sex life and the fact that you had a big bump around your penis.

Fungal infections are pretty common and jock itch happens to guys who sweat a lot in the gym and wear tight clothing. You can try something like Funbact A or Ytacan first, but I'd advise you go for a medical check up...

Yeah I gym alot recently and I wear spandex tight elastic boxers to the gym

VeryWickedMan:
Wait 3 months bro.
RIP in advance.

these are not symptoms of HIV, besides HIV symptoms doesn't show until 2 to 4 weeks after. Also I'm on PREP don't you understand?

Hey guys I'll just keep it brief and detailed so anyone in the house can help me

So there's this girl that likes me so we've had fun twice then about 8 days ago she texted and we meet up. I'm usually very serious with my sexual health as I'm on PREP and I have HIV test kits and condoms with me but I didn't have condoms that day and I asked her to bring but she deliberately didn't because she always tells me she loves me and she loves my dick (I don't like her that much though)

She really very clean and always shaved, smells nice too and pretty so we had sex raw but after a day my silicon intimacy gadget came with a kiss lubricant and I used the intimacy gadget with the lubricant (felt really good and tight) but now two days after I started having rash at the base of my penis....

The rash was itch and I scratched then overnight it healed and dried up to this on the picture 🖼️, there's a big bump on my penis base as well but if you look clearly it's drying up too.

My problem now is my penis is scaly and the scares are not going, it's very dry and the side of my lap and scrotum itches as well if you look clearly there's scaly skin there too. I've searched all of Google but I've not found anything that could relate to this asides JOCK ITCH, ECZEMA and PENIS IRRITATION OR REACTION.

I've scheduled a meeting with my sexual health nurse tomorrow (I'm already negative to HIV as I've tested yesterday) but if the test comes negative for other STDs then I'll need alternative answers as to what is causing this dryness and itching between my thigh, pls any suggestions? Thanks guys 🙏🏽

(it was very hard to get the pictures as the light reflection will not allow you see it clearly but the dry skin dey very bad)

Gideon16:
For the 20 days, You stay way from porn alone or it is porn, masturbation and sex?

yes all together, e dey work well now 👍🏽 has good sex with it days ago

Hey guys it's me again trying to get myself back after years or porn and masturbation. Congratulations as I have already gotten my hard erections back and my morning woods are frequent, I nor more watch porn and if I do it's very rarely which after that I take even more time to fall into that trap again.

I masturbate way less now and use the slightest of grips on my little man (when I mean slightest I mean the littlest feeling) and I try to climax thinking or real sex with me doing it not another person (POV) and it's take me up to 30 to 45 mins to climax with just masturbating lightly

But I'm still having an issue with sex as whenever I have sex now, even if I'm really really enjoying it I can't reach climax no matter how hard I try and I have so much energy to go 3 hours and I wouldn't mind with deep thrusts and everything. Tonight I just had sex and it felt so good but the girl is tired and I don't know what to do because I want to keep going and we just had 1 round which lasted about 1hour plus.

Is this beyond the side effects or masturbation, do I need to find a solution elsewhere or do I just wait it out because I'm tired 😩 when I was younger I always read the accounts of people going 3 hours or 45 mins plus but now at this stage I'm realizing that people lie about sex online alot and even 30 mins is too much for most girls. Everybody just caps online, pls help with your options abeg