The rumor is, is that women outnumber men two to one. I know what you are thinking. Where the hell are they? You can find quality women to date, if you know where to look. Cruising the bars, while fun lends itself more to flings and one night stands than relationships. Honestly, you are both consuming alcohol and the music is probably loud and you are only catching every other word, not the best setting for romance. You have to go where the intelligent beautiful women go and here are three places you will find such elusive creatures!

The bookstore: If you are looking for a woman with half a brain cell, a great place to find one is at the bookstore. It wouldn't hurt if you were also a fan of books. I have been known the frequent the bookstores and what I have observed leads me to believe that many attractive single ladies hang out there. I am sure if you hang around long enough a pretty girl will walk into a section that interests you. You will then have something in common, and you will have the option of starting a conversation. Don't be creepy though. Don't loiter, and don't stare down all of the women who walk into the section you are in. Rather, if a woman picks up a book you have read simply comment and see where it leads.

The dog park: I can't speak from personal experience on this one, but my best friend who is a single and attractive lady, frequents the dog park. If you have a dog, and you want he or she to have a mommy, go to the dog park. If a woman's dog reacts well, and actually likes you, then you win automatic points with her. You will also have a lot to talk about in respect to your dogs. Their quirks and habits may have you both laughing, and engaged in conversation before you know it. You can then take this conversation out on the town for a romantic evening. You might want to leave the dogs at home for that.

The Gym: Not only is the gym a great place to stay in shape, it is seriously a great place to meet women. If you are looking for a woman who takes care of herself then look no further than your gym. Have you ever looked around and noticed that some of the women at the gym are wearing makeup? There is a reason buddy, they are looking to meet you too! Exercise releases positive endorphins, which is the reason you feel so good when you get finished, so why not make yourself feel even better and ask out the hottie from treadmill #4? She will be feeling pretty good herself, unless you decide to maul her with a sweaty unwanted hug.

Now that you know where all of those elusive beautiful women are hiding go out and find them. Remember to be curious and open in these type of places. Do not be creepy, overbearing, or take on the habits of a stalker. That will only get you arrested and nobody wants that. Meeting another person on common ground forms a great bond between you, so if any of the above places don't appeal to you go find something that does. There are single women everywhere, but it is up to you gentlemen to go and get them and make one of them your own.

You've had a crush on this cute guy in your office and you know for a fact he's still single but the only time he talks to you is when he wants to borrow your stapler. If you can't take it anymore and you are no longer satisfied with just fantasizing about him then maybe it's about time that you step up your game. If you want to get him to ask you on a date, you must first learn how to make him attracted to you. You probably already know that making eye contact, smiling, being approachable and dressing attractively will catch a guy's attention so let's not go into that further anymore..

One thing that repels men big time is desperation. Believe it or not, they can smell it! The good news is there are some things you can do on how to be a male magnet and before you know it, the man of your dreams is throwing himself at you. The first thing you have to do is get rid of the "needy" vibe. I think this comes from the panic that a woman is feeling when she is gravitated towards finding a man. I think Paulo Coelho was right when he said "I think that when we look for love courageously, it reveals itself, and we wind up attracting even more love. If one person really wants us, everyone does. But if we're alone, we become even more alone. Life is strange." It's sad but true.

So, how exactly can you avoid looking desperate? For one, you don't want to try too hard to impress a guy. When you talk to a guy, just stay calm and resist the urge to sound too chirpy and please try not to talk too much even if your nerves is pushing you to. Trick yourself into thinking that the guy you like is just one of your friends so you won't be nervous when he is around. Don't freak out when there are awkward silences. It is perfectly OK to pause when a conversation is going. If you don't know what to say or if you are too nervous to say something sensible, just smile and make eye contact. That's far better than blurting out the wrong stuff.

Ask any guy and they are going to tell you that they prefer women who know how to value all the other areas in their life (career, family, friends, and hobbies) just as much as they value the man in their life. Open yourself up to new possibilities to make you a more interesting person. This will definitely boost your self-confidence and make you more comfortable in social situations.

Now that you have the confidence, the next thing you need to take care of on how to get him to ask you on a date is to let him know you are interested in him and don't forget to give him the "green light". Let him know that you are available but make sure you don't just blatantly say it. Mention something about a single girls' party you've had with your friends recently. If you know someone from his circle, you can ask about his hobbies and interests but don't tell anyone you've had a crush on this guy as this may ruin it for you and make everything awkward. Ask him what he's doing over the weekend and when he tells you, pretend that you like doing that too or you've been dying to try that. If he is interested in you, he is definitely going to ask you out. Unfortunately, this will not work if you don't have common interests. Don't stretch a lie and have him believe you are someone else because this will eventually backfire.

When you are out and about, hoping to attract women, you need to use your body language to your advantage. It is a great asset because it will work like a beacon, sending out messages on a constant pulse. Women observe you and immediately feel a subconscious twinge-whether of attraction or disinterest is up to you. The good part is that you can easily develop habits that lead to attractive body language.

This article will cover a few tips that will help you adopt attractive body language whether you are talking directly to a woman or being watched from afar by one.

Open, space-eating presence. Whether you are standing or sitting, you should maintain a posture that is not only erect, but also open. This means that you want to seem like you are inviting people into your space-and make no mistake, even though you are being open and friendly, it should seem like it is your space. To achieve this effect keep your hands at your sides, bringing them up only to gesture or perform some action (like sipping your drink). Arms held across the chest project a closed-off, judgmental attitude. At the same time that you are being open and inviting, you want to eat up and claim the space around you.

Humans are a territorial breed; if you can lay claim to the territory around you it will seem that you are more dominant, and therefore attractive. One way to claim territory is by standing with a stable base. Spread your legs so that you are in an "athletic" position. When sitting down, open your legs up. This might seem rude or obnoxious, but if done correctly will be quite attractive to women. The key is to do these things naturally. You want to come off as dominant but not overly aggressive. Women are attracted to men who are confident but they generally dislike guys who are pushy or obnoxious.

Look into my eyes. Something our parents probably taught us when we were young is to look people in the eyes when we talk to them. This is doubly true when we are trying to attract beautiful women. Eye contact does two important things. One, it creates a connection between people. They will feel as if you are talking directly to them, even if you are telling a story to a big crowd. Two, it shows that you are confident and honest. We've all heard about the sneaky liars who can't bear to make eye contact. Don't be that guy. Build rapport and show you are an open and forthright man by holding her eyes with yours.

Even if you are talking to a woman who is completely unattractive to you, if you can maintain this type of body language other women will observe and be effected by it. You will constantly communicate the message that you are confident, open, and desirable. And you will have women approaching you, thinking there's just something great about you.

The concept of an Alpha Male is something most people misunderstand. Many assume that external factors lead to being an Alpha Male. In other words, if a man holds a certain status, position, physical trait, or communicative skill, then the man becomes an Alpha. Well, he may have certain traits of an Alpha Male but he is not necessarily an Alpha if these traits are used to cover up an inner Beta Male. In other words, to truly be an Alpha Male, you need to have the confidence and belief in yourself that makes you one. All of these traits exist within you. You simply need to discover them and bring them out of their latency.

The first step towards discovering your ability to be an Alpha Male centers on understanding what an Alpha truly is. Essentially, an Alpha is a leader that others look up to for support and guidance. In short, an Alpha is someone with confidence and abilities...and it shows. This automatically leads to others understanding the status of this individual because of the clear outward displays of confidence. In a group dynamic, the Alpha is clearly at the top of the chain. This does not mean the Alpha is belligerent or condescending. Such behavior is far more Beta and, dare it be said, Omega than anything else. No, an Alpha is someone who likes others and is liked by them. And, more importantly, an Alpha is someone who is respected and commands attention. Of course, there are those reading this and wondering what on earth can be done to discovery and develop innate Alpha behavior. Well, here is some good news: it is no where near as tough as some people initially assume.

The key to discovering the inner Alpha in you is to first start acting like an Alpha. Are you passive, timid, and unwilling to take the lead? You will need to reverse such behavior and become far more outgoing and lively. This does not necessarily mean you need to be cocky or aggressive. You simply need to display a positive, direct manner that is tempered with grace.

What is meant by grace? On the most basic of terms, this means you will display a high knowledge of social skills. You will act in a manner that is polite and likable and avoid any public displays where you act in a manner that would detract from people's opinion of you. Sometimes, saying little, listening a lot, and presenting confident body postures can work significantly in terms of the ability to present an Alpha attitude.

When to start acting in such a manner, you need to slowly listen to the cues other people give you. Alpha behavior often commandeers respect from others and positive vibes. If you start noticing an uptick in people's attitudes towards you that display such vibes, keep doing what you are doing! You are clearly discovering you inner Alpha Male and making the traits work for you. And, no, you will not be mimicking an Alpha Male while engaging in this process. You will become an Alpha Male and you will also enjoy all the benefits that go with it.

Have you always felt left out whenever you go out with your girl friends because you go home each time without someone asking for your number while your friends manage to score a date with a hot guy at the bar? While being attractive will have men give you a glance it doesn't mean that you can get him to ask for your number. It's not that simple. Dressing up provocatively does not guarantee that you'll score a date either. The second a guy sees you, he starts to pull out his checklist to establish whether or not you are the type of girl he wants to go out with. So, what do you need to do to make a guy interested in you and ask for your digits?

1.) Smile and Be Approachable

You've probably heard this over and over but if you want a foolproof way on how to make a man take notice of you, you have to smile sincerely at people. Let your guards down a little bit. You don't have to fake your smile though because believe it or not, guys can tell the difference between a genuine and a phony smile. A genuine smile will radiate a positive vibe. Men love a woman who is full of positivity. Be pleasant; don't be arrogant, argumentative and rude when having a conversation with someone. It's perfectly OK to be confident but don't come on too strong. Guys avoid women who behave this way. It doesn't matter if you have the prettiest face on the planet, no man would want to date you if you are arrogant and cocky. Smile and thank him when he gives you a compliment. Trust me; his heart is going to skip a beat.

2.) Compliment Him and Give Your Full Attention to Him

Complimenting a guy is one of the stepping stones of a flirty conversation. If you notice something nice about a guy, don't be afraid to tell him. Men love it when women give them a compliment here and there.

If you really want a guy to ask you for your number, you have to free yourself from distractions and stop looking at your phone every 10 minutes. Put yourself in his shoes. Would you want a guy to ignore you and not even look at you when you are having a conversation with him? Of course not! Focus on him and make him feel that everything he is saying is important. Listen to every word he is saying and make eye contact. This does not mean that you'll sit there all night listening to his stories or jokes. Respond to him and don't be afraid to voice out your opinions. Again, don't be arrogant. There are ways on how you can make a point without sounding egotistical.

3.) Learn How to Tease Him

If you want to get him to ask for your number, you have to learn how to tease him. Make him work a little harder but not too much that it will be too obvious that you want to play games. Men are competitive by nature and if you know how to tease a guy, use this against him and make it work on your advantage. Make him want more and act a little mysterious. Don't blurt out all the drama in your life on your first meeting. Be playful and avoid being uptight. Relax and don't worry about things not being perfect all the time. Make him feel that you are enjoying his company. Touch him once in a while on the arm or shoulder but do it subtly and quickly so he won't think that you are way too easy. Innocent touches will drive him crazy and would make him want to see more of you. And yes, the next thing you know, he is asking you for your number and wants to ask you out on a date.

It may seem a bit daunting to approach beautiful women at first. In your eyes, you picture her going out with someone far better looking that you, right? You wonder what she could ever see in you. Why would she go out with YOU?

Right there is the beginning of your problem! Approaching beautiful women should be no different than approaching or talking to any woman from your sister to your best friend's girl. Why do guys put beautiful women up on some pedestal like they are goddesses or unattainable?

The fact is, beautiful women are pretty much like any other woman. And most don't feel as beautiful as you think they are. Every woman is concerned about what she considers her flaws. Some obsess about their weight, others think they're too short, and still others hate their dimples. It doesn't really matter what it is she's hung up on. The bottom line is that she has hang-ups just like you do.

So the first step to approaching beautiful women is to realize that they are very, very human, taken them down off of that pedestal you have them on, and go up to them realizing you have just as good of a shot with her as any other guy in the place. And man up a little! Act confident. (But don't get cocky!) In other words, hold your head up, relax, and don't fidget. Give it your best shot and see how it goes. And regardless of the outcome, don't take it personally.

Having said all that, you should realize that women really do like a confident man. There is something very, very sexy about a guy who dresses well, takes care of himself, and feels good about himself. When you talk with women of all ages, shapes, and sizes, the one constant thing you will hear time after time is that they like a man who is confident and sure of himself.

But women will also tell you there is a fine line between confident and cocky and you do not want to cross that line. Cocky guys act like they are better than women not just okay with themselves. They make inappropriate cracks about women, their "place" in the world, their figures, their sexuality, etc. They call women "babe" before they know them well enough. They get into a woman's personal space, leaning in too close or touching her with a familiarity he has not earned. They use cheesy pick up lines or try to anyway.

All of these cocky approaches turn women off! Even if they tolerate your BS for a short time, you can be sure you won't get very far if they discover you are really as shallow as all that. And most are simply being polite if they put up with it at all. So DON'T DO IT!

The key to approaching beautiful women and all other women is confidence and sincerity. Realize that beautiful women want a relationship just as much as you do. They're not immune to being rejected or hurt any more than you are. They are human. Treat them as valuable human beings apart from their good looks and you'll find the woman underneath the facade and that is the person you really want to get to know. Show confidence in yourself, but be real and sincere. Show her the real you and she will be much more likely to respond in a positive manner.

So walk up to her, smile, and say hi. Introduce yourself and don't play games. Ask sincere questions and show a genuine interest. And remember, just because she's beautiful does not mean she's unattainable.

One of the ten Biblical commandments is "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." I would like to expand that notion. Have you ever done for a friend or a loved one exactly what you would have liked him or her to do for you - and - not only ddi they not appreciate it but they didn't even like it. And you felt hurt, rejected, and unappreciated. Perhaps you started to feel that you give so much and they just don't reciprocate. If you had a heart to heart talk with this person, and really listened and heard what they said, you might be surprised to realize that what you have been giving, from your heart, is NOT WHAT THEY WANT.

It can be that simple. Many, many relationships suffer every day from the misconception that if I like something and I give that to another person, he or she will like receiving it. And, the corollary misbelief is that if that person is not showing appreciation it is because they have a character flaw. We probably will believe that they are not reciprocating because they are selfish, they don't care, they don't know how to love, they're unfair, etc.

Who gave you the idea and the belief that YOU know how to love, that the way YOU think and the way YOU give, is the RIGHT way, the caring way, the loving way? Who decided that you have cornered the market on loving and the other person is deficient?

Getting back to the Biblical statement, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you," I believe we have developed an incorrect interpretation because our mind tends to think in a literal way. We do not have to do unto others exactly the way WE want done unto us. We need to do unto others the way THEY WANT DONE UNTO THEM. Why? Because we want others to do for us WHAT WE WANT DONE FOR US, not what they want to do but what we want. That is the mutual reciprocation.

But what is it that we want others to do for us? We often think we want others to praise and acknowledge us through their words, actions and behaviors. But have you ever been praised by someone who says the right words, does the right thing - for everyone? Have you ever caught a person just mouthing the words without any real heart and emotion to back it up? And, by the same token, have you ever been with someone who blurts out inappropriate remarks, who tells you what you do not want to hear, but who levels with you, is truthful with you, and is real with you? Relationships are a work of art in progress. Each of us is the artist, influencing, altering, and re-creating the relationship. Each of us is also the artwork, the piece of art, being molded, affected, manipulated, challenged and ultimately changed - if we allow ourselves to be altered.

Our relationship becomes a third entity, a fragile masterpiece of art which is created moment by moment, molded by every single thought and word and action by each one of us. Some words and activities continue to build the relationship. Other words and actions chip away at the beautiful artwork that may have taken weeks, months, years or decades to build. And some actions and events are so powerful that they can literally rip the relationship from its foundation.

Relationships are powerfully strong entities. They often last through painful explosions, miserable nastiness, long periods of frustration, anger, isolation and pain. Relationships can also be quite fragile. Without the requisite nurturing and handling, the love and attention and joy can wither away and any relationship can crumble.

So before embarking on a quest to find the love of your life, ask yourself not what can this person do for me, but what can I do for this person. And, at the same time, remember to ask yourself often: What would love do, now, not for the other person, but for me? The true artistry of relatoinship is maintaining a shifting balance of doing for the other, doing for yourself, and sharing intimate moments together.

Before a guy decides whether he wants to ask you out on a date or not, the first thing that comes into play is attraction. It makes perfect sense that you have to get the guy's attention first, right? Well, grabbing his attention is not the end of the story because he has to be interested in you too. Sure you get those glances from men whenever you walk into a bar or coffeehouse but does someone actually come up to you and ask you for your number? Are there ways on how to get him to ask me out? The answer is YES.

Keep in mind that different guys have different preferences. Some strategies may seem foolproof for some men but others will make you work harder. It also boils down to the kind of woman you are vs the kind of woman he is looking for. Sometimes the earlier you accept that you are not his type, the better off everyone will be. Don't force it if the guy you want does not seem to be comfortable with a woman like you. Yes, it has a lot to do with compatibility so don't stress out about it too much. If a guy doesn't like you then there's not much you can do so pull yourself up and keep looking.

If you want a guy to notice you, you have to please him visually. Wear clothes that flatter your body shape and hug your curves. This does not mean however that you have to wear skimpy shorts or tight-fitting tops that leave nothing to the imagination. Dressing attractively does not always mean that you have to show more skin. Dress appropriately for the occasion and make sure you look polished all the time. Wear makeup that will enhance your natural beauty. Forget about orange and neon green eyeshadows unless you want to date a man who works in the circus. Men always notice women who look "put together".

It will also help you score a date with a guy if you smell nice. Wear a perfume that's not overpowering or appalling. Your scent is what is going to linger in his head so make sure you pick the right one. Men are not a big fan of scents that remind them of food so try to stay away from something that smells like chocolate or cinnamon. Vanilla is an exemption as men seem to be turned on with this aroma. Go for fresh, clean, fun, sexy and lightly floral scents.

So you got the looks department all figured out, what's next? Like what I said earlier, looking attractive will make men turn their heads on you but it's not enough to score a date. Multiple surveys confirm that men are most likely to come up with someone who looks friendly and approachable than a pretty chick who acts patronizing. What do you have to do? It's simple, smile and make eye contact. Your gorgeous smile is your best weapon! Guys are drawn to women who seem to have a sunny disposition. Nobody wants to come near a woman who looks crabby. Making eye contact is equally important. When you survey a room and you see a guy you like, wait for an opportunity to lock eyes with him. Be very careful though because you don't want to stare at him for too long. Patti Stanger (Millionaire Matchmaker) stands by her 5-second rule. Make eye contact, smile, but only for 5 seconds and then look away. Several women have tried this strategy (including me) and it works like a charm!

Once the guy finally comes up to you, it's obvious that he wants to start a conversation. How do I get him to ask me out? You can do this by engaging him in a small positive talk. Give out a positive, fun vibe so he'll know that going out with you will be fun too.

Body language is what we communicate with first. It is also what we communicate with continually, even when our mouths are closed. What we say is important but it is a much smaller percentage of our total communication than is our body language. It is therefore crucial that you master your own nonverbal communication if you hope to attract women.

They will notice if you appear meek, frightened, or intimidated, and they will probably be turned off (some women like these traits because they want a man they can dominate). If you want to learn how to maximize your chances to attract that special women, this article will present a couple tips to help. Stand-up straight. A good, stable posture is the foundation of effective body language. Everyone knows what good posture is but not all of us make the effort to maintain it.

The key is to keep your back straight, with your shoulders held back slightly, and your chest pushed out. This might sound unnatural, but that's only because you are probably used to having poor posture. In addition, you should keep your head and neck up. Imagine your head were suspended in air by a string attached to the top of it. It feels light as it lifts up your neck so that it reaches its full length.

It also raises your chin a bit, not so much that your head is tilted back, but enough so that your eyes are always looking straight ahead. The overall effect of this posture is a projection of supreme confidence. No matter how you feel on the inside you will appear confident to those observing you, and women especially will be attracted to this. A great way to improve your posture is through weight-lifting and stretching. Yoga is especially effective, and has been shown to actually make you taller.

The Alexander Technique has also been proven to aid with posture improvement. Swagger. This word has become the slang of choice, in some circles, to denote an attractive and unique style. Its original definition is closely related, denoting an "aggressive gait." When you move from place to place you want to swagger. In this case, swagger is a walk that eats up the terrain with a somewhat long, and definitely purposeful stride.

You don't want to seem too aggressive, but you should look like you know where you're going and what you're going to do once you get there. Your arms should have a definite swing to them that matches your stride. Like having good posture, swagger will telegraph your confidence around the room, making you attractive to women. A word of caution: practice this at home at bit in front of a mirror.

When you unveil your new posture and swagger in public venues, do so gradually. If you come off as fake or exaggerated your incongruity will repel most women. You will also be feeling self-conscious. The key is to internalize these tips, so that you do them naturally all the time. And then you'll be attracting women all the time, too.

Seduction is nothing to play around with. Unlike charm or attraction, seduction has an indisputable sexual connotation. Most dictionaries define it as either convincing someone to engage in sexual activities or leading them astray from their duties or principles. As you can see, this is serious stuff. It is also easy to see why so many people want to learn how to seduce others.

And very often those others are beautiful women. It's pretty obvious why men have, throughout the ages, wanted to know how to seduce women. Men are always seeking to sleep with attractive women, and being a seducer means that you can convince a woman to sleep with you at any time. With so many trying to learn how to seduce a woman it is no surprise that the number of effective methods is so high. There is a broad range of techniques that you can use to seduce; in this article I will cover a couple of the major character types that can help guide you to choose a particular set of seduction techniques.

Men often talk about "peacocking." This is when you wear flamboyant clothing and accessories in order to draw attention to yourself. This is actually a great seduction technique if done properly. The problem with it is that most men don't have the backstory or personality to support this type of approach.

You need to cultivate a rather unusual personality, in the past they referred to this type as a dandy, someone who was fashion-forward and outlandish in action and speech. If you are an artist of some kind this is a great way to entice women and make them want to get to know you better.

Another approach to seduction is to become known as a seducer. This is a bit difficult for those who are new to the world of attracting women, but is a great method to try once you get a few successes under your belt. The idea is to publicize the fact that you are not interested in long-term relationships, but that you are exciting, adventurous, and great for a torrid affair. If done correctly this approach will have untold value down the road.

The key is to put a lot of effort into wooing the woman that you are with, making her as happy as possible. Then, break up with her and approach her friends. This may seem outlandish or even cruel, but it is a well-known fact that women often covet what their friends have. Taping into this instinct is a powerful, and advanced seduction technique.

If you are interested in learning how to seduce a woman you should spend some time thinking about what kind of person you are. Seduction methods are varied, and you should choose one that matches with your personality. If you are a rocker, embrace the dandy role; if you are already somewhat successful with women, cultivate the bad boy image. The key is to build on what you already possess: use what you've got to get what you want.

The first date with someone new is always an exciting time. What to wear, what to say, and were to go? It's a time of getting to know each other and establishing a relationship. Here are some romantic ideas for dates that may give you some inspiration.

You may already know your date. She or he may be a work colleague, or a fellow student at college. Alternatively a friend may have introduced you or you may have met each other through an online dating site.

If you know your date then you could suggest a romantic meal out in an intimate candle lit restaurant or a riverboat cruise. If it's summer and the weather is warm why not have a picnic on the beach, or in the local park.

If you are meeting for the first time then a more casual date is best. You could meet up for coffee in a cafe or have lunch together. Choose somewhere fairly quiet and intimate so that you can enjoy chatting to each other.

Take a hot air balloon ride. This is a very romantic date idea and can provide intimacy and spectacular scenery as you silently glide over the land below. This is also an ideal environment for a marriage proposal!

Join a salsa class together. The Latin rhythm is very sexy, and you will have great fun learning to dance. Who knows, you may end up taking part in dance competitions and discover a new passion!

Get tickets to a rock or jazz concert. A trip to the theatre or cinema is a great romantic date idea especially when followed by an intimate dinner for two. You will have something to talk about afterward as well, since you have both seen the play or film.

Romantic first date ideas don't need to involve lots of cash. Create a romantic atmosphere in your home with lots of candles and dim lighting, and cook your date a delicious romantic meal.

Strawberries, chocolate, oysters and wine all have aphrodisiac qualities. Rent a romantic comedy DVD such as "When Harry Met Sally", "Pretty Woman" or "Four Weddings and a Funeral."

In the early stages of dating you can't wait to be together so any time spent together such as a walk in the park on a warm summer's day can be just as romantic. If you are feeling adventurous try ice skating. You can pick each other up if you fall down, just try not to break any limbs though!

As your relationship develops and progresses always make time for dating each other. Even married couples with children should still make time to date each other in order to keep the relationship alive

Some of the subtle signs a girl likes you include things like playing with her hair. If you are talking to a girl and she plays with her hair then this is a sign she likes you. If her hair is long she may toss it over her shoulder. or seductively twist it with her fingers. She may also lick her lips, bite them, or touch then with her fingers. Playing with her jewellery is another positive sign. An alternative reason for this is that she may be feeling shy and nervous in your company. Fiddling with hair and jewellery is a way of letting go of nervous energy.

Eye contact

Eye contact is one of the best ways to tell if a girl likes you. A quick glance less than 5 seconds shows she isn't interested in what she sees. However if she holds her gaze for more than a few seconds and then repeatedly glances back at you this shows she likes you. She may look away when she sees you looking back at her. This doesn't mean she's not interested, but could just mean she's shy. If a woman raises her eyebrows when you look in her direction she is giving out a signal that she wants you to notice her.

One of the most subtle signs she likes you is if her pupils dilate when she looks at you. Of course you would need to be sitting close and gazing into her eyes to notice. This is a natural reaction when we look at something we like and is something we can't control.

Mirroring

Mirroring is something we do on a subconscious level if we like someone. We do this so that we let the other person know we are the same, and this puts them at ease. For example if you cross your legs and then shortly after she does the same then she is mirroring you. She may pick up her glass just after you have picked up yours, or fold her arms after you have folded yours. This is often such a subtle sign that most guys don't even notice.

Feet

One of the most subtle signs a woman likes you is if she is sitting with a foot pointing towards you. It shows she has a connection with you. Crossing her legs and revealing the top part of her thighs is a definite sign she is attracted to you in a sexual way. If she does this frequently when sitting near you then she is feeling hot for you!

Touching

If she touches you while talking to you then she likes you. This may be a gentle touch on your arm or hand, and she may do this several times. Sitting or standing with an open body shows that she is happy to be in your company and feels at ease. Standing or sitting with crossed arms and legs can indicate that she is protecting herself and doesn't want to open herself up to you.

She laughs at your terrible jokes!

If she laughs at your jokes, and giggles a lot then you can be certain that she likes you. Hanging on to your every word and smiling is a no brainer! Most women are very subtle when it comes to attracting a guy. They don't want to get hurt and so don't make themselves too obvious.

If you are nervous at asking her out, just look out for some of the subtle signs she likes you outlined in this article. You have nothing to lose, only your pride. Remember there are plenty of other attractive women out there, so don't get disheartened if she turns you down.

Many guys feel shy and awkward at the thought of chatting up a woman. They imagine the embarrassment of being rejected and even laughed at. Sadly this fear of rejection can hold you back from approaching women.

Accepting rejection

Once you learn to accept rejection then you will see it as just one step nearer to finding your perfect date. Chatting up women is a numbers game. The more women you chat up the more confident you'll become, and even though you'll get rejections you will also find some really hot women that will love to date you.

So how do you approach a woman you fancy in a bar, and what do you say to her? The chances are she is feeling just as nervous as you are. Breathe deeply and just go up to her. Don't hesitate as not only will you look nervous, but other guys may get in before you. There is a lot of competition in bars and nightclubs.

If you feel very unsure of yourself you could try catching her eye first. If she holds your gaze for more than a few seconds then this is a good sign. Smiling is an even better sign and you should have no worries about going up to her.

Any single woman in a bar or club may be expecting to get hit on by a guy. If she is with friends don't let this put you off. Chat to her friends as well as this will make you look relaxed and friendly.

Breaking the ice

Breaking the ice can be hard, but if you can think of something funny to say then it will be much easier. Women love a guy who is funny and will find him attractive. Keep the humour light hearted and don't whatever you do make any sexual comments. She may feel threatened by it, and you could scare her off. Read humorous books and find funny chat up lines on the internet that you could use.

For example you could say something like "Are you interested in helping homeless people?" If she says "yes", you could then say "how would you like to take me home then?" Be confident when you say this. Don't be half hearted and say it in a timid and quiet voice. Women are wary of nervous and jittery guys.

Keep it light hearted

If she likes you and conversation starts to flow, keep things light hearted. It's important to maintain eye contact and smile. Women like men who are confident, so looking away or down at your feet will make her think you're unsure and hesitant. Don't stare at her chest. You aren't talking to her breasts!

Take an interest in what she's saying. Listen and make comments. If you feel anxious just breathe deeply as this will get oxygen flowing round your body and make you feel more relaxed, it also releases endorphins which have a calming effect. Feeling nervous can make some guys ramble on about themselves, giving little chance for any woman to get a word in!

Knowing what to say

If you don't know what to say find something to comment on. Is she wearing a necklace or unusual rings? Talk about something going on around you. This will open up a conversation and you can then build on it. For example if you comment on her necklace she may say that she bought it on a holiday in Greece. You could then talk about your own holiday in the same region and then go on to talk about the delicious food and wine available there.

Once you have established some common ground you will find plenty to talk about. If it doesn't work out, don't worry as there are plenty of other women to chat up.

Women are not a strange and exotic species from another planet. We have the same feelings and anxieties as men. Learning how to chat up women takes practice just like anything else, and the more you practice the better and more confident you will become.