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deols: 1. Polygyny - a man can marry up to four wives but a woman cannot.

I have been very vocal about my thoughts on this institution. I have spoken in support of it in the past but the more I give it a thought, the more I find it hard to accept.

A. People who support polygyny say that it benefits
A man who may not be satisfied by one woman. But what about women who may not be satiafied by a man?
A2.Islam preaches abstinence b4 marriage and Muslim men and women abide by that. Do you think that it becomes more difficult to stick to a woman after marriage than it is to practice abstinence before it? I just think that that line of thinking does not hold water.

B. Does Islam care for the emotional/psychological state of the women in these marriages? Aisha's reports of jealousy are well documented despite being the favoured wife. What did the other women feel like even as the peophet chose her laps for his final moments.
Competition/jealousy and bad belles throughout a marital life is not something I'd wish anyone so I keep on wondering if it is worthwhile.
B2. There is not much room for reconcilliation with wife in dispute with her husband. Her bed is left while he warms his bed with the other women. Unlike if she is the only one and the need for a quick reconciliation may happen.

C. How about the Children from these marriages? Not that this occurs in all cases but when it does happen, They are constantly aware of the troubles in the home. They may be exposed to competition from the very beginning and may never be in accord with their siblings.

My Sister, as much as you have listed the disadvantages you feel or see in polygyny, the next thing for us to do is to list the advantages too. now we wait and see if the advantages outweigh the disadvantages or otherwise. Deos nothing on earth is absolutely 100% perfect for us, even the food we eat as important and compulsory as it is has its advantages and disadvantages. as important to life as it is, it can be abused (obesity, bulimia etc) since Allah knew it can be abused the question will then be why did he allow or create food in the first instance after all he knew it would be abused! even water my dear sister is abused.
Now lets look at the story of Prophet Musa and Kidri (am sure you are familiar with it but will still write for the benefit of analysis)
Moses is Informed of a Wise Man
One day, Moses delivered such an impressive sermon that all who heard it were deeply moved. Someone in the congregation asked: "0 Messenger of Allah, is there another man on earth more learned than you?" Moses replied: "No!", believing so, as Allah had given him the power of miracles and honored him with the Torah.

However, Allah revealed to Moses that no man could know all there is to know, nor would one messenger alone be the custodian of all knowledge. There would always be another who knew what others did not. Moses asked Allah: "0 Allah, where is this man? I would like to meet him and learn from him." He also asked for a sign to this person's identity.

Allah instructed him to take a live fish in a water-filled vessel. Where the fish disappeared, he would find the man he sought. Moses set out on his journey, accompanied by a young man who carried the vessel with the fish. They reached a place where two rivers met and decided to rest there. Instantly, Moses fell asleep.

Moses Finds Al-Khidr
While he was asleep, his companion saw the fish wriggle out of the vessel into the river and swim away. However, he forgot to relate this incident to Moses. When he awoke, they continued their journey until they were exhausted and hungry. Moses asked for his morning meal. Only then did his companion recall that the fish they had brought with them had gotten away. Hearing this, Moses exclaimed: 'This is exactly what we are seeking!" They hurriedly retraced their steps to the place where the rivers met and where the fish had jumped out. There they found a man, his face partly covered with a hood. His bearing showed he was a saintly man. He was Al-Khidr, the guide.

Moses Finds Al-Khidr - Qur'anic
Allah the Almighty narrated: And (remember) when Moses said to his boy-servant: "I will not give up (traveling) until I reach the junction of the two seas or (until) I spend years and years in traveling."

But when they reached the junction of the two seas, they forgot their fish, and it took its way throught the sea as in a tunnel. So when they had passed further on (beyond that fixed place), Moses said to his boy-servant: "Bring us our morning meal; truly, we have suffered much fatigue in this, our journey."

He said: "Do you remember when we betook ourselves to the ock? I indeed forgot the fish, none but Satan made me forget to remember it. It took its course into the sea in a strange (way)!"

(Moses) said: "That is what we have been seeking." So they went back retracing their footsteps.
Then they found one of Our slaves, unto whom We had bestowed mercy from Us, and whom We had taught knowledge from Us. Surah 18: 60-65

Moses Speaks to Al-Khidr
Moses said to him (Khidr) "May I follow you so that you teach me something of that knowledge (guidance and true path) which you have been taught (by Allah)?"

He (Khidr) said: "Verily! You will not be able to have patience with me! And how can you have patience about a thing which you know not?"

Moses said: "If Allah will, you will find me patient, and I will not disobey you in aught."
He (Khidr) said: "Then, if you follow me, ask me not about anything till I myself mention it to you.

So they both proceeded, till, when they were in the ship, he (Khidr) scuttled it. Moses said: "Have you scuttled it in order to drown its people? Verily, you have done Imra - a Munkar (evil, bad, dreadful) thing."

He (Khidr) said: "Did I not tell you, that you would not be able to have patience with me?"
(Moses) said: "Call me not to account for what I forgot, and be not hard upon me for my affair (with you)."

Then they both proceeded, till they met a boy, he (Khidr) killed him. Moses said: "Have you killed an innocent person who had killed none? Verily, you have done Nukra a great Munkar (prohibited, evil, dreadful) thing!"

(Khidr) said: "Did I not tell you that you can have no patience with me?"
(Moses) said: "If I ask you anything after this, keep me not in your company, you have received an excuse from me."
Then they both proceeded, till, when they came to the people of a town, they asked them for food, but they refused to entertain them. Then they found therein a wall about to collapse and he (Khidr) set it up straight. (Moses) said: "If you had wished, surely you could have taken wages for it!"

(Khidr) said: "This is the parting between me and you. I will tell you the interpretation of (those) things over which you were unable to hold patience.
'As for the ship, it belonged to poor people working in the sea. So I wished to make a defective damage in it, as there was a king after them who seized every ship by force.

"And as for the boy, his parents were believers, and we feared lest he should oppress them by rebellion and disbelief. So we intended that their Lord should change him for them for one better in righteousness and near to mercy.
"And as for the wall, it belonged to two orphan boys in the town; and there was under it a treasure belonging to them; and their father was a righteous man, and your Lord intended that they should attain their age of full strength and take out their treasure as a mercy from your Lord. And I did it not of my own accord. That is the interpretation of those (things) over which you could not hold patience. Surah 18: 60-82

- See more at: http://www.alim.org/library/biography/stories/content/SOP/7/17/Musa%20(Moses)/The%20Story%20Moses%20and%20Al-Khidr#sthash.jt6nEHF4.dpuf
now you see this story makes us understand that for every thing Allah does there is always a beautiful reason behind it even if initially we wonder like moses did. without those explanation khidr made we would have ordinarily called him a kafir how on earth will he kill an inocent boy? you wonder.
now going further if Allah had closed the door of polygyny we would definitely for certain have alot more fasad on earth. Allah knows our nature is knowledge is infinite and he knew how he created man.
now to question A. The percent of women not satisfied by a man is very minute compared the percentage of men not satisfied by a man. for example in an organization of more that 100 women and 100 man when asked anonymously how many of the women were not satisfied by their husband not one single one said they weren't satisfied but of course a lot of men did say they werent. so of course a general rule cannot be made for a minute few but a general rule will be made for a larger percentage of people. so there fore a general rule for a man to be able to marry more than one. now for the exceptional case that a woman is not satisfied by her man islam has given room for divorce, Islam didnt box any woman into any marriage, she should divorce the man and i guarantee you that she will get a man that will satisfy her all year round. so you see Islam is not equality islam is justice.
A2. My sis that line of thinking does hold water (are you married?) abstinence when you are not married is very easy, you probably haven't tasted it before, or you just feel the time will soon come so you are waiting temporarily, but when you are married it becomes very difficult to abstain cos now you have tasted and you just dont want to wait, you see your off hijab (naked wife) every day and cant touch her(abstinace), let give examples I know women who from the first day they get pregnant to the day they wean their baby want no man to touch them they become tigress during that period so it means the man waits for two years to have sex with his wife. some women menstruate for 8 to 15 days, some women have very low libido and cant do more than once a week and their hubby want every day or every other day, what happen? so you see abstinence not the solution (remenber islam is about justice not equality)
B. B. Does Islam care for the emotional/psychological state of the women in these marriages? Aisha's reports of jealousy are well documented despite being the favoured wife. What did the other women feel like even as the peophet chose her laps for his final moments.
Competition/jealousy and bad belles throughout a marital life is not something I'd wish anyone so I keep on wondering if it is worthwhile.
Islam does care about the emotional / psychological state of the women in these marriages of course and that is why Allah says he who doesn't treat all his wifes well will be raised with half is body rotten and in hell. the other women (Aisha RA mates) were far older women who were matured and elderly, also remenber the prophet gave the women option of staying married to him or leaving him but they choose to stay. Healthy competition and jealousy is very necessary for all marriages whether monogamy or polygyny, now if the competition or jealousy is not healthy it is the human fault not Allah and we shouldn't use that to say that the door of polygyny should be closed NO NO. cos

proo212: @Lanrexlan, you are still not thinking. "Allah" created man weak so he knew man could not sustain worship like his angels. Why did he order 50 solats? If man did 50 solats, you will not have time to work or do anything!

@Maclatunji, Allah is supposed to be all knowing of all things, how come his creation suggests a thing and he adopts his suggestion? And this is not the only time that it happened.

Please, I mean no insult. I am asking you to think.

Allah knew the snakes were dangerous to man yet he still created them, Allah knew man were going to be wicked and cruel to each other yet he still created man, etc so even thou Allah knew 50 solat were too much for man he still told the prophet cause he also knew that Musa will send him back to him for reduction, and Allah in his magnificent and grandeur had already predetermined every thing.
So you see you really need to be the one doing the thinking

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Please this are not Nigeria stores you listed, we should be patriotic the way the west patronize their stores we Nigerians too should patronize our own stores too, besides it is not totally true that Nigeria malls are either too expensive or sell low quality products, there are some stores that sell at competitive price and sell very high quality product, Please lets be patriotic and stop the drain, Our beloved country Nigeria must grow.

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Hummmm, I read thru and I am amazed at peoples ignorance, people talk as if they are professionals in a field meanwhile they are plain ignorant, A child who can read 1 to 50 should very much be able to read 20 to 1 backward. it means the child actually understands the concept of this nos not just memorizing their names, also part of really understanding the concept of numbers is associating this numbers to quantities for example a child who reads 1 to 50 should be able to associate number 12 for example to 12 mangoes or 12 trees, he should understand that with each increase in number of 1 the quantities too is increasing in corresponding order, so also is in increase of 2, ie 2, 4, 6, 8. I can categorically say it that your childs sch is overdoing it, and they are not really teaching your child the main foundation he needs to build other learning block on. Another note hear it is note thru the british system teaches on rote learning that is absolutely false.

Teemilo is right: creativity is genius, comprehension and articulation are the indicators of brilliance not rote memoriam of numbers.

Also been able to read at 6 is even late, the standard for reading is latest by 5, ideally it is between 4 and 5, but reading with real comprehension is by 5, we learn to speak before we learn to write so also ideally we learn to read before we comprehend what we read.
Comprende: I hope this is not too much jargon.

I am an educationist and I run a school and i can tell you categorically they are over doing it. That time between the age of 0-6 is meant for children to learn thru play, they need to learn sensorial abilities, develop their physical and social life and try to understand the world we leave in not burden them with so much numbers and alphabet. Research has shown that it is wrong to do that to a child. If you need more clarification just ask I will be willing to give you base on a professional point of view.

Hummm, I have read thru ur post and all the replies and I am ordinarily not the writing type, but i felt a need to reply to your post, Pls from experience I know blackmail works, Try blackmailing her and working on her physic and emotions. eg say something like how she is pushing you out of the marriage with her attitude, how u really are worried for her sake, how if there is a problem she can confide in you cause you are her friend and will keep it sacred, how if there is need for her to seek help you will be there all thru... you really need to find a way to make her talk, silence is not the solution she has to TALK, note the capital letter, you have to make her talk that is the only way you can know what is the problem. also counselling can only work when both parties accept to it and are willing to talk and seek a solution. I wish you well.

Finally can you drag her to nairaland let her read this post, she will know you care and may be willing to tell you what the problem is after that. really try it and u may be surprised the outcome. Good luck

awesome work sisters, keep this thread going

I am umuabdulrahman from Abj, married, mother of three. New here, alhamdulilah I found this cos i was already discourage by what i read in other forums abt muslims. May Allah make our affairs easy for us

davidylan:

Lets be honest here... insecurity is a huge reason muslims are not comfortable discussing their religious beliefs. Many cannot defend it, many have no idea what it truly says and many are just as silently embarrassed at the horrid parts calling for muslims to never take non-muslims as friends but to slay them.

I am new here but i couldnt stop wondering - I am sorry about your ignorance really and a couple of other people I have come across their comments, We Muslims are not to take non-Muslim as best of friend because as it is said they (the non-Muslims) can never really like you talk more of to love you, isnt this obviously thru (even from all the threads i have read here). and point of correction we are not commanded to slay them. I am very secure with my religion cos I know it is truth and it is the real Gold, We are very comfortable discussing our religious beliefs when we are talking to people who really want to here us, not when they obviously just want to spite you and be sooo aggressive like I have seen in. Nairaland.

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Becacia_Barbie: Awwwh...I dont think this is a fake story at all, anyway am nt here to judge bt....

I pray and hope u both forget the past....and forgive eachother. We r not perfect take note.

You could take a night walk together....look into eachother's eyes....bring back those beautiful old memories u had together wen things were great!

Prms eachother things will work out fine eventually, cry together, crack some silly jokes, list out those things that irritated eachother bfore this mess, prms to make adjustments, agree that u were both wrong, put the blame on d devil together, help eachoda realize that d devil is actually dancing azonto right now..then u both shud decide to put the devil to shame. yes when u forgv eachoda...am sure d devil himself wil suffer an heart attack wen he finds out abt ur reconcillation, cause he is totally sure this marriage is over! So here is a chance to shock him and put him to shame. Think about ur daughter or talk abt ur daughta together nd how this might affect her psychologically when she is older, imagine u two together when she starts schoolln, graduates, gets married, ur first grandchild etc how romanctic it'd be to go thru all these together and d joy it will bring ur daughter, also talk abt having more children....then pray together...seek for forgiveness frm God, if u guys dont pray together before then u shud form that habit now! close ur eyes, open them...before u is a new being, kiss eachother...finally, prms eachother that, tomorrow is the begining of a new life btwn u both...and wht ever happened in d past belongs to the past and shud b buried for life, without anyone making referrence to it in d future.

I'd advise u re-propose to her again, to mark the begining of a new dawn and a wonderful family.

Whymee, stop seeing ur wife as a cheater that way u'd learn to love her again and plzzzzz i take God beg u...quit social netwrks and start facing reality by loving ur wife and giving her all the attention she needs frm you!
If i were u, and really determined to make things work...i wont mind getting a torch light phne just to avoid the temptations of doing some dirty stuffs online!
Ssocial netwrks hs actually made it easier for pple to cheat more on their partners.


Mrs. Whyme...
Thank God u no longer work in that place anymore.
I think ur husband really loves u, maybe he acted like he doesnt all this while bt am so sure he truly loves you.

4orgive ursef, and forgv ur hubby...wt ever made u to look beyond his mistakes bfore d marriage shud also make u to look beyond everthn he has done to u nw if he is willing to change.
Then make sure u stop sharing ur problems with ur frds be it male or female....if u really wana talk to anyone find ursef a marriage counselor or a therapist....a female....sure u wont regret it.
Your body is the temple of the Lord, let no man defile that body of urs except the man that God has given the authority to, which of coz is ur hubby...he alone!!!

I pray that someday, u both see this thread together laugh it off nd kiss eachother.

Gbam That is my advice to you too.

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