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it's pathetic

@tpia
thanks ma sister
@topup
woooow . . . .cool and appreciated!!!

princekevo:
Thanks mate for the advice and every other person on here.Ur advices have in one way or the other been a source of encouragement to me. The issue am facing at hand at the moment is that i don't even know how to face the girl anymore to tell her anything. I have tried to reach her since i came back to no avail. Only the mum i was able to reach and was told she has been crying day and night since then.I felt guilt of that within me, i feel am the cause of her pains. My prayer is that God should grant me the wisdom and strenght to solve the situation at the end.

Talking to her shouldn't be a problem since she is also aware of everything . However, the way you handle the talking is what really count. Arrange a meeting with her as aptly stated by olanajim, let her realize how devastated you were about the whole thing.It is no fault of any of you guys but a circumstance that is far above your manipulation. Of course you guys can go ahead and discard all the oppositions but can you withstand it when your respective famiy deserts you or when the so called elders in the community, who are trying to portray themselves as the true custodian of custom, starts  afflicting you with all kinds of calamity to convince you how geniu their custom is. What is the essence of the marriage you _may live to regret? Remember you can tell her to let go of each other and still put a smile on her face. It's all depends on  how, where and what you tell her when you talk with her.Anything you tell her will be in her memory for life and that will either be her source of happiness or make her cry more anytime she think about you.
      Honestly life will not cease to exist and heaven will not fall if you break up, though heart will be broken and eyes will  shed tears, but atleast you will both save each other from any ugly eventuality .Remember this is your life and nobody is going to leave it for you. You know what is happening to you right now more than any one in this world. So follow your heart!!

       

My prayer is that God should grant me the wisdom and strenght to solve the situation at the end.

Amen . . . .my brotha. That is the important thing. We are just giving advice which might not be perfect but the wisdom of God is utmost.
       God help us all.

       Smiles

luckyme9:
I need help with obtaining forms and taking TOAFL
Exam.

are you not from naija?
you in US right now?
holla back.

Thanks to y'all
@olanajim

IT WILL BE BECAUSE OF YOU OR THIRD PARTY. By third party, I mean her mother and public opinions. This also include the coming of a better man.

i feel your insight and it really looming right now. The last time i spoke to her she was telling me her ex resurface and wanted her back.  Though she had told me about the guy before and she even assured me that everything will be ok. what do you see to this? please reply

@babynic
thanks for the experience shared.

@encomium
menh! thanks for the encouragement . . . . .thanks bro!

@souljaman
thanks for the tips

@jjoy
thanks i will do that

I believe in some cases these so called custom and abominations are fictions.
Even if, in the real sense of it, nothing will happen if you eventually marry the lady, but sometimes those elders can do some crazy things (like striking you spritually) to justify the so called custom. So that will make you belief the custom.
So i advise you to let go of the lady to save yourself from the wrath of the supposed "custom".
Sometimes the best way to save those you love is to stay away from them
I know is hard to let go of someone you ve waited for that long. it's for good trust me! may you are not meant to marry each other in the first place.
it's well brotha . . . . .ok?



cheers!

Bastage:
The conversation probably contained the words "crash", "device" or "explode". Otherwise, how did the idiots start the topic? Even if it didn't, it's a bloody stupid thing to talk about as you're walking through the plane.
It doesn't matter shit if you're African, Arab or White - do the same thing here in the UK and not only will you miss your flight but you'll probably spend the night in a cell.
No sympathy for these people whatsoever. If they're not aware of the protocols that airlines and airposts work by they should take a bus.

You are not being sincere at all. I suggest you try to follow the link and see the pictures of the family. it was because they saw them as an Arab being a bearded man and saw the women among them with the Hijab. Do you think this news will come up if they were to be white or their appearance wasn't that islamical or Arabian?

Oga o! Nigerian people don go wide sha. see as u dey talk igbo as if sey na Mcdonald fries. so larger % of  NL dey burn weed (weda na yanki own or na ede own, i know sure sey offa own mad pass them all).

But na your advise the poster sey make you give am no be your solidarity for the weed naa

I am sure you guys will not pray for your children to  take it after you or caught you in the act.

Though it might be source of your excitement but there is no other name for bad- it is bad

@poster
i advise make you talk to her one on one. let her realize that burning weeds is not the best for am. But if she refuse, i beg you fling your shoes and run for your life,

A Muslim family removed from an airliner Thursday after passengers became concerned about their conversation say AirTran officials refused to rebook them, even after FBI investigators cleared them of wrongdoing. Atif Irfan said federal authorities removed eight members of his extended family and a friend after passengers heard them discussing the safest place to sit and misconstrued the nature of the conversation.


Irfan, a U.S. citizen and tax attorney, said he was "impressed with the professionalism" of the FBI agents who questioned him, but said he felt mistreated when the airline refused to book the family for a later flight. AirTran Airways late Thursday said they acted properly and that the family was offered full refunds and can fly with AirTran again. "AirTran Airways complied with all TSA, law enforcement and Homeland Security directives and had no discretion in the matter," the company said in a prepared statement.

Family members said FBI agents tried to work it out with the airline, but to no avail. "The FBI agents actually cleared our names," said Inayet Sahin, Irfan's sister-in-law. "They went on our behalf and spoke to the airlines and said, 'There is no suspicious activity here. They are clear. Please let them get on a flight so they can go on their vacation,' and they still refused." "The airline told us that we can't fly their airline," Irfan said.

The dispute occurred about 1 p.m. Thursday as AirTran flight 175 was preparing for takeoff from Reagan National Airport outside of Washington, D.C., on a flight destined for Orlando, Florida. Atif Irfan, his brother, their wives, a sister and three children were headed to Orlando to meet with family and attend a religious conference.

"The conversation, as we were walking through the plane trying to find our seats, was just about where the safest place in an airplane is," Sahin said. "We were (discussing whether it was safest to sit near) the wing, or the engine or the back or the front, but that's it. We didn't say anything else that would raise any suspicion." The conversation did not contain the words "bomb," "explosion," "terror" or other words that might have aroused suspicion, Irfan said.

"When we were talking, when we turned around, I noticed a couple of girls kind of snapped their heads," said Sobia Ijaz, Irfan's wife. "I kind of thought to myself, 'Oh, you know, maybe they're going to say something.' It didn't occur to me that they were going to make it such a big issue." Some time later, while the plane was still at the gate, an FBI agent boarded the plane and asked Irfan and his wife to leave the plane. The rest of the family was removed 15 or 20 minutes later, along with a family friend, Abdul Aziz, a Library of Congress attorney and family friend who was coincidentally taking the same flight and had been seen talking to the family.After the FBI interviewed family members, it released them, Irfan said.

AirTran spokesman Tad Hutcheson said the incident began when some passengers reported hearing suspicious remarks by a woman and alerted flight attendants. Two Federal Air Marshals, who were on board the flight, notified law enforcement about the security-related issue, AirTran said. After the family and Aziz were taken for questioning, the remaining 95 passengers were taken off of the plane and rescreened, along with the crew and the baggage, AirTran said. Irfan said he believes his family is owed an apology. "Really, at the end of the day, we're not out here looking for money. I'm an attorney. I know how the court system works. We're basically looking for someone to say,  'We're apologizing for treating you as second-class citizens.'"

"We are proud Americans," Sahin said. "You know we decided to have our children and raise them here. We can very easily go anywhere we want in the world, but you know we love it here and we're not going to go away, no matter what."
Aziz said there is a "very strong possibility" he will pursue a civil rights lawsuit. "I guess it's just a situation of guilt by association," Aziz said. "They see one Muslim talking to another Muslim and they automatically assume something wrong is going on."

http://news.aol.com/article/muslim-family-kicked-off-plane/291630

Firstly, i will like to plead with the other person reading this to please treat this as serious. What the poster need is your advise and not your bashing. However, may be after reading this you think i deserve some bashing for wasting your time, you can open another thread  and give as many bashing as you want, but let's keep to this content.

I am dating a girl whom i love so dearly and she definitely love me too. I mean, the feelings is mutual and we had been in the relationship since 2005 (not too long though ). We both have the belief that, if everything goes perfectly well with the relationship,  we are going to marry each. I really love and need this girl because she is the type any man will think of as a  partner in matrimony - lovely, caring, supportive,submissive, intelligent. . . . ,  , all these unsettles me when i imagine  loosing her.Sure loosing her will be a catastrophe and unfortunate thing to happen to me, but heaven will not fall and of course rain will not stop falling if i do loose her and she also believe this as well . We both know that marrying each other is our wish and hope which might not be in consonance with God's wish.

From the start, keeping a distance had been part of the relationship.Sometimes it takes up to 4months  and even more without seeing each other , and could  take like a week without talking on phone - thanks to her understanding , and with that, honestly we still love and trust each other. I said "honestly" because you may want to ask an important  question like "Do they really love each other?". Yes! we do and i think i am a little bit wise enough to know what girls can up to; i understand that the best thing you can do for yourself as a man is to have  in mind right from the start that any time, any hour girls can call it a day with you. They can be under a man and  continue telling you are their first and the last. They are crazy sometimes!

Sometime ago, she told me how her mother was betrayed by her supposed husband whom she claimed they both love each other and that she even had a son for him before he traveled  abroad but dumped and forgot her and the son after getting abroad .She said the man promised to come back but failed to show up.She said her mother would never stop crying until she met her dad who later made her to love again and later married each other. After like 19yrs, when she had single-handedly raised the child, the man came back to Nigeria, located her, and apologised. The man said she should forgive him that she is ready to marry her back,but after a lot of pleading the woman told him  he could see she is married and happy with her husband that he can take his son if he  like. She said because of that her mother, though not hard about it , believes loving a man who stays abroad is like wasting of time and that the only thing that can come out of it is a broken and shattered heart. . . .

Why i am less perturb about this is that i know my girl to be a girl of aplomb and self-esteem who doesn't share in the belief of generality- she would believe what happen to her mum was out of her destiny and have nothing to do with her own life. But what makes me unrest is the stiff opposition she might likely face from her mum if she know that her daughter is dating someone living abroad.She loss her dad some years back so she likes making her mum happy.

Right now i am in US and this girl is in Nigeria. I left Nigeria like 5 month ago and since then we ve been talking on phone - of course i know communication is important and crucial. Sure she is used to the distance, but yours faithfully, not this long. There was a day when i was still in Nigeria, i asked her what if we fail to see each other for almost 2yrs that what is going to happen? She replied in a rebuking voice "And you think that is going to work out?".And truth needs to be told, i don't see myself going back to Nigeria in the next 2yrs not even 3yrs.

Fellow NL being a Nigerian and knowing all the mentalities and beliefs back in naija coupled with all the distance, the mother factor and of course the friends and hidden factors. What and how do you think i can keep this girl and the relationship intact.

For those that are disappointed after reading this and say "So what?". i am very sorry for your time spent!

@jarus
thank you brother. . . . .i envy you
jazakum lahu hayran

@earthmama
at least you are satisfied,even though your question was like "what are they going to say?"