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Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 9:00am On Oct 13, 2014 |
morenike23:Y d rush?if he cant wait 4 u let im find anoda person..cos marriage is nt a tin u shud rush into while in skul. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 5:54pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
nickxtra: Pls, my wife is nursing 4 months old baby and just after about 3 months of giving birth, we had unprotected intimate relation and a month later, she notices signs of pregnancy. What do we do, as we can't afford to keep the pregancy because our baby is ust too young for her mother to begin another process of giving birth, which as we have timed, may become due when this present is barely a year old? She has tried to see some doctors, but the advice is for her to keep pregnancy and this she finds difficult to do. Pls, I need your advice, what do we do?Av d baby...dey will b twins...u mit not like it now buh I assure u,u will enjoy it later 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 5:39pm On Oct 02, 2014 |
Mutaino7: me likey and me share.. I hope she learns and practise what she av bin told.. Xpecting positive change soon @hoynlolartnk u opeoluwa n mutaino...luv u both 1 Like |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 10:35pm On Sep 30, 2014 |
mamateniola1: Haynlolar, you have to be patient, when he is loosing it, you have to try control yourself. M not looking at it or talking from the angle of 'its a man,or you are the Woman so you must be the one to be quiet' the question I always ask myself is if he is my brother or sister, will I answer or rreact to every thing he says. Just yesterday,he said o didn't pick my call? He got angry n was raking.I even wanted to say y I cldnt, he didn't even listen. I just kept quiet and for our 2 hour drive home,I didn't say a word. He was d one that started looking for my attention much later,begin buy this buy that.I do that most times and sometimes too, he will be d one to keep quiet while I begin rake but you have to teach him just like someone said earlier, by keeping calm when he is hot.tnk u dear..May God bless u. |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 10:33pm On Sep 30, 2014 |
Floodgater: you need to try not to get angry easily. For you to start solving your problem with your marriage, you need to know what is your own problem first so that you can find a solution. You need to grow up fast. You should listen twice or more before you reply. Try to do one thing at a time. Learn to solve your problems yourself not running to mum n mil. Finally ask your husband to tell you the areas he want you to improve on, listen carefully so that you can work on them. What i see as the issue is that your man saw you as a good girl(the type that works around the home alot) but want more after living with you to really see the hasty/immature/unlady part of you. Read good books on marriage and be READY TO LEARN so that you can help him grow too and possibly correct his wrong mentality of beating a woman to prove he is the man. Remember to tell him to show you where you need correction and apologise when you are wrong before moving to another matter.tnx dear..may God bless ur home too |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 7:45pm On Sep 30, 2014 |
hoynlorlar: pls wat do u meanok I get u now...u gave a gud advice...buh ur 1st paragraph makes me regret posting on dis section. |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 7:37pm On Sep 30, 2014 |
Ilovenigeria:pls wat do u mean |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 7:35pm On Sep 30, 2014 |
Godmystrength: how come you are the one to go off the generator? your cousin could have helped with that or you leave the gen on till you are through with what you were doing. All the ish about putting food on the floor would have been avoided......you don't have to do everything by yourselfNo and yes..am serving..My cousin was wit moi baby. |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 7:29pm On Sep 30, 2014 |
lamps011:u ar insultive |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 7:28pm On Sep 30, 2014 |
honey86:never?we were serious wit our courtship...I told u we had a great relationshp.moreova We av planed to marry dis year b4 I got pregnant last year..he went 4 nyt duty and afta dt nyt duty he also went 4 his weekend programme dt makes him tired.tnk u |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 7:22pm On Sep 30, 2014 |
snazzylove:tnx so much 4 dis advice...am relieved. |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 7:20pm On Sep 30, 2014 |
Y beeevan:ponder on wat?ur advice makes me feel sumaw buh tnx anyway..I dnt lack manners buh I know God is control sha. |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 11:44am On Sep 30, 2014 |
beeevan:I dnt get u?d question u asked is wat av been asking my sef..I av been asking im for d allowance before dt day..buh he wont ansa despite d fact dt I know he has been paid. |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 9:42am On Sep 30, 2014 |
@op,u ar doing a great job here.I read frm page1-5 buh I nid to write moi story too.Am frm a nuclear family and d only girl.I got married just last year december.lemme cut the long story short.my inlaws ar great..dey ar gud to do call.Even my mil is d best 4 now cos changes is d most constant tin in life. My husband on d oda side is moi problem...wen we were dating,he was d best buh just four month after our marriage he started dis temper tin which I dont undastd...any small tin he flares up..to the point dt he beat me up just four month afta d wedding(I was 7 month pregnant wen I married)I called his mother n my mother and told dem abt wat appened..dey adviced us and talk to him..I hate wat he dd to me buh I ddnt av choice dan to forgive(marriage is far diff frm relationshp).To wat happened. Just last week,he was off duty...in d nite i cooked beans..d beans was done buh I wanted it to b more thick buh he insisted dt I serve him like dt...so I dd n took d food to him witout putting tray so immediately I saw dt nepa av brought lite plus d beans is still on fire and I av to off d gen too.i was stretching d food to him(d dish was hot too..it was burning moi hand)he ddnt collect it said I shud put tray..i was so pissed so I shouted take den put it on d floor..immediately(moi cousin which is wit us just for visiting o) she ran to take d tray n I went to switch off d gen n change to nepa..afta all dis moi wahala he ddnt eat d food dt nite o..i was so embarrased in frnt of moi cousin.Days afta,it was in d evening,i sent moi cousin to buy tinx 4 me..I was asking im abt our money allowance n he flared up..i flared up too den he said I shud shut up n nt talk..den I talked..he just came near me n started hitting me.i now said I wee call his mother n report him.immediately he collected moi BlackBerry forcefully n said he wee smash it on d floor..i begged n den he took my small nokia and smashed it on d floor..immediately I arranged d scattered fone n on it but d fone ddnt on..den I kept quiet.The next day,i gave im d fone to repair..he was still moody,he ddnt collect it n ddnt repair...to cut moi long story short..i cooked dt same day he ddnt eat. I know dt all dis is nt normal...wat do u tink I shud do?wu do u tink I shud report to?am so tired of everytin amd I dnt want dis to continue.Candid advice frm nt only married buh matured pple pls. |
Family / Re: Counselling: Strictly For Couples And Intending Couples! by hoynlorlar(f): 1:52am On Sep 30, 2014 |
lamps011:*i dnt tink u ar married* |
Literature / Re: My Crony by hoynlorlar(f): 6:11pm On Aug 23, 2014 |
@tdan,kudos...I cant see d last episode |
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